Being Genderfluid and What I've Learned From It (Through Experience):
I was born female, but from a very young age, never felt I fit the “girl” label. In 3rd grade, I would always say how I wished I was a boy. It never sunk in until I was 14, when I was so confused about my gender that I wanted a flat chest and to chop all of my hair off.
It was around that time I did research of genderfluidity and came out to friends and family.
This is what I have learned:
• it feels so good to come out and accept yourself
• not many will not refer to you as your preferred pronoun(s), no matter how often you may remind someone, even family (please appreciate those who do).
• you may not be taken seriously as a person.
• as manly as you feel, you still have a bloody crotch every month and it makes you feel like a helpless little baby.
• people won’t believe your gender is real.
• people will gender label every possible item known to man, just to poke fun and tease you.
• you will question what is appropriate to wear with the gender you are feeling. this is normal
• you may feel more like a boy some days and more like a girl other days. this is also normal, everyone is different, and that’s beautiful.
• when you call a guy “bro/dude/man” he’ll say “ha I can’t call you _____, you’re a GIRL.” Fuck you.
• your family may refuse to accept your choices and may not respect you because of them (THIS DOES NOT MAKE YOU WRONG FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE!! THEY ARE WRONG, NOT YOU!!!)
• sex ed classes do not go over all genders or sexualities, so you are left feeling confused, lost, and alone.
• in this time of feeling confused, lost, and alone, dark thoughts may consume you. you may feel disgusted in yourself, and not even believe that what your feeling is real. as horrible as it is to say, this is true. please do not hide your feelings, talk to someone that makes you feel comfortable
• when people ask if you “want a penis now or something” you wonder about yourself and feel genuine anxiety. (questions like this can be extremely rude, personal, and are NOT appreciated)
• it can be hard to talk to friends about it, because some do not understand, and will even make it seem like a joke.
• it is NOT a joke we are SERIOUS!!
• WE ARE STILL FUCKING PEOPLE
• Please feel free to add to this list I may have forgotten some things. this does not only apply to being genderfluid.
“She approached me because she smelled the food in my bag. I gave some to her, and I offered her my Poké Ball. I really wish I could give you a more interesting story, but that really is all there was to it.”