a post about my academic and personal life

How To Survive College (if I could do it, so can you)

So I’m finally graduating college and I figured I’d made a list of quick survival tips to make everyone’s experience easier. Going into college at 18 can be a complicated experience, especially since it’s normal to still feel insecure at that age about what to do and how to go about this ‘pseudo-adult’ thing. So, here’s what I can share with you new-comers (and not so new) to make your life easier:

  • Avoid 7am classes at (almost) all costs. Look, if you’ve been in Tumblr around long enough you’ve heard about this one, you know we all tell you this is not like High School. It’s all real. You’ll hate yourself and your naiveness every morning of the semester.
    • Exception: if that is the only time you can take that class, make sure to check whether it’ll be offered next semester or whether you might need to credit that course in order to take other ones. Early mornings might be worth it in exchange for not loosing a whole year of classes and struggling in your later semesters.
  • Your health comes first. Seriously. This is not some “Tumblr self-care uwu” thing, it’s very important especially if you wanna do your best in your classes and day to day things. Eat healthy. Hungry students might be prone to just eating whatever they can find or lots of take-out but that will only leave you filling too full and sleepy, you could miss a whole afternoon of doing useful shit because of a bad meal. 
  • On that note: eat. No excuses. No “I forgot”. No “I was too busy”. Being hungry makes it harder to concentrate, plus if you’re living away from home you won’t have anyone nagging at you to make sure you’ve eaten. You need to be a grown up and take care of yourself. 
  • All-Nighters are the WORST. For real. You don’t realize how important sleep is until it becomes a scarce thing in your life. When you sleep, your brain tosses away useless information, reboots, and most importantly: saves things you’ve learnt into your long-therm memory. So if you spend all night cramming for a test, you’re just wasting time. You didn’t learn shit. Plus, lack of sleep can increase alcohol levels in your blood. So you’ll end up attending to class exhausted, feeling foggy, not remembering shit and drunk-ish. Not good for tests at all. 
  • Don’t even give a fuck about popularity. I know, this sounds like something out of The Breakfast Club, but I’m serious. It might have been “a thing” in High School, but in College? No one gives a flying fuck. You’ll notice this mostly with the older students. They are all exhausted, stressed, sleep-deprived and just trying to survive. You might see a guy on his pijamas strolling through campus on a skate board and I promise no one will think “lol what a loser”. Everyone’s thinking “damn I should’ve worn my PJ’s too”. Pretending to be someone you’re not is a damn waste of time and effort.
  • Open up in class. Not in a “tell them all your secrets” kinda way, just be yourself. I know: cheesy. But listen, you’re studying to do what you love —or at least, I hope, what you like— to do. So are the people around you. Which means they may have a lot more in common with you than you might ever dream. By being yourself, you’ll attract others like you and find a cool group of friends who understand you way better than the “we just happened to have a class together” high school friends. 
  • Join extracurriculars! This is related to the two previous points. The fastest way to meet new people that are like you —especially in a big college where actually getting to meet people can be hard— is joining an activity. It can be a sport, a club, a student council. It doesn’t matter as long as it’s something you like doing. Believe me, there are a lot more people that share your interests than you might initially think. Especially do this in your first semesters, when you’re likely to have easier classes and more free time to do this kinda stuff. As some one who did a lot of things in the past four years, trust me, I used to see guys you’d go straight home after their classes and they had a lot harder time adapting than those of us with a full schedule of fun stuff. 
  • Find time for yourself too. Especially if you’re an introvert, “me time” will be important for your mental health. 
  • Exercise. Find time for it. I know an extra hour of studying or lying around might seem more “useful” to you, but stress can be very high at college and it’s a major reason for people to end up failing classes or having a hard time. An hour of exercise every now and then can do wonders for you, especially in finals (even though it might seem it’s harder to find the time in those dates, it’s twice as worth it).
  • Don’t be scared to be alone. Like I mentioned before, popularity doesn’t exist here. You gotta eat alone between classes? No one gives a damn. You need to sit on your computer alone while doing homework at the library? So do tons of people. I knew friends who wouldn’t eat at college unless they found someone to sit down and eat with them too. Honestly? Not worth it. 
  • Get to know your teachers. Many of them will show up again later on to give you other classes so knowing how each of them operates will make your life easier. Some teachers care the most about punctuality, some grade creativity over content, some (more than you can imagine) will turn out to be awesome friends. 
    • For example: if you have a teacher who is closer to your age, they might be a lot tougher the first few weeks of classes in an attempt to set boundaries with the students and build up respect, work hard at first and they’ll ease up as time goes by. 
  • Reach out when you need help. Whether it is to your friends, your parents, your teachers or a counsellor, there are tons of people to give you a hand when you’re struggling academically or personally. Asking when in doubt, or when you need help, will make your life easier than if you try to do everything by yourself. 

