Girls final season: Hannah & Adam
With the final season of Girls here (a show that
there isn’t typically a disk sitting in my Blue Ray player ready to
go) I am very sad. As I listen to the music used in the show, certain songs remind me of favorite scenes. Seriously, I feel like openly crying. (I probably will a few times before I get over it.) I am going to REALLY miss seeing new episodes, but
at the same time, thankful that I was able to discover this show and the
brilliant mind that is Lena Dunham. To have a woman listed as Creator,
Writer, Director, Producer, Actress…we need to see a lot more of this.
In a recent interview, Adam Driver assured us that season 6 is “ending on a note that they can control, that it seemed to make sense. It’s not just an arbitrary ending.” Lena recently said her and Jenni made “hard” decisions this season. I used to think that I wouldn’t be satisfied unless Hannah and Adam got back together.
I mean, after all, the show did spend a hell of a lot of time with the ins and outs of these two, but now I am thinking a show like this will probably not end easy in many ways and not in a “happily ever after” way either. I think we will see the girls grow, but at the same time, I am not so sure that includes Hannah, or even Jessa, ending up with anyone. The show is ultimately about these girls and their friendships after all, and in the long run, they really don’t like anything getting in the way of that friendship…..including a man.
For some reason, in season 5, the egomaniacal Hannah is the biggest mess ever. As an aspiring writer, we know about her endless desire to pursue interests and different experiences for a good story. This has led her at times to be self-centered and self-destructive, however, it seems like lately, she has been trying extra hard to just test everything. Showing her crotch to her boss, trying to
blow Ray, the ridiculous fights with Fran
(“Oh, Hannah wants to do something rude, disruptive, and inappropriate. What a twist.”) and her talent to bring
unprofessionalism in the work place to (an albeit hilarious) new high,
are a few examples of the more, irrational ways Hannah has been acting
It was all heading towards her growing and taking a big step forward in her life. Besides where she wants to go, what she wants to do as she gets older, one truth she has to face, I believe, is her lingering feelings for Adam.
Adam. In the first season, he starts out as sort of a creepy, “emotionally tone-deaf” sex addict that Hannah was in pursuit of. We wondered why she was bothering with him as he was not exactly “boyfriend material”. He was working on homemade “wood working” in his work shop which was his mess of an apartment. (Not so sure the genius even had a plan on how to get that boat out of the front door if he ever completed it!) He was just this non-committal guy that Hannah would have sex with when he felt like returning her text messages or answering his phone. (For the first 6 episodes, we weren’t even sure if he owned a shirt!) None of Hannah’s friends had ever met him, and the first proof of his exsistance to Marnie (besides the occasional bruise on Hannah’s ass) was a dick pic he accidentally sent to Hannah that wasn’t even meant for her!
As a couple, we get to see Adam grow more as a character we care about. He is still quirky and intense, but having Hannah to give advice to, share his interests with and love, helped make him a better person. A person we cared about and found intriguing as well. When he does do something as normal as eventually say “I love
you” or suggest that they move in together, Hannah (after being conditioned to expect anything from him from
bad treatment to extreme sweetness) reacts like it’s way too soon for
either one of them.
It was all moving too quickly for her and I don’t think she trusted him yet, or wanted the newness of the chase to be over. Adam had his mind made up with his tunnel vision and he was in it “for the long haul” so of course, he has a hard time with their first break up: “My desire for
you cannot be repressed. And to quit my pursuit would be to shirk
self-respect and abandon my own manhood, and that’s not going to
happen.” He wrote and performed horrible
songs which he sent her to watch and was kind of stalkerish for a bit.
It proved to be very hard for him to let go. Not too sure if he ever really does. So we have Adam trying to feverishly move forward without totally
letting Hannah heal from his past not-so-nice treatment, and we have
Hannah kind of playing with his emotions and not really being too
empathetic to his state of mind.
Regardless of Hannah’s self-absorption (all the Girls seem to
have this issue from time to time) and Adam’s sometimes callousness,
there still seems to be some kind of connection that thrives between
them. (“Hannah is accepting of my brand of difficult.”) Adam cleaned up his act some and we get to see him at AA and learn more about what made him tick. While he was dating Natalia, and ran into Hannah in front of the bar,
it really did
something to him. (I love the way Driver’s voice got all raspy as he
asked her to put on some pants.) He, the ex-alcoholic, went back in and
after seeing her, had to order an alcoholic beverage, which
led to one of the eventual reasons of that relationship coming to an
The song playing
was Fiona Apple’s “Valentine” and it surely wasn’t about Natalia. (Adam messing with his ear like a nervous habit, odd coincidence to what Hannah was going through?) We know now that if Hannah can affect him in this way, then he obviously must have feelings for her. He never stopped loving her
in his own way, and he is there for her hard core. As he ran to her across the city during her
most desperate time, when she felt the most lost, never fails to bring tears to my eyes. (the heavy mood is lightened a bit when while running, he has to suggest that a driver “go suck a fucking spikey one”)
With the dramatic music playing while he runs to Hannah is just so emotional and it is beautiful and very romantic, the most romantic scene ever in Girls. He is there for her. He cares for her. He loves her. “I was always here”.
