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anonymous asked:

it takes 10 seconds to go on youtube and serch for something like "doing a bun with one arm" and see how it is possible. it's that easy and then people dont have to say ableist shit on the internet. :D

I think all anon meant was that it’s not necessarily something that’s easy for a two handed person to learn so maybe showing Bucky learning and struggling to learn post amputation isn’t a bad thing. That’s definitely the lines I was thinking along.

Is that ableist? I’m seriously asking here

Rainbowloid is acting like i called another trans person a slur and wont listen when i say its old drama that was resolved, i NEVER directly said anythinG harmful to another trans person i made a post saying i didnt understand how a boy can identify with all girl things and go by he him and all that and by that i meant that i dont personally understand how they arent super dysphoric about it i didnt mean to invalidate anyone by saying this


It was 3 years ago! I made one mistake!!! Please stop bringing it up and demonizing me.its really fucking upsetting to be called transphobic when i live everyday as a trans man . I understand who fucking hard it is to have your whole family disown you for being who u are i live this life i never meant to invalidate people!!

It’s on days that I have to fight the hardest to stay alive that I remind myself that maybe, just maybe, it’s the ones who have to fight the hardest that God has the biggest plans for.

Let’s talk about mental illness in Killing Stalking

As someone who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I’m pleasantly surprised by the depiction of the mental illness in Killing Stalking. (Although there is some debate about whether “borderline personality disorder” is meant to apply to Yoonbum or Sangwoo, I’m fully confident that Yoon is the one with the mental illness, something I’ll explore in this post.)

I’ve noticed that Yoon experiences many of the same symptoms I do, and (while I’ve never broken into someone’s house) I find a lot of his behaviors relatable. I believe his characterization to be very true to someone who struggles with borderline personality disorder, for the following reasons:

He acts impulsively. 

BPD is often characterized by having trouble controlling one’s emotions, leading to impulsive actions and sometimes inappropriate emotional responses. We’ll go with the obvious: Yoon breaks into Sangwoo’s house after stalking him. Whether or not he planned it, it’s an action taken without much thought as to the consequences, and he acts completely on his emotions for Sangwoo.

He has a history of unstable relationships.

People with BPD tend to have trouble with relationships, particularly maintaining them. This is not because of a lack of emotional attachment; rather, (in my case) it’s because of overly strong attachments to others, sometimes swinging between feelings of intense love and extreme hatred. People with BPD can form very close bonds with other people and have a persistent fear of rejection or abandonment. Yoon is an interesting case, as he feels a deep attachment to Sangwoo despite the obvious abuse, and he even fears not being “good enough” for Sangwoo. These types of thoughts are at the root of my mental illness, and I resonate strongly with Yoon’s need to be “special” to Sangwoo. We also know that Yoon’s relationship with his uncle is…strained, at best, yet he decides in one moment that even that is better than living with Sangwoo.

He self-harms.

It’s very typical of those struggling with BPD to self-harm, have suicidal tendencies, or engage in self-destructive behavior. Sangwoo points out Yoon’s self-harm scars and even taunts him for it, to which Yoon responds that he did it because he was “lonely.” This feeling is often the trigger for my self-harm episodes as well.

He has hallucinations/delusions.

In my experience, borderline personality disorder is sometimes confused with schizophrenia because of this symptom. (In fact, I was once misdiagnosed with schizophrenia and received the wrong kind of treatment for a time.) One difference between BPD and schizophrenia, for me, is that, while the images I see or the voices I hear are startling and sometimes terrifying, I can usually differentiate between “fantasy” and “reality.” People with BPD may, when under extreme stress, hear voices or have horrific hallucinations, like the body parts Yoon sees in Sangwoo’s washing machine. 