There’s probably more specific stuff that I’ll post now and then if I remember, but this are the general guidelines I’d give to anyone starting out at college. Finally, my inbox is always open for anyone who wants to reach out and ask stuff about classes, friends, etc. People have come to me before wanting to know how to write essays or study and I’ll try to give the best advice I can. 

Good luck! :)

anonymous asked:

Hi! I just wanted to say, I loved your presentation on misogynoir in fandom spaces. As someone else who is queer, black, female, and in fandom, it's refreshing to see explained that fandom racism isn't just "X person called me or Y character a racial slur." Do you have any advice on how to deal with white fans who do inadvertently racist things, and how to explain to them that what they're doing IS racist? (P.S. Did you hear about Philadelphia's changes to their pride flag?)

*blows kisses @ you*

I’m so glad that you loved my presentation!! And I did see the pride flag changes and I’m actually super pleased because wow is it hard to get white queer people to acknowledge that we exist. Here’s hoping that this not only sticks in Philly, but that other Pride groups adopt the new look and work to make these queer spaces and events more accessible to people of color.

Okay so one of the things I learned very early on in fandom that you can never guess how a person will react to you talking about racism in a thing they like or have done. Because you can’t predict behavior or control it. 

And, because many white fans don’t see (or want to see) the racism in things they do or what they like, you can’t always expect any commentary you give to go over well. Even if you frame it in simple, unaccusatory language.

So first, when dealing with white fans who accidentally do racist things (or who don’t know that the things they’re doing on purpose are racist - i.e., erasing Candice Patton from her own narrative because I’m still quite mad about that), the important thing is to only bite off what you can chew. 

Sometimes, when dealing with fandom’s racist nonsense as a fan of color, all you can do is block, mock, and move on. 

Some people don’t want to know that they’ve done something racist and have no interest in learning. You can give them links, offer to hold their hands, and reassure them that they’re “not really racist” all you want and those people will still react like you asked them to lick your shoe rather than get introspective about their fandom activities.

Never waste your time and energy on people who don’t want to learn. 

But: here are some things to keep in mind when you talk/write about fandom racism (either to people or about them) that might help!

  1. Few people in fandom believe that personal experiences with race/racism as a person of color counts as a legitimate source. So if you back your post or comments up with personal experience, brace yourself. Be prepared for people to straight up mock you for pointing out that they’re replicating real life racism that you’ve experienced.
  2. Link to established bloggers and writers in and out of fandom who talk about racism in the way you’re talking about them. Quote them. I adore @diversehighfantasy and reference her blog constantly. I also quote academics like Rukmini and Lori who I mentioned in my presentaton who’ve written expansively on race in fandom (in different areas). 
  3. A lot of the useful resources won’t be related directly to fandom. Example: if you, like me, write a lot about how sex and kink work in fandom with characters of color, look for work along the lines of Ariane Cruz’s The Color of Kink which doesn’t talk about fandom, but about sexuality and Black female bodies. You can apply stuff not of fandom to fandom pretty easily as long as you’re willing to work for the connection.
  4. Back in the day, on my first social justice blog which was basically about politics and the MCU fandom, I learned quickly that fellow fans basically turn off their reading comprehension skills the second they see the word racism. Because at that point, it becomes the only thing they can focus on and you become the mean person calling them a racist. Be prepared for that. 
  5. You know that thing folks do when you say something is problematic or bad just casually and they’re like “SOURCE?” all expectantly because they’re too lazy to google (and, for some of them, want you to fail at sourcing your arguments)? Drown them in sources. This is basically like a follow up to 2 and 3, but I mean, really go for it. Make them work in their attempts to debate with you (and even folks who “get” racism sometimes fall into this trap of “but what about x” when talking about racism in fandom.)
  6. Ask for help if you need it. It doesn’t always occur to people that you can reach out and go “I need help wording something or explaining this thing to someone”

The most important thing to remember when engaging with people in fandom who are doing racist things either on accident because they don’t get it or on purpose because they don’t want to is that you can always tap out if you need to.