By season 3 end, Sackler’s
acting career turned into his new addiction. Hannah panics at some people warning her of how Adam is going to change
with his new career instead of just trusting him and seeing how it all
works out. She always has had a knack for taking bad opinions and advice
to heart instead of trusting a bit more in herself.
She develops a codependency on Adam just when he wants some space to learn his lines and do this right.
He just wants his first show on Broadway to be perfect.
Of this he assured her. She has a hard time sharing Adam with his new endeavor, because not all of his attention can be on her. When she finally gets accepted into the Iowa Writers’ Workshop, Adam does berate her for telling him at the wrong time, by which he
means the wrong time for him. (Although, letting him know minutes before he hits the stage of his opening night show was probably not the best.) Once again, he takes it hard, as did Jessa, which I felt was selfish of her, as she always had a knack of simply disappearing from time to time on her friends. I never really understood the whole guilt trip on Hannah for accepting school and attempting to better her career. It was at this point that I wondered why the girls even kept trying so hard to stay friends. They are not even very nice to each other. Adam and Hannah never officially break up, but seeing the sadness and loss in his eyes as she left was rough. The morning she was leaving, he couldn’t even face saying goodbye. He pretended to still be sleeping. We realized that part of him would always love her.
trying Iowa, Hannah found she didn’t like the distance away from Adam, (not real sure why they seemed to have stopped communicating) among other factors at the school, and decided to come home,
just a month later. Upon returning to her apartment, she shockingly found out that Adam had gotten a
new girlfriend and Hannah didn’t even know they’d broken up! Yes, at the same time it was left sort of open ended, but it didn’t seem to have taken him anytime at all to move on. This was heart breaking, her surprise and desperation, truly a very rough episode to watch. We find that Jessa knew about it the whole time while Adam was putting Hannah’s belongings in storage. To make matters worse, she had selfishly worked at hooking Adam up with Mimi Rose simply because she wanted to get with Mimi’s ex, Ace. Some friend, eh? It
was so hard watching him basically tell Hannah that he was not in love
with her anymore (but we knew better) and he was “trying something out". What a nice surprise to come home to! Mimi Rose was the opposite of Hannah to the extreme, and really didn’t ‘need’ him, she liked having him around. It was a one-sided relationship for the most part, Adam’s side. It was a bad choice for him as he discovered that he does want a partner that loves and needs him a bit more than that. (But maybe not as needy as Hannah) A while after that relationship ended, Adam turns around and begs desperately with Hannah to come back to him. “I just think I was confused, and I think I made a mistake. I
miss you so badly.” He tries to reach for her.
With how he hurt her so deeply, the wound was still fresh. With her self-respect in full force for once, Hannah says, “I can’t do that” and stands her ground despite Adam’s pleas. He insists “yes, you can” like it should be an easy choice. Did he think she would just come running back to him? With tears in both their eyes, (and ours)
it was still nice to see her hold her own and turn him down. Truly a moving scene.
I really enjoy everything about the show, it’s all brilliant, but Hannah
and Adam’s relationship, is to me, quite a lot of what makes Girls the show that it is. I cried
with Hannah like a baby as her bottom lip quivered in heartache and
betrayal when she realized at the play that Adam and Jessa were together.
When he made eye contact with her, his look said
so much. There was some pain there and just so much not said. Hannah tells Tally she was probably just using Fran to get over
Adam and that Adam is the only man she’s ever truly loved. (a bit of foreshadowing) She was feeling left out and confused, “The worst part is, I miss them
both. I love them both so much I don’t know who to warn about
the other one.”
The end of season 5, Adam (who sure has come along way since we first met him) has like the biggest, most outrageous reaction anytime Hannah is
mentioned, it’s like he is trying so, so hard to break that connection to her. He tries to
turn it into hatred and blame. Then there is Jessa, who at the same time, got a guilty conscience, dredging everything
back up to the surface when he is trying to forget Hannah. Jessa, who
constantly over the seasons has a knack for telling other people to
“grow up” but seems to not be capable of taking her own advice. She and Adam butt heads over everyday things and can’t even get through babysitting his niece. When Jessa cannot illicit his total attention away from
the baby after it barfs on her and she wants Adam’s help to clean up, (in mid-season four he did call her out on being manipulative) asks her to stop,
“You’re an adult. She’s a baby. Why do you need more help than a baby?“ With the tension thick, Jessa takes it out on Adam which leads to an unnecessary (but entertaining) blow-out between the two. She blames him
between her and Hannah
(were they ever truly friends?)
and basically spells out their doomed
relationship: “I’m a hateable kind of person. I don’t know why, I can’t
help it, but I know, I
know that I have principles and one thing I don’t do is steal people’s
boyfriends. But you ruin that. Don’t you see that?! I’ll never forgive
you. I will NEVER forgive you for that. We could die in the same bed and
I will never forgive you!”