This is all based on my experiences alone, but from what I’ve seen, Yoon is definitely a relatable case, and I’m actually really happy for the representation in Yoon. I’ll be looking forward to future chapters to see if there are any instances in which Yoon dissociates or if we get more history on his previous relationships. Overall, 10/10 character representation.

some aggressive feelings about the scene between yuri and victor in the garage when victor fucked up and made yuri cry:

THE DEVELOPMENT IN VICTOR AND YURI’S RELATIONSHIP ISN’T JUST ONE SIDED AND THAT SCENE AND ALL OF VICTOR’S MONOLOGUE IN THIS EPISODE IS MEANT TO SHOW THAT.

from the way victor responds and reacts to yuri, its pretty clear that despite having various lovers in the past, he has no idea what it’s like when you actually, legitimately, seriously love someone like how he loves yuri and how yuri loves him. he’s never had a healthy, happy, loving relationship. he’s never had genuine feelings for someone.

when chris commented that it wasn’t like victor to leave the ice to protect someone, he was right, it’s NOT. if what the show is trying to imply by his actions and what victor says and what other characters say about him is true, then victor is selfish to a degree. he’s self centered. he’s used to people just going along with him, he’s not used to having to think about how his actions affect people who love and care about him. because he’s never had to care back, he’s never wanted to until yuri.

and because he’s a PERSON who’s never experienced this before, he’s going to make mistakes. yuri knows that. he knows that victor is just as clueless as he is because he has such a jaded view of love. while yuri’s love is real and pure and bright from the first minute of it, victor has no idea what he’s doing because loving yuri is so different than any other feeling or relatonship he’s had before. it’s WHY the performance of “stay with me” from the very beginning of the show is more fitting to yuri - a naive man who is first experiencing love, versus victor who gives it too mature a flair, too jaded by his own experiences to capture the real emotion in the song that yuri gets so effortlessly.

all of victor’s efforts to gain yuri’s affection have had a physical element to them if you’ve noticed. he’s not so intune to the emotional dimension of it like how yuri is - which is why he is continually surprised and caught off guard by yuri’s FIRM, EMOTIONAL claims that he just wants victor to stay himself, that he just wants him to believe and have faith in him, that he wants him to stay by his side. victor’s shocked because no one’s EVER said that to him. no one’s ever wanted victor for just victor, and only victor like yuri does.

his proclamation in the episode that he’ll resign from being his coach is a low blow, but that’s the kind of thing that he’s used to - clearly. we don’t know a lot of victor’s past, and i don’t know how much we’ll ever know aside from hints and snippets and what he acts like and others say, but clearly if that’s his first thought then he’s jaded. plain and simple. loving yuri for victor is pure, and unique and a whirlwind of emotions he’s never experienced, just like yuri who has never experienced love before ever. they’re both going to stumble, they’re both going to fuck up but no matter WHAT THEY’RE GOING TO CONTINUE TO LOVE AND SUPPORT EACH OTHER.

when victor realized his mistake, he apologized. immediately. there was no hesitation. there was no trying to create an excuse for his actions. he immediately realized he hurt yuri, something he never wants to do and apologized for it. and yuri knows. and accepts that victor has faults but still loves him just like victor still loves him and all of his.

JUST IDK MAN. THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS SO HEALTHY AND BEAUTIFUL AND I JUST. DON’T TRY TO CONSTRUE THIS SCENE TO MAKE VICTOR THE BAD GUY BECAUSE THAT’S NOT THE POINT.

THE POINT IS THAT IN A RELATIONSHIP SOMETIMES YOU’RE GOING TO FUCK UP. BUT IF YOU CARE AND REALIZE YOUR MISTAKES AND LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER, YOU CAN DO BETTER IN THE FUTURE. YOU CAN DEEPEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. THEY TALKED ABOUT THIS SITUATION LIKE ADULTS INSTEAD OF JUST GETTING EMOTIONAL AND SLAMMING DOORS AND THIS IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME.

samwiseofficial  asked:

Hey Alan! I just saw a post about different types of allistics on my dash... one of them was "The 'Ally'™". I'm allistic and I want to know how I can be a good ally, so I thought I'd ask about certain things mentioned in the post so i can avoid doing them! What are person first language and functioning labels and what can I do as an allistic to be an actual ally (not an “Ally"™)? Thanks so much!

okay, first of all, I’m going to assume that you meant [this post]. If not, sorry. Second, I’m not going to get this perfect. I’m viewing this as a bit of a first draft, which (note to self) I will edit at some point.

definitions: person-first language is “person with autism” as opposed to “autistic person”. Please use “autistic person”. I dealt with functioning labels later in this disorganized hell-post. 

