a helpful tip

Gently throws this post at you

Stop telling young/novice artists ther art is “cringy” and “shitty” and “only fun to laugh at” it’s stupid and gross and just makes you look like a douche canoe.

If I had been harassed at such a young vulnerable stage of my art career I would have quit without a second thought.

To all young/novice artists:
I am here to support you! If you want tips or help with ideas or critiques I’m here to that

Don’t let anyone make you quit what you are doing

You don’t have to be prefect yet but it’s okay to make that somethin you strive for

It is okay to be PROUD OF YOUR ART even if it isn’t of highest quality compared to others

I’m so proud of you for sharing your art and being creative and I love what you do keep it up.

I love to follow novice artists the always surprise me with their improvement.

Moon Phase Guide ✨

hi! I threw together a general list of moon phases and how they can best be utilized when working with magick. Many witches/magick practitioners like to work their rituals around specific phases, due to the certain energy it may bring!:

🌙 Waxing Crescent: new beginnings, starting projects, future plans
🌙 First Quarter: attracting outside forces into your own life (money, people, success)
🌙 Waxing Gibbous: finishing abandoned projects, giving new birth to your strength, and gaining a general “boost”
🌙 Full Moon: major changes, extra power, the “all-purpose” phase (the “quartz” of moon phases)
🌙 Waning Gibbous: repelling negativity, deep cleaning of your surroundings, objects, or soul
🌙 Third Quarter: energy to overcome obstacles
🌙 Waning Crescent: ridding of meaningless projects, relationships, etc; clearing your life of chaos and stress
🌙 Dark Moon: banishment of strongly negative things; soul-searching, powerful divination

anonymous asked:

Is there any way to make a plot twist in a way where it doesn't seem like it came out of nowhere? That's my biggest problem, people always tell me that my plot twists feel weird and unnatural.

Hi!

There definitely is – foreshadow. Drop subtle but clear hints about what’s coming all throughout the novel, so that when your readers look back it will be clear that those hints indicated your plot twist.

As an example, I’ll use The Shining by Stephen King (one of my favorite books ever). *SPOILER ALERT!*

Danny Torrance, the protagonist, is a five-year-old with telepathic powers. He has a visitor (his parents call it his imaginary friend, but it’s not) named Tony who sometimes shows him things: Tony once showed him where to find a trunk containing his father’s manuscripts; Tony also shows him horrible things happening in the hotel in which his family will be spending the winter (up in the mountains of Colorado, so they’ll be snowed in). After Danny has a semi-catatonic episode, his parents take him for a medical checkup, just to be sure of his health before they’re snowed in for three months.

The pediatrician, of course, speaks to Danny during/after his checkup, and acts somewhat as a psychiatrist; he then speaks to his parents about his diagnosis (which is nothing serious – only stress). His opinion on Tony is that he was created to deal with hard times (moving, and Danny’s parents considering divorce), and Danny no longer needs Tony, because the family is rebounding; however, Tony isn’t leaving easily, hence the nightmares Danny complains of, and the fainting spell he had. Then the pediatrician says to Mr. and Mrs. Torrance something along the lines of “And of course, you know why he’s named Tony and not Michael or Greg”, and during my first time reading, I didn’t understand what he meant. After the plot twist, it clicked.

Also, it is mentioned that Danny was born with a caul over his face, which superstition says signifies a child gifted with the second sight (in other words, the child will be able to see the future). At the time, this – and what it implies – seems like a secondary detail. Again, at the plot twist it is clear that it actually means more.

The plot twist occurs during Tony’s last visit, which takes place during the novel’s climax. During his last powow with Danny, he comes closer, into Danny’s field of vision – Danny has never seen Tony’s face before, so this is a significant event. Tony looks just like Danny, but older – still young, but maybe 11 instead of 5. Then, in the prose, Stephen King writes Danny’s full name, middle name included, which doesn’t happen at any other place in the novel: his full name is Daniel Anthony Torrance, or in other terms, Danny “Tony” Torrance. The conclusion drawn from this is that Tony is actually Danny from the future, and that Danny has both telepathy and second sight.

