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anonymous asked:

Tbh I see quite a lot of pan positivity on my dash could you clarify what you meant by that?

i see it from like, specific blogs for LGBT+ support, or pride flag art, & very occasionally from other users, but 90% posts are more like “reblog if you support trans, gay or bi girls!” (which is still great & i still appreciate), i just rarely see posts casually include pan people within their support or representation 

See all the positivity posts you read? The ones about self care and self love and validation? All those posts apply to you too, those aren’t just for everyone else. You are just as important and just as deserving as anyone else and I want you to know that. If you’re reading this, please don’t exclude yourself from the positivity. It is meant FOR you. You DO matter. You ARE included. 

So I’ve been thinking about this a lot since the last ‘The TAZ Zone’ where Griffin was saying that he was so sure Magnus was going to take the chalice in 11th Hour and he had a whole thing planned for it.

I think Magnus would have taken it. If not taken it, I think he would’ve had a lot harder time deciding whether he wanted to go back and fix things with Julia and Raven’s Roost. Julia was the single most important thing in Magnus’ life (post Stolen Century) and I think he would’ve 100% taken the cup to at least try and make things right.

But I think the thing that stopped him was Lucas Miller. Magnus was very upset with Lucas for what he did in the Crystal Kingdom Arc and when he was questioning him towards the end Lucas said something along the lines of “Wouldn’t you do anything to save the one person who meant the most to you?” And I think Magnus saw the love that Lucas had for his mother and while different, the drive and passion behind what Lucas had done for Maureen probably rivaled what Magnus felt watching his last moments with Julia with June in the White Space. And I think if Magnus hadn’t seen the problems that came with someone who couldn’t let go of the past, who couldn’t accept that their loved one was gone, he would’ve taken the cup. But having witnessed the tragedy of Lucas and Maureen, he knew that while he’d always love and miss Julia, he had to let her stay in the past.

It’s on days that I have to fight the hardest to stay alive that I remind myself that maybe, just maybe, it’s the ones who have to fight the hardest that God has the biggest plans for.

It was toxic. Our relationship was toxic. We loved each other but it was a constant back and forth from bliss to pain and pain to bliss. We couldn’t be the people who we wanted to be. We were too tied up to each other. It didn’t help that we also had to hide from everyone. It was getting harder and harder to breathe. It was suffocating. Our love was real but maybe, it was just not the right time. We needed to love ourselves first. Maybe, one day, we will meet again and never let each other go.

If you identify with Dan, don’t feel bad about wanting to talk about how you identify with Dan. You’re not making his story about you if the video made you want to talk about it; you’re doing exactly what he wanted, and keeping the conversation going. 

If you identify with Phil because someone you love is depressed, don’t feel bad about wanting to talk about how you identify with Phil or being curious about his side of it. You’re also doing exactly what Dan wanted, because depression impacts more than just the person who has it. 

If you find yourself trying to incorporate this new information about him into what you know of him as a person, you can do that. I think it’s a very natural response most people are having. I do think it’s important to keep in mind that Dan is not a different person today than he was a week ago - it’s just that we know something now we didn’t know then. And Dan is a public figure whose life we, as fans, follow. (Same for Phil, because this has also been a part of Phil’s life for the past eight years.) This should not change how anyone treats Dan but I think it is perfectly natural to do some introspection about what this might have meant to him at different points in his life. Dan did not make this video so no one would talk about it, or him. 

And finally: if you feel like you have feelings about this you need to process and you want to do it through writing meta posts on your own blog, through posting to a shared space, through drawing art, through writing fic, through interpretive basket weaving - do it. I can tell from my twitter feed and my tumblr dash and everywhere else I’m active online that this is hitting a lot of people deeply and personally. People work through emotions and inner turmoil in different ways. I have artist friends that say their art is therapy. I definitely know that writing is therapy for me. Don’t let anyone try to write off your method of emotional release just because it has to do with someone else’s life. 

Be respectful. Be considerate. Romanticizing mental illness is bad. Flat out, I will say that again: romanticizing mental illness is bad.  But creating something to express how you feel about a topic that is moving you emotionally is not inherently romanticizing. It’s okay to be inspired by someone else’s story. It can be done respectfully and this fandom is full of people who will do it respectfully, now in this immediate aftermath and for years to come. 

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IT’S NOT THAT EASY

but also take care of yourselves binder wearing people, drink plenty and take binder breaks whenever you can, but also don’t let people make you feel bad for wearing it to feel good.