So here’s my stab at allistic ally 101

1) You follow the same rules as if you were an ally for any other group: [Here’s a pretty good ally 101 article], but it’s not the end-all-be-all. Keep listening to autistic voices, and if we contradict the rules hold our voices higher. 

Also, above all, rule #1 of allyship is don’t be a shithead–come to conversations with the intention to listen and learn first and treat us like human beings (this is particularly critical with disability rights)

2) Our voices are the important ones: this is important with being an ally to any group, but autistic people often struggle to communicate or express ourselves. Be patient. Ask people how they’d like to communicate and be prepared to be a bit flexible.

Some autistic people use AAC (Alternative or Assistive Communication), and their voices matter just as much as verbal people’s. You don’t have to learn ASL or anything, but don’t assume that because someone’s not communicating verbally they’re less intelligent or competent. And, even if someone can’t communicate using language (or communicate at all) don’t assume that they don’t have thoughts, feelings, and needs.

3) Nothing about us without us: knowing an autistic person doesn’t make you an expert on autism. BEING an autistic person makes you an expert on autism. If you see anything claiming to help autistic people that doesn’t prominently feature Actual Autistic People, don’t support it (unless Actual Autistic People are telling you to support it, see #2)

This goes double for any charitable organization focused on autism which leads me into point number 4 (also from here on out things are a bit smaller-scope, that doesn’t make them less important):

4) Autism Speaks is trash: [and] [here] [are] [some] [sources

If you want to support charities try ASAN and The Autism Women’s Network

5) Please don’t try to “cure” us: I’m dealing with some internalized ableism with this one, so let me turn you over to  Anya Ustaszewski who in [this article] writes:

My autism is part of who I am. It is not something “extra” that can be taken away from me to suit the agenda of an intolerant society. My abilities, challenges and perception of the world all go hand in hand. If I were to be “cured” of my autism, the person that I am would cease to exist.

so yeah cure = bad, acceptance and accommodation = good

6) Celebrate the things that make autistics unique: lately, tumblr has gotten a lot more stim-positive, but stimming isn’t solely a pretty, paint-mixing or slime video (in fact, stimboards are rarely tagged and can overstimulate the SHIT out of me). 

A lot of time, stimming is viewed as ugly, distracting, loud, disgusting, or socially unacceptable. Support your local autistics, don’t expect people to stop stimming and try not to stare or comment (many autistic people have to work very hard to reclaim stimming after childhoods of expecting to suppress it entirely).

Also, try your best to support different cognitive styles and processing issues. Try to keep your websites accessible, provide image transcripts, try not to make posts that are entirely text in images (like screenshots of twitter posts), and help to subtitle videos if you can. <- these things also help d/Deaf people and anyone who accesses the internet via a screenreader

7) steer clear of stereotypes: I’m not rain man or that dude on the big bang theory or your cousin’s dentist’s sister’s younger brother’s son. The ‘idiot savant’ stereotype is almost never true and puts unreasonable expectations on autistic people. Also, not all of us are good at math or science, have incredible memories, etc. Fitting or not fitting stereotypes don’t change the fact that every autistic person is human and deserves rights and respect.

8) functioning labels are fake: never listen to anyone who describes autism as “high” or “low functioning”. Every autistic person has struggles, and putting labels on functioning basically sorts people into “can be ignored” and “subhuman”. [here’s about a million posts about why they suck because if I put it all here this post would be five times as long]

9) ABA is trash: this is trigger territory for a huge number of autistic people, so [here] and I’m not going to say anything else just take my word on this one

10) If it has puzzle pieces on it, run: if you’re looking to see if a group is okay, look for the rainbow infinity sign. The puzzle piece is a huge red flag. Please don’t support anything with puzzle pieces on it. Please. I’m begging you.