This plot twist grows roots throughout the book: how Danny never sees Tony’s face, how Danny was born with something said to promise the second sight, the psychiatrist’s comment on Tony’s name. Basically, Stephen King lays everything on the table without giving us the one detail everything stems from – if it was drawn as a chart, all these small details would surround one big box in the middle, and until the plot twist, that big box would be blank. After the plot twist, that box would be filled in with TONY IS AN OLDER VERSION OF DANNY AND DANNY HAS PRECOGNITIVE VISIONS. That’s what you need to do: lay everything out for the reader except the actual plot twist itself.

I hope this was helpful! If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask! - @authors-haven

knaifu-shoes-for-waifu-dues  asked:

I'm considering coming out to my parents as trans... like, FTM trans. But I'm terrified to do it... I don't want them to freak out or anything... do you have any tips to help me?

1. It’s ok to wait until you’re ready and you feel safe. There is no shame in waiting.

2. It’s good to be honest. If you hide the truth or gloss over it or whatever and you’re parents love it, you’ll never know if they love the real you. It’s best to be totally upfront and honest. That way, however your parents react you at least know you have integrity and they’re reacting to the real you. Knowing that will bring you some peace.

3. Have a party for you after you tell them. See some friends. Plan something in your life for after so that it will feel a lot like your life will go on and on and on (because it will).💛💛

Building a Revolution

Overthrowing a powerful government in the name of the people is a popular plot.  It certainly has a great appeal.

However, before you get all excited about writing a story where the angered people scramble together an army and launch themselves against the government, you might want to take a step back and figure out how they got there in the first place.  A revolution isn’t built around one big event: there are things that lead up to it, and there are smaller frustrations that may go unnoticed, but because it’s a part of everyday life, it’s a constant reminder.  They might not be the things people point to when identifying what started the revolution, but they certainly kept the wood for the fire warm.

At what point did the government begin to ruffle feathers?
It’s going to start out small.  It will be annoying, but dismissed as bearable.  It may cause a bit of an obstacle, but nothing that people can’t work around.  Perhaps the government won’t let working class or its colonies to use the official currency.  Perhaps items of higher quality were held for only certain people the government deemed worthy. 

When did the government start adding to the little things?
For one reason or another, the government starts putting restrictions or laws on more things. They’re still able to work around them, but people will talk to each other about their frustration over it.  It’s also important to remember that the government will have a reason for it.  Maybe the new law/restriction is more cost effective,  Maybe it’s intended for protection.  Some examples might be that the colonies/citizens are limited to government approved materials.  Or they’re banned from traveling to a certain place, and that place happens to be on the fastest path to another colony/town.

What started sparking outrage?
Perhaps the government overspent on something, or they went to war and are now low on funds, so they introduce a tax on an item that’s considered an everyday luxury.  Or perhaps a ban is introduced and it affects something that everyone normally gets, but not necessarily a need.  There’s still not enough to pick up arms and fight, and the people might at this point lobby with the government to reconsider some of its strategies. 

When did it start picking up speed?
Perhaps the first tax isn’t bringing in enough funds.  Or the government feels the people aren’t paying as much as they should.  So another tax is introduced.  Or perhaps the ban isn’t that effective and so another ban is introduced to keep people from finding loopholes.  Maybe the government has to ban certain imports.  Anger with the government is increasing at this point.  The citizens/colonists may understand why the government is doing it, but they know they’re getting the raw deal.  Attempts to get the government’s attention become more aggressive, but there isn’t harming of other people.

How does the government respond?
So the government responds to the people’s cries of outrage, but not in the way they expected.  Another tax and/or ban is introduced, or even a new law.  Perhaps citizens/colonists are forced to use a material they are opposed to.  Perhaps the government realizes that if it doesn’t do something, it’s going to lose control over its citizens/colonies.  The militia/police force is increased to keep an eye for rebellious acts.  Arrests are made daily, and the people might be released if nothing is found.  Perhaps the government starts forbidding certain things to be said in the media, so people are forced to rely on word of mouth, and must do so carefully because of the increase in arrests.  Perhaps at this time, the idea of revolting is mentioned while others insist on trying to be diplomatic.

When does the physical conflict happen?
Perhaps there was a scuffle with the police force.  Either the citizens/colonists attacked first, or the police/militia acted aggressively.  Perhaps there was a massacre of some kind.  Maybe there were incidents that didn’t result in injury or death, but it came close to it.  Perhaps the government or citizens/colonists made a precautionary move that made the other party highly uncomfortable.  As the incidents, whether of violent or nonviolent nature, increase in number, the intensity also increases.  Influential people of the citizens/colonists begin to suggest a revolution, or to declare independence.  The government begins to realize they’re losing control unless they take more drastic measures.

