accepting fears

Aries Moon worst fear: Being stuck in one place, a lack of a challenge with their career and lovers.

Taurus Moon worst fear: Financial insecurity or general instability in life.

Gemini Moon worst fear: Being stuck in boring or bad relationships, including friendships. A lack of variety in life.

Cancer Moon worst fear: Being betrayed by someone or a huge lack in loyalty.

Leo Moon worst fear: Being forgotten about or not noticed/recognized for their identity, skills, or accomplishments.

Virgo Moon worst fear: Not being useful or purposeful.

Libra worst fear: Being disliked or unloved, being alone.

Scorpio Moon worst fear: Being left vulnerable.

Sagittarius Moon worst fear: Being trapped or stuck in a rut.

Capricorn Moon worst fear: Instability in life and failure.

Aquarius Moon worst fear: Never finding their tribe, a huge lack of acceptance.

Pisces Moon worst fear: Lack of escapism in their life, too much stress and not enough time to recharge.

The Year 2017

The year 2017 is for complete and utter confidence in yourself and your actions.
The year 2017 is for cutting out all the negative people and energy that accumulated all through last year.
The year 2017 is for writing down all of your goals and having the faith and dedication to make them all come true.
The year 2017 is for being selfish with your time and your love and your thoughts.
The year 2017 is for discipline, in order for you to live your life to the fullest.
The year 2017 is for taking more steps towards the life you want to live. That you WILL live.
The year 2017 is for growth, in every area of life, wether it be maturity, love, career, thoughts, spirituality…everything.
The year 2017 is for dreaming BIG. HUGE. OUT OF THIS WORLD.
The year 2017 is for GOING FOR IT. For feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
The year 2017 is for going through the struggle and coming out stronger than before.
The year 2017 is for love, of yourself, others, who ever.
The year 2017 is for accepting yourself, and being happy with yourself.
The year 2017 is for financial abundance for all.
The year 2017 is for miracles.
The year 2017 is for the impossible.
The year 2017 is for an overflow is love, support, knowledge, wealth, and so much more.
The year 2016 was for all the nightmares. For all the struggle…but the year 2017 is for us.
The year is finally for us.
And we will make the most of it.

It’s quite an undertaking to start loving somebody. You have to have energy, generosity, blindness. There is even a moment right at the start where you have to jump across an abyss: if you think about it you don’t do it.
—  Jean-Paul Sartre
Marry someone who lets you have a bite of their sundae, even when you said you didn’t want anything, and you don’t have a bit of the brownie you usually get to pay them back. Marry someone who laughs at the same things you do. Marry someone who kisses your nose on a cold day. Marry someone who you can watch Disney movies with. Marry someone who is proud of you whether you earn £5 a week or £5,000 a week. Marry someone who you can tell everything to. Marry someone who isn’t afraid or embarrassed to hold your hand in public. Marry someone who you can spend the day in Ikea with without feeling stressed. Marry someone who wraps you up inside their coat in the winter. Marry someone who accepts your fears and phobias. Marry someone who gives you butterflies every time you hear their key in the door. Marry someone who you don’t always have to shave your legs for. Marry someone who accepts you all day every day, even when you don’t look or feel your best. Marry someone who puts three sugars in your tea, despite telling them “just the two”. Marry someone who doesn’t judge you when you eat your body weight in doughnuts. Marry someone who doesn’t make you want to check your phone, because you don’t need to, because you’re having too much fun with them to need to check your phone. Marry someone who tells you to text when you get home. Marry someone who understands that you need to be alone sometimes. Marry someone who gets on well with your parents and isn’t uptight about family events. Marry someone who calms you down when you get mad about stupid stuff, and never tells you it’s “only stupid stuff”. Marry someone that makes sure you have breakfast before you leave for work. Marry someone who makes you want to be a better person. Marry someone who makes you laugh. Marry someone who you love.
—  one day when we’re older,
I’m gonna marry you so hard

There’s room at the table.

There is room for burdened hearts and weary souls. There is room for scars from heavy battles and tired hands from working fingers to the bones. There’s room for sagging shoulders from carrying the sword too high for too long. There’s room for breaking, for grieving, and for bitter anger.
There’s room for rejoicing and praise. There’s room for excited chattering and clapping hands. There’s room for celebrations so mighty and so holy that it seems God ordaines them Himself. There’s room for hope and peace and love.