Fandom is supposed to be fun and it’s okay if, after trying your best to educate someone about racism in fandom and falling flat, you just decide to move on. I do it all the time. If I write hundreds of words explaining why something is racist to someone and they brush it off because their sacred fannish ~squee~ is just so dang important, I block them and move forward because I deserve a chance to protect my own squee sometimes. 

And so do you.

(I’m also unsure if I made any sense because it’s almost 2AM and I definitely went into ramble mode. If you need anything, feel free to hop in my inbox and you have nudge me if it’s something you need or want answered ASAP!)

All the Reasons Why I Like Drew

The Big Essay

To truly celebrate this Drew Day, I’d like to talk about why I like Drew and what he means to me. This whole blog is kind of dedicated to that idea, but it’s not all stated outright, and definitely not all in one post. So…. here’s the granddaddy of them all. Happy reading! :D

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Advice from a College Senior at Berkeley

Long post! This is definitely based off of my personal experience but some might find it useful. I am not a super social person, but I managed straight As most semesters, was involved in clubs and a Cappella, had 2 part time jobs at one point, and did research for 2 years. See below the cut to find more academic, research, and Berkeley specific advice.

If anyone actually reads this, ask me if you have any questions about school, life, research, Berkeley, food, or nutrition!

Apartment Related~

Things you need for your apartment that you might not have considered:

  • can opener
  • wine corker (even if you don’t drink you might want one for cooking)
  • a second trash can for recyclables
  • good quality food storage, esp. ones that can be baked or microwaved in
  • quality mug, tea, coffeemaker, whatever will prevent you from buying overpriced coffee on or around campus
  • pepper spray
  • plunger
  • sink/bathroom declogging detergent
  • fan
  • something to kill wall/ceiling bugs, such as a vacuum with hose or a swiffer sweeper without the cloth
  • air fresheners
  • quarters
  • an extra laundry basket or bag for clean clothes, because no way will you fold everything right away and you need space as more dirties pile up
  • flashlights and candles for power outages
  • tool kit and first aid kit

Things I bought that I didn’t really use:

  • hair products– just had no time
  • Brita filter– tap ended up being just fine and I got too lazy to clean/replace filters

Food advice from a nutrition major~

  • don’t share food with your roommate, especially perishables
  • don’t buy more fresh food than you can reasonably eat in a few days/a week
  • use going out to eat as a social activity, not your primary source of meals. You will save SO MUCH money and eat SO MUCH healthier
  • Investing in quality caffeine and accessories at home saves you SO MUCH TIME AND MONEY

School, Work, and Research Related~

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How to say ‘ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS’ and other charming phrases in Latin

In my Tiberius post I used this phrase in a veeery loose rendition of a passage of Tacitus (Annals 1.74) and a couple of people have enquired about it.

Disclosure: you have no idea how much it means to me that people are still reblogging that post. I read ALL your tags. A couple of people wrote that they thought of The Goblin Emperor by Katherine Addison so I ACTUALLY WENT AND BOUGHT IT. (I really enjoyed it btw so thanks, whoever put that.) 

Seriously though, I studied Tiberius during a very difficult period in my life, and the academic process of sifting through all the biased evidence we have about him was really inspiring. I firmly believe that you can have personal investment in an ancient figure or story and still write about it with references. I’m proud that I was able to do that, and I’m pinching myself that people have actually READ it and I actually… made a DIFFERENCE… to what people have always thought???? On this website I see lots of people, aspiring classicists still in high school, with the same love and enthusiasm as me and I have no doubt some of you will be GREAT classicists and I hope I inspire just a few of you to see that you can channel your love into informed statements. I say that because at school we often get the idea you’re supposed to be serious and sober if you know your stuff. Fuck that. You can be serious and passionate.

