accept yourself for who you are instead of hating it

It is never truly wrong to crave love from someone. No one ever said that it was a mistake to fall in love with someone you know who won’t feel the same way towards you. They call it unconditional love when you don’t expect anything in return. Selfless. Brave. When you accept that feelings sometimes will not be mutual. Yet I hope that you should be willing to give the same kind of love to yourself. That even if you did a lot of mistakes, you resist the urge to hate yourself. Instead, I hope that you forgive yourself and learn from lessons you will meet along the way. Because that needs a lot of patience, kindness and courage my dear. Loving yourself even if the world tells you not to. Forgiving yourself even if other people say you don’t need to. Being kind to yourself even if you sometimes think you can’t. Darling, this is what you should always remember, especially when you feel like everything around you seems to kill every little piece of you. Do not ever forget that you deserve love, more especially from yourself. Do not let your light fade away. Stars are there with a purpose. And so are you. Shine brighter. Live.
—  ma.c.a // Self love

anonymous asked:

u wonder why people are hating on them? those cunts did not deserve to even show up, the event was all about Matt and Harry and the show, they had no fucking right to be there like what the actual fuck. hopefully if people keep hating, these whores will take the fucking hint and never show up in public ever again and burn in hell instead

First of all, this is incredibly rude, you don’t get to say who they can and can’t bring to the awards since, news flash, Matt and Harry are not Alec and Magnus, Shelby and Esther are their significant others, they are not in a relationship with men in real life, accept this, second of all, you don’t get to call them whores or cunts, you want respect show some respect yourself, they are not your friends, you don’t know them, in what moment did Shelby and Esther get up on stage and snatch the award? when did they apear on interviews? Matt and Harry did what they had to do because they are on the show and they represent an amazing couple but that’s it, because of people like you they are rarely on social media, and honestly if you have the effort to hate on those girls because of stupid reasons I am sorry that your life is that boring and you have nothing else to do 

Also, if you are going to send things like this come off anon

the red thing

listen I don’t give a FUCK how cliche it is the fact that karkat fucking vantas fell in love with a boy who types in bright red, constantly wears bright red, has bright red eyes under his wall of douche plastic, and oh yeah bleeds bright red fucking blood is so fucking good

like grats karkat you hated yourself for so long and here comes dave strider about to learn your ass a lesson in acceptance whether you like it or not 

the shift from this color being attached to his fear and self loathing to instead representing something special and important is so wide-lens emblematic of why I will ship this ship until the day I d i e

Interview: Nicole Blanchard

Today we’re joined by Nicole Blanchard, who is also known as nicoledraws online. Nicole is a wonderful visual artist who does quite a bit. They do a lot of sketches and drawings, as well as some fanart. They’ve recently gotten into cosplay and are currently studying Media Arts and Animation. They are obviously quite passionate about art, as you’ll soon see. My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.


Please, tell us about your art.

Visual Artist here who mainly dabbles in sketching and drawing. Painting is on my list as well, but is done much less often due to the fact I do not get a lot of time to sit down at home where all my supplies are.

I also double as a FanArtist. I just recently got into the cosplay game and don’t possess “professional” photos, but I have been drawing fanart for at least the last six years of my life. It’s good practice and gets your name out there.

And occasionally, I do animate. Media Arts and Animation is currently what I am in school for so there’s that as well.

What inspires you?

There is no one specific thing that gives me inspiration. It comes and goes from many different places.

The only mildly consistent aspect of it is that it usually tends to be from real life. Whether it be from long talks with one of my closest friends or experiences I’ve had.

What got you interested in your field?  Have you always wanted to be an artist?

Memories of my childhood, in all honesty, are blurry at best. So I can’t say what got me interested in art—just that it happened.

For as long as I can remember, I have always found joy and comfort in drawing. It’s not only therapeutic but I feel I am most myself when doing it.

If nothing else, the one thing I do remember was the fact that I did always have a desire to grow up and be an artist. However, thanks to career counselors and other adults, it never seemed like a realistic goal and dream to have at the time. The whole “starving artist” myth is legitimately terrifying to a child from an already struggling household.

Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?

Not really. At least, not that I have personally noticed or consciously done.

Though I am hoping to fix that. I want to get to a point talent-wise and artistically where someone can immediately identify my work as mine without having to look at my name.

What advice would you give young aspiring artists?

There is always going to be someone better than you in some way. However, don’t let this lead you down the road of a quitter—instead use it as a motivation to improve.

With any form of art, the only way to get better is to keep doing it. Don’t ever stop, because stopping might as well be you giving up.

Some people need to work harder to get to a certain level of mastery and that’s okay. Not every person in the world has a knack for picking things up easily. Every person learns at their own pace. At least a decade worth of drawing and I’m still learning.

