abused!brando!

If your partner is trying to force you to diet- that is abuse.

If your partner belittles your weight- that is abuse.

If your partner throws away all the food in the house to try to force you to diet- that is abuse.

If your partner constantly questions everything you try to eat- that is abuse.

If your partner threatens to withhold sex or cheat on you if you don’t lose weight- that is abuse. 

This type of behavior is an abusive control tactic. Run far away from someone who treats you like this.

We recognize abusive control when your partner tries to dictate how you dress. 

It’s the same concept with food and weight.

If someone is treating you like this, please. Try to get away before they shred your self esteem completely. 

Someone else WILL love you. You don’t deserve to be treated this way. 


When we teach young girls that no one will love them unless they are thin, we are teaching them to accept abusive behavior. 

Fat girls are loved. I am here to tell you that it is real. 

Love will find you. You deserve love and it will come to you. 

Regarding mental illness in Dragon Age

There might be happy and well-adjusted people somewhere in Thedas, but we certainly don’t encounter many of them! 

Almost every single NPC we meet has experienced at least one traumatic event sufficient to cause PTSD. 

On top of that, the oppressive political/economic/social systems in Thedas are inherently abusive to the vast majority of the population and thus there is probably quite a lot of complex PTSD as well. (For those unfamiliar with the distinction, complex PTSD is emotional trauma caused by being trapped in a long-term abusive or otherwise threatening/harmful situation versus regular PTSD is usually tied to specific significant events.)

Furthermore, the people of Thedas have almost no resources to cope with mental illness:

1) The scientific study of psychology (as distinct from general philosophy) is a post-Enlightenment endeavor whereas societies in Thedas are still in pre-Enlightenment stages of development.

2) There is little to no understanding of the brain. Thedas even lags behind the equivalent historical era on Earth with regards to knowledge of anatomy and non-magical medicine because research in this area is considered too close to practicing blood magic. 

3) There are no psychiatric medications – those are a 20th century invention.

4) Fetal alcohol syndrome is likely very common due to most people drinking fermented beverages instead of water because the water wasn’t safe to drink.

5) Prenatal and early childhood malnutrition are also likely very common, and cause mental disabilities. For example, the average IQs of iodine-deficient populations are ~15 points (a standard deviation) lower than non-deficient populations.

6) Childhood tragedy in the form of the death of a parent or sibling is frightfully common. At least one in ten women eventually dies in childbirth and only two-thirds of children to live to see their fifth birthdays.

7) There is no universal public education, no child protective services, and very little social mobility. If your family is abusive, neglectful, or otherwise toxic there is likely no one to notice and intervene on your behalf and almost no hope of eventually escaping to a better life. 

Don’t argue over which Dragon Age characters are mentally ill. Argue over whether they are any that aren’t.

Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.
Your abuser’s trauma doesn’t justify them abusing you.

“Tell me, Olivia. Have you been conditioned?” ————————————————————————- This was such a pain in the ass to draw also I was kind of uncomfortable but fuck I need to get out of my comfort zone if am willing to do some sensitive materials. Lars wants to baptize Olivia to cleanse her so she can be reborn as an innocent.
// Also, PLEASE DON’T ROMANTICIZE THIS DRAWING.

Reminder to abuse survivors that someone can be nice to you and do kind/caring things and still have abused you. They can do you favors, buy you things, in general seem to care about your wellbeing and still abuse you. Abusers usually get to you by being kind. They reel you in and make you trust them and then they turn it around.
You don’t have to feel guilty or bad or unjust for calling someone an abuser just because sometimes they were kind.