AHEM sorry about that little spiel. Here is what the Latin passage I referenced actually says. You will see that it doesn’t actually give Tiberius any words in direct speech at all. I extrapolated. But I think it was a legit conjecture XD

sed Marcellum insimulabat sinistros de Tiberio sermones habuisse, inevitabile crimen, cum ex moribus principis foedissima quaeque deligeret accusator obiectaretque reo. nam quia vera erant, etiam dicta credebantur. addidit Hispo statuam Marcelli altius quam Caesarum sitam, et alia in statua amputato capite Augusti effigiem Tiberii inditam. ad quod exarsit adeo, ut rupta taciturnitate proclamaret se quoque in ea causa laturum sententiam palam et iuratum, quo ceteris eadem necessitas fieret. manebant etiam tum vestigia morientis libertatis. igitur Cn. Piso ‘quo’ inquit ‘loco censebis, Caesar? si primus, habebo quod sequar: si post omnis, vereor ne inprudens dissentiam.’ permotus his, quantoque incautius efferverat, paenitentia patiens tulit absolvi reum criminibus maiestatis: de pecuniis repetundis ad reciperatores itum est.

But [Hispo, the informer] accused Marcellus of having had improper conversations about Tiberius, a charge from which there was no escape, when the accuser picked the foulest things he had to say about the princeps’ ways/mannerisms and levelled them at the defendant. For the fact that they were true meant that it was also believed that they were actually said. Hispo added that Marcellus had had a statue of himself placed higher than one of Caesar [Tiberius], and that on another statue he had chopped off the head of Augustus and replaced it with one of Tiberius. At this, [Tiberius] flared up so violently, that he broke his silence and declared that he too would give a verdict on this case, openly and under oath, to oblige all the others to do the same. Even then there remained traces of dying freedom. Therefore Gnaeus Piso said, ‘When will you give your opinion, Caesar? If you go first, I’ll have an example to follow; if you go last, I’m afraid of dissenting unintentionally.’ Troubled by this and by how he had been caught off guard and lost his temper, he was tolerant in his embarrassment, and allowed the defendant to be absolved of the charges of treason: the charge of extortion was referred to the assessors.

But I thought you might all like to know a few ways to express frustration in Latin. The Romans were a dramatic bunch, they spoke with gestures (forensic oratory was physically tiring) and their register changes were subtler; phrases that mean pretty much the same thing in English are actually quite different in tone. 

There are probably many more ingenious phrases I’ve forgotten at the moment, but I think I’ve covered the basics. These are all things that Romans actually said. None is actually an obscenity in Latin but accompanied with the gestures I imagine they probably were XDDDD

ain vero? (’seriously?’ but use it for ‘are you serious’ about something you’re excited about, when you want the person to be telling the truth)

verumne dicis? (’are you telling the truth?’ neutrally)

num vera istaec praedicas? (’you can’t be serious?’ with a tone of mild horror)

satin sanu’s?* / satin sana’s?* (’are you in your right mind?’)

quid ais, sacrilege* / sacrilega* (’what are you saying, you fiend?’)

molestus/molesta* or odiosus/odiosa* mihi es (you’re annoying me -> you’re pissing me off) 

temulentu’s* / temulenta’s* (’go home you’re drunk’)

* -us ending is masculine, -a ending is feminine. Latin had only these two grammatical genders for people and they corresponded to biological sex (of the person/thing being described, not the speaker) i.e. man or woman. There’s no way round this in classical Latin. If you’d like me to talk about this, shoot me an ask. 

ludis iam ludo tuo? (’are you taking the piss?’ this one courtesy of Plautus)

fabularis / garris (’bullshit!’ okay literally the first one means ‘you are reciting fables’ and the second one ‘you’re prattling’)

nil moror (’I don’t much care for [that]’)

hem quae haec est fabula? (’what is this story?!’)

monstra narras (’no way’ accompanied by dramatic gasp, e.g. ‘what a thing to say!’ literally ‘you’re recounting outrageous things’)

di deaeque me perdant! (’for fuck’s sake!’ This is a phrase Tiberius actually used, it literally means ‘may the gods and goddesses strike me down’)

sane quam… / scilicet quod… (’because of course…’ sarcasm markers, start a sentence with one of these and it’s an automatic burn)

tace + opsecro + hercle (’will you shut up!’ you can use tace on its own, add opsecro for drama, add hercle for melodrama depending on how annoyed you are)

occidi / perii / morior (’fuck’. They all literally mean ‘I am dead’ or ‘I’m dying’)

actumst de me (literally ‘it is finished with me’, you can use this for ’I’m 100% done’)

i in malam crucem (’fuck off!’ literally ‘go to an awful cross!’)


