Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the best
thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
And you need to stop feeling ashamed of:
• being hairy
• having boobs that don’t look like perfect round porn boobs
• having no boobs!
• stretch marks
• curves in the “wrong place”
• wobbly bits
• dark circles under your eyes
• “big pores”
• “uneven skin tone”
• anything your body does naturally that isn’t an indicator of a health problem and that society wants you to change for the male gaze
• there are only two genders
• black people can be racist
• women can be sexist
• not wanting to date someone because they are trans is not transphobic
• gender is not a social construct
• gender is not a spectrum
• biological sex is indeed a thing
• transage is disturbing
• otherkin is insane and not real
• women can rape and abuse
• you have to have dysphoria to be trans
• there are only four sexualities.
• micro aggressions are ridiculous
• fat acceptance is harmful
• women in the west are not oppressed
• there is no rape culture
• it is not sexual harassment or objectification to compliment a woman’s appearance
• men are not scary or aggressive
• women aren’t angels
• men and women aren’t the same
• dysphoria is a mental illness
• trans people should go to the bathroom of the gender they pass as.
-from a bisexual transman who is sick of your bullshit.
#Protip: If you only tag your posts “women astronauts,” “women artists,” etc., search engines will continue to only show men when people search for “astronauts” and “artists.”
I use both generic and gendered tags: gendered tags so my posts can be found by people who are specifically looking for “women artists” for example, but also the generic ones so Google and AI can understand that women aren’t the “plus one” of every profession.
Update: when I posted this last night, I wanted to add the quote below but it was late and I couldn’t find it at the time.
At the same time, in terms of some of the critical comments I’ve seen, I’d like to note that it doesn’t help the cause for us to turn on allies who haven’t reached “advanced feminist consciousness” yet. You have to walk before you can run.
I’m sure Will Arnett learned a lot at the march!
I’m not saying give him feminist of the year. I’m saying we’re trying to expand the amount of people who care about gender equality, and we can point out the missing piece of an argument without rejecting it entirely, like so:
“Hey it’s great that you care about your loved ones and don’t want to see them oppressed. I want to point out though that people’s worth shouldn’t be dependent on what they mean to us personally. Women don’t deserve rights because of how much they mean to men - they deserve rights because they are human beings. A caring person should care about justice and not just “what does this mean to me and my immediate circle.”
This way we’re not punishing people for taking a first step, we’re encouraging them to keep going on the path of awareness > empathy > action.