Okay that was WAAY longer than I meant it to get, sorry. Also, I’ve missed a bunch of things, but I’ve been working on this for an hour and I don’t have the energy to add more. I’ll throw this in #actuallyautistic and hopefully someone else can add anything important I missed.

Let me tell you something no one else is willing to admit.

There will be people you fall in love with. But it doesn’t matter.
It means nothing.

Because the person you’re meant to be with, makes you fall into life.
They make you experience breathing on a whole different level. They give you new ways of perception and you’ll be wonderstruck by the world they’re letting you see.

—  Nicole Torres
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“The character of Kylo Ren was one of the most challenging characters because he sort of embodied what this movie was. It was a new story, a new personality created from the DNA of what had come before. But because he was the villain it meant that he was in the shadow of Darth Vader, one of the great villains in cinema history. So we embraced Vader. We made our bad guy aware of Vader, as he would be living in a post-Vader time and made him the son of Leia Organa and Han Solo. And in doing so, continued another Star Wars tradition of having really screwed up families. […] But we wanted to show how ruthless he is, which we do here. Not just in the killing of Lor San Tekka but also in his freezing of the blast. We wanted to show that he was the real deal. That he was incredibly Force-strong.”  - J.J.Abrams

Looooonnngggg Post about Gaston and LeFou BatB 2017

Okay, so I was going to wait until I saw Beauty and the Beast agin to make a post, because I’d get a new perspective on it, but I’ve been in listening to the soundtrack since Sunday, so I’d say it’s safe to say it’s on my mind.

Like, what the did with LeFou and Gaston in this movie is one of my favorite things to come from it. LeFou actual has a personality in this movie because he’s meant to be an actual character instead of just comic relief, which I Appreciate A Lot. And he’s really witty and funny in this movie too, like the first line he says “but she’s so well read and you’re so… Athletically inclined” and that line later when Gaston’s talking about Belle and’s like, “she doesn’t throw herself at me (or something like that) What would you call it” and LeFou’s like “Dignity” It’s Great™.

And I like how Gaston’s an actual person, too. In the beginning, he’s pretty chill, yeah, he’s kinda full of himself and is a little tiny bit jerky, but he’s not over the top, and it makes sense why the villagers would love him so much (plus him being a war vet doesn’t hurt that reputation, either) but I like as the longer we get in the movie, the more we see of his outer layer peeling away to reveal his actual personality, like, he slowly gets more creepy as the movie goes on. (I.e. Him leaving Maurice to be left to the wolves, the mob scene when it happens)

And on the other side of that, as he slowly gets creepier, you see LeFou’s conscience slowly getting the best of him and him realizing that Gaston Isn’t as Great as he Thinks™. Like, it’s very well done, and we see him hesitating and challenging Gaston twice (when they tie Maurice he’s like “hey, let’s not” and right before the Mob Song, he tries to talk Gaston out of it, but he backs down) this all comes to a head with that awesome added line in the Mob Song. It’s right after Gaston sings about how the town will follow him blindly with LeFou looking on rather coldly from behind him, and then LeFou sings “there’s a beast running wild, there’s no question, but I fear the wrong monster’s released” (when I heard that, I started hitting my mom’s arm really hard at the theater, and she was like “what™”) It was just really cool, the LeFou character development

Also, Gaston and LeFou seemed like actually friend. Gaston was putting down LeFou that much, or really at all as far as I can remember, and Gaston actually thanks LeFou, during Gaston: “I needed encouragement, thank you LeFou” It’s a simple line, but it shows that he actually appreciates LeFou as a friend. He also compliments LeFou multiple times, most in The Gaston scene. I can really see why LeFou sticks with him in this version, and why you can see the betrayal on his face as he realizes Gaston Ain’t That Great™. I love this sssooooooo much.

(Also, Josh Gad and Luke Evans work so well together and it’s a shame I didn’t know who Luke Evans was before this. I love him so much now, he did so good as Gaston. He was so aware of who his character was and he’s Great™)

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Felix’s and Carolina’s shields really fit their characters, actually.