When does the idea of a revolution actually become a threat?
Revolting or declaring independence becomes something that many people agree with.  The government perhaps realizes this and so starts making laws or regulations to keep it from happening.  Weaponry might become illegal for citizens/colonists so they won’t have anything to fight with if/when a revolution actually happens.  Curfews might be enforced.  Those outspoken about the government might be tailed.  The influential people work hard on a new government or system to replace the oppressive government.  Perhaps they just plan to outright revolt instead of declaring independence.  But either way, the citizens/colonists are only one word from the government away from declaring war.

It may seem like a lot to work on, but there are events leading up to the revolution that will resound with some people more than others.  Or there are events that will become a bitter memory that will help give some depth to each individual character.

Some things to consider when building the revolution:
It is not as black and white as it may seem.  Both sides are going to be guilty of doing something wrong; it’s just going to be more obvious in the government.  There are going to be people among the citizens/colonists who side with government and they’re not necessarily going to be bad guys.  When creating the conflict, keep in mind why people would choose one side over the other.
Stages will overlap.  A revolution isn’t going to be cleanly cut as posted above.  There are several times when a “stage” will mix with another “stage”, while others may blend right into the next one.  Timelining the process and placing each event can be extremely helpful as you try to keep events straight.
The revolters are most likely going to be the underdog.  They may have experienced people on their side, but if the revolution is going to made up of average citizens/colonists, they’re going to be at a disadvantage.  The government is going to be in control of an army and other resources.  The revolters are going to have to work to achieve their goals.

how to beat the munchies while you're high😚💨

Hi angels! This is actually one of my most common asks so I thought I would just make a master post of all my tips and tricks to beat the munchies bc boy, they can be demanding. But, please note these are not tips to help you starve yourself!! If you’re hungry even if you’re high, EAT. If you’re hungry but you specifically only want to eat a crunchwrap supreme with a side of tacos covered in hot sauce you probably got a lil case of the munchies. That being said, here’s all I got to avoid eating king size candy bars like you’re at an endless buffet while you’re stoned:

🍬 first, know what you’re smoking. I know this one is common sense for most smokers but if you’re new to smoking you might not know!! Indicas are more likely to give you munchies while sativas might even suppress your appetite (this is in my experience, google has stuff arguing for both so it may depend on the person) Not sure what you have? Indicas are usually super dank, they have shorter leaves and give you that couch locked feeling. Sativas smell kind of spicier to me and not as heavy of a smell, they have taller, skinny leaves and they typically make you more energized.

🍬 know your trigger foods, avoid them while you’re stoned. I always think, “hey, I’m stoned, when else am I going to eat this?” But then I proceed to eat everything else in my house and favor in some Thai food and insomnia cookies followed by the rest of said trigger food I originally promised I wouldn’t eat all at once. just don’t do it, bad idea.

🍬 I know the munchies can be unbearable but in my experience as long as I don’t eat when I’m munching, and only when I’m genuinely hungry, eventually the urge to binge goes away. I still get munchies from time to time but overall, I don’t even think about eating while I’m stoned too much anymore (unless ofc I’m hungry, then I eat what I planned myself for the day) but because I haven’t binged high in a while, I don’t even think to binge while I’m high. Now, here are some ways to combat the munchies so you can get to the point where you can actually resist eating your entire pantry and the surrounding neighborhood after smoking one bowl:
♡ cough drops/hard candy
♡ fruit, fruit, fruit. I like more snacking-type fruit like grapes, blueberries, blackberries, etc. it’s easy to eat a lot of these but it’s fruit, who cares
♡ vaping with sweet e juice ~ okay this one has been huge for me. I definitely used to make fun of vaping and now I’m having to swallow my pride bc it WORKS
♡ your absolute favorite gum, always have that shit on deck
♡ drink lots of fluids!! Coffee and sodas are my favorite bc they both leave me feeling full and I can’t drink either super fast so I’ll be sippin on it for a while. But make sure you’re drinking water too bc smoking dehydrates you.
♡ get out and go exploring. literally anywhere, just be safe. I love to smoke and walk through the meadow behind my house. Bonus points if you have a dog to take with you.
♡ find any type of distraction that you get really into while you’re stoned. I love drawing and yoga and I get reallyyyy into it when I’m high, I can pass hours doing those two, or at least until I come down enough to come to my senses and decide I can replace the fried pickles and grilled cheese I was craving with a pita wrap and peppers.