Another important aspect to any form of art is constructive criticism. You, as a producer of content, need to listen to the criticism of your audience. The input they can provide can be very insightful and point flaws out that you might have never noticed on your own. And this goes for not only basic theories and principles of your art form, but potentially offensive topics.

However, also keep in mind that you cannot please every single person you meet. Simply be open-minded and kind.


Where on the spectrum do you identify?

The sexual identity I am currently most comfortable with and feel fits the best is “asexual” itself — not a branch of it.

However, my romantic identity remains an oddity to even myself. I am currently coming to terms with the fact I reside somewhere on the aro-spectrum, but am also hesitant to label myself fully as “aromantic” despite never experiencing the feelings in question.

Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field?  If so, how do you handle it?

My sexuality isn’t exactly an aspect of myself I have made common knowledge in my daily life and to the people in it. So needless to say, the answer would be an overall “no.” Very few people, even within my circle of friends and acquaintances, know about it. It just isn’t something I tend to talk about, though it’s not a fact about me that I purposely hide either.

The topic of sexuality as a whole isn’t something ever brought up at the college I attend or the places I work, so it might just be a matter of “ignorance is bliss.”

There was a misconception of “being ace means you don’t like sex” once or twice, but that’s about as far as it went.

What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?

In person, definitely “being ace means you don’t like sex.”

On the internet, it’s been quite an ugly mix of comments. The two worst being “aroace people are just Straight People wanting in on the LGBT+ community and its resources” and “cishet aces are Straight.” Both of which mainly come from members of the LGBT+ community and enforce heteronormativity in the process.

What many LGBT+ people on the internet fail and refuse to realize is that The Straights don’t see us as straight. In their eyes, we are not one of them.

What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?

Life is too short to hate yourself. There are things about you that you can’t change; so instead of letting the world make you feel bad for it, embrace and accept it even if it is difficult to do so.

Do not change per the request of anyone (partner, family, or otherwise), because I can guarantee that you won’t be happy in the end.

And if one moment you find your ace label (whatever it may be) does not fit like it did before, don’t fret. Sexuality and gender is a spectrum. Labels are meant to help identify yourself, but are not inherently permanent. Do and use what you feel is best in that moment.

Finally, where can people find out more about your work?

My artwork can mainly be found on Tumblr under a side-blog with the url nicoledraws.

However, I do also have a Twitter account that has some artwork that never sees the light of day on Tumblr. As a warning though: the twitter account is a lot less organized and also has a lot of non-art related topics attached to it. You can find me currently at mokamazing there.

Thank you, Nicole, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.


Today I want to rant about my favourite character of all times, Maki Harukawa. Yes, laugh at me as much as you want, but now listen. If you’re not willing to listen, don’t even bother and read this. I’m gonna defend Maki with everything I have. This will get long, so I’ll put it under cut.

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1. Fix your attention on yourself, be aware at every moment of what you think, feel, want and do.

