Allistics: We’ll teach them to behave like ‘normal people’ by traumatising them into developing anxiety and then shame them for being so anxious all the time!

Allistics: Why is there such a huge percentage of autistic people with anxiety???? I guess we’ll never know…Maybe its just another autism symptom…yeah.

Never trust a man who puts his hands on you in anger, even if it’s not hitting. Please leave the first time he touches you in a way that scares you. You’re not overreacting. It’s not your fault and it’s not your mental illness. If he uses force to control your body, leave. I could have saved myself so much pain if I had just left after the first time he grabbed me and tried to prevent me from running away.

anonymous asked:

The whole Malachite situation should have never been attempted in first place. For a show that's supposed to "make everybody feel loved" or whatever, it does a poor job at that. I'm a domestic violence survivor who identities with characters like Jasper and instead of making me feel better, this show just threw painful reality back at my face. The fact that Lapis never really faces consequences for any of her actions, be it drowning Connie, breaking Greg's leg, etc., makes it worse.

It shows how messy the writing is, because some survivors relate to Jasper and see their abuser in Lapis, and others relate to Lapis and see their abuser in Jasper. If you’re gonna write an abuse allegory, you’ve got to make it a lot clearer.

anonymous asked:

the malachite arc really? hit home? like my abuser is always considered perfect and good because shes feminine and pretty, like lapis. im not big like jasper but im masculine and act similar to her (angry mostly) and y abuser smeared me bc of that (mostly when i tried to get away from her) and. If always feels awful when i see jasper made out to to be evil even when She was the one primarily hurt from the consensual fusion lol

anonymous asked:

I've emotionally abused people in the past and I painted myself as the victim and everyone then felt sympathy for me, not my abused partners. I was in the wrong. I feel that everyone thinks lapis is this strong victim that "fights back her abusers of homeworld/jasper" but she is just as much an abuser herself. I am an abuse victim AND an abuser and I can tell you that su does a terrible job at portraying an abusive relationships and how the abusee feels. Jasper isnt a bad, shes painted that way

I have a crush but I don’t?

I feel like the “crush” is just me, needing affection after like years of abuse.

im aroace but i guess i still need romantical comfort because my abuser ruined my feelings and self worth, i guess. 

but i don’t really “like” this person in a romantical sense. I just want them to like me (BUT THE THING IS, ROMANTICAL LOVE MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE,,,,,,,, BECAUSE OF ABUSE)

trauma is fun and confusing….

Master and Me (Flash Fiction #339)

I licked Master’s face, purring in affection.

He played with my collar absent-mindedly with one hand. Bells rang. The bruises on my neck flared and I flinched.

It used to be too tight, the metal clamped and I nearly passed out. Blisters ached and bled. Pain lasted for days on end. But, after Master had kissed me and held food and water from me, I learned to ignore it. He loosened it up.

He showed me his love. He put me in my place. I couldn’t make out the words he used, but his actions spoke louder. He put me in a cage when I disobeyed him. He punctuated his lessons with fists and whips and spray bottles. I soon learned who or what I was.

I was his pet and his pet alone. Obedient. No-one else’s.

I licked downward, down his neck and down his chest, bare and sweaty, and down his belly and down even further.

“Good girl.” He said, stroking my blond hair and wiping away my tears.

I don’t miss my old family.

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I feel like at lot of times people make mental illnesses a competition, or just pain in general. Like who’s been hurt the most or who hates themselves the most or who has the most scars and I thinks it’s awful. Not everyone does this but some people are always trying to make everyone feel sorry for them. I feel like we should just all support each other regardless of who has more problems. We are all in pain and I think that can really bring us together, but we need to stop making it a competition and just start loving each other.

All abusers are cowards but shout out to abusive parents for preying on fucking children who were their responsibility and can’t escape them and then, when they realize their kids are gonna move out and move on and don’t have any real obligation to spend time with them or be there for them, typically acting all buddy buddy and trying to backpedal and say “what abuse” for the rest of their kids’ lives, even if sometimes they continue the same shitty behavior just at a distance lmfao I hope you all choke you weaklings, all of your children are ten times as strong as you’ll ever be

The trauma side of tumblr really seems to focus on survivors of csa, and that’s completely understandable, but I don’t see enough posts about kids who had to deal with serious neglect/emotional abuse. It can be devastating as well

shoutout to kids who had to grow up too fast because their parents never allowed them to be a kid

shoutout to kids who had to fend for themselves every day, or even little siblings

shoutout to kids who felt like the parent

shoutout to kids who cling hard to people because they never got the proper love and care that a parent should provide

shoutout to kids who have health issues because they were never taken care of, and it’s hard to recover from

shoutout to kids who felt abandoned and empty and like they had no childhood because their family wasn’t there 

You’re all valid and I’m so sorry for what we’ve had to go through. It’s tough. And I hope we can all heal from it