🍬 oh and just bc you’re cute, here are my three favorite strands that I typically don’t get munchies on:
♡ Blue Dream ~ sativa dominant hybrid
♡ Durban Poison ~ sativa
♡ Jack the Ripper ~ sativa dominant hybrid

Hopefully this helps!! Happy smoking 😚♡

papershardz  asked:

Is writing still relevant? I'm thinking about going ham on a story that's been in my brain for over 5 years but you know... I've been thinking is writing even relevant i mean obviously people read but like there's sooooo many people trying to make it big but how many of those people actually get there book out there idk I'm so lost in thought what do you think?

Hi!

I definitely understand where you’re coming from. In today’s society the arts are given great importance in concept, but little to no importance in action – jobs in the arts are hard to obtain, and it often requires a fair amount of luck to stumble into one no matter how talented or skilled you are. People with dreams to pursue the arts professionally – as writers, artists, dancers, musicians – are often given sympathetic looks and asked, “What’s your backup plan?”. It’s hard to keep believing in yourself and your talent/passion when “You’ll never make it!” is coming from all directions. However, I personally don’t think this makes writing – or any of the other arts – irrelevant, for a couple of different reasons.

1. You’re right in that people still read – that means there’s still a big demand for books, and as old authors die or put out new novels less often, the stage opens for new authors to break through. It may seem difficult for writers to break through, and it is, but not quite as difficult as all those warnings that you need to “have a backup plan” want you to think. It takes time and hard work, and yes, you might face rejection, but the key is staying persistent and not taking rejection to heart. A few examples: J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series was rejected time after time (I believe 12 publishers declined it before it was accepted for publication); Chicken Soup For The Soul (not everyone’s cup of tea, but inarguably a public favorite, and now a multimillion dollar industry) was rejected 33 consecutive times; Stephen King himself had his first novel (also the novel that was his springboard to the best-seller’s list), Carrie, rejected 30 times. Persistence is neccessary to make it in any department of the arts, so don’t give up, and continue to sharpen your skills.

2. More importantly, is writing relevant to you? The only thing that matters about creating is that you like what you’re doing – getting published is great, but if you don’t like the stories coming out of your pen, writing professionally will be just as bad as a 9-5 job in an office cubicle. The inverse is true as well: you might be working as a cashier in HEB so that you can stay caught up on the rent, you might have a cruddy car that needs repairs you can’t afford, but if you still write when you can, and if you still enjoy writing, it will be so worth it when you break through.
Art in its purest form always has been and always be for its creator rather than its audience. An artist is a person on a stage in an empty auditorium, talking or singing to himself or just sitting there and painting – people may stumble into the auditorium, like what they see and stay, but even if his audience grows to thousands or even millions of people, the artist still creates for himself, as if the audience wasn’t there. I’m not saying that people who submit their work for publication are in it for the money and aren’t artists – I want to submit my work to a publisher in the future. However, I personally want to do so because writing fulfills me, and I want to spend as much time writing as possible – I know a job takes up a lot of time, so I want to make writing my job. Money isn’t my reason for wanting to write for a living – spending as much time writing as possible is, and speaking to people through my writing.
An example: Arthur Conan Doyle, the author of the Sherlock Holmes series, grew to loathe Holmes, because he felt that Holmes took attention away from his historical works (which he considered to be his “real writing”). After he “killed” Holmes, people begged him to bring Holmes back, and he refused – until people started flashing money. Doyle revived Holmes and continued to write Sherlock stories, but they made him miserable.

The foundation of my long lecture is this: if writing pleases you, and if that story’s been in your head for 5 years and it still won’t leave you alone, write it! Even if it sits in a drawer for years before it sees the sun again, if it benefits you to write it, it’s worth it.

Hope this helps! Please, keep writing.

We NEED calm and respectful posts about SAFE recovery. So like…freaking out when people give helpful tips on recovery, symptom management, coping, etc…is one of the most pointless things that happens on here.