02/05/17 • 10:11PM // my boyfriend and i are reading the joy luck club by amy tan together as our two person book club, and i’ve just finished it! a little bit in i started using tiny post it notes to flag bits i wanted to talk about, so here’s a sampler of my very academic comments lol. i’m pretty happy with the “freckled fool” one, i’m gonna have to give that a go in real life when i’m irritated with someone with freckles… anyway, this is the first book i’ve read for proper fun times in a good while, and it feels really damn good to be doing something i used to love so much but kind of gave up after ~life~* distracted me. :)

interpreting the existence of hetalia personifications

So, @yosb and I were talking about our interpretations of hetalia personifications and it…got way more academic than either of us anticipated so. Hence, this post to sort out and articulate my thoughts because it is incredibly interesting how differently we interpret hetalia personifications based on our own life experiences and background.

Here are the questions to think about in regards to the existence of hetalia personifications:

What do you consider the personification to be the personification of? 
What does this “nation” represent?

There are a variety of answers, but what I commonly find includes: land, people, government, culture, and history─  as well as how much the personification themselves have their own personal identity. These are all important factors to consider, and what’s most interesting to me is that everyone has a very unique interpretation of what percentage of these factors make up personification’s existence.

My personal interpretation is that a personification is based upon IDENTITY

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The last time I posted something on here, I was still in high school—I don’t even remember if I had submitted my college applications yet.

I graduated about a month ago. Senior year got the best of me. I was so overwhelmed with AP courses, extra curricular activities, and maintaining a social life because it was going to be my last hurrah with certain people that I completely neglected this account.

Academic updates:
• I passed two out of the three AP exams I took this year.

• I got straight A’s in almost every single course I took during senior year with the exception of two classes, however; I’m not dreading on the fact because I know I did the best I could.

• I will be attending San Jose State University this fall, which is about a five and a half hour drive from Los Angeles where I’ve lived all my life.

• I will be starting an online math course literally tomorrow so I’m hoping I can update you all on that aspect of my academic life.

I was scrolling through my feed for a couple minutes and posts I saw here inspired me so much and I really hope I can be more consistent when I start uni in the fall.

Shout out to the Harry Potter series for constantly being able to bring magic, love and excitement into my life, no matter where I am, no matter how old I get.

Shout out to Ron, for reminding me that humour is valuable, and so is devotion.
Shout out to Hermione, for inspiring my academic journey as well as teaching me that life is not just about how smart you are, but about how you live your life and the people you surround yourself with.
Shout out to Harry Potter, the person who started it and showed all of us that magic is real, inside and out.

And JK Rowling, thanks. For sweeping me into a beautiful world that has kept me going since I was 8 years old. Thank you. Happy 20th to the boy who lived.

I am really looking forward to about nine weeks from now, when alls y’all will suddenly be cursed with an outpouring of photos and ancedotes from Rome and Berkeley and London. 

And the roughly five million snapchats that prove I should never be left in a museum unattended.

And every single post I’ve liked since March in that vague sort of I-want-to-address-this-with-more-than-an-untagged-reblog-later kind of way.

Because there’s a lot of those.

And maybe I’ll even have a queue set up.

And this quiet person who mostly just likes and posts twice a week is suddenly going to morph back into this chatty fucker who sends too many messages and wants to get to know all of you better and argue about posts and show you pictures of her cats/interesting local trees.

And for those of you who’ve only followed me during this rather academic period of my life wherein I have been mostly distracted from this glorious internet of things: I am so sorry.

I want to address an aspect of the damage of dog whispering post since it’s been shared again.

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback about problems with the tone used up describe Millan’s background. I originally made the choice to include his status as an immigrant with no academic background due to how heavily he personally emphasizes it in his books - in the texts, it is a presented as a pivotal part of his identity and what shaped his career. I relied heavily on Millan’s own works to shape my description of him to match how he chooses to represent himself, and a large part of his chosen narrative is that his life in Mexico before coming to the states led to an organic and intuitive understanding of dog behavior, uninfluenced by popular culture or academic research. I felt it would be negligent to not include that in my representation of his career.

