Leave your hair natural. Let your beard grow out. Leave the makeup in the bag. Wear comfortable clothes. Stop worrying so much about your looks and start looking around you. You have missed so much beauty trying to become beautiful. You have missed your own worth trying to become worthy. Let the mask break open. Let it lie on the floor. Let yourself be seen. Let yourself see.
—  Vironika Tugaleva
The autistic people “nobody talks about” according to caregivers... (That notion is bullshit.)

When I speak about autism in general, I include the autistic people that “nobody talks about”.

I guess society is so ableist and stuck in functioning labels that people don’t recognize the “autistic people nobody talks about” because I don’t describe them in demeaning terms. I don’t say they’re “severely autistic” or “low functioning” or “can’t communicate”. 

I say “nonverbal autistic people who need lots of daily help”. And to include autistic people who haven’t found a communication method that non-autistic people can understand, I add on that “they can’t make their communications understood”.

Nonverbal autistic people who need lots of daily help and can’t make their communications understood get silenced the most. They’re only brought out in a negative light to show the “horror” they inflict on their caregivers. It’s like their humanity is erased and they’re described as their problems. Rarely do I see them described in a positive light.

And they are the most vulnerable of us, because their competence, autonomy, agency, dignity and privacy are violated on a constant basis. They’re the props in their caregivers’ stories. They’re only acknowledged by non-autistic people when they’re being exploited.

Here’s to the nonverbal autistic people who need lots of daily help and can’t make their communications understood: I see you, and I fight for you the hardest.

anonymous asked:

my headcanon is that mari wears a green shade colored vest over her school summer uniform top because green is kanan's official color. kanamari ftw!!!

BRUH. A wholesome headcanon. I bet one day Mari just nonchalantly asks Kanan what her fave color is and she is like “idk green i guess” and then from that day forward Mari starts wearing a lot more green. It’s a subconscious thing though. Like she didn’t plan it, but knowing Kanan likes green somehow makes her like it more!

And Dia is all eyes emoji + magnifying glass like “I see you, Mari. I see you.” She ends up joking around and mock blackmailing Mari by threatening to expose her gay ass to Kanan. Dia is sitting there thinking she’s a comedic genius, but little does she know, Mari took her seriously. In her gay panic, Mari buys Dia like $1000 worth of limited edition Muse merch. When Mari gives it to her, she’s like “please don’t expose me,” and Dia is just standing there like…… “I wasn’t actually serious…”

Words can never convey the beauty of a tree; to understand it, you
must see it with your own eyes. Language cannot capture the melody of a song; to understand it, you must hear it with your own ears. So it is with the Tao: the only way to understand it is to directly experience it. The subtle truth of the universe is unsayable and unthinkable. Therefore the highest teachings are wordless. My own words are not the medicine, but a prescription; not the destination, but a map to help you reach it. When you get there, quiet your mind and close your mouth. Don't analyse the Tao. Strive instead to live it: silently, undividedly, with your whole harmonious being.
—  Hua Hu Ching