*note, the person suggesting to take off the binder is meant to be read in a passive aggressive tone.

TDA characters as Tumblr texts posts
  • Julian: I, personally, would love to calm down, and yet
  • Emma: [softly, but with a lot of feeling] fuck
  • Cristina: no mom i already have a job it's called being hardcore
  • Diego: "you're obsessed with yourself" and you're not??? sad. tragic.
  • Mark: yeah I'm beautiful but where is my mental stability???
  • Kieran: While You Were Being Heterosexual, I Studied The Blade
  • Ty: I didn't realize growing up meant dying inside but hey it's whatever
  • Livvy: seven billion people on the planet and I have like 2 friends
  • Dru: "what the fuck" is an emotion now and it's the only one I have
  • Kit: I saw a man so beautiful I started crying?
Let me tell you something about power imbalances

Since the Otayuri-discourse is getting really annoying, I would like to tell you something. Power imbalances can have an effect on every relationship. Romantic as well as platonic. A power imbalance can turn into an unhealthy relationship of any kind. But there is one thing, that everyone seems to ignore: A power imbalance itself does not cause abusive behavior. On its own its neither good nor bad. Its the way it is used, that makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationship.

A power imbalance is like a “tool”. It can be used by an abuser to take advantage of its victim. The abusers keep themselves on the higher level to maintain the imbalance. This can lead to physical and emotional abuse. The abuser can easily pressure the victim into doing things that they aren’t comfortable with. For example: Older friends pressuring the younger one into drinking alcohol/older lover pressuring younger to have sex despite them not being ready for it. And this is obviously a horrible thing.

But a power imbalance can also have a positive effect. In a healthy relationship the more powerful part tries to minimize the imbalance. They don’t see the other on as lower. They want to be on an equal level. The imbalance can be used to help the younger one grow, while also making sure that they are safe don’t go over their limits. It can be reassuring to have someone more experienced that can help you in life and share their experiences. One great example for a healthy relationship with a power imbalance in the beginning is a ship you all love: Victuuri!

At the start of the show Yuuri is a loner. He doesnt have many friends and the only thing he really cares for is skating (and Victor of course). He has huge anxiety and really lacks in confidence. He idolizes Victor and therefore sees him as above him.  Also, Yuuris love life before Victor is pretty much non existent and he just becomes a blushing mess at the mere mention of eros. On the other hand we have Victor “Sexiest-Man-Alive” Nikiforov. He is way more experienced and confident than Yuuri and has had a few relationships in the past. All this puts a huge imbalance on Victors side. We see this in the beginning, when Victor was really pushy, thinking Yuuri was still as confident and flirty as he was at the banquet, making Yuuri feel visibly uncomfortable. When Victor sees this, he tones down the flirting to keep it at a pace that Yuuri can comfortably move along with. We see Victor helping Yuuri becoming more confident in his abilities and more comfortable with his sexuality. Victor used the power imbalance to turn the idol-fan-relationship into a loving relationship between two equals.

This concludes, that a power imbalance itself does not automatically make a relationship bad. Its the mindset of the more powerful person, that determines if this imbalance can be healthy or not.

Now lets talk about Otayuri!

First of all, Yuri is not the pure, innocent, little child, that needs to be sheltered from everything, that you all seem to think he is. We are talking about the “kid” who wanted to skate to eros, because he thought it would fit him better. The kid who watched Yuuri and Chris pole dancing and kept tons of photos of it. The kid who told Mila to stop acting horny after breaking up with her boyfriend. Most 15/16 years old boys are not innocent angels…  Also, Yuri is actually quite mature for his age. Yuri moved away from his home to St. Petersburg when he was around 10 years old. He is the main provider for his family since his junior debut. Growing up away from home, with this high responsibilities makes you mature faster. He committed his life to figure skating. He had the determination and disciplin to win GPF gold on his senior debut. This level of dedication, endless training, without complaining, to work towards a goal, is a sign of maturity. Sure, sometimes he acts childish and on impulse, but so does Victor, the guy who pauses his career for a year, travels to Japan and suddenly shows up naked at a hot spring, because of his crush on a drunk Yuuri.