2. Always finish what you started.

3. Do what you are doing as best as possible.

4. Do not be chained to anything that in the long run can destroy you.

5. Develop your generosity without witnesses.

6. Treat every person as a close relative.

7. You must order what is disordered.

8. Learn to receive and be grateful for each gift.

9. Stop defining yourself.

10. Do not lie, do not steal, for if you do, you lie and steal from yourself.

11. Help your neighbor without doing making them depend on you.

12. Do not wish to be imitated.

13. Make plans and see them through.

14. Do not take up too much space.

15. Do not make unnecessary noises or gestures.

16. If you do not have faith, act as if you do.

17. Do not be impressed by strong personalities.

18. Do not appropriate anything or anyone.

19. Distributed equally.

20. Do not seduce.

21. You must only eat and sleep as much as is necessary.

22. Do not discuss your personal problems.

23. Do not pass judgments or criticize when you do not know all the facts.

24. Do not have useless friendships.

25. Do not follow fads.

26. Do not sell yourself.

27. Respect the contracts you have signed

28. Be punctual.

29. Do not envy others’ property or goods.

30. Speak only what is necessary.

31. Do not think of the benefits that your work will bring.

32. Never threaten.

33. Follow through with your promises.

34. In an argument, put yourself in the place of the other.

35. Accept when someone is better than you.

36. Do not eliminate, transform.

37. Defeat your fears; each one of them is a desire that is camouflaged.

38. Help the other help themselves.

39. Put an end to your antipathy and get closer to people that you want to reject.

40. Do not react when they speak well or ill of you.

41. Transform your pride into dignity.

42. Turn your anger into creativity.

43. Transform your greed into respect for the beauty.

44. Transform your envy into the admiration for the values of others.

45. Transform your hate into charity.

46. Do not praise nor insult yourself.

47. Treat the things that do not belong to you as if they did.

48. Do not complain.

49. Develop your imagination.

50. Do not give orders for the pleasure of being obeyed.

51. Pay for the services you are given.

52. Do not boast about your work or ideas.

53. Do not try to arouse emotions like pity, admiration, sympathy and complicity in others.

54. Do not try to distinguish yourself by your appearance.

55. Never contradict, just be silent.

56. Do not fall in debt, buy and pay immediately.

57. If you offend someone, ask for forgiveness.

58. If you have offended publicly apologize publicly.

59. If you realize that you have said something wrong, accept your mistake and desist immediately.

60. Do not defend your old ideas simply because it was you who said them.

61. Do not keep useless objects.

62. Do not embellish yourself with the ideas of others.

63. Do not get pictures with celebrities.

64. Be your own judge.

65. Do not let your possessions define you.

66. Never talk about yourself, without allowing yourself the possibility of changing.

67. Accept that nothing is yours.

68. When you are asked what you think about something or someone, mention only their qualities.

69. When you fall ill, instead of hating this evil, consider it your teacher.

70. Do not look surreptitiously, stare steadily.

71. Do not forget the dead, but give them a limited place to prevent them from taking over your life.

72. In the place where you dwell, always consecrate a sacred place.

73. When you do a favor do not make others notice your effort.

74. If you decide to work for others, do it with pleasure

75. If in doubt between doing and not doing, take risks and do.

76. Do not try to be everything to your partner, accept that he must seek in others the things you cannot give him.

77. When someone has an audience, do not disrupt them with the purpose of stealing their audience.

78. Live with the money you have earned.

79. Do not brag about your love affairs.

80. Do not take pride in your weaknesses.

81. Never visit someone just to fill your time.

82. Obtain with the purpose of sharing.

83. If you are meditating and a devil arrives, make the devil meditate.

—  Gurdjieff
Body Positivity Is Not Just About Image

When I first started this blog, I really wanted to create a movement that was inclusive of everyone. So often, body positive blogs are only for women, or only curvy women, or only people with eating disorders, or whatever. Physical appearance is not the only thing people hate about their bodies though.

For many people, their negativity towards their body comes from inside their bodies. For example, women who cannot have children or people who have developed diseases. It’s just as important to accept your body for these flaws as it is to accept perceived flaws in your appearance.

Hate has never done anyone any good. No matter why you hate your body, it’s important to work to move past the angry feelings. Change the things you can’t accept and accept the things you can’t change. 

One of the tools you can use to do this is to treat your body like your best friend instead of a part of yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it to your body. Be kind to it and forgive it for all of it’s shortcomings. Because in reality, your body is your best friend, and it’s okay that it’s not perfect. Nobody’s perfect and it’s okay to forgive yourself. Consider this your permission granted.

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Britt here, reminding you to listen to autistic people and that Autism Speaks ignores actually autistic people. They continue to spread lies/fear/hate about us and they are an ablest organization. So this April, don’t light it up blue, instead walk in red!

I’m autistic and I do not need to be “fixed”.


It’s about time aha… Hope you all like it took a while ;; A soulmate!au and Hanahaki disease… wonderful

It all started with a smile. One small smile from the cute young boy you’d come to know as your new neighbor was all it took for you to find yourself drawn to him. However it wasn’t good that after moving in and introducing yourself you’d gotten closer to him; despite your growing affection towards him you knew you couldn’t be together. Because of fate. Because of destiny. Because the world you lived in had everything planned out for you from the day you were born. And there was nothing you could do to change it.

Your soulmate was selected by ‘fate’ as soon as you were brought into the world, and you’d know when you met them. When you’re born you’re blind to a certain color, in your case yellow, and when you found your soulmate you’d be able to see that color. It was a strange concept, but you didn’t make the rules. That was your life, and you’d come to accept it.

However that didn’t help now, as you sat before the smiling boy and fidgeted with your hands. You felt uneasy, the increased heart rate and slight sweating not helping as you began to hate yourself. You began to hate fate and the way it was so cruel; how could you have fallen so helplessly in love with someone who wasn’t your soulmate? The vase on his mantlepiece proved this to you - the roses sitting inside a shade of grey to you instead of what you knew the were meant to be - yellow. The fact that you couldn’t see them in all their beauty was what had made you realise you’d fallen for the wrong person. And that made time spent together increasingly uncomfortable, as you’d become very awkward despite his efforts to lighten the mood. He’d kept quiet until then, but as you sat staring down at your lap and sighing every few minutes, he grew more and more worried. ‘Does she not like spending time with me anymore?’

