You know that words hurt. You know that words are harmful. Words were created so that we can express emotions and opinions and ideas. Words aren’t “just words” they’re loaded with thoughts and feelings.

No, you can’t just say slurs and then defend yourself with “oh well it’s just words you shouldn’t be offended, you’re in the wrong, I’m not _____phobic.” Yes, you are _____phobic. You know the implications of words. You’re using them for that reason and then trying to turn it around on us, calling us “special snowflakes” for being hurt by your raging bigotry. Don’t try to play dumb, just own up to being a bigot.

The 'I am losing a tumblr argument' tool kit

-I can’t believe you (an adult) are harassing me, I’m a MINOR!!!


-Actually you ship these two characters together so you aren’t entitled to an opinion

-Sorry I don’t make the rules uwu

-Finds an old selfie you posted and makes fun of your appearance

-How dare you harass me I’m mentally ill! Ableist pig!!!


-More emojis in their reblog than there are episodes of One Piece

-‘Your’ instead of 'you’re’

-Link to a Buzzfeed article to prove their point

-You aren’t worth my time anymore, I have better things to do

-Also, this 💅 emoji

anonymous asked:

I am confused and don't want to be attacked, but I have a question. What is Autism Speaks and what about it is bad? I genuinely want to be able to support those with Autism and don't want to devote time or energy into something that is counteractive, and would like to have an idea of what they're doing wrong to make sure that I don't mindlessly agree with whatever they are doing. Thank you so much!

Hey there anon, I totally understand. A lot of the general population is unaware of exactly how awful Autism Speaks is, even I didn’t really know what was going on with them until sometime in the last few years. They market themselves as a charity for Autistic people, but they’re actually incredibly ableist and a large part of their manifesto concerns the eradication of autism and autistic behaviours. This is often at the expense of the mental health of autistic people. 

It’s pretty late, so I’m just going to cover some main points here. Also I’m not adding sources at this time, I may come back and edit it to add them in. Or if someone wants to reblog with sources I’d be eternally grateful, but I’m just working from memory right now (btw if I start sound angry it’s not because of you, this topic just gets me worked up I’m glad you had the courage to ask). 

1. There are no autistic people working for autism speaks. A group of allistic people get to make decisions that have a huge impact on a lot of autistic lives without any kind of input from autistic people themselves, and you can probably see why that’s pretty messed up

2. Very little of the money that goes to autism speaks is actually put towards any kind of services. Most of it goes to lining the pockets of the company (possibly a bit of a blessing in disguise, I don’t really want them to dedicate MORE resources to what they’re doing) 

3. ABA therapy. If you google ABA therapy the first result that comes up is a page that defines this as a therapy programme that promotes positive behaviour change in autistic people. What this actually means is that autistic children are taught that their behaviour is bad and are trained to suppress any kind of autistic expression in order to appear more “normal”. I cannot stress enough the kind of psychological damage this does to a child. I’ve spoken to people who were put through ABA therapy and it has always, ALWAYS had long lasting negative impacts on their mental health. ABA therapy is child abuse, and autism speaks bloody loves it. 

4. They also support shock therapy. For children. They claim it’s been shown to reduce autistic behaviours. Imagine hating autistic children so much that you’d be willing to subject them to electrocution to make them more normal. 

5. Part of their mission statement is to “cure” autism. I can and have written full essays on why that offensive and ableist, but I’m keeping this as brief as I can (which is already very not brief) so suffice to say that my autism is entirely inseparable from who I am as a person. Autism speaks thinks that my existence is a disease that has to be cured and I really can’t stress how harmful that idea is. 

6. They’re just generally very anti-autistic. I know that’s not really a point so much as a vague observation, but their entire manifesto seems to be based on how much they despise autistic people. They don’t believe in our autonomy, or our basic human rights. They think we’re just broken machinery, and there are so many children subjected to their attempts at repairing us. It’s a really awful thought. 