We have seen Otabek and Yuri both supporting and admiring each other. We see Otabek helping Yuri to grow. Yuri doesnt act like an angry brat with him. He is much calmer and happier around him.  Kubo even said that Otabek sees them as equals. There is only a small power imbalance between them. Its even smaller than between Victor and Yuuri. And since their relationship is based on mutual respect and support, and Otabek wants them to be equal, there is not even the slightest hint, why this relationship would be abusive in any way. To me this looks like the perfect base for a healthy relationship. So what makes you think that Otabek would be a predator? What makes you think he would take advantage of him? Why would he harm Yuri? This is what bothers me the most about this discourse. By saying this ship would be unhealthy , disgusting and bad, you are accusing Otabek of being an abusive asshole. And this magnificent, loving character does not deserve this hate.

This post is obviously not meant to say that all relationships with age differences are totally ok. This is meant to explain, that it is not always automatically bad. There are many unhealthy relationships where both people are the same age or where the abuser is the younger one. Age alone is not what makes a relationship healthy or unhealthy. The mindset of the individual person is!

Keith is Spider-Man proof

Joins a super secret boyband? CHECK.

Spidey stance and spidey webshooter hand gesture? DOUBLE CHECK.

Superhuman strength? Friggin CHECK.

Father figure/Mentor/Iron Man?? KOLIVAN STARK. CHECK.

Wants to save as much people as he can because he has a goOD HEART??? Doesn’t want anyone to get killed? Check check check.

One isn’t a superhero without doing the ridiculous superhero landing. And who the hell DID THAT rIDICULOUS SUPERHERO LANDING?? THAT’S RIGHT. IT’S KEITH. 

Spidey is so well-known for his web-slinging and guess who just did something just like that in SPACE? YES. KEITH. AGAIN.

I’m not saying Keith is Spider-Man in space, but I’m just saying that Keith IS Spider-Man in space. 

anonymous asked:

nurseydex accidently meeting in a coffeeshop a few years after they break up

’“Holy shit!”

Derek ducks down behind the partition of the coffee bar.

“Shit? Shit! Wait – why shit?” Ginny ducks down behind the partition with him, peeking carefully around from their spot on the floor to scan the seating area.

“Who we hiding from, D?”

And thank Bittle for having Ginny with him. She’s the only person he knows besides maybe Chris who would actually hide out with him.

“My ex.”

“Ooh, yeah. Which one?”

And bless sweet Gin’s heart. They’d met in grad school post-Epic-Heartbreak. She can’t know that there’s only ever been one ex to break Derek’s chill.

“The one from Samwell.”

“Oh well, yeah, that I figured. No way you’d go ducking around corners for August or Victor. I meant, which one is he?”

And, huh, maybe she did know.

“Is it the buff blonde? Nah - he’s too buff. And blonde. What about tall, dark and hipster with the skateboard? Mmm - nah, that’d be too much hipster in one relationship.”

“I’m not a hipster.”

“You keep telling yourself that, bud. But maybe it’s….ooooooh. Please, please, please tell me it’s the redhead giving mad arm porn right now!”

“Fuck.”

“Daaaaamn, Derek.”

And yeah, while Will’s always been beautiful, his post-grad glow-up was undeniable.

He’d grown his hair out up top and actually styled it into something soft and modern. He’d clearly still been working out if the arm porn was any indication. And sweet Bittle he’d apparently been spending real time out in the southern California sun because his freckles were popping.

“You let him go? Shit. Alright. So, what’s the game plan here? We gonna try sneaking past? Or - I could cause a commotion and you can run out. Or –”

“You could actually pick up your ‘venti iced skinny hazelnut macchiato, sugar-free syrup, extra shot, light ice, no whip’ monstrosity and just come say hi.”

Will’s gorgeously freckled face peaks over the partition where he’s waving Derek’s order.

“Hi, Dexy.”

“I knew no one else actually ordered this thing.”

“Oh wow. He knows you, man.”

Did Derek say he loved Ginny?

“Dex, Ginny. Ginny, Dex.”

Derek watches as Will’s old guard goes up as he takes Ginny in. He gets it, she’s gorgeous: dark skin and darker hair, open smile, miles of leg visible even while they’re both crouched on the ground.

“Hi Dex, wow! This is incredibly awkward.” Ginny whirls as she gets up, trips a bit, as she tries to keep Dex in her line of sight. “So nice to meet you, though! Heard tons about you. Great things! Wonderful. I’m just gonna wait outside. Ok, bye!”

“She’s cute.”