“Y/N?” he finally spoke, breaking the silence that had hung between you since you entered, voice soft and careful. He seemed almost… scared. You looked up and met his concerned gaze, a lump in your throat appearing as you saw them. They were as kind as usual, warm as he moved closer and placed his hands on yours gingerly. You moved them away slowly, feeling guilty as soon as you saw his expression become hurt. “What’s wrong?”

“Chan, I-” you sighed for what seemed the hundredth time that afternoon, looking down again and avoiding his eyes. You knew you’d shatter with only one more look. He waited for you to speak, anticipation bubbling within him as his mind raced. Had he done something? Had someone else done something? ‘Does she know that I like her despite us not being soulmates?’ “It’s nothing, really, I just… “ You fell silent again, the slow ticking of the clock filling the room as silence fell once again. He was being patient and calm in spite of his growing apprehension, and he shuffled closer again. He kept his hands on his knees, not touching you and instead waiting for you to finish. “I can’t do this.” you mumbled, standing. He frowned, confused and even more afraid and stood also, grabbing your arm as you began to walk towards his door. He spun you to face him, eyes searching your face frantically as he panicked. When he saw tears brimming in your eyes, his face both softened and fell, and he looked at you with a strange mixture of concern and upset.

“Can’t do what? Please, Y/N, talk to me.” His desperate pleading hurt you further, but you couldn’t tell him how you felt. You’d grown very close since you’d moved into his apartment complex a few months ago, and you didn’t want to ruin your friendship over your seemingly idiotic affection.

“I have to go do… something… I’ll see you later, okay?” You shook your head as the tears began falling, and ignoring his shouts of your name you ran to your own apartment and let yourself in with trembling hands. You sat back against the door and let the tears stream down your cheeks, feeling incredibly helpless. You didn’t know that Chan was the same, collapsing onto his couch with whirling thoughts. ‘Should I just tell her that I love her?’

The ringing of your alarm the next morning didn’t do much, as you turned your phone off and pulled the duvet even further over your body up to your neck. You didn’t feel like waking up, the bitter cold weather and gentle rain matching your mood as you felt both guilty and dismal about leaving Chan like that. Surely he was confused, but you didn’t want to bother him when fate was obviously against you. After all your friends had found their soulmates you thought he’d be the one, and thinking about how happy they all were made you despair even more as you buried your face into your pillow and let sleep consume you again. At least when sleeping you didn’t have to think about it.

Chan hadn’t slept that night, brain unable to rest as he thought about your visit. Whilst you were usually happy to see him and told him about your problems you had appeared very conflicted, and it unsettled him that you wouldn’t tell him. He lay on his back on his bed and stared at the ceiling, a breathy sigh leaving his lips and a small, frustrated groan following. He had fallen for you after only seeing you a few times, but after being unable to see the color yellow still, he’d found himself burying his feelings deep down within and putting on a front. He didn’t want to hurt you with his feelings but as the days went by he fell deeper and deeper in love with you, however after seeing you yesterday he was now sure you didn’t feel the same way.

“Stupid boy…” he muttered to himself, sitting up and rubbing his tired eyes with another, heavier sigh. “It’s completely one sided.” He found himself with the sudden urge to cry as he made his way to the bathroom, grimacing at his sleep deprived face when he caught his reflection in the mirror. He splashed cold water on his face and rejoiced in the feeling, taking a quick shower and hoping it would clear his clouded mind. It didn’t. “Why do you like someone who isn’t even your soulmate? She’ll never love you! It’s one sided!” He was yelling to his reflection by now, hair dripping and eyes swimming as he felt something arise in his throat. He retched once, twice, before he felt as if he was going to throw up. With the tears starting to trail down his cheeks with his ever growing hopelessness, he crouched by the toilet bowl, eyes stinging and throat following as he felt his stomach emptying. However when he calmed down and opened his eyes he found his toilet to be filled with flower petals, a shade of grey the same as the roses sat in his living room. His brow creased at the sight and fresh tears fell, fear taking over him. ‘What the fuck is wrong with me?’

You hadn’t seen Chan in 3 days, and even though you were still brooding over your love you decided to go see him. You still hadn’t explained the other day to him and figured he’d still be quizzical, and so with one last pep talk you left with his favorite pastry in a brown paper bag. You felt slightly uneasy as you made your way to his apartment a few doors down, and with a hesitant knock you found the feeling growing into a sick one. Your stomach churned as you heard faint sobbing and choking sounds, eyes widening and terror setting in as you tried the handle and burst in upon finding his door unlocked.