So those are my key points, there may be stuff I’m missing but like I say it’s late. I hope this is at least a helpful starting point for you. If you type the phrase “Autism speaks is bad” into google you’ll actually find a lot of pages that can explain in more detail and with sources. 

Thanks for the ask anon, I appreciate you taking the time to make sure you’re support autistic people the right way. If you’re looking for a good charity to support, I’d recommend the autism self advocacy network. It’s an international charity founded by autistic people and they’re dedicated to protecting our autonomy and learning to accept and appreciate ourselves. Have a good evening! 

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Petition to rename ADHD: Rather than calling it “Attention Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder,” how about Attention Overabundance…

Much more accurate. The problem we have with attention isn’t a deficiency, it’s sometimes being deluged with too many things simultaneously demanding our attention to focus on a single one - especially those that feel in some way less interesting, important, or urgent.

Also maybe reconsider “Hyperactivity Disorder.” Just because someone needs physical stim to calm down doesn’t necessarily make them hyperactive. Plus, hyper-focus can provide hours of extreme productivity when harnessed.

Definitions are a matter of perspective. It seems that those whose brains work this way can come up with less-ableist language than those who are inconvenienced by us. ]

I'm probably paraphrasing here

Me: Someone has headcanoned Monica Geller from “Friends” as autistic.

My sister: She’s not autistic. She’s just a Type A person.

Okay, but have you considered that, I don’t know, she could be? I mean, it may not be canon at the moment, but she could be. Not every character who isn’t stated outright as being autistic is NT.

If someone can lift 100 pounds, would you expect them to carry it with them everywhere they go?

If someone can sprint 20 miles per hour, would you expect them to be able to maintain that speed for a long distance?

Of course you wouldn’t. Being able to do something does not mean that you can do it for a long period of time.

So if a wheelchair user can stand to reach something or walk a short distance, why do you assume they don’t need the wheelchair?

Disability doesn't come with extra time and energy

I’ve heard a lot of advocates of inclusion say things like “kids with disabilities work twice as hard as everyone else” or “my employees with Down’s syndrome never come in late or take a day off.”

This sounds like praise, but it isn’t.

The time disabled people spend working twice as hard as everyone else has to come from somewhere.

There are reasons why kids aren’t in school every waking moment. There is a reason why vacation time exists and why it’s normal to be late occasionally.

People need rest. People need leisure time. People have lives and needs and can’t do everything.

Being disabled doesn’t erase the need for down time. Being disabled doesn’t erase the need for play, or for connections to other people.

Working twice as hard as everyone else all the time isn’t sustainable. Praising disabled people for doing unsustainable things is profoundly destructive.

People with disabilities should not have to give up on rest, recreation, and relationships in order to be valued. We have limited time and energy just like everyone else, and our limitations need to be respected.

It is not right to expect us to run ourselves into the ground pretending to be normal. We have the right to exist in the world as we really are.

The outrage about what is considered a pre-existing condition in the US Republican’s new healthcare bill is understandable

But I really wish there was as much outrage about the whole idea of being punished for a pre-existing condition in the first place and having to pay more or even be denied insurance. What kind of healthcare system is set up so that the people who need it the most have the most trouble accessing it? It’s the most transparent way to say “This is about profits, not people”

fat? yep. unhealthy? check. ugly? definitely to some people.

I may be all of those things but I am still a person deserving of basic human decency and respect. I still deserve to find happiness and live my best life.

body size, health status, and perceived beauty are not reasons to treat people like crap. stop pretending that they are just because you want to make yourself feel superior to strangers.

I don’t understand how Republicans are so flippant about people’s fear of losing their protections for pre-existing conditions. They truly don’t care about us at all. 

Disabled/ill people: “We’re afraid we might die” 

Republicans: “Lol you liberal whiners, just get over it”

I’m so fucking mad. Are we even human to them? Nope.