And Derek can’t tell what that tone is trying to communicate, but he breathes deeply as he pushes himself to his feet. It may have been a few years, but he hasn’t completely forgotten how to do this.

“She is, and also in a pretty committed relationship with her library and law school, right now.”

“Oh.”

“Will, we’re just friends.”

Who knew watching him blush would still send butterflies dancing in Derek’s gut.

“That’s not actually my business anymore. You’re not my – Gah. Do-over.”

Do-overs had become an essential part of their relationship: a way to keep conversations from devolving into a circle of blunders.

“What brings you out to Cali, Derek?”

“Uh, just one last hurrah! I, uh, I’ve got some pretty big deadlines coming up this fall, and yeah, just wanted a chance to get away before things get intense.”

“Intense? You’re writing!”

“Yeah. Found a publisher and everything.”

“Of course you would.”

“Alright, Mr. Tech-Wunderkind.”

“I’m just a programmer, Derek.”

“For Google.”

“Yeah, well.” And he does that Country-Boy hand to his neck thing as the sun flashes through the window behind him, and Derek’s heart does something complicated in his chest.

“Well it was good seeing you, Dex. I should, uh, catch up with Ginny, though, so uh, yeah. Thanks for grabbing my drink.”

With one last wave, Derek turns and exits the shop without doing anything embarassing like knocking over someone’s drink or stumbling over someone’s backpack.

Ginny bounces on the balls of her feet when he comes out.

“Wow, so he was definitely hot. Was that ok? Was he cool?”

“He is. It was. He was.”

“Cool, cool, cool.”

“Very chill.”

“But….?”

“Derek!” He turns and finds Will barrelling out the door behind  them.

“Dex?”

“Stop calling me that.”

“What difference does it make what I –”

“I just – What’re the chances we just run into each other again. I don’t know. I just wanted to hear –”

“Will.”

Will looks like Derek feels. A little bit punch-drunk, a little bit hopeful.

“Come to dinner with me.”

“Oooh! Go to dinner with him!”

Ginny.

“It just seems like a good idea!” Her whisper-shout is equal parts adorable and unchill.

“Please?”

“Yeah, ok.”

“Woooot!”

“I’m just gonna go drop her off. Somewhere. Anywhere.”

“Alright, I’ll text you the location.”


Sitting across from Will again is just as intense as Derek remembers it.

Will’s intentional, direct, interested, challenging in a way that leaves Nursey both breathless and keyed up.

It’s like being at Samwell again and not at all. None of the impatience, much more understanding, and so much hope.

“What’re we doing, Will?”

Brown eyes twinkle at him mischievously. “Eating dinner, Derek.”

“Dex.”

Will’s chuckle is warm and low and utterly devoid of anything defensive. Derek loves it.

“What do you want us to be doing?”

“It didn’t work out last time.”

“Yeah, but we were scared. And idiots.”

“We kinda were.”

“Me especially.”

“Will, no.”

“Derek, yes. I couldn’t see how you could possibly want me, especially when I wasn’t even there to remind you that I’m your favorite idiot to argue with. It drove me crazy to think about you with someon–”

The benefit of eating at the bar is not having a pesky table to stop you from cutting off dumb, beautiful, redheads ridiculousness with a long overdue kiss.

“I just wanted you.”

“I just want you, if that’s still an option.”

Definitely, still an option.”

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Tumblr is full of people who want to be good people. They want to fight hate. They don’t want to be problematic in any way. And that’s great! 

Just sometimes, sadly, trying very hard to not be problematic is..well, problematic in itself. 

Our focus should not be on being visibly great people. A certain desire for other people to see how great we are is natural and human. (It’s even beneficial as seeing someone being a kind person will inspire more people to be kind!)

It starts to turn ugly when being kind is not about kindness at all anymore and only about other people seeing how much better! kinder! purer! they are than anyone else. 

You’ll come across those people in lgbt+ spaces (especially online) a lot. 

They are the ones who send you messages accusing you of being homophobic because you reblogged a “Boys deserve positivity, too” post and didn’t specify you only meant gay boys because obviously saying something positive about straight boys is offensive and problematic and awful and oh my gosh, why do you hate gay boys?? You should be ashamed of yourself! 

(Sadly, how much nonsense their accusations are is not always as obvious as in this slightly exaggerated example.) 

It often seems like they actually do not care about making the world a better place. They just want to look better than the world. 