“Chan!” you cried his name as you found him crumpled on the floor, his floor and jeans tear stained, face red and streaky, fresh tears covering their tracks and many, many grey flower petals surrounding him on the floor. You threw the paper bag onto his side table and ran over to him, crouching down next to him in a frenzy and taking his hands in yours. “Chan, what is this?” you asked quietly, shaken. He met your eyes with his glazed ones, unable to answer and instead making a choking sound again. “Chan, please, talk to me. I’m sorry about the other day.” Your voice was reduced to a whisper as you shivered, scared for him. He gripped your hands tighter and exhaled slowly.

“I love you, Y/N. I know we’re not soulmates, and I know you can’t possibly love me too, but I really, really love you.” he murmured with a sad smile, the smile soon fading into discomfort as he retched again. He felt them coming, an onslaught of petals coming again as you rubbed the back of his hands with your thumbs.

“No, you idiot! I love you too. I really do.” Your eyes searched his, your worry present, however he felt many of the petals then fade away and one spring to his mouth, him choking yet again as he coughed it out. He pulled it up and you stared at it with wide eyes, him doing the same when he realized. You both looked around you before smiling in relief, looking up at each other and laughing slightly. He set down the petal and you gave it one last look before moving closer to him, wrapping your arms around him happily. The petals fluttered slightly, for a reason you couldn’t fathom, but you were more focused on the color. A bright, satiny shade of yellow.

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- Admin Belle

i reported a blog who said horrible things to another bc they have conflicting beliefs and tumblr responded with “we recommend you block them!” like wow okay thanks sherlock i didn’t even consider that, and gee not being disciplined when you’re reported sending hate to others and instead just not being able to interact with that blog therefore further isolating yourself from people who have conflicting views and likely fostering dislike toward such people will really help people to learn to accept and be respectful of the beliefs of others.

Far From Worthless (Kendall Jenner Imagine)

Request: Where Y/N feels insecure about her body and Kendall comforts her
Pairing: Kendall Jenner x Reader (Y/N)
Trigger warnings: Explicit language
Word count: 1061


I was sat in front of the mirror again. Here I was, thinking about people’s harsh words about my body, my face, my voice; whatever they could find to hate on me.

I had my phone in my hand, scrolling through comments under my latest Instagram post.

“Fat hoe!”

“Why does she have followers?”

“Look at her double chin!”

“Ew, go kys…”

“She makes me want to puke. Gross bitch.”

I couldn’t dare to scroll more, instead I threw the phone into my bed and looked at my body carefully in the mirror once again.

I wasn’t the skinniest.

I had flaws.

I always knew that I couldn’t be perfect and even though it was very hard to accept it, I did.

But something about their hateful comments always got me.

I was weak.

“Ugly.” I murmured and felt another tear escape from my burning eyes.

I’ve been struggling with insecurities since I known myself. It was never easy. To accept yourself the way you are.

I always seemed that carefree girl who was always satisfied with her appearance.

But deep down, no one knew how much I hated my appearance.

How much I wanted to change it.

But how hard it was.

“You’re so fucking ugly.” I repeated. This time crying more.

My shirt was covered in tears and my neck was sweaty from the crying.

I continued to examine my body in the mirror and didn’t hear the sound of my front door open.


Kendall stood next to the door frame, checking me out.

Probably wondering why the hell I was stood in front of a mirror with nothing but boxers on.

She wasn’t supposed to see me like that.

I was always so strong in front of her.

She wasn’t supposed to know that I lied.

“What’s wrong?” Kendall came closer, dropping her bag next to the door.

I quickly hugged my body, trying not to cry in front of her.

Seeing me this vulnerable was enough.

“Nothing, I just got out of the shower,” I slurred, the lump in my throat making it harder to talk.

“You’re crying.”

“…no?” I faked a smile.

She was smart.

Damn it, Kendall Jenner.

Even in a situation like this, she made it easy for me to fall in love with her more.

“Look at me,” I was in such deep thoughts that I didn’t realize her getting closer to me, now sitting next to me with a worried face.

“Baby, look at me. Please.” She tried again.

I was too ashamed to look at her. I was a failure. I didn’t want her to see me like this.

“What’s wrong? Are you hurt? Did something happen when I was gone?” She spoke, taking my hands which were around my body and placing them in hers.

They were warm.

Unlike mines.

“I’m so sorry.” I let it go.

I finally let it go and cried.

So fucking hard that I could feel her chest shaking against mine while I cried on it.

“No baby. Why are you sorry? Please talk to me. I want to help.”

“I’m so fucking ugly! Why are you with me? You can do so much better. I wouldn’t blame you if you left, I can’t do this anymore. All I do is beat myself up. I just can’t. Everytime I look into this damn mirror, I can’t help but turn my face away with disgust. ” I told her, now looking into her eyes.

Unlike my other girlfriends, they didn’t have pity in them.

They just had that thing where you only could see in your mother’s eyes whenever she sees you hurt.

