What people don't understand about abusive parents
What people don’t understand about abusive parents is that we can’t always hate them. We can’t just constantly hate them because a lot of them are quite nice half the time.
It makes it hard to hate them because it’s like “they’ve been horrible to me but they treated me to a present yesterday or a cute little chocolate bar so I’d me rude to hate them because of what they’ve done for me” and it’s destroys your mind because then people questions if they actually are abusive when you seen to like them at that time.
Abusive relationships aren't abusive 100% of the time.
Just because they’ve got good moments doesn’t mean that the abuse is any less real.
Edit: I would also like to clarify that this is about any kind of relationship. This applies to anyone in an abusive situation with any person whether it be friendship, sexual relations, family relations, co-worker relations, peers, neighbors, acquaintances, teachers, students, etc…
Abuse comes in many forms, but organized into three categories. Mental, Emotional, and Physical abuse are all very real, and it’s very important to understand the warning signs and even more important to get out of the situation as safely and quickly as possible.
Things to Remember:
- Don’t be afraid to tell someone what you’re going through. Find someone to act as a safety net of sorts. Make sure it’s someone you trust, and someone you know can and will help you.
- Have somewhere to go if you need to get away. Make sure to tell your ‘safety net’ what happened, and where you’re going.
- If you’re financially dependent upon your abuser then start saving money up as soon as possible. If you’re planning on leaving you will need some funding to do so. (The easiest way to save money is to stop eating out. Sandwiches are simple enough to not need cooking skills, and the price of ingredients will fit nicely in your budget. Trust me I’ve done this myself.)
- Most importantly, don’t go back. I know they’ll say they can change, but the terrifying reality is that abusers rarely change. I’m not saying they’re not capable of change, but please be cautious of reentering a toxic situation.
if you ever feel sad just keep in mind that mickey and mandy thought they’d both be stuck in south side forever but they both got out and escaped their abusive household and they can live their own life now without anyone stopping them
you’re choking me with the same hand that you’re caressing me with.
your mouth says the most awful things to me yet still tastes sweet when you kiss me.
you tell me you love me yet you act like you hate me.
and still, i can’t leave you.