ace lane

listen, I’m not asexual, but listen. With all the discourse lately about aces in queer spaces, I’ve been pretty adamantly for it. I don’t think they should be excluded. And when voicing these opinions, a lot of what I’ve heard is, “well I’m ace and I’ve never faced any discrimination for it.”

But, the thing is, I’m pansexual and, I’ve been pretty open about it since middle school (I’m 19 now) and I’ve almost never faced backlash for it. My family had no problem and the town i lived in really didn’t have any strong feelings about it. And I am lucky that that has been my experience, I understand that. I have always understood that just because my experience has been a good one, that does not mean I can speak for the experiences of others who have same gender attraction.

And here’s the other thing. Ace people are targets of violence because of their sexuality. You can read accounts of it, hell I only have a handful of ace friends and I have still heard first hand accounts from them of being victims of sexual assault as a way of “correcting” or “fixing” them. And even when it’s not physical violence, being openly ace can cause parents to forcibly try to change you because all they see you as is broken. Even when it’s less than physical violence, it affects your relationships, it affects how people view and treat you when they don’t understand, and growing up, that can be a bitch on your mental health the same way being gay or trans can when you’re growing up in a house or town that doesn’t understand you or accept you.

So yeah, ace people aren’t killed or attacked that often for their sexuality, but, from what I’ve seen, the toll it can take on you is still pretty shitty. And you wouldn’t invalidate the struggles of gay or trans people for being bullied or harassed or emotionally abused, because you understand you don’t have to be murdered or injured to have been mistreated for your identity. So why are you acting like any struggles aces have won’t matter until they’re being killed?

Memory Lane

Part IV

Part I | Part II  | Part III

“Ace, you damn brat!”

Asce flinches on instinct at the voice, then realises it’s ringing a bell. He’s not sure why, no memories spring to mind. But the deep-rooted sensation of fear that insists he’s in danger must have been well conditioned into his subconscious for a reason. 

Then the fist descends upon his head and he realises why.

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you know what. i’m so fucking sick of cishet allies (ESPECIALLY on this site) being overly performative and talkative about their allyship and filling their blogs with LGBT content and then REFUSING to listen to LGBT people who call them out when they do something homophobic/transphobic because you’re such a ~good ally~. if you refuse to listen to LGBT people who tell you to stay in your lane and then smugly post more lgbt content with shit like “#umm but i’m SUCH A BAAAAD ALLY HUH?? #god people are so annoying # i wouldn’t have a BLOG DEDICATED THIS COUPLE IF I WAS A HOMOPHOBE”, you’re a fucking homophobe and i hate you.

reblogging jokes about how “dumb XD” homophobes are and then insulting/misgendering/ignoring lgbt people who criticize your behavior doesn’t make you exempt from homophobia/transphobia. if you’re really such a ~~good ally~~, you would be WILLING to hear out lgbt people and re-examine your behavior.

cishets don’t fucking touch this post if you’re going to try to have an argument and especially if you’ve read this and are smugly thinking about how you’ve never done any of this. i don’t fucking care. learn when to stay in your lane.

Memory Lane

Part III

Part I | Part II

Asce’s first physio session does not go well.

He doesn’t get as far as he’d been expecting, and his temper gets the best of him.

He’d always felt it, sizzling away under his skin, but he hadn’t realised how explosive it was until he’d managed to wheel himself away in his chair (because his fucking body can’t weight bare enough for walking yet, he’s got to build up to it and that’s bullshit) with tears of frustration clumping his eyelashes together.

He’d left Riskua there and he feels like shit for it, even more so when he discovers she’s fallen asleep by his empty bedside waiting for him to get back.

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Doodle #582 - Took a little break from commissions to draw this… Of course it was going to be about my Bat-muse! please don’t dudge

I’m not the most Christmassy person out there, but I hope everyone’s having a lovely day, whether you are celebrating it or not! ♥

YOU KNOW WHAT I LOVE? YOU KNOW WHO I LOVE? YOU KNOW WHAT IS ONE OF THE MOST UNDERRATED THINGS ABOUT GILMORE GIRLS?

LOGAN HUNTZBERGER. Yes, he has had his ups and downs, his not-so-great moments, but tbh I feel like all I read about is those moments? people hardly ever remember his great traits. 

Logan challenged Rory, encouraged her to step out of her comfort zone because 1. it helps the person grow and 2. he wanted her to LIVE without over-analysing every now and then, he did that without pressuring her, without PUSHING HER, without trying to tell her that what she is is wrong and that she SHOULD be this or that. Except for when a habit interfered with her ability to do her job as she wants it to be done, she admired great journalists, loved journalism but always thought of herself as someone who’ll see something and then write about it from distant, he noticed that and reminded her that nothing will ever deliver the way she saw something like experiencing it, he reminded her of some great examples to put her mind at ease, and even when he did that, he didn’t PRESSURE her, he asked her more than once if she was sure she wanted to ‘jump’ and reminded her that no one is forcing her to do it. 

He respected her, her life, her loved people, he never questioned why she did this or that in a negative way, not even remotely, NOT EVEN WITH HINTS. He wanted to be with her as she is, not the idea of who he wanted her to be, he didn’t fucking yell at her when she didn’t do/say what he wanted her to do/say simply because he thought he knew her and thought that knowing her gave him that right lmao (yes, I’m being petty and passive aggressive).