Of course it is easy to get sucked into that when you just start out with your (lgbt+) activism. The thought “I am a good person” feels rewarding and we human beings thrive with rewards. I can’t really blame them for their desire to attack everyone and everything that could potentially be problematic  - but I do want to point out that blindly attacking each other will never save the world. 

And I want to give you, especially when you are young and/or new to lgbt+ (online) spaces a piece of advice: Not every accusation is worth a reply. If someone calls you out, think about what they said and your own behavior, do apologize and change (your choice of words etc) if necessary - but keep in mind that sometimes it’ll be necessary and sometimes it won’t. Sometimes the accusation will be completely baseless, random or a misunderstanding on their part. If you feel like the person just wants to start a fight, the best reply is silence. 

Online discussions can be great. Most online fights are not worth your time. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

Yuri on Ice interview translation - Animage 2017/01 (p20-23)

I was going to post this last week but gave priority to the BD stuff. This will be the final interview from the booklet that came with January Animage! There’s still an interview with Kenji Miyamoto left untranslated, but it will be taken care of by @whiteboxgems​ whenever she has time! I’ll reblog it when it’s around.

This is actually 2 interviews, I’m posting them together because they were one after the other and (main reason) because the second one is very short.
A few notes below to better understand the interviews.

The first one is with Yuuichirou Hayashi, the one who created the ending (ED = ending by the way) footage. I have the feeling someone previously posted translations of the captions under the ED screenshots, but I don’t remember where and I’m pretty sure it was just the captions and not the interview parts, so here you have it complete. This one is pretty interesting because he explains in detail how they created the ED, and has some extra information on cut scenes etc. Definitely a must read in my opinion!

The second one is a short interview with Kayoko Ishikawa, the one who did the costume designs. Here you might think: didn’t Chacott design the costumes? I’ll explain. It’s more or less like with Mitsurou Kubo and Tadashi Hiramatsu: Kubo created the original designs for the characters, from scratch, and Hiramatsu transformed them into designs specifically created for animation, therefore with simpler lines, detailed expression sheets and so on. Likewise, Chacott did the original designs for the costumes, from scratch, based on the indications by Yamamoto and Kubo, and then the anime’s costume designer simplified and modified them so that they would be suitable to be animated. (Before actually animating them there’s a further step: the anime’s color designer is going to decide the exact colors, shadows and highlights included, that will be used inside the anime. I translated an interview with the color designer Izumi Hirose some time ago)

I usually don’t add pictures but this time I felt that it would be better to add them as an immediate reference. However, they are just for reference and are not meant to be visually stunning, so please bear with the quality because I just took photos of the magazine with my phone and quickly edited them.

Translation under the cut! (kind of image-heavy)

***If you wish to share this translation please do it by reblogging or posting a link to it***

***Re-translating into other languages is ok but please mention that this post is the source***

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Okay the thing about this is Harley Quinn is also an extremely sexual character and ALWAYS FUCKING HAS BEEN! She ENJOYS IT! The people making these posts are also the people posting about how women should be able to choose what they do with there bodies. In the Batman universe HARLEY CHOOSES TO BE SEXUAL AND ALWAYS HAS!! SUICIDE SQUAD DID NOT SEXUALIZE HER! SHE’S ALWAYS BEEN SEXUAL!

ever since her original appearance in 1992 where she wore a skin tight suit in a show meant for little kids

In the comic Mad Love 1994 she tries to sauce the Joker! Even wearing lingerie she’s still got a personality.

even the 2001 comic Harley Quinn had her drawn very explicitly for the time

In the 2002 TV show she wore an open top, seen as extremely inappropriate

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Let’s jump to 2008 where she was seen in Lego Batman and even made a sexy lego!

her 2009 apperance in Arkham Asylum, a game made for adults rather than children gave the creators a way to expand on the sexual undertones of her character and dress her accordingly 

Now that the media is more accepting of sexual characters and the NEW 52 reboot, the design for the 2011 Suicide Squad comic looks a bit hotter

and SHOCKER the 2011 Arkham City comes out less sexual than the comic book

With the new comics of course comes a new Harley Quinn in 2013

2015 marked the release of Arkham Knight

AND THEN SUICIDE SQUAD CAME OUT!!!

My point is Harley Quinn has ALWAYS been a character with sexual undertones, and as the original audience became adults and the world changed, Harley’s looks have changed to more display this characteristic. In Suicide Squad she was still funny, awesome, and did her best to encourage her team. She’s still the same Harley Quinn my dad grew up on. Just in a different package. Enjoy ALL Harley Quinns, not just the ones that fit your mindset on modesty. She’s not meant to be a modest person. 

