You know that words hurt. You know that words are harmful. Words were created so that we can express emotions and opinions and ideas. Words aren’t “just words” they’re loaded with thoughts and feelings.
No, you can’t just say slurs and then defend yourself with “oh well it’s just words you shouldn’t be offended, you’re in the wrong, I’m not _____phobic.” Yes, you are _____phobic. You know the implications of words. You’re using them for that reason and then trying to turn it around on us, calling us “special snowflakes” for being hurt by your raging bigotry. Don’t try to play dumb, just own up to being a bigot.