Felix’s shield is meant to protect him and him alone–it deploys quickly and uses relatively little power, but it only really provides a protected space for one person. Locus gets buffeted by winds (and actually gets blown away in the full shot), even though he’s in position at Felix’s back like always. Felix has never really prioritized looking out for others, and even though he cares about Locus, he doesn’t really have the capability to do what Locus needs. Locus tries to continue watching Felix’s back, but in the end, circumstances tear them apart.

In contrast, Carolina’s shield is capable of protecting others, but takes training, power, and the help of an AI to operate well. Carolina’s character journey has involved her discovering and accepting her own limits and those of her teammates, and learning to trust, communicate with, and accept the help of her team to keep as many of them safe as possible. She and Epsilon keep Wash safe from the explosion, and although both of them are tired afterward, both of them are safe as well.

The luxury of being in grad school

The title of this post is exactly the opposite of how I feel right now. I’ve complained and cried so much about the many academic and personal shortcomings I face in a PhD program…. but one of my advisers advised, “think of this time as a luxury.” So I guess I’m writing to try to reframe things. Actively reconsidering my experience as a luxury:

  • an incredibly flexible schedule meant for me to allot my own time to studying whatever I want
  • being able to study whatever I want!
  • the freedom and funding to spend so much of my time just on learning and becoming a better scholar. being paid to have intellectual pursuit and persistence.
  • being part of a prestigious and well-resourced university. while the high expectations can be challenging, they can also promote a lot of personal growth.
  • my “home” department, unlike the interdisciplinary ones I’ve tried to bridge into, is extremely welcoming and collaborative.
  • being a +1 in representation of diverse and underrepresented populations in higher education.
  • experiencing the quarter-life existential crisis in a setting that continues to fund and house me anyway, regardless of how lost I feel. (my performance does not directly reflect on my current ability to pay the bills)
  • …building character through personal hardship. Haha. 

Lately I feel that I’m happy in all other aspects of my life (love, family, friends, hobbies) besides my work (school). It’s been easy to go the route of escapism towards what *does* make me happy, with how difficult the PhD has been for me these 1.3 years. I’ve been told academia is meant to be a rollercoaster, so hopefully focusing on the silver linings will help me get through this major dip.

Going in Blind

HEEEEEEY SUP GUYS,
So I’m sorry I’ve been a little MIA on the writing shit, but I did suddenly write something, and thb I think it has something to do with the fact convention season is winding down for me as if legit next weekend.

Please enjoy, this was written at four AM after going through fmylife.com, I’ll post a pic of the inspiration later when I’m not on my phone.

As always I don’t own Will Solace or Nico di Angelo or any of the content they’re from (PJO, HoO, or ToA)

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“Hey, Annabeth remember how you told me that guy was great!? Always on time and shit!? It’s been an hour!”


Will huffed at his phone before turning it over, completely disregarding the message Annabeth had sent in reply. However, his phone kept going off, daring a glance at the screen he smirked. Ah yes, multiple quick messages only meant one person to Will, his text-door-neighbor. He’d found the guy by being drunk and dared while inhebriated to text both the numbers that were exactly the same as his, up to the very last digit. The number lower than his didn’t respond.


Will’s mystery Man however did and they’d been talking for months since then.


“So how’s your day going?”
“Mines shit.”
“Per usual.”
“I didn’t think it was possible.”
“But you can be stood up on blind dates”


Will found himself laughing dryly. If only this guy knew. Oh wait! Will could just text back!


“Not only is it possible, but scientifically proven my good Sir. For I have also been stood up on my blind date.”


Somewhere behind Will he heard an unamused voice cuss.


“Well fuck.”
“That really sucks.”
“Sorry.”


Will looked up to the main entrance of the restaurant and sighed heavily as he wrote back.


“Nothing to apologize for, I’m honestly just gonna go home and sleep for the rest of my day off, which I knew would have been a better use of my time anyways.”


Will heard that same voice chuckle and was going to turn around, but the Waiter walked passed and Will flagged him offering a quick apology and asking for the check to his two coffees he’d had while waiting.