She used her fingers to wipe my tears gently. She cupped my cheeks.

(A/N: Kendall’s words are taken from the poem Far From Worthless by Rye Productions - I don’t own anything. Go listen to it, it’s an amazing poem; I dedicate it to all of you.)

“I’m not going to tell you that you’re beautiful, even though I know it’s something to be true you’re just gonna shake it off like you always do, so instead I want you to look at me and just know that I’m a fool for you. Remember when I use to skip school for you? Tried to act cool for you? I was so scared of losing you to someone else that I’d always put you before myself. Your health before mine. I was never late, I was always on time ‘cause your love sustained me. Like a flower that needs sunshine. So don’t you ever think that you’re not worthy of me and remember you only see what you want to see, not beneath the surface. After all, I’ve been told that airports have seen more sincere kisses than wedding halls and the walls of hospitals have heard more prayers than the walls of churches. So learn to look past all of your troubles and realise what your true worth is. You’re far from worthless. Think about the raw emotions of that come with what the miracle birth is, new life brought into this vast world. Born innocent but turned cold. Being told that to fit in you have to be perfect taking pills to ease the pain to make it hurt less. You feel like you’ll never get what you need. Cutting your soft skin to see of you still bleed feeding the depression and planting seeds that will grow to destroy you, I can’t save your soul for you. That’s your decision. Change the path pave a new track stay away from the darkness and avoid the collision.” She placed a kiss on my cold hand.

“You’re what I want, Y/N. I don’t care about your appearance. Hell, you’re so fucking beautiful that you make it hard to breath whenever I’m in a same room with you. But I just want you to know that, I see through your soul. And your soul, it amazes me. I love you for that.”

She saw that I couldn’t find any words to speak so she just hugged me tighter.

“Let’s cuddle, huh? I’ll massage your head.”

Maybe these words didn’t make me fully aware of the beauty of me but, it reminded me that Kendall would be always there to remind me and pull me away from all the shit this world makes me go through.
Anxiety & Mental Illness

There was a time in my life where I would wake up in the morning and experience any sort of dark feeling that you could imagine. I would look at myself in the mirror and find every single possible thing wrong with me. I was always so happy on the outside, but on the inside I struggled.
I’ve gone through some pretty crazy things in life, and I felt like I had an anchor weighing me down. But see, the problem with that, is that life is short. The more time you waste hating yourself, the less time you spend enjoying every moment you have on Earth.
Slowly, slowly, I changed. I started waking up in the morning, finding at least one thing I loved about me. And, every single day after that, I continued to do so until I was finally able to accept all my flaws, and still love myself in the process. I realized that happiness is a choice. Choose to wake up every day, proud of who you are, accepting and loving, instead of negative. Don’t allow yourself to drown in your surroundings. Be happy, be positive, and most importantly, love yourself. Whatever you go through in life, stay strong. I promise you, life is beautiful when you choose to believe it.


30 Days Writing Challenge ~ October

Words: 1057
Warnings: alcoholised driving

4th October: Cool mugs, warm drinks | feat. Captain Boomerang

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submission - assorted random AUs
  • you’re black-out drunk and yes we had a really messy break up and you’d rather cut your arm of than have me take care of you, but I hate seeing you this miserable. at least let me hold your hair back while you puke
  • you’re aromantic and don’t like kissing and I’m in a closed relationship, but we played spin the bottle and had to kiss in the closet, but instead just sit there talking about space
  • all your memories got deleted and you’re just a former shell of who you were, but I take care of you in the hopes that /something/ can make you remember yourself
  • (bonus points for person A finally accepting that the old person B just won’t return when person B suddenly does thAT. ONE. UNMISTAKEABLE. THING
  • you’re multilingual, and when we speak our common language your voice sounds kinda weird, but when you speak your native language… it’s like listening to velvet
  • you’ve been missing for five months and suddenly you turn up at my doorstep with a huge scar across your face, looking more grim than when you left and won’t talk about what happened.

anonymous asked:

I'm transgender and you are the first person I've told. :) I love yo so so much. I feel like a weight is lifted off my shoulders telling you and I guess everyone here. Lol any ideas how to come out to my parents and best friend I'm really worried that they won't understand and will hate me. I hate being hated.…

aww i feel so honored to be the first person you’ve told <3 means a lot honestly that you would tell me this, even anonymously, still takes a lot of strength. I’m not the best with advice and definitely not in this situation since i havent gone through this myself. but what i can say is that at the end of the day the most important thing is your happiness and that you love and accept yourself, the people that dont love and accept you should be ashamed and you just cant let them affect your happiness. dont ever worry and focus on being “hated” instead look for the people who love you, theres always going to be people that love you, like me! =]