I really don’t think there is any coming back from that, at least nothing long term anyway.
did show some growth with her story at The Moth Story Slam. She admitted, “I’m Hannah forever. No matter what I do. No
matter whether I start a nuclear crisis with my emotions or if just sit
back and chill and give someone a fruit basket.
I can only control the mayhem that I create around me.” she told the room, explaining the
note she left outside of Jessa and Adam’s door that read,
“Good luck. I mean that sincerely. In perpetuity, Hannah.” However, she
heard them fighting and was relieved to not be inside there. “I heard screaming and I heard my name and I heard madness. And I knew that I was free. At least for tonight.” she says. Hard to keep a dry eye. This was a huge step for her. When it comes to Hannah and Adam, I don’t think I have cried or felt
more emotionally attached to fictional characters in all my life.
(and I don’t think Frankie Valli has ever made me cry before).
In the season 6 opener, we do see a more thoughtful Hannah. We learn that the New York Times had her write her story to be published in their Modern Love column.
She appears to still not be holding a grudge, but the same cannot be said about Jessa, (for some reason) as she refuses to read Hannah’s column. Adam on the other hand, read it with deep interest with a bit of a hurt expression on his face. Seeing their story in print did mean something as I think he realized some truths. (It’s the only time we see him looking serious, about anything, in the episode.)
Hannah still doesn’t seem entirely satisfied with her life,
but she is on a new assignment away from NYC, where she becomes open and more relaxed. She is still silly, entertaining, awkward Hannah getting drunk on the dance floor, spilling drinks all over herself, pointing at the surf instructor/rapper and proclaiming “I know him! He’s my surf teacher! I’m gonna fuck him!” (a favorite moment and why we love her) She
was able to forgo some of her usual rage impulses even after Paul-Louis admitted to having an open-relationship girlfriend. This was really a change in attitude, she was not happy about it but I think she did learn from Paul-Louis maybe something to think about:
“It’s so much easier to love something than to hate it, don’t you think?
Love is the easiest thing in the world. Hate takes energy, loves makes vibes.”
We find Adam in an opposite situation. It seems
he and Jessa decided to stay together, even as that means that they have been seemingly estranged from the rest of the group of friends. They are holed up in the apartment not even having the decency to get dressed when Ray comes over, or to answer a text, and they are just being obnoxious. Ray said why he didn’t want to go in there: “its repulsive” and “smells like they are always reheating fish”. (Are they doing drugs?) Not quite sure what is wrong with them. Kind of seems like Adam took a few steps backward.
So, I am guessing he still has some emotional growing to do, which I am sure, will work it’s way out over the season.
Lena recently said “The show’s never been about that traditional connection, where it’s four best friends who just can’t get enough of each other. So to do a traditional everybody-gets-their-happy-ending finale didn’t feel right. At the same time, we wanted people to have the satisfaction of closure. I think we found kind of a creative way to do that. We’ll see if other people feel the same way.” If she did feel that Adam and Jessa could make it, then they will. (However, eventually they would kill each other and we all know it’s only a matter of time before the next battle) Maybe no one “ends up” with anyone. Maybe Hannah does find the right man for her and it is not Adam. Perhaps Hannah doesn’t need or want a boyfriend for right now. Hannah and Jessa could rekindle their friendship and it doesn’t include any man between them or maybe this time their friendship is beyond repair. Adam could land a killer theater gig or movie role out of the state or country. All I know is how I feel, and for myself, after all the emotions and all the tears I have shared with Hannah and Adam, and with all that build up, shared history, and connection they seem to have, it’s just a lot of time spent on their story if they don’t figure it out.
My husband recently pointed out that Hannah shouldn’t get back with Adam, she deserves better, “Adam has been a dick.” Yes, he has and yes, he can be. “They have been abusing the shit out of each other for years,” Lena has said of unexpected support of Hannah and Adam as an OTP. Its been messy, sure, but people grow. Maybe they give it a try and are forced to come to terms that they would be heading down the same path and eventually keep hurting each other, making the difficult, yet, adult decision that they can’t be together. I am really leaning towards the no one ends up with anyone route. If not as a couple, I like to think that they will at least remain something to each other.
Anyway, I am pretty confident the love is still there in some form or another. To me that is partly what this show has been about. After everything they have been through, deep down inside, I will always feel they should finally be together…and happily ever after.