I haven’t edited it since receiving feedback because the text has been published in multiple places and languages and in order to retain intellectual copyright the text needs to stay consistent. I accept that even though it’s factually accurate it should have been phrased better - remember, I wrote it at age 18 - but there’s not a way to change previously published versions retroactively.

How to not let bad things affect you

I realize that the title of this post is super vague but whatever. I recently went through something big in my personal life and it was bad. Like, I didn’t go to class and didn’t eat bad. Rationally, I knew I needed to go on, but emotionally I just felt unmotivated, like it was easier to not do anything. Ever been there? Ya. I searched left right and center for answers as to how to move on and not let it affect my school or work. But here we are in the present, and I’m think I’m fine. I hated the way I felt and I don’t want anyone else to feel that way. I follow a lot of you who follow me and see that you’re all dedicated people, and honestly sometimes seeing YOUR posts are what keep me motivated (so many of ya’ll are in pre-med or pre-law and working your butts off and I’m over here like heeey psych and criminal justice major holla) and keep me working hard so I wanted to give back because no one deserves to feel in the dark and have any less of a good future had the bad something not happened.

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chivalryrevived  asked:

Hi Halley. First off, I love you and your blog. Second, I have a question. Since you're the only person I know who could help me and posesses over enough expertise, I want to ask you if you know a topic for a fashion history thesis?. I know you're not here to solve everyone's problems, but you post about current historical fashion debates and Idk where to start or what the status is and others don't take fashion history seriously. If you reply, please do so in private. Much love and admiration.

I’m gonna post this to the page so that everyone can see it and give you answers.

Honestly, I’m probably not the best person to come to if you’re looking to write about fashion academically.  I have ADD and I had to leave the more traditional college path because, well, I can write a historical novel but I can’t write an academic paper to save my life.  I’m for the most part self-educated about history and fashion, and I use OMGTD not only to learn but to present my knowledge in ways that fits me and how my brain works.  

But, that being said, there’s a million different approaches you can take to interpreting fashion.  The other day, while I was at my volunteer job at the Tampa History Center, I gave my boss a very quick and basic run-down of how to date clothing by decade (We have a lot of un-dated photographs in the collection so being able to narrow the date down to a period of ten years or less is a really helpful skill), and she said that I might be able to give a lecture at the TBHC about the history of fashion, which sounds like something awesome I’d love to do.  So I’ve sort of been thinking about how to best present a quick and easy-to-understand presentation about the last 300 years of fashion, and I couldn’t stop getting hung up on the details of what made fashion change: first and foremost the advance of technology and advances in travel, manufacturing, and trade, but also major socio-political changes like the decline of the royal court and the rise of the industrial bourgeoisie.  Really, you could just pick your favorite era of clothing and write about the broader themes that made that particular style of dress possible.  

For example, I’m fond of the 1920s, so I could write about how the European nobility that had been declining since the French and American revolutions had lost all their money in WW1 and was finally pretty much dying out.  This meant that even among the wealthy, it was considered impractical and overly-extravagant to have clothing that required a maid to help you dress every day.  Young women were becoming independent, so they wore loose clothes that were easy to move around in and easy to put on yourself.  With the change in social mores regarding modesty, alcohol, and dancing, formal dresses became shorter than ever before, and were decorated with spangles, fringe, and ruffles that all exaggerated movement while dancing.  And that’s just scratching the surface.  Because of steam ships, automobiles, and even airplanes, travel was easier than ever, so interest in orientalism in fashion reaches its peak, and dresses made of imported silks and embroideries are very popular.  The discovery of King Tut’s tomb made all things Egyptian all the rage.  There’s also the invention of rayon and other synthetic fabrics as an inexpensive substitute for silk, and the rise of department stores and ready-to-wear garments that meant the middle class could get in on being fashionable more than they ever could before.

Anyway, I don’t know if any of this is actually helpful, but you can see that fashion is a pretty rich goldmine of social history, and there are a million different approaches you can take to analyzing it academically.