“Yeah.”
“Same.”
“Talk to you later.”


Will felt so bad for his Mystery Guy, he was a bit of an ass and much more sarcastic than most people might have been used to, but he was also really nice! (Hell he messaged Will the day after his drunken text to make sure he was okay, Will tried to ask his name and introduce himself, but the gent had declined for personal reasons and heck, Will wasn’t going to over step that.)


Thankfully he’d be able to leave soon and just relax and forget this embarrassment, swiftly the waiter returned and from behind Will as he finished paying with cash and leaving his tip he heard the same request. It was the voice Will had heard cuss and laugh to themselves.


He dared and look and needless to say, he probably could have been caught staring, because the man at the table behind him was, attractive would be an understatement.


Inky black hair that was a little choppy and curly licking around the edges of high faintly freckled cheek bones with pale olive skin and large almond shaped chocolate brown eyes, yeah, the guy behind him pretty much just stole his breath away. His only saving grace was quite literally the timing of the front door ringing and Annabeth’s voice. When Will looked up he noticed her not with her usual male company, her Boyfriend Percy, but another blond male with stormy eyes and a scar above his lip. “Will wait.”


“Annabeth he never showed.” Will reminded her annoyed, then paused. “How did you get here so fast?” Then he noticed the coffee cup, from the chain just up ahead at the corner, in her hand.


“Jason?” Will turned back around and, oh, oh Gods it was the attractive looking man speaking.


“Hey Nico,” ‘Jason’ as it was tentatively greeted, “wait. I thought you said Will never showed up?”


Will blinked. Nico stared. Annabeth bursted out laughing. “You two where a table apart this whole time.”


Will looked back to Nico and they were both looking rather in awe at each other. “You’re Will?”


“And you’re Nico,” Will replied, “how did I not see you when I walked in?”


“You weren’t out here when I got here, but you were after I went to the bathroom.” The dark haired male planted his face into his palm. “I never thought to ask…”


Will felt his phone buzz, a reminder that he had a message from his Mystery guy. He quickly took out his phone and typed.


“So, you’re never going to believe this, but my date was right behind me the whole time!”


He sent the message and opened his mouth to apologize to Nico, when the other looked down at his phone. Looked up to Will and simply replied.


“Oh…I believe it.”

It was almost too painful to imagine a life without you and then I woke up and realized that if you could imagine a life without me and not feel anything at all, then we weren’t meant to be, and in that case you can fuck off. I deserve better. Better will find me.
—  Your not some game, you deserve to be loved. ‘Thoughts I have at night’
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Hello guys! Taylor followed me in 2014 and I was the happiest human. She liked so many of my posts after that and made me the happiest person alive😭

Yesterday when I tried to log into my account I realized it’s been hacked and deleted😭 I contacted tumblr support and they said there’s nothing they can do about it. It’s gone. I’m so sad because her follow meant a world to me!

I made friends there, had so much fun.. I also did those long follow lists and Taylor followed like 5 of them😭 I really hope you all can follow me back and get @taylorswift to refollow me one day. I really love you all so much❤️

it would mean a world if you all rebloged this post😭❤️ I really need help and I know I can count on you because we are family.

If you are a beginner keeper, you should listen twice as much as you speak

And this isnt a “erg newbies are annoying” post or one meant to discourage. It’s just plain dangerous to be giving advice if you have only been caring for an animal for a few months.

It’s important because you would simply not know the reasoning behind a lot of what you have learned because more of what you learned was regurgitated information. You learned the HOW, but not the WHY. So when you perpetuate information you have been told, you’re potentially furthering misinformation you have learned.

For example, I commonly see people say “ball pythons cant go in large enclosures because it stresses them out.”

This is ultimately not true. It is not enclosure size that stresses ball pythons out, but expansive empty spaces. Very few people provide their ball pythons in tanks with sufficient furnishing to allow them to positively use their space.

However, if you go around repeating that information, you’re incorrect and potentially have caused harm for an animal (maybe not in this example, but you get the picture).