EDIT Okay, so, apparently I did make a mistake. I’m sorry, the “you make me so thorny” line IS in fact an edit. I checked almost everything else in this post, and it took 2 hours to even make. So I’m depressed that that slipped by me. I am sorry. Please forgive me.
Advice For People Making Positivity Posts About Trans Guys

cw: mention of biological sex characteristics

Don’t:
Use the word “period” for the love of god… we have dysphoria for a reason? Mentioning the thing that women do is triggering as fuck because it makes us remember what’s going on down there and what our bodies do and we don’t want to remember this, at all. We’re not meant to be doing that, so just stop.

Do:
Use “monthly”/“sharkweek”

Don’t:
Refer to our CHEST as “breasts”. Again, this is triggering as fuck. None of us want to be reminded of the fact that we have breasts. Stop using female terms to refer to our body, please. Yes, our body is what it is and we do have a female body we know this, we’re not indenial, but using terms that are commonly associated with women when we are not women is not okay. Just stop.

Do:
Use the word “chest”

Don’t:
Call our private parts “vagina”… oh my god. Why does this need to be said, really like, why would you even say that at all. I honestly can’t say anything that I haven’t already said.

Do:
Use “down below”/“privates/private parts”/“penis”/“bottom area”

Don’t:
PUT ATTENTION ON OUR BODY PARTS. We don’t want to hear things like “to the guys with big hips”, “to the guys with feminine/high voices” and “to the guys with curves" etc. It is just focusing on the fact that our body is this way and we’re trying as much as possible to make our body what it should be.

These things are all examples of social dysphoria that can trigger sex dysphoria. Please. I’m on T and this shit still annoys me because I remember seeing this all pre-T and it made me so dysphoric. You’re just hurting other guys. Words are words, true, but they still hurt especially when we have dysphoria about these parts. Guys don’t want to come across a post that’s meant to make them feel good, read the first line and it says “To the guys with large breasts you are valid!” get that out of here! You are being so inconsiderate to what we suffer with and if you are trans, maybe tone it down and think about other people?

Reminder: we are not women, so stop talking about our parts in female terms.

Before I get that one person, obviously if you are speaking medically/giving medical advice then yes, there is no way around this but any other time, work around it. I’m sorry if this post has come across harsh but legit, it needs to be said.

how many people have talked about that scene after Steven brings Lars back to life and he’s like “I’m sorry it was an accident and I didn’t ask your permission” because like I’m gonna fucking cry, the boy literally resurrected a dead person and one of the first things he does is apologize because he didn’t have consent like ajsjshdjdjjf I cannot begin to stress just how much I fucking adore this show and how it keeps avidly pointing out how important it is to have someone’s consent before you do anything to their body (even if it’s reviving them like???)

god, I can’t tell you how great this shit is

Greetings, all! I hope you’re having a good day! Today, I’ll be giving a small, practical tutorial for a neat new altar/workspace setup I’ve recently been using.

I developed the idea out of necessity, because it takes up less space. It is quite safe if you’re burning things, and looks nice and elegant. I hope you enjoy this tutorial and even try it!

I’m sorry I don’t have any pictures of my own, but it looks wonky because it’s small and I’ve been using it a lot. I may post some pictures of it after I do some cleaning!

To begin, you need a large tabletop planter or flowerpot sort of thing! You want the kind that large houseplants go in. In theory, you could use a planter meant to set on the floor/ground. 

I prefer a tabletop one so I can set it next to my Tarot space on the table. The concept is the same, either way!

Choose one that looks nice to you! It should fit with your view of your craft, whatever that means to you, personally! Availability is an issue, but if you’re able to order online, there are a lot of nice options.

You can also get a simple, plain and functional one. You could decorate it with paint and such, if you like. Either way, it should not be plastic or flimsy. You want something ceramic and large, with a wide opening.

You also want one that is quite deep, at least a couple inches or more. If it’s too deep and big, you might have trouble moving it around. You don’t want that, but still, choose one that is exactly as large as you can manage.

Place it on a table where you’re planning to do most of your work. You might consider this your altar, or a workspace. I call mine a workspace, but it can function as an altar sometimes, too. Your space is, of course, yours, and only you can decide how you think of it!

