“Tough love” is nothing more than a myth abusers perpetuate to justify their abuse and confuse you on what love really is. Analyze the name. Tough. Love. It’s an oxymoron. Love is one of the things that makes us human. It promotes compassion, empathy, gentleness, and brings a myriad of health benefits. Tough love, therefore, isn’t possible. The actions that are typically branded as “tough love” (hitting, restricting freedom, etc.) are usually just abusive.
Tough love is a lie. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.