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Honesty hour: Ask me anything and ill be 100% honest, all questions answered.

PUT A NUMBER IN MY ASK!” (all answered q will be permanently posted in my dash)

1.Who was the last person you held hands with?
2. Are you outgoing or shy?
3. Who are you looking forward to seeing?
4. Are you easy to get along with?
5. If you were drunk would the person you like take care of you?
6. What kind of people are you attracted to?
7. Do you think you’ll be in a relationship two months from now?
8. Who from the opposite gender is on your mind?
9. Does talking about sex make you uncomfortable?
10. Who was the last person you had a deep conversation with?
11. What does the most recent text that you sent say?
12. What are your 5 favorite songs right now?
13. Do you like it when people play with your hair?
14. Do you believe in luck and miracles?
15. What good thing happened this summer?
16. Would you kiss the last person you kissed again?
17. Do you think there is life on other planets?
18. Do you still talk to your first crush?
19. Do you like bubble baths?
20. Do you like your neighbors?
21. What are you bad habits?
22. Where would you like to travel?
23. Do you have trust issues?
24. Favorite part of your daily routine?
25. What part of your body are you most uncomfortable with?
26. What do you do when you wake up?
27. Do you wish your skin was lighter or darker?
28. Who are you most comfortable around?
29. Have any of your ex’s told you they regret breaking up?
30. Do you ever want to get married?
31. If your hair long enough for a pony tail?
32. Which celebrities would you have a threesome with?
33. Spell your name with your chin.
34. Do you play sports? What sports?
35. Would you rather live without TV or music?
36. Have you ever liked someone and never told them?
37. What do you say during awkward silences?
38. Describe your dream girl/guy?
39. What are your favorite stores to shop in?
40. What do you want to do after high school?
41. Do you believe everyone deserves a second chance?
42. If your being extremely quiet what does it mean?
43. Do you smile at strangers?
44. Trip to outer space or bottom of the ocean?
45. What makes you get out of bed in the morning?
46. What are you paranoid about?
47. Have you ever been high?
48. Have you ever been drunk?
49. Have you done anything recently that you hope nobody finds out about?
50. What was the colour of the last hoodie you wore?
51. Ever wished you were someone else?
52. One thing you wish you could change about yourself?
53. Favourite makeup brand?
54. Favourite store?
55. Favourite blog?
56. Favourite colour?
57. Favourite food?
58. Last thing you ate?
59. First thing you ate this morning?
60. Ever won a competition? For what?
61. Been suspended/expelled? For what?
62. Been arrested? For what?
63. Ever been in love?
64. Tell us the story of your first kiss?
65. Are you hungry right now?
66. Do you like your tumblr friends more than your real friends?
67. Facebook or Twitter?
68. Twitter or Tumblr?
69. Are you watching tv right now?
70. Names of your bestfriends?
71. Craving something? What?
72. What colour are your towels?
72. How many pillows do you sleep with?
73. Do you sleep with stuffed animals?
74. How many stuffed animals do you think you have?
75. Favourite animal?
76. What colour is your underwear?
77. Chocolate or Vanilla?
78. Favourite ice cream flavour?
79. What colour shirt are you wearing?
80. What colour pants?
81. Favourite tv show?
82. Favourite movie?
83. Mean Girls or Mean Girls 2?
84. Mean Girls or 21 Jump Street?
85. Favourite character from Mean Girls?
86. Favourite character from Finding Nemo?
87. First person you talked to today?
88. Last person you talked to today?
89. Name a person you hate?
90. Name a person you love?
91. Is there anyone you want to punch in the face right now?
92. In a fight with someone?
93. How many sweatpants do you have?
94. How many sweaters/hoodies do you have?
95. Last movie you watched?
96. Favourite actress?
97. Favourite actor?
98. Do you tan a lot?
99. Have any pets?
100. How are you feeling?
101. Do you type fast?
102. Do you regret anything from your past?
103. Can you spell well?
104. Do you miss anyone from your past?
105. Ever been to a bonfire party?
106. Ever broken someone’s heart?
107. Have you ever been on a horse?
108. What should you be doing?
109. Is something irritating you right now?
110. Have you ever liked someone so much it hurt?
111. Do you have trust issues?
112. Who was the last person you cried in front of?
113. What was your childhood nickname?
114. Have you ever been out of your province/state?
115. Do you play the Wii?
116. Are you listening to music right now?
117. Do you like chicken noodle soup?
118. Do you like Chinese food?
119. Favourite book?
120. Are you afraid of the dark?
121. Are you mean?
122. Is cheating ever okay?
123. Can you keep white shoes clean?
124. Do you believe in love at first sight?
125. Do you believe in true love?
126. Are you currently bored?
127. What makes you happy?
128. Would you change your name?
129. What your zodiac sign?
130. Do you like subway?
131. Your bestfriend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do?
132. Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with?
133. Favourite lyrics right now?
134. Can you count to one million?
135. Dumbest lie you ever told?
136. Do you sleep with your doors open or closed?
137. How tall are you?
138. Curly or Straight hair?
139. Brunette or Blonde?
140. Summer or Winter?
141. Night or Day?
142. Favourite month?
143. Are you a vegetarian?
144. Dark, milk or white chocolate?
145. Tea or Coffee?
146. Was today a good day?
147. Mars or Snickers?
148. What’s your favourite quote?
149. Do you believe in ghosts?
150. Get the closest book next to you, open it to page 42, what’s the first line

100 Questions No One Ever Asks

1. DO YOU SLEEP WITH YOUR CLOSET DOORS OPEN OR CLOSED?
I purposely close my closet door. 

2. DO YOU TAKE THE SHAMPOOS AND CONDITIONER BOTTLES FROM HOTELS?
I don’ think I ever have.

3. DO YOU SLEEP WITH YOUR SHEETS TUCKED IN OR OUT?
Out

4. HAVE YOU STOLEN A STREET SIGN BEFORE?
Kind of, it fell off of a billboard so my friend and I took the letters.

5. DO YOU LIKE TO USE POST-IT NOTES?
Not really

6. DO YOU CUT OUT COUPONS BUT THEN NEVER USE THEM?
HAH YEAH

7. WOULD YOU RATHER BE ATTACKED BY A BIG BEAR OR A SWARM OF BEES?
I would rather be attacked by a swarm of bees because I’ve been attacked by a swarm of yellow jackets. 

8. DO YOU HAVE FRECKLES?
I have them here and there.

9. DO YOU ALWAYS SMILE FOR PICTURES?
No

10. WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST PET PEEVE?
Deodorant stains OMG. 

11. DO YOU EVER COUNT YOUR STEPS WHEN YOU WALK?
No?

12. HAVE YOU PEED IN THE WOODS?
Yes my dude

13. HAVE YOU EVER POOPED IN THE WOODS?
No my dude

14. DO YOU EVER DANCE EVEN IF THERES NO MUSIC PLAYING?
All the time, you can ask the other mod. xD

15. DO YOU CHEW YOUR PENS AND PENCILS?
Yeah because apparently I have a fixation with things in my mouth.

16. HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE YOU SLEPT WITH THIS WEEK?
None? XD

17. WHAT SIZE IS YOUR BED?
King sized ;)

18. WHAT IS YOUR SONG OF THE WEEK?
ANYTHING CHRISTMAS. I’M LISTENING TO “BABY, IT’S COLD OUTSIDE” WHILE ANSWERING THESE!!

19. IS IT OK FOR GUYS TO WEAR PINK?
Yes my dudes.

20. DO YOU STILL WATCH CARTOONS?
All the time tbh, in my defense I have an 8 year old nephew.

21. WHAT IS YOUR LEAST FAVORITE MOVIE?
Uhm… ALL OF THE WRONG TURN MOVIES. I HATE THEM, THEY MESS WITH ME!!!

22. WHERE WOULD YOU BURY HIDDEN TREASURE IF YOU HAD SOME?
Dude I don’t know tbh.

23. WHAT DO YOU DRINK WITH DINNER?
Water

24. WHAT DO YOU DIP A CHICKEN NUGGET IN?
Ranch or ketchup.

25. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE FOOD?
I don’t have one honestly. 

26. WHAT MOVIES COULD YOU WATCH OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND STILL LOVE?
The Harry Potter movies, Spirited Away, EMPERORS NEW GROOVE.

27. LAST PERSON YOU KISSED/KISSED YOU?
Like on the mouth? My ex Tiffine. 
Like on the cheek? Either my nephew or my friend Sarah.

28. WERE YOU EVER A BOY/GIRL SCOUT?
I actually was a girl scout for like a month xD

29. WOULD YOU EVER STRIP OR POSE NUDE IN A MAGAZINE?
Maybe?

30. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WROTE A LETTER TO SOMEONE ON PAPER?
To my mom like two years ago I think?

31. CAN YOU CHANGE THE OIL ON A CAR?
Lmao no.

32. EVER GOTTEN A SPEEDING TICKET?
Lmao no.

33. EVER RAN OUT OF GAS?
I personally haven’t, but I’ve been in a car that has.

34. WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE KIND OF SANDWICH?
A turkey sandwich with like some bomb ass cheese, lettuce, tomato, and Balsamic Dressing

 35. BEST THING TO EAT FOR BREAKFAST?
Coffee and bacon

36. WHAT IS YOUR USUAL BEDTIME?
10ish

37. ARE YOU LAZY?
Occasionally 

38. WHEN YOU WERE A KID, WHAT DID YOU DRESS UP AS FOR HALLOWEEN?
Mainly a vampire or a witch. I remember dressing up as a pirate once though.

39. WHAT IS YOUR CHINESE ASTROLOGICAL SIGN?
A tiger.

40. HOW MANY LANGUAGES CAN YOU SPEAK?
One fluently and I can speak a little of a second one.

41. DO YOU HAVE ANY MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS?
Nope

42. WHICH ARE BETTER: LEGOS OR LINCOLN LOGS?
Legos dude

43. ARE YOU STUBBORN?
Yes

44. WHO IS BETTER: LENO OR LETTERMAN?
Leno

45. EVER WATCH SOAP OPERAS?
I have before

46. ARE YOU AFRAID OF HEIGHTS?
Nope

47. DO YOU SING IN THE CAR?
YES OH MY LORD

48. DO YOU SING IN THE SHOWER?
YES OH MY LORD

49. DO YOU DANCE IN THE CAR?
YES OH MY LORD???????????????????????????

50. EVER USED A GUN?
nO, THAts sCaRy!

51. LAST TIME YOU GOT A PORTRAIT TAKEN BY A PHOTOGRAPHER?
Literally a month ago

52. DO YOU THINK MUSICALS ARE CHEESY?
No, I love them.

53. IS CHRISTMAS STRESSFUL?
Yes

54. EVER EAT A PIEROGI?
Yes

55. FAVORITE TYPE OF FRUIT PIE?
Like normal pie? Cherry

56. OCCUPATIONS YOU WANTED TO BE WHEN YOU WERE A KID?
A vet or artist. ACTUALLY. I wanted to be both. I wanted to be a vet who paints portraits of their patients for their owners.

57. DO YOU BELIEVE IN GHOSTS?
Yes

58. EVER HAVE A DEJA-VU FEELING?
Yes

59. DO YOU TAKE A VITAMIN DAILY?
No

60. DO YOU WEAR SLIPPERS?
No

61. DO YOU WEAR A BATH ROBE?
No

62. WHAT DO YOU WEAR TO BED?
Generally shorts or sleep pants and a tank top.

63. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CONCERT?
Warped Tour. 

64. WALMART, TARGET, OR KMART?
Target.

65. NIKE OR ADIDAS?
Adidas

66. CHEETOS OR FRITOS?
Fritos

67. PEANUTS OR SUNFLOWER SEEDS?
Sunflower seeds

68. EVER HEAR OF THE GROUP TRES BIEN?
Nope

69. EVER TAKE DANCE LESSONS?
Nope

70. IS THERE A PROFESSION YOU PICTURE YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE DOING?
A musician. 

71. CAN YOU CURL YOUR TONGUE?
Yes

72. EVER WON A SPELLING BEE?
Almost, but my teacher had an accent so I didn’t hear a word correctly. xD

73. HAVE YOU EVER CRIED BECAUSE YOU WERE SO HAPPY?
Yes

74. OWN ANY RECORD ALBUMS?
Nope

75. OWN A RECORD PLAYER?
Nope

76. DO YOU REGULARLY BURN INCENSE?
No because they give me headaches.

77. EVER BEEN IN LOVE?
I believe I have

78. WHO WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE IN CONCERT?
Andy Black, Panic! At The Disco, Neck Deep, and others.

79. WHAT WAS THE LAST CONCERT YOU SAW?
Warped Tour. xD

80. HOT TEA OR COLD TEA?
Neither

81. TEA OR COFFEE?
Coffee my dude

82. SUGAR COOKIES OR SNICKERDOODLES?
Snickerdoodles.

83. CAN YOU SWIM WELL?
I was on a swim team so yes

84. CAN YOU HOLD YOUR BREATH WITHOUT HOLDING YOUR NOSE?
Yes

85. ARE YOU PATIENT?
Sometimes

86. DJ OR BAND AT A WEDDING?
Band

87. EVER WON A CONTEST?
Yes

88. HAVE YOU EVER HAD PLASTIC SURGERY?
Nope

89. WHICH ARE BETTER: BLACK OR GREEN OLIVES?
Neither

90. CAN YOU KNIT OR CROCHET?
Nope

91. BEST ROOM FOR A FIREPLACE?
Den or sitting room where the family spend their time together.

92. DO YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED?
Maybe in the future

93. IF MARRIED, HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED?
N/A

94. WHO WAS YOUR HIGH SCHOOL CRUSH?
There have been a few XD

95. DO YOU CRY AND THROW A FIT UNTIL YOU GET YOUR OWN WAY?
Nope

96. DO YOU HAVE KIDS?
Nope

97. DO YOU WANT KIDS?
Mhmm

98. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOR?
GREEN. BUT LIKE EVERGREEN GREEN. LIKE THAT DEEP GREEN. 

99. DO YOU MISS ANYONE RIGHT NOW?
Nope

100. WHO ARE YOU GOING TO TAG TO DO THIS VIDEO NEXT? 
I tag everyone to do this. I ALSO TAG OUR OTHER MOD EMMA!

Here are all the tidbits in the interviews Louis’ done so far in which he talks about his girlfriend, Eleanor Jane Calder

(mind you, all these were released in 1 day RIP ME)

“of course” -Louis replied immediately when asked if he and Eleanor thought about having kids

“so I try my best just to pick myself up when I can; Of course, there are times . . . and that’s why Eleanor has been so fantastic for me.” -Louis confirming that Eleanor makes him happy when he’s down

“Louis has decided to pour his heart out on his new album, including paying tribute to Eleanor. He says: “There’s another song on the album called Always You and it’s kind of about my story of traveling the world and just being a f*****g idiot and going, ‘Of course it was always you’.“Here’s the thing, when you listen to my album, you won’t have to read between the lines.You’ll know what’s about Eleanor, you’ll know what’s about me, you’ll know what’s about the fans, you know it might hint a little bit about the relationship with my mum.” -Louis confirming he wants to be honest with his music, including his personal life and that Always You is about Eleanor

“There’s a couple of songs that me and my girlfriend [fashion blogger Eleanor Calder] really like that’ll never be used for anything, so they’re kind of just for us. That’s really nice.” -Louis admitting that he’s written several songs for Eleanor and about their relationship and that some of those songs are just for them ♥

“A lot of the album’s about her, really. I wanted to make the album feel chronological, because that’s how I wrote it. You can hear my journey as an individual over these three years - leaving the band, then going out on to the really crazy party scene, and then I’ve kind of ended up full circle back with Eleanor, who I love dearly.” -Louis stating that most of his solo album is about Eleanor, because he wants the album to have a sense of order as to how things happened with him.

Oh, and he loves Eleanor DEARLY! ♥

things ive learned about myself since being vocal about not liking taylor swifts new single:

1. im an “annoying c**t” and a “petty little fucker”
2. im incapable of critical thinking and picking up on context clues
3. i dont understand art or symbolism
4. im not letting people have fun and enjoy themselves


like okay. i will be the first to admit that i stated some opinions like theyre facts. which is a pretty weird thing to do. my bad. that was mostly to make the posts funnier. humour isnt universal though, and isnt immune to criticism. i get it. this is me apologising for that, but actually putting the word sorry looks snappy and insincere because of the format of this post. sorry.

but fuck. i never stopped anybody from listening to it. live your life. my shitty meme posts about how taylor swift is acting like coldsteel the hedgeheg in her new video arent me telling you to stop listening to taylor swift. you can enjoy it all you want and sing* its praises

i just dont think its a good song

and that doesnt make me incapable of logical thought, or appreciating art, or a c**t, just because i dont fucking like one taylor swift song lmao what the fuck are you talking about

anyways. this is enough posts about taylor swift. im gonna be a regular blogger again now. sorry for making 200 posts about the same thing

*sing in this instance means to just kind of talk melodically, a new art medium creative genius taylor swift invented and showcased in her new single “look what you made me do”

anonymous asked:

Hi! I just wanted to say, I loved your presentation on misogynoir in fandom spaces. As someone else who is queer, black, female, and in fandom, it's refreshing to see explained that fandom racism isn't just "X person called me or Y character a racial slur." Do you have any advice on how to deal with white fans who do inadvertently racist things, and how to explain to them that what they're doing IS racist? (P.S. Did you hear about Philadelphia's changes to their pride flag?)

*blows kisses @ you*

I’m so glad that you loved my presentation!! And I did see the pride flag changes and I’m actually super pleased because wow is it hard to get white queer people to acknowledge that we exist. Here’s hoping that this not only sticks in Philly, but that other Pride groups adopt the new look and work to make these queer spaces and events more accessible to people of color.

Okay so one of the things I learned very early on in fandom that you can never guess how a person will react to you talking about racism in a thing they like or have done. Because you can’t predict behavior or control it. 

And, because many white fans don’t see (or want to see) the racism in things they do or what they like, you can’t always expect any commentary you give to go over well. Even if you frame it in simple, unaccusatory language.

So first, when dealing with white fans who accidentally do racist things (or who don’t know that the things they’re doing on purpose are racist - i.e., erasing Candice Patton from her own narrative because I’m still quite mad about that), the important thing is to only bite off what you can chew. 

Sometimes, when dealing with fandom’s racist nonsense as a fan of color, all you can do is block, mock, and move on. 

Some people don’t want to know that they’ve done something racist and have no interest in learning. You can give them links, offer to hold their hands, and reassure them that they’re “not really racist” all you want and those people will still react like you asked them to lick your shoe rather than get introspective about their fandom activities.

Never waste your time and energy on people who don’t want to learn. 

But: here are some things to keep in mind when you talk/write about fandom racism (either to people or about them) that might help!

  1. Few people in fandom believe that personal experiences with race/racism as a person of color counts as a legitimate source. So if you back your post or comments up with personal experience, brace yourself. Be prepared for people to straight up mock you for pointing out that they’re replicating real life racism that you’ve experienced.
  2. Link to established bloggers and writers in and out of fandom who talk about racism in the way you’re talking about them. Quote them. I adore @diversehighfantasy and reference her blog constantly. I also quote academics like Rukmini and Lori who I mentioned in my presentaton who’ve written expansively on race in fandom (in different areas). 
  3. A lot of the useful resources won’t be related directly to fandom. Example: if you, like me, write a lot about how sex and kink work in fandom with characters of color, look for work along the lines of Ariane Cruz’s The Color of Kink which doesn’t talk about fandom, but about sexuality and Black female bodies. You can apply stuff not of fandom to fandom pretty easily as long as you’re willing to work for the connection.
  4. Back in the day, on my first social justice blog which was basically about politics and the MCU fandom, I learned quickly that fellow fans basically turn off their reading comprehension skills the second they see the word racism. Because at that point, it becomes the only thing they can focus on and you become the mean person calling them a racist. Be prepared for that. 
  5. You know that thing folks do when you say something is problematic or bad just casually and they’re like “SOURCE?” all expectantly because they’re too lazy to google (and, for some of them, want you to fail at sourcing your arguments)? Drown them in sources. This is basically like a follow up to 2 and 3, but I mean, really go for it. Make them work in their attempts to debate with you (and even folks who “get” racism sometimes fall into this trap of “but what about x” when talking about racism in fandom.)
  6. Ask for help if you need it. It doesn’t always occur to people that you can reach out and go “I need help wording something or explaining this thing to someone”

The most important thing to remember when engaging with people in fandom who are doing racist things either on accident because they don’t get it or on purpose because they don’t want to is that you can always tap out if you need to.

Fandom is supposed to be fun and it’s okay if, after trying your best to educate someone about racism in fandom and falling flat, you just decide to move on. I do it all the time. If I write hundreds of words explaining why something is racist to someone and they brush it off because their sacred fannish ~squee~ is just so dang important, I block them and move forward because I deserve a chance to protect my own squee sometimes. 

And so do you.

(I’m also unsure if I made any sense because it’s almost 2AM and I definitely went into ramble mode. If you need anything, feel free to hop in my inbox and you have nudge me if it’s something you need or want answered ASAP!)

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happy birthday to the amazing Uliana

It’s really getting under my skin that some people think that it’s okay to crosstag their hate posts into the NaLu tag or post insulting comments on people’s pro-nalu posts now that FT is over. Today I’ve seen another crosstagger and a certain Tumblr blogger (who isn’t Chris) call nalu fans “retarded” for believing that our ship is canon (this comment was on a pro-nalu post). Not only are you insulting someone for simply being happy about their ship, you are using an ableist insult on top of that. As icing on top, said blogger is one of the people who constantly bitch about how terrible the fandom is. Doing the exact same things the terrible nalu shippers do. Talk about hypocrisy. (Yes I know I can just block them but that doesn’t mean I’m not going to get annoyed when I see stuff like that.)

anonymous asked:

1/4 Can you pray for me? I've been struggling for nearly six years with being something other than straight, and just recently I've come out as agender. My mother is the most religious person in my family and when she cornered me into coming out to her as not straight, she told me she could go to my wedding, but she wouldn't be crying happy tears for me. So I decided if that was what God was like, then I didn't want anything to do with him.

2/4 It was empty, but it was better than cutting my soul into little pieces. But recently, I’ve been studying for myself to see if he actually hates me enough to send me to hell in the happiest, freest moment of my life, and thanks to people like you two and other beautiful gay and trans bloggers who share their perspectives online, I finally feel like maybe, maybe he does care.
¾ Maybe he cares enough about me to change my flaws without breaking my body to fit some mold I never fit into in the first place. Maybe he doesn’t care about the gender of the person I marry, or about my own gender.
4/4 But I’m still afraid. Of my mom, of hell, of God, that I’m opening myself up just to believe a lie and burn anyway. That I’ll never really be loved, or find anyone who will love me unconditionally. That I’ll never be happy or get any peace. And I don’t know what to do. I haven’t been to church in more than a year, and even if I went, I don’t think I know any church where they’d want me if they knew, but I can’t handle going and having to pretend again. I’m scared. Can you pray for me? Please


Hey there. So sorry for the delay in responding; I’ve been praying for you but haven’t had the spoons (energy) to formally post.

You’re going through a lot right now, so be patient with yourself and take time for self care! It’s okay to be scared, too, but I hope that part of you at least can realize that God loves you, that the future is a bright one, that you’ll find the support you need. You have plenty of time to figure everything out, okay?

A few posts that might help you out, if you haven’t seen them yet:

  • This post from our rebuttals tag on how LGBT+ Christians are not simply “justifying our sin” when we interpret the Bible as affirming our genders and orientations. 
  • This post deconstructing gender complementarity
  • This post on how God loves you unconditionally, and how your worthiness of God’s love is not tied up in your gender or orientation.  
  • Wander through our hell tag for hope that you will absolutely not end up in hell for being agender or not being straight. That’s not how hell works. You’re okay, I promise. 
  • A post on finding an affirming church in your area, if you’re interested. If you’re not ready for that yet, you may have seen my Worship from Home series, which offers worship material every Sunday for those who can’t physically get to church. 

I’ll also add that it’s normal to worry that you won’t find anyone who loves you for who you are. But you will! I was so scared of that too, but now I have multiple people in my life, included but not limited to my girlfriend, who love me exactly how I am. Be patient, you’ll find them – or they’ll find you. 

Spirit of Comfort,
Envelop this person in your love. Fill them with your hope and calm their soul. They are wrapped in so much fear and worry; help them to see that you do love them unconditionally, that they are safe in your love – and that you have marvelous plans for them, not despite their gender and orientation but that involve their gender and orientation, because you made them this way with purpose and with delight.
Open the mind of their mom to reconsider the diversity of your Creation and how you fashioned humanity, so that she might move towards a fuller acceptance of her child. And please, send support this person’s way – if the time has come for them to find a new church home, help them find one that embraces them completely. Otherwise, I pray that new or old friends and loved ones uplift them and remind you them of your love.
Amen.  

I really miss wordpress blogging. I just don’t know “where I belong” in that world. When I was an ED blogger active in my ED, I had like 1,000 hits a day and was addicted to it. I literally had to check my stats and write every morning before doing anything. I had to post pictures of my body and write romantic posts about how I didn’t eat that day or how so-and-so was worried about me or how blah, blah, blah. I never want to go back to that place ever again.

But then it’s like — where is my voice most useful? Writing about marriage? Mothethood? My life? Does my voice *have* to be useful? Could I be content writing for just myself?

Motivation and time to myself are lacking tho — I would only be able to write when my husband is home or Sydney was sleeping. And when my husband’s home, it’s weird to write and when Sydney’s sleeping, I sleep too.

Sigh. I keep wanting to do this and just…don’t.

lewisandquark  asked:

Someone recently asked me if there were other grad students/scientists blogging pictures from their daily life in the lab. I realized that I only know of a couple scientist bloggers who focus on original content, generated by their own experiences in the lab/field. Do you know of any others, or even of a list somewhere?

Huh. You know, I don’t actually know of that many bloggers off the top of my head that blog about their own science and their own daily life in the lab and field. I mean, I know plenty of them exist, and I’ve come across their work from time to time (on Tumblr and beyond), but few of them have really stuck with me.

I think many (but not all) of us who start writing while we are doing science have a tendency to write about things that may be in our field, but are not what we work on, because we spend enough damn time thinking about our work as it is! That might be my personal bias from grad school coming through, though.

But I also think that scientists writing about their own work, whether they are tenured profs or first-year grad students, is enormously important, both for communicating science in general and communicating the science that you are doing. Because if you don’t talk about it, maybe no one will? Or worse, they may talk about your science in a way you don’t like.

Maybe we can crowdsource a list of grad students and young scientists who blog their own work? Leave yours in a reblog, reply, or comment!

Here’s just a few I know of to get the ball rolling:

There’s hundreds… likely thousands more out there. What are your favorites? 

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