He had so much respect and admiration for her ambitions and dreams, he always believed and her, he literally introduced her to the man who gave her her first actual journaling job (granted getting the job was all Rory’s hard-work and self-success yes, but he was the link), and this point in particular needs to be emphasised lmao bc somehow people think he was the reason why she left Yale? bc his dad gave her that internship and crushed her? and I’m like??? the boy literally warned her that his dad is a bully, that he isn’t up to any good, she choose to go with it anyways, and here’s another point: HE DIDNT GO TO EXTRA LENGTHS TO STOP HER FROM TAKING THE INTERNSHIP EVEN WHEN HE KNEW HIS DAD, and I think that’s one of the best things he has done, he showed her his dad’s truth, he told her exactly how he thought it might end, but ultimately left the choice to her, he respected her enough to know that the choice is HERS, her career, her life, her experience, he didn’t go behind her back and try to stop this from happening to ‘protect her’ bc he knew he had no right to do so, and that manipulation and protection/love are different things (although he fucked up that point with those bridesmaids, but anyways we’re focusing on the good). 

When she left Yale, Logan was one of the very few who supported her, gave her enough emotional/mental space to make up her own mind and make up her own plan, to fix what was crushed by someone else, he didn’t even talk about school in front of her so he won’t trigger anything or make her feel bad, and when she told him it was something behind her and she was done with school, he knew her good enough to know that was bullshit and that it was just momentarily but nevertheless he didn’t act on it or say anything, he respected her momentarily decision/feelings and didn’t dismiss them. Same thing with her mom’s fight. 

it really baffles me when people are like ‘logan had the worst impact on rory’ bc like??? no he didn’t?? Did she change? yes! did that change come when she was him? YES, but who’s to say change is bad? she stepped out of her comfort zone, of her world that she grew up in, he exposed her to new experiences, new challenges that made her grow as a person, but he never forced/pressured her into it, it happened gradually, she made the choices, he was just there, being supportive, standing by her as she went through different roller coasters. 

Even when Lorelai was being a total judgemental ass towards him (I love my mom but she was), he didn’t just ignore it, he didn’t let it slide or bicker back, he understood that Lorelai is one of Rory’s top priorities, and that it was really important to rory that they got along, so he talked to her, he reassured her, he was patient with her and stood up for himself in a way that was reassuring to Lorelai rather than aggressive towards her. 

He respected Paris, accepted her shit lmao, Zach and Lane, and her grandparents even when he went to her town, he was open to her world (more than rory was to his tbh), he was just happy to be there lmao. 

I COULD GO ON FOR DAYS BUT ANYWAYS I LOVE MY SON HE DIDN’T DESERVE THE SHITTY ENDING THAT HE GOT I FUCKING HATE SEASON 7

Memory Lane

Part II

Part I

“You got an idea yet?”

It’s been three days since the redhead with eyes the colour of honey in sunlight first introduced herself and Asce can safely say his stay in hospital has brightened significantly. He’d still rather be out of here, but given his injuries he’s confined to bed.

But hey, at least they’re giving him the good drugs and allowing him good company.

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anonymous asked:

that was gay. i'm gay. stop calling me out on my homosexuality. (no please keep doing it that fic was amazing and beautiful and my tears watered your crops as i screamed into the void)

Sorry bruh I’m just a humble ace staying in my lane writing some angsty fluff boyfriends.

pinkfluffycookie-chi  asked:

i can't stop thinking about this idea! ... ace is singing christmas songs in the middle of the night (it's summer! hihi)! what are marco and sabo goinv to do? :'3

“Here come Santa Claus. here comes Santa claus. Right down Santa Claus lane!”

“Ace it’s three in the god damn morning. Shut up!” Sabo hissed kneeling the raven hair man in the butt as hard as he could. 

“Ouch! What the hell Sabo!? Why did you hit me!?” Ace hissed rolling onto his left side to be facing the two blonds. The smaller blond stares back at him just as angry.

“It’s the middle of May! We are nowhere near Christmas you idiot! Let me sleep!”  Sabo rants.

“It’s never too early to feel the spirit!” the other counters sitting up to throw a fist into the air.

“I’ll make you feel something if you don’t shut up and go to bed!” The next second, Sabo tackles Ace back to the bed pinning him down to smother with a pillow.

Marco closed his eyes willing himself to sleep as his boyfriends argued with each other behind him. Maybe he should have slept in the middle? That way Ace’s whispered songs wouldn’t have bothered Sabo so much.

“Marco he’s trying to kill me again! Help!” 

anonymous asked:

Hey I'm #acedtsexual and it fucking sucks. It was cool when the bashing revolved around the cishet aces tryna infiltrate the gay baby base n shit like. I could stand behind that. But now it's shitting on all aces... which I get since acephobia is nonexistent as hell or whatever but at the same time it's like :--( dam. yeah I'm bothered by it but I also get where it's coming from, and that's why I keep my mouth shut and practice sacrilege in my own lane. Other aces need to learn how to shut the f

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anonymous asked:

You are not asexual, you do not have the right to talk about the asexual experience, or where the ace people belong. Stay in your lane, follow ace people and learn a damn thing or two before posting shit. Lastly not all ace people are het or cis.

I didn’t say all aces are cishet I said aces who are cishet don’t belong in the LGBT community
I didn’t speak about asexual experience I spoke about the LGBT experience which is my lane because I am LGBT maybe actually read the post all I said was asexuals who are cisgendered and heteroromantic don’t face homophobia or transphobia which is a fact
If ur this pressed just block me I don’t care lmao