I put mine on a table right next to where I’ve laid out a cloth for my Tarot and Lenormand readings. I also keep my working charm bottles on the same table, as well as other tools. If you have less space, a small nightstand table can work fine, provided the planter fits on it and is stable.

Once you’ve got the planter in place, go out and get some sand. I used really grainy sand, but fine sand should work, too.

You don’t want large pebbles (or even small ones). You want sand! You can get some at a home and garden store, especially in the summer. Buy a small amount, but enough to fill the planter.

Then, fill the planter with the sand. You want it full, but not piled up. Make it level, and don’t fill it all the way to the top. Leave some space.

Now that it’s done, what the heck do you do with it? Well, you can…

  • Place burning incense sticks into the sand, allowing the ashes to fall into the sand.
  • Place candles deep into the sand, such that it acts as a sturdy candleholder for them.
  • Lay out gemstones in the sand to form a crystal grid or pattern.
  • Sketch sigils and symbols into the sand with your fingers or a stick.
  • Leave offerings to deities and spirits. Be sure to remove them if they’re perishable, once they’ve served their purpose!
  • There’s a lot more that you can do, limited only by your imagination! You can also simply have a relaxing time playing in your mini-sandbox altar!

I would recommend only using this altar for positive purposes. I’m not one to shame or be a jerk about curses and such, though. The thing is, this altar is unique! The sand collects fragments of your spell ingredients. 

This imbues the altar and sand with your collective intentions. Of course, you want to make it a truly welcoming place for you. I’d suggest doing baneful work elsewhere and leave this altar for the positive things! That’s my view, anyways.

After a while, the altar and sand will be deeply tied to you on a magical level. They will have absorbed your intentions and energy. This means that the sand itself is even useful!

Sometimes, you might do a spell away from your altar, too. In that case, you can use bits of the sand to add the strength of your essence to the working. You can use the sand as a sort of magical signature.

Of course, you will need to change the sand eventually. I recommend doing this at major turning points in your magical journey. Save some of the old sand in a bottle, and using it as a symbol (in spells, or just in general) of time in your life!

I hope this article gave you some fun ideas for creating a magical workspace!

I cannot believe this has to be said again and again, but some of ya’ll seem to forget it every couple of months.

Tumblr user “billielovesadrienneforever” is a stalker.

She has been quiet for a while after being called out several times in the not so distant past for publishing sensitive information about Billie Joe’s family members, that I do not want to repeat here, posting private photos and videos, and publicly bragging about who in Billie Joe’s environment lets her follow them to generate more followers herself. She has deleted posts after people asked her to, but has never learned anything and was never sincere with her “sorry”s, because this has happened time and time and time again.

We all know that Billie Joe’s beloved dog Rocky died a couple of days ago, because of the post he made on Instagram. But wait, one DAY before he got a chance to share the news with his followers though, she decided she could exploit his personal tragedy to get attention:

Excuse me, his dog walker’s instagram? His dog walker’s private instagram, with posts that are clearly not meant to be public? It’s disturbing enough that she harasses (yes, stalking is harassment) his friends and family, but his DOG WALKER? What’s next, his hair stylist’s snapchat? His mailman’s facebook? You just can’t make that shit up. 

That last message is especially sickening: “How do you think?:p ;)” … 
“I know something you don’t, and I’ll be vague about it and smugly look down on you, because I tricked my way into the Inner Circle™ and I will use every opportunity I get to brag about it. I also see no problem with taking away Billie’s personal right to inform the public about a loved one’s death, invading his privacy by sharing information I don’t know he’d be willing to share and I feel perfectly comfortable making his decisions for him to get attention in form of followers and messages on social media.”

Well, you’re getting attention.

It’s creepy. It’s invasive. It’s disgusting. It’s disrespectful. It’s shameful. It’s sickening.

Billie Joe and his family are PEOPLE. Their private lives are not your entertainment and you have no right exploiting them.

I have blocked this person long ago and I would encourage you all to do the same, because let me tell you, I am sick of seeing people reblog her posts on my dashboard and interacting with her. Vague posts made about her get hundreds of notes, and while there is nothing wrong with that, people need to know her name, because most of the people who reblog these posts don’t know who tf everyone is shading. 

This is not a call to sending her hate messages, but a call to ignoring her. Unfollow her. Block her. Don’t interact with her. Don’t give her the platform she wants.

PS: Yes, you can reblog this.