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monstergirlsclub  asked:

Hi! I have a question about avoiding stereotypes. I have an east asian male character who has anxiety and has a more timid and gentle personality. Is this too stereotypical if it's just his natural personality? He also stands up for himself and his loved ones and isn't just shy all the time. Part of his character arch is about him overcoming anxieties the effects of emotional abuse. Should I change his personality or is there a way I can still have him be like that but not be too stereotypical?

Timid Gentle East Asian Male Character 

I think this is fine the way it is. Sadly, emotional abuse CAN be a thing in Asian families, and some of the cultural mores have actually contributed to how I react to certain situations.

I feel like this question also falls into the trap of “you can’t write an Asian being an Asian archetype because that’d be a stereotype” (ex: casting in Iron Fist). 

Timid, gentle East Asian people do exist. The issue is whether or not you can write them as a realized human being instead of just relying on those characteristics because those are supposedly “Asian” things. Think of how else you can round out the character, and it’ll be fine.

–Jess

Every time I see a teenager vomit out their history of trauma during shipping discourse as a trump card I want to shake the little frickers (and the big frickers that started this trend) because that is not safe and it is not healthy.

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Physical abuse is more than punching someone in their face

(which doesn´t mean at any point that I want to compaire which is worse [every abuse is bad])

On one hand this should be obvious but on the other hand I feel very much like this is something we should talk about more.

You can be physically harmed by someone even when they never touch you with their own hands.

(They can throw things after you, they can try to make you eat food you are allergic at etc., etc. , etc. …)

anonymous asked:

I read a fic that all I remember is that it was punk/pastel and the title was something about a skating boy? Sorry if this is not much to go by :/

Sk8ter Boi - (tw) Based of Avril Lavigne’s song Sk8er Boi with Pastel!Dan and punk!Phil Phil learns what love is but also how to be broken from it, Dan helps him learn both of them things. who will face the consequences  (TW: swearing but not lots, mentions of child abuse and there someone who is an alcoholic)

- Emily

Devils in White [ 1 / 7 ] - Ruby

A/N: hey guys!! it’s been a while since I’ve updated but rest assured I haven’t forgotten about this lovely universe. the second installment has no real trigger warnings, but I’d say if you’re upset by heavy mentions of drug/alcohol abuse, violence, abuse, homophobia, and the like. other than that, enjoy!! moodboard made by the lovely antigone!!

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Please give me a fic where the Legends are there for the Music Meister  crossover and Mick (and Len!?!) are A) absolutely furious with how this bottom feeding white bread alien jackass treats Kara and her boundaries and B) how no one seems to notice there are major issues here

Originally posted by bojackhorseman

loch ness is real and she Loves survivors and Hates abusers ok also she told me to call her nessie and she let me sleep over at hers when i was having a rough time and her wife bigfoot made me some pie and they told me i could stay with them as long as i needed and theyll beat The Shit out of my abusers if i wanted them to

Anak Durhaka is what you call a child who is disobedient and doesn’t treat their parents with respect in Indonesia.

The white text below can be translated as “Not Your Ticket to Heaven”

In my country there’s a belief that a good child who obey their parents and pray to god everyday can save the parents from hell. I guess they forgot a more effective way to reach Heaven.

Raising and Treating Your Children With Love and Respect. Whoops.

Mental health crisis

The past few months have been horrible for me. I went through the worst emotional abuse I have ever experienced. (Even by my adoptive parents) I’m done. I had a break down in the beginning of march and thought I had put most of my trauma and childhood related trauma behind me but unfortunately after this weekend it got worse. Disney is supposed to be a place of happiness but instead I was thinking of ending everything in a non suicidal way. I wanted to check out. I wanted to walk away and just disappear forever. My heart was literally hurting. I felt like I was having a heart attack. Every time there was no one looking I was on the floor curled up in a ball crying and screaming. FYI Disney Nurses and cast members are amazing at dealing with people in trauma. I couldn’t eat. Everything hurt. I had a fever and my blood pressure and heart rate were through the roof. I lost 6 pounds over night. I currently weigh 92 pounds. Zero motivation for anything. I just wanted to sleep and do nothing all day. I’m on full disability and that covers my bills so there’s no reason for me to work either. I just wanted to be happy again. I feel like I’m grieving. I’m going through all of the stages. Crying, anger, denial, acceptance and then it just repeats. Last week I sat in my car in my driveway for the last 2 hours trying to just unbuckle my seatbelt but I couldn’t even do that because in my car I feel safe and comfortable and like if I open up the door everything would come crashing down again.

But today was a good day. I ate 3 meals and snacked and didn’t throw up. I was calm and didn’t cry. I did get angry but it’s justified and I didn’t do anything stupid for once. I owned the abuse and have decided to move on. I’m like Anne of Green Gables. I get into the most awful scraps but only once and then I never do it again. I say all this, not because I want attention but to show that this is normal. Mental health crisis often gets shoved under the rug. I am so lucky to have family that when I called dropped everything to come and get me. I’m insanely privileged to have friends that I can call at anytime to coax me off the preverbal ledge. I am so lucky that I could pull myself out of that hell and move on. You can too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. I promise I will never blow you off. No one who treats you like crap deserve your excuses. I will not make exceptions for anyone anymore. Over the last 6 years I’ve grown so much. I’ve learned what abuse in family, friends, and partners looks like. I’ve learned how to avoid cons and scams. I’ve learned self respect and also how to put my pride away and ask for help. I’ve learned what my body does when it’s sick and how to fix it. I’ve learned what true love really is and found that I do have that capacity. I can honestly say I am the better for every single torturous situation I have ever subjected myself to or been the victim. I am stronger than I have ever been. I am wiped out and mentally exhausted but I am living my best life. That’s all that matters.

don’t get me wrong i never wanna invalidate the struggles of people who get kicked out for being LGBT but i genuinely think i’d have more freedom that way?? like i’d be able to see a doctor when i want, i’d be able to get referred to a gender clinic, i’d be able to get a job and rent a place even if it was shitty without her being all ‘buh buh buh you’re autistic you’re not capable of holding down a job or living on your own yet’. i wouldn’t feel bad cutting off contact with her at all bc pretty much every one of my current problems can be traced back to her controlling intolerant ass