Starting my morning taking notes on literary criticism.
Lately I’ve been feeling so demotivated. Nothing cheers me up, even if it does, it’s momentary. I’ve been trying to crack my pre-PhD exams for 8 months now. Nothing proving fruitful, I’m losing my drive.
8 months staying home to study and not getting anywhere is really hard to cope with. Now, even sitting at my desk is really depressing.

Can anyone help me with any tips? I need to get through this.

Aar and I are talking about taking a family trip.... to Scotland?? XD

We want to go there because… well… it’s SCOTLAND. AND CASTLES. AND SEXY ACCENT. AND HISTORY.

But when is a good time to travel there? I’m hope for Cassidy to be around the 6 month mark. I want to do baby wearing. What is the weather like July/August/September?

I mostly see us out in the country. Maybe a guided tour. We are thinking a fairly short trip. 7 days.

anonymous asked:

Hi! Would you mind sharing any tips you have on completing NaPoWriMo? I attempted it last year but got really sick and couldn't finish it. I really want to make it the whole month this time, and you're one of my favorite writers so I trust any tips or helpful antidotes you can offer. Thank you if you can! :)

so first of all, I like to tell myself at the beginning of the month that it’s okay if I don’t finish. and it’s okay if you don’t finish. it’s a great goal, but things do come up and that’s okay. it’s okay if you just get overwhelmed and don’t finish. try to alleviate a little bit of the pressure.

I think the only real suggestions I have are to take notes on things that stand out to you like phrases and imagery and snatches of conversation so you have stuff to draw from, try to read poetry during April, google prompts if you get stuck, you can try to write some of your own basic ideas down before the month starts just so you never have a day where you’re totally fucked, and don’t be afraid to take something that isn’t working and just edit it down to its good lines. Nothing comes out perfect in April but you don’t have to worry about that during napowrimo. Just worry about getting something out.

hope that’s helpful!! sorry if it’s not!

anonymous asked:

when fasting, i like to keep a stopwatch going on my phone so that when i'm tempted to break it, i can look at how far i've come! like right now i'm at 21 hours and 30 some odd minutes, and i want to get to 24. so seeing a tangible number is helpful to ground you emotionally, if that makes sense 😅 fasting isn't healthy and i don't condone it! but it seems like you'll do it no matter what so i hope that tip helps ❤️

Oh my gosh that idea is genius! I wish i had started it this morning or even last night before bed, but I’m starting it now.

And absolutly, fasting isn’t healthy (at least in this context) and please no one take what I’m doing/talking about as a sign you should do it too. Please get help if you need it or want it, recovery is always an option ❤

anonymous asked:

Do you have any tips for helping partners/friends/etc be more helpful to littles?

Well, I am not an expert and am still figuring it out but here goes:

  • make a list of instructions for them to follow depending on which alter is out, this can really ease anxiety and create a safer space quickly
  • list safe media and items so that they know what is okay to give/show whoever is fronting
  • remind them that littles are KIDS and even though they may have a handful of adult skills, they should be treated in a developmentally appropriate manner
  • create boxes of goodies for various frequently fronting littles! include a favorite snack, a comfort item, and a movie/show they like, maybe a coloring book? it really depends on the kid
  • i really recommend investing in a weighted plushie or weighted blanket. it can be comforting to all ages but especially littles 

the best advice is provide plans! let people know what they need to do for alters and most will do their best to meet those needs. having written instructions makes everything so much easier!

when i was at school and basically lived on skype calls, i gave my friend a list of instructions about our little. things like a list of behaviors she might display and appropriate ways to handle them. i also listed some websites with kid friendly doll makers and links to kids movies. it really helped ease anxiety for everyone and made situations more manageable!!!!

anonymous asked:

So I've always been kinda scared of therapists and the therapy process, and recently watching movies like "get out" certainly didn't help. Any tips for building trust when I'm terrified of even the thought of sharing personal info with a stranger?

Hi anon

(side note - if you are therapist, read this ask. Remember new clients may be coming in like this and explain things well <3)

OMG I loved Get Out but I totally whispered “what the fucking fuck” when that character was introduced. It made me mad. 

Anyway! So it makes sense that if you haven’t been in therapy, it’s seems scary. Because good therapy can make some major changes in a person’s life. There are good therapists and bad ones and you have to navigate all that with whatever is going on right? It makes sense to be scared. But therapy isn’t magic that is work on you. It’s a change that is build in relationship over time with someone who knows you and knows the lay of the land