for some reason on tumblr there’s been this huge shift of negativity where every post seems to be negative and embracing feeling awful in every way about yourself and i understand some people cope with unhappiness that way because you see how many people are relatable to you…  but instead of making yourself feel better by being negative and spreading that around and laughing at being “worthless” and making it into something Cool and hip, it’d be great if collectively this whole website could make a shift for the positive side of life and work to support and help each other ya know? there’s a lot of us on here and just think about how, if instead of making/reblogging a negative post, you reblogged a positive one just how much that could help the people who follow you and alternatively yourself! i guarantee there would be a really great flow of happiness all around and people will start to feel better about themselves when they look at things in the light instead of the dark. so instead of saying you’re the trash friend or have no friends at all, say that you’re working hard to find people who will accept and adore you! instead of saying how jealous you are of someone be proud of that person’s achievements and use that as motivation to gain what you want, instead of hating everything about yourself try loving everything, look into the mirror  and smile even if you want to cry and start to  see the wonderful person you are and can surely become. eliminate all negative thoughts and try your very hardest to make them into something positive because everyone has the potential to find happiness if you open up your heart and your mind but it starts with you and it starts with thinking positive! 

anonymous asked:

so, i just discovered real people actually RPF-shipping Larry is a thing. and IDK how i feel. since u seem obvi knowledgable, I'd like to know a) on which basis/ evidence are people making assumption about H&L's sexuality/ about their supposed relationship - b) what's the point anyway? like, what's it to you? c) is it even morally correct? as a queer person, i believe people should be allowed to reveal their sexuality whenever they wish w/o other people meddling. what do u think about all this?

Both thisiskatsblog and lapelosa alerted me to this pattern for trolls: 

  1. Claim of no prior knowledge (Just discovered)
  2. Flattery (u seem obvi knowledgable)
  3. Claim fraternity (as a queer person)
  4. Thinly veiled homophobia and judgement.

So year, I see you. Now normally I follow this mantra:

But this one deserves special attention.

1) The Evidence: I have neither the time nor inclination to reiterate 4 years of substantial evidence, the vast majority of which has been meticulously curated by others and available via a simple Google Search. If you are at all interested in the evidence, then put in the effort. If not, everything else you have to say is utterly irrelevant.

2) It is nothing to me. It is trolls like you who keep on trying to imply that their relationship has some sort of meaning to me. It does not. What is important to me is the rabid homophobia that plagues this fandom. 1D fans can be some of the most homophobic bullies I have ever encountered in the past 20 years. The fact that Harry and Louis may be not-straight in this type of toxic environment should anger you as much as it does me. NO ONE, be it some teen struggling with understanding their emerging sexuality, or an international pop star, should be subjected to the vile and hateful homophobia this fandom has to offer.

3) Morally Correct: And here is where my blood boils. Morality is always the last refuge when reasoned logical argument is impossible. Morality is a personal and subjective thing, not something you can impose upon others. As a queer person, we both know how morality has been used against us. What is morally objectionable about trying to rid the fandom of homophobia? What is morally objectionable about trying to create a safe and welcoming space for all LGBTQ people? It is you who have made the assumption that we are trying to out Harry and Louis. And you are absolutely dead wrong!! 

What I think is that your attitude only serves to further enforce the closet. Your defeatist stance has accepted the systemic homophobia of our society as being unbreakable. I think if you really are queer, you need to take a damned good long look in the mirror and stop hating yourself, stop being afraid, and take back your own voice! Instead of trying to silence the fight against homophobia you should be with us in the trenches and on the front lines fighting this war for equality.

The only people why try to make this about Harry and Louis, about “Larry”, are those who are deathly afraid that our suspicions are correct and they are in a relationship together. They are the people who come here and accuse us of trying to do something bad to the boys. For everyone else, we know we are doing this FOR the boys, and anyone else who may be seeking LGBTQ acceptance within the fandom. This isn’t about Harry, Louis, or their sexuality. Its about fighting the homophobia that has grown like a cancer within this fandom.

anonymous asked:

hi there, I was just wondering what your views are on female body image. I think we're about the same age and I sometimes feel a bit inadequate. I look at BC and to me he's beautiful whether he looks like Khan or Patrick from Starter For 10. I know there is no chance that I would even meet BC let alone be his friend or go on a date or whatever cause I don't look like those beautiful women you see him with. how do you stay positive about yourself?