There’s room at the table… for all of it.
There’s room at the table… for all of us.

Grab a chair, find a place, share your story.
Break bread, shed tears, spill laughter.
Sit quietly, observing without much to say but a smile on your face.
Barge in, angry and afraid from years of trust being misplaced and broken.
There’s room for your story, there’s room for your tragedy, there’s room for your passion.

There’s a place here, just for you. Choose a mismatched chair, take a chipped plate, a bent fork… Come take a seat.
No one is going to be turned away in the house of the Father.
We’re so happy you’re here.

We were so excited to hear you were coming.
How have you been? Tell us everything… we have an entire eternity.

-31women (Ansley)

Cultivating Metta Toward Self
  • May I accept this pain without thinking it makes me bad or wrong.
  • May I remember that my consciousness is much vaster than this body.
  • May all those who have helped me be safe, be happy, be peaceful.
  • May all beings everywhere be safe, be happy, be peaceful.
  • May my love for myself and others flow without limit.
  • May the power of lovingkindness support me.
  • May I be open to the unknown, like a bird flying free.
  • May I accept my anger, fear, and worry, knowing that my heart is not limited to them.
  • May I be free of dangers, may I be peaceful.
  • May I be free from anger, fear, and regret.
  • May I live and die in ease.

- Sharon Salzberg // The Power Of Meditation

I realize that if I were stable, prudent and static; I’d live in death. Therefore I accept confusion, uncertainty, fear and emotional ups and downs, because that’s the price I’m willing to pay for a fluid, perplexed and exciting life.
—  Carl Rogers

The restriction of LGBTQ+ videos on YouTube isn’t only affecting those content creators, it’s affecting those people who watch them.

Those people, many of them children, watch LGBTQ content because they feel connected to these people. They look at these content creators, look at what they’ve struggled with, look at how they can help themselves, and look at how that it really does get better.

At home, they may not be accepted or they are fearful of what would happen if they came out.

I haven’t come out to any of my family except my mom and even still, I haven’t gone into detail with my sexuality with her. She’s the most caring person I know but she just doesn’t understand. Maybe one of these kids feel like me. I have overly religious family members and the only ones that would understand would be my cousin and maybe my two younger siblings.

LGBTQ YouTubers are what helped me come to terms with who I am like Tyler Oakley, MilesChronicles, Gigi Gorgeous, and many many others.

They are what helped me see that I don’t need anyone’s approval and acceptance but my own.

If you’re reading this and are feeling depressed or anxious or confused or whatever, message me. I know what it’s like to struggle. We stick together in this community.

Our gut feelings signal what is safe, life-sustaining, or threatening, even if we cannot quite explain why we feel a particular way. Our sensory interiority continuously sends us subtle messages about the needs of our organism. Gut feelings also help us evaluate what is going on around us. They warn us that the guy who is approaching feels creepy, but they also convey that a room with western exposure surrounded by daylilies makes us feel serene. If you have a comfortable connection with your inner sensations–if you trust them to give you accurate information–you will feel in charge of your body, your feelings, and your self.

However, traumatised people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.

The more people try to push away and ignore internal warning signs, the more likely they are to take over and leave them bewildered, confused, and ashamed. People who cannot comfortably notice what is going on inside become vulnerable to respond to any sensory shift either by shutting down or by going into a panic–they develop a fear of fear itself.

We now know that panic symptoms are maintained largely because the individual develops a fear of the bodily sensations associated with panic attacks. The attack may be triggered by something he or she knows is irrational, but fear of the sensations keeps them escalating into a full-body emergency. “Scared stiff” and “frozen in fear” (collapsing and going numb) describe precisely what terror and trauma feel like. They are its visceral foundation. The experience of fear derives from primitive responses to threat where escape is thwarted in some way. People’s lives will be held hostage to fear until that visceral experience changes.

The price for ignoring or distorting the body’s messages is being unable to detect what is truly dangerous or harmful for you and, just as bad, what is safe or nourishing. Self-regulation depends on having a friendly relationship with your body. Without it you have to rely on external regulation–from medication, drugs like alcohol, constant reassurance, or compulsive compliance with the wishes of others.

Many of my patients respond to stress not by noticing and naming it, but by developing migraine headaches or asthma attacks…

Suppressing our inner cries for help does not stop our stress hormones from mobilising the body.

—  Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma