like. dude. listen. you cant put shit out in the world without at least some semblance of the awareness that, wow, huh, maybe that’s actually regurgitating a really harmful idea!! maybe i should look deeper into my own biases and examine why theyre there!!! ethics 101!!

theres this super fucking pervasive idea that disabled people–in this case, let’s say particularly blind people–are the victims of some horrible tragedy. fight ableism because “that could be you one day!! [shudder]”, or ditch the fighting ableism completely like most people. that could be you one day. oh god. how terrifying. imagine a life like that!

when i went blind i spent like a week in the hospital bingeing everything on netflix that had audio description (at the time this was: daredevil, criminal minds, sherlock bbc, and glee) and getting an alarming number of blood draws. it was pretty chill. i didnt really have my official freakout until a couple weeks later, after…wait for it…a professor failed me rather than deal with the inaccessibility in her own coursework and told me i should drop out, because academia was no place for someone like me.

i was pissed at first. im still pissed. meet me in the fucking pit, laurie, the 504 coordinator can be our referee.

but after a little while it set in that, oh right, i can’t read. oh right, i can’t currently cross the street on my own. on right, i cant, i cant, i cant. everything that everyone had ever said was such an awful fate to be subjected to sunk in all at once and i think i ended up crying over not being able to finish dragon age: inquisition.

i dont even like dragon age.

it took like…..a while…… remember that life has intrinsic value. that theres nothing actually all that important about being sighted. there are some things i cant do anymore but that isnt the end of the world, and like, hell, there are some perks, too! i never have to see benedict cumberbatch’s face ever again, for one.

i got through my little breakdown pretty quickly, and into a stage in my life where my blindness was something that defined me – and that that wasnt a bad thing. i know im lucky for that. i know if i werent already a cr*p it probably would have been a lot harder. i know other people still struggle with the idea that they’re useless, or that their existence is tragic. i have those moments too.

and like, spoiler alert, if y'all fuckers and your “isnt it so sad that matt doesnt know what foggy looks like”, [something something inaccessible disney channel cartoon], etc etc thought you werent involved here, you thought wrong. those ideas are part of the problem. you are part of the problem. maybe you dont think that its a big deal because you’re not necessarily espousing eugenics (side-eyeing u transhumanists real fuckin hard rn), but it is. casual ableism like that, like it’s a no-brainer, of course blindness is terrible, of course it’s something to fear, of course… that has an impact.

grow the fuck up. think critically about the kind of shit youre putting into the world. be better

Hey, Game Devs, instead of making us kill mentally ill characters because of ableist quests, (Ex: Glarthir’s quest, Narfi’s, Kelder’s), you make us kill abusers, or slavers or you know, people who are unquestionably bad, rather than villifying mentally ill people.

"I don't hate autistic people!"
  • <p><b>person:</b> I don't hate autistic people!<p/><b>person:</b> if someone doesn't initiate interaction with me it means that they don't really care so I won't bother with talking to them anymore.<p/><b>person:</b> He's so insensitive!! And he doesn't even seem to be sorry when he says something tactless, I can't stand it.<p/><b>person:</b> ugh! She's so WEIRD. She always brings toys to class! I mean, come on, we're seniors!<p/><b>person:</b> He's so impolite. He shouldn't wear his headphones in a restaurant.<p/><b>person:</b> I really hate sitting next to them, they're always bobbing their leg or fiddling with something! It makes me wanna punch them.<p/><b>me:</b> <p/><b>me:</b> But you sure don't hate autistic people. Right.<p/></p>

Dear Shawn Coss

I am not a monster because I am mentally ill. 

I am not a victim because I am mentally ill. 

You draw us as victims or villains (tw: ableism, horror at link), trapped in the violent tendrils of our illness. You draw us as sufferers, horror movie creatures. You draw us as embodied forms of the symptom lists of our illnesses and disabilities. 

But we are something more than just diagnostic criteria. We are more than a page in the DSM-5. 

And my illnesses and neurodivergencies are not monsters either. 

They can’t be characterized by thin white able-bodied figures that hide in the shadows and cling to my body. They can’t be separated from who I am, a ghost or a spirit lingering over me. 

I am not trapped in my autism. I have not been stolen by mental illness. I am an autistic person. I am a mentally ill person. 

If you’re wondering what autism or OCD or major depressive disorder or generalized anxiety disorder or dermatillomania looks like, look at the people around you. There is no essence there that can be distilled and restructured into a monster. There is only us. 

My mental illness and neurodivergence is not my enemy. 

It is a part of me. It is a part of me that hurts me, that makes it difficult to live in this world, and a part of me that I love, a lot of the time, because every aspect of my experience comes through the lens of my neurodivergency. 

It teaches me how to experience the world, how to interact carefully and kindly with others, how to soothe myself and analyze systems of oppression and know my limitations and my skills. 

You are not challenging the stigma of mental illness with your art. You are playing off of extensive, historical stereotypes of mental illness that spectacularize us and our illnesses — a freak show view, an oddity. Jeckyll and Hyde. Lady Lazarus. 

O Shawn Coss, do I terrify?

Shawn, please listen to us. Pay attention to what mentally ill and neurodivergent people are writing about their own experiences; pay attention to the art that we make for ourselves and about ourselves. Pay attention to the ways that intersectional experience impacts mental illnessNothing about us without us. 

You’ve taken Inktober to present ableist representations of illness — take November to share articles, art, writing, musicand poetry by mentally ill and ND people. Take the next month to prioritize the actual lives and experiences of the people you’ve spent the past month spectacularizing and making monstrous. 

Yours in sickness and in health


i have no patience for people who had a “close call” w/ a disability talking abt how ~*~scary~*~ it is like hate to break it to u but ur internalized ableism isnt actually representative of a real life group of people you arent even a part of

If you’re sexist/homophobic/transphobic/ableist/bigoted in any way, don’t ever fucking have children, because your children could grow up to be LGBT+, or disabled, or gender-non-conforming, and the shit that you say and do to your children will seriously fuck them up for life. I have mental issues that I feel like I’ll never get over, most of which stemmed from my parents screaming at me, threatening me, or beating me as a kid, and when I think about it now that I’m grown, the reasons for them doing those things were mostly out of sexism and ableism (my parents are also homophobic and transphobic, but I don’t think that factors in much because I’m not out to them; although they would sometimes make comments around me that made me scared to come out, they didn’t beat me or scream at me for my identity). And honestly, stop letting racists/sexists/homophobes/transphobes/otherwise bigoted people be teachers, or have any other positions of authority where they can subject kids to toxic environments, please, do you have any idea how badly that can fuck up someone’s mental health

anonymous asked:

Mom after i got diagnosed with ptsd sent to therapy bc of stuff dad and granny did when i was little: why though? They didnt do anything to you Me internally: are u forgetting the times they locked us both up in a small room w no food for days?? Or the guilt i feel over one of my hallucinations making him almost beat you to death in front of me? Or when they set our house ON FUCKING FIRE??? Honestly why was i not in therapy before now????? Me: idk mom

Why Dyscalculia awareness is so important

I’d like to take a second to list all the people I wish had known more about dyscalculia growing up:

My first grade teacher, who noticed when on a verbal counting test that I went from 99 to 100 to 200 and told my parents I just needed a little practice

My third grade teacher, who couldn’t understand why I would turn in a timed multiplication table test with absolutely nothing written on it, or burst into tears when asked to bring it home and have it signed by my parents

My school corporation, who placed me in advanced mathematics for two excruciating years based on aptitude tests, apparently unaware that aptitude and ability are not one and the same

My fifth grade teacher, who privately admonished me for “laziness” because I couldn’t stop making “silly mistakes”—like switching multiplication and addition, or flipping numbers like three and eight, or failing to follow every step of a math problem

My sixth grade math teacher, who publicly called me out for writing the formula for the Pythagorean Theorem on my hand, claiming I didn’t study, though I had spent five hours the night before preparing

My parents, who grounded me every time my report card came out, trying their best to discipline what they thought was laziness

My family doctor, who, once told about my math troubles, prescribed me ADD medication without any running any kind of diagnostic

My Algebra teacher senior year after I was diagnosed, who claimed that giving me extra time on my test would be “unfair to the other students”

Every teacher who ever laughed and pointed at the clock when I asked them what time it was

The boy in my band class that said I was the “stupidest smart person he’d ever met”

My former boss, who when I told I had dyscalculia told me “I probably have it too, I am always mixing things up!” (she was an accounting major and ran the accounting portion of that place of business)

But you know who would have really benefited from knowing about dyscalculia? Me. I wish I had known. I wish I could go back and tell my ten year old self that it wasn’t my fault, that I am extraordinary in the best way. I wish someone, somewhere along the way could have seen what was really going on.

That’s why dyscalculia awareness is so important.

  • abled person:i volunteered with disabled children and, like, it really opened my eyes? because one of them was funny and another one played music, and like, i didnt think they were real people, so it really opened my eyes because it turns out they actually have emotions?

UGHHHHHH! @FuckYoLife1_87 is a serious POS who’s pinging off the charts with misogynoir and ableism. This woman is GORGEOUS and deception has nothing to do with it. Everyone should probably block this user… :|

Thanks goodness for @JennnVeee though 💖

autism is widely underdiagnosed in girls because autistic women tend to present as quiet and reserved, which is just how women are supposed to be.

personality disorders are underdiagnosed in men because they tend to present more explosively and involve more narcissistic behaviours, which is just how men are supposed to be.

sexism isn’t good for anyone. don’t be fooled.

(Image description: A partial screenshot of a blog post. The title reads “How I reduced screaming and verbal stimming in my child with autism”, and below that is a colour photograph of a hand holding a rectangular plastic “clicker” device.)

I think I may have mentioned this blog post, and the sadness and confusion I felt when I came across it, in one of my videos. This screenshot is from the blog of an “autism parent”. Yes, that is a clicker. Yes, she is encouraging the use of animal training methods on Autistic children. Yes, she considers any kind of vocal stimming, not just screaming, to be a “bad behaviour”. To top it all off, her blog banner reads, “Discovering SOLUTIONS to the Everyday Problems of Living with AUTISM”. Here is an excerpt from her tutorial on how to train your disabled child like a dog to have a “Quiet Mouth”:

Third, I sat back and watched my child. Since he was making bad noises, I decided to reinforce Quiet Mouth (i.e., lips together, no sound). Whenever he had a split second of Quiet Mouth, I immediately tagged (made a click-sound with the device) and handed over a treat. Every time his mouth was Quiet, I tagged (clicked) and treated. Soon there was much more Quiet Mouth behavior. When doing this it is important to ignore and pay no attention to vocal stims or screaming. Do not look at the child, do not speak to him/her or explain. Just say nothing, and immediately tag and treat as soon as there is even a split second of Quiet Mouth. You can also tag and treat a child for any appropriate vocalizations. If he/she says a nice word, or makes an appropriate comment, then tag and reinforce that. Your goal is to increase Quiet Mouth and appropriate vocalizations.

And sadly, as bad as this attitude and treatment of Autistic children is, this is a relatively tame example when compared to the other unethical treatments, therapies, and methods of discipline that Autistic children are being subjected to every day (all in the name of making them appear less obviously Autistic). This is why we need Autism Acceptance Month and not the fear-mongering, negative, misinformed “awareness” that Autism Speaks and its allies are pumping out this April.

We need acceptance because Autistic children should be loved and accepted wholly and completely for who they are, not hurt and mistreated in their parent’s frantic search for a “cure”. Because Autistic people deserve to be treated with respect and listened to, not silenced and forced or coerced to conform to an ableist, non-disabled ideal. Because Autistic children need accommodation and understanding to live healthy, happy lives, not sketchy “treatments” and intensive, soul-crushing “therapies” to try to make them appear more neurotypical and less Autistic.

For more information on ASAN’s Autism Acceptance Month, see the about page on the website here:

Ableism, Mass Murder, and Silence

TW: ableism, mass murder

I’m still getting tweets about “what happened in Japan?” because mass media has decided that the lives of the disabled folks who were murdered and injured merely for being disabled, are not really headline news. 

This Tuesday, July 26th 2016, the 26th anniversary of the signing of the Americans with Disabilities Act (which still has progress to make btw), an ex-employee at a center for people with disabilities, broke into the same center to murder it’s residents. 

19 disabled people were murdered and 26 injured in a mass knife attack in their sleep because the attacker thought “it was pointless for people with severe disabilities to keep on living”

Prior to the attack, he wrote a letter where he said:
“I envision a world where a person with multiple disabilities can be euthanized, with an agreement from the guardians, when it is difficult for the person to carry out household and social activities,” that he could “wipe out a total of 470 disabled individuals” by targeting two facilities for disabled people during the night shift, “when staffing is low”.“The act will be carried out speedily, and definitely without harming the staff. After wiping out the 260 people in two facilities, I will turn myself in.” 

This was a hate crime, this was ableism to it’s most extreme.

The people of the world often unite to show support to communities after a tragedy, and when a marginalized group is attacked in a hate crime it is not only a time of mourning but a time of self-reflection in what role we play to their oppression, where are the people for the disabled community now?  

After the attack at Pulse there was so much support world-wide for the LGBT+ community at the reminder of the hate we face on a daily basis and the lack of safety we might feel, but where are the allies to the disabled community? Where is the support? Where are the calls to say their names?

People are asking me “what happened?” because they are having trouble even finding the story. So here’s some:

Violence, Disability, and the Lessons of Sagamihara by David Perry

This Is What Disability Erasure Looks Like by Emily Willingham

Japan knife attack: stabbing at care centre leaves 19 dead by Justin McCurry  


PLEASE do not respond to my post by demonizing the murderer as mentally ill, because then you missed the whole point of this post. Hate is not a mental illness, hate is learned. Mental illness does not automatically make one a villain, assuming so, believing so, is ableism in itself and that stigma needs to end.

Please check in with your disabled peeps. The silence on this matter right now is what is most upsetting to me. When it comes to activism and the fight for equality, for a lot of people disability is an afterthought or just not on the radar at all, and this needs to change.

EDIT: For my video response click here