Quick thought about Lance’s vlog and reasons why he’s girl-crazy
I already kinda talked about this while answering an ask, but i wanted to make a post about it where all my thoughts are in order lolol
I’ve seen a few posts about people being disappointed in Lance’s vlog, and I totally get it. I really wanted him to talk about his family more, and not just girls. But! I did notice something while watching Lance talk about Allura that kinda makes me think there’s a legit reason Lance is so girl-crazy.
I think Lance has a really hard time loving himself. We’ve seen multiple times that he considers himself the least valuable on the team, and that he’s already kind of accepted that he doesn’t have a lion anymore (he talks about Blue like she belongs to Allura and he talks about Red like he still belongs to Keith)
I think the only way he can feel loved is if someone else loves him. That paired with the very obvious fact that he’s a hopeless romantic, are two big reasons he’s so obsessed with getting a girlfriend. I don’t think it’s because he’s horny or a shallow character or anything. I think it all boils down to his self-esteem issues.
Lance uses to have a big family that he could rely on, and that he could be loved by. Now that they’re gone, girls are the next best source of that Love for him. He thinks that if he has a girlfriend, he will feel valid, and like he matters.
I honestly think that loving another person helps him feel better about himself, and that he tries to make his love for others somehow circle back to himself, since he can’t figure out how to value himself.
I think that’s why in the vlog, when Lance starts daydreaming about Allura, he say “yeah…. she’s great.” and then catches himself and says “I mean, she probably thinks IM great.” Immediately turning his love for Allura back on himself to feel validated.
I also think that’s why he said “She probably thinks IM great…and strong…and pretty–” He’s using the words he would use to describe her to describe himself, because I think there’s a part of him that genuinely loves and values her, and he just wants to feel that way about himself, too. Almost like he’s trying to take on what he loves about others, so that he and everyone else will love him for the same reasons.
It’s probably a very subconscious coping mechanism for him, and he doesn’t realize he’s doing it (and i may be reaching quite a bit in this post, but whatever lol its fun to speculate)
Jeremy Shada himself said that Lance would get “a buttload” of character development in future seasons, and that it would be crazy. So i don’t think we need to worry about Lance ending up being just shallow comic relief. I think Lance is still hiding behind his loverboy persona so that others wont see, and that he can deny, that he’s really hurting inside. And I think we’re getting little hints at that, we just have to look really hard.