Hey anon. We ALL have insecurities about ourselves, everyone. Even Bender. But it’s about trying to gain the confidence in yourself to start loving yourself and accepting yourself. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be more confident and sometimes men and women find a confident woman very attractive. What are the reasons you feel inadequate? Is there anyone around you who is being a negative influence, or was there in the past? If there is you probably wanna start backing away from those dudes. I find a lot of PMA (positive mental attitude) is a massive tool in every day life and that can help with the way you feel about yourself and your outlook on yourself. Instead of being like, i dunno uh, “Oh i hate the shape of my nose, why can’t i have a nice nose? Why can’t i be beautiful like that girl on the red carpet.” change that thought to, “But i DO have beautiful eyes and i have the most gorgeous dress that would make me EQUALLY as gorgeous as those women on the red carpet.” There are both positive and negative aspects to most situations. We get to choose which ones to focus on. You gotta catch yourself when you’re being negative and try thinking the opposite - the positive. It can be stressful being with other people, even people that we really like - so don’t be scared of taking some time out for yourself and enjoy being with yourself. Do things you enjoy doing, whether it be reading, listening to music, painting, jogging, swimming, watching movies etc. Be kind, positive, be true to yourself, trust yourself, encourage your own dreams, grow spiritually, look after your body, try and see the beauty in everything then you can start appreciating the beauty in yourself etc. To help boost your self confidence find something or seek opportunities to help improve your self confidence. If you know you’re good at something, do more of it, it’ll be a self esteem boost. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. If it’s not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it. It is a fact that when you start dressing nicely, dressing yourself in things you love, you’ll feel good about yourself. SMILE. Always smile. 

It’s easier to bring change if you just put your mind to it and change your thoughts. We can’t always control things that happen in our lives, but we can, with some effort, control what we think. And this is how you start. What about these women is it that you find attractive, and how can you carry it over to YOU. If you like the way their hair is, see if it’ll work on you. You’ll get it done and you’ll think, ayy my hair looks cool today. AND THAT’S THE START. But don’t ever compare yourself to others. REMEMBER, people on red carpets, these privileged ladies that attend these events have stylists, they are able to shop in new expensive fashion, often given clothes and not to mention will be photoshopped to hell and back. 

Maybe anon, invest in a couple books? How to accept yourself books and read lots of Gautama Buddah quotes? The fact you’re asking me shows you’re already looking for inspiration and actively trying to find ways to stay positive about yourself, so that’s awesome. But god, you don’t want to rule your life on whether Benedict bloody Cumberbatch, this one man, will find you attractive. Who fucking cares what he thinks? He isn’t the be all and end all, he’s just an ordinary bloke who i can tell has a great life and well being about him. He’s likely to, as i’ve listed above, find beauty in every thing. He has mentioned before about Buddhism, so he’s probably a vaguely spiritual guy. I don’t know the extent of it, but It’s insulting to him i would guess, why wouldn’t he find you a beautiful person? Anyway, it really is what YOU think.

Don’t give up on yourself, you are worthy, you are beautiful, you have a heart and a soul and you are unique. 

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” 
― Gautama Buddha

Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.William Shakespeare, Henry V.

(i don’t know if this was what you were after but never mind. Just. Please. Don’t. Rule. Your. Life. On. That. Mother. Fucker. Above. There are more things to life than him - don’t put him on such a high pedestal… It isn’t healthy, okay?)

Why I (Still) Ship Karmy (Request)

I have been asked by user karmystevie to make a post about the reasons why I personally (still) ship Karmy, what I love about them, what they mean as a pairing to me, as well as my thoughts on their possible future. I know there’s some irony to recently posting about how there’s more to this show than just shipping - which is still true - and then proceeding to do this, but this is a request so bear with me.  *clears throat* Let’s get right into this – warning beforehand – this post might turn lengthy.

Basically, the simple question I’ll aim to answer is why Karmy? First of all, I need to clarify why this particular pairing relates to me personally. I won’t get too much into it, because the internet is the last place to disclose your personal life, but because I was asked, I’ll just mention that my perspective is slightly different – it’s that of a straight viewer who could and by all means should and is constantly encouraged to ship the generic, heterosexual, boy-meets-girl couple instead and still doesn’t.

Why? Because it stands for everything I hate about society making straight girls do – change for acceptance and pine after the popular guy because if he’s popular, by default, you should associate yourself with him to be someone. That doesn’t resonate with me and I think it enforces some very damaging preconceptions about what girls have to be and where our sense of self-worth truly lies.

Which is why I embrace Karmy wholeheartedly instead - no matter how damaged they might be at this point in canon. I believe that, as a pairing, it is equally important not just for the gay community but for everyone else, in terms of love and acceptance. They tell a story that’s timeless, that goes beyond gender or sexuality, a story that should by all means be told.

What is it about Karmy that tugs at my heartstrings so much? The fact that it’s universal. It tells that painful story of unrequited love we all want to see turn requited, that many of us – myself included - have experienced – leaving sexuality and the gender of the characters out of it for a minute, it’s a harsh reality not often seen on TV.

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