a year from today

Walking my 4 year old home from kindy today, he remarked that I should have a pink flowy dress “because girls like pink.” While I went through a pink phase as a kid, it’s not a colour I’ve worn much at all since then.

Me: Where did you learn that?
Son: I don’t know. I just learned it.
Me: Well, some girls like pink, but some boys do, too. Daddy has pink shorts, doesn’t he?
Son, thinking: Yes! And I have pink pants, too!

We chatted about it a bit more, and agreed that colours are for everyone. Even so, I can’t help but notice how deeply the social conditioning to this effect runs with little kids. A few weeks ago, he answered a quiz for father’s day where he said that his dad’s favourite colour was pink, and thinking back, there’s been one other time since then when he’s asked me if pink is for girls, resulting in a variant of the same conversation we had today. Which makes me think that someone at his school has reacted to him saying his dad likes pink by trying to tell him that it’s a girl colour.

Gender rules: fun times!


#tbt to when hubby and I first started dating (march 2013) and #tbt to 4 years ago from today when we celebrated 6 months together and he bought me a cute necklace.

I love him. 4.5 years later and going strong!

lance: hey sexy

keith: hi

lance: your sexy

keith: what about my sexy?

lance: it left. went home. ever since u decided to be a lil bitch. i know the difference between your and y'our. this is fucking grindr not spelling bee central.

In honor of it being a year since The Wedding Squanchers first aired, here’s the grandpa busting out of space prison.


29.05.17 • day 1/30

here’s the first page of my June spread and some bio notes I did today!!

will be aiming to achieve 30 days of productivity starting from today in preparation for mid-years right after June break ;-;

managed to review my bio test, watch an online holiday lecture and do up some notes today, let’s hope that I will continue being this productive!!! (۶•̀ᴗ•́)۶

8.18.17 - A Summary

Here’s what we’ve got so far:

Twitter: All original tweets gone, a majority of other tweets are gone, only things retweeted from Abigail remain. No more profile or header images, some likes has supposedly disappeared as well. Unfollowed everyone.

Instagram: All photos gone, no icon, and no longer following anyone.

YouTube: Vevo account is the only one still with a profile picture

Facebook: Profile picture is gone

tumblr: Color scheme changed from pink to black. Desktop goes from pink and fades to black with white text.

Website: taylorswift.com is black - code containing ‘ivegotablankspace’ leads to a page saying ‘That’s what they don’t see’ (Shake It Off Lyric)

DirectTV: has her listed as appearing on GMA on August 31 (13 days from today)

Bonus: today is the 3 year anniversary of the 1989 album announcement/Shake It Off release.

Matt said yes guys, what a surprise, wow.

(Oldest post is here, and here’s the first content for the ship. I don’t know who picked the name “Techienician”, please tell me if you know! I’d love to credit them here :D).

There is literally no reason for asexuals to Not be included in the LGBTQ+ community

Simply put, it just makes sense.

1: Ace people face very similar issues to many other LGBTQ+ folks (compulsory heterosexuality, corrective rape, abuse in relationships/at home/by friends bc of sexuality, heteronormativity, stigma, pathologisation etc). These are simply facts.

1.5: Also try asking yourself, why are you okay with calling bad treatment of overweight people “fatphobia” but not bad treatment of aroace people “aphobia”? It’s simply an easy to use term that is well established in the community. Also the argument that ace people don’t experience discrimination and oppression the same was other LGBTQ+ people do falls kind of flat, bc neither do lesbians in comparison to bisexual men, or nonbinary trans people in comparison to bisexual women. (Also please stop calling yourselves “aphobes”, make “i hate ace people” “””jokes”””, or compare us to mike pence and similar (yes ive seen this). I am, like many other aces, queer. it’s really insensitive, it’s rude, it makes me and many others feel awful and betrayed by our own community. Just, please stop).

2: Ace people don’t “steal” or take resources from other LGBTQ+ folks. If an ace person is homeless, then they do need shelter (like, if a gay person is homeless for a reason unrelated to their sexuality, for example chronical physical illness, then are they “stealing” LGBTQ+ resources? No. They’re not). And if an ace person is suicidal etc bc of their sexuality, then they do need that LGBTQ+ suicide hotline. If it is like you all say, that ace people don’t need these resources, then they won’t take them either. Simple as that.

3: And no, the full acronym isn’t necessarily LGBTQ. the acronym has changed A Lot throughout the years. from “gays and lesbian association” to what it is today, with a lot of acronyms and variants before that and on the journey till today. Accepting those in need and those similar to us is just how this community naturally evolves!

3.5: …And no, this doesn’t mean that pedophiles, zoophiles, and “kinky” people will be allowed into the community. Those aren’t sexual orientations and you know it. And they are not oppressed, discriminated against, or unfairly treated in society. This I have trouble expressing in English but I think you all get what I mean.

4: That argument generally is pretty USA centric. In many countries the current official acronym is in fact HBTQ (in popular media and newspaper), and HBTQ+ by official HBTQ+ organisations and other educated people! and many countries use different terminology entirely based on their language and history.

5: And no, there is no reason to exclude ace people bc “they’re our oppressors” bc guess what? Ace people are more often than not not straight (They are only straight if they choose to use the split attraction model, identify as either heteroromantic asexual or heterosexual aromantic, and identify as straight. You do not get to choose an ace person’s labels and erase their identity.), they don’t have hetero privilege (straight passing isn’t a privilege remember). also:

5.5: Cis people oppress trans people. White peoples oppress POC. Abled people oppress disabled people. And we share the community anyway, right? Sadly, it’s not a 100% safe space for all people. It’s too a diverse community for that. However, that doesn’t mean that we can exclude people based on that! Of course, ace people can’t speak over gay people on gay issues, the same way gay people can’t speak over trans people on trans issues.

6: Ace people are already accepted into the LGBTQ+ community by most people and organisations etc who know about aroace people. Both online and offline. We get taught about it in sex ED in school as such, official pride organisations include it in their commercials and information etc, and ace people are welcome and will in fact Not be hunted or targeted by other LGBTQ+ folks at pride! Generally speaking, this is tumblr phenomenon and something most regular pride goers don’t even know about.

Just making my stance on this matter clear on this subject bc recently I’ve seen a huge rise in discourse and nasty people saying terrible things, on both sides mind you, but yeah. My opinions, incomplete and defintely open to change. (And before you people go off a note, I’m ace, bi, and trans).