For this reason it’s much better to read and take in information without feeling the need to take on the responsibility of correcting people. Focus on your personal animal care techniques and how to improve them at every step. Ask questions and read read read!

And this is especially because you dont want to be the dingdong telling someone their normal would be a pinstripe ball python if they simply stretched the snake out for a better photo.

introducing a style of commission i have been wanting to do for a while now, but have been incredibly hesitant to do so because i am a ridiculously Shy, Anxious Baby; quick, hassle free, half-body Experimental Sketches for $20! these are meant to be completed all in one sitting, which means that there will be NO WIPs or refunds (once started). 

all i need from you are
-image references 
-must draws (moles, freckles, etc)
-brief character personality
-pose ideas (if you have any; not required)
-your paypal e-mail

i won’t draw anything hateful or nsfw (bare chests are fine, however).
i will draw fanart, fan characters, ocs, anthros

e-mail me @ drawsbyred (at) gmail (dot) com if interested :’)

Closed for now. Thanks for all the interest!

Venus Retrograde 2017:  A Message To You From Venus // New Energy of Awakening

Has anyone been having relationships issues lately? Have you gone through a break up or are you doubting your current relationship? Do you feel as if you and your partner are fighting a lot, or separating in some way? This is due to the Venus retrograde taking place, that will still be in affect until April 15, 2017. Personally, I hate Venus retrogrades!! I love to be in love with my husband, my soulmate, my everything. But lately, we have had no time for each other which has lead to fights and arguments. Loved ones and friends I know have also been having issues with their partners. 2 of my best friends just ended their long term relationships. I felt the need to write a post on this, hoping this will ease the minds of anyone else going through hardships in their love lives- because I am feeling the pain as well. However- retrogrades are meant to help you realize any hidden truths occurring in your life. Positioned in Venus, your love life is under the spotlight. Let us feel these changes, and understand everything is meant to happen as they are. The Source has a plan for all of us. Here is what the Venus Retrograde this year is teaching us:
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Intentions create a void – an opening for you to rearrange your life.
In order for new energies to be integrated, the old ones have to be dis-ordered… which creates chaos.
The more high vibration energy you bring in, the more light you shine on what needs to be cleared.
With Venus, the planet of Love, Beauty and Abundance, in retrograde, we are being prompted more than ever to feel, act and speak from the heart.
Venus’ message during this retrograde is:
Hold intentions for EVERY moment of your life.
Hold intentions for Love.
Hold intentions for Prosperity.
Hold intentions for Joy.
Have strong energy boundaries.
Strong intentions enable you to forge a NEW path and allow this new energy of Awakening to grow and expand.
A strong intention opens a new space for you to FILL with what you want to create.
In this new paradigm, we are being fully held accountable for holding intentions for every moment of our lives. Nothing is left to chance.
The more clear your intention is, the greater your ability to attract what it is you want.
You’re an emotional being.
You are pure feeling.
You are a sensual, sensitive soul.
Venus is a symbol of love, feeling, creativity, sensuality and vibrant abundance.
Now in its retrograde cycle, Venus implores you to FEEL.
And as it inches backwards in Aries towards Pisces over the next weeks, Venus is moving to the powerful “Aries Point” – the area in the zodiac separating Aries, the first sign, with Pisces, the last sign. That intersection between Aries and Pisces is very powerful, magnifying everything it touches.
Venus has a very specific Arrival point before it turns direct on April 15:
Venus is heading to a direct conjunction with Chiron in Pisces.
Chiron – the healer, in Pisces – the sensual, sensitive, psychic sign.
You are being prepared at this time to surrender in order to be fully available to experience a major healing – a profound inner transformation.
Venus retrograde in the first sign of the zodiac is asking you to set your frequency, and set it HIGH.
Try as much as you can to not tune into negativity. 

What’s important is to STAY in your OWN energy. Keep your intentions for what You want going… always.
What you create for You, you create for the World.
Your decision to create more Joy in your life expands that same energy for the planet.
Venus invites you to be a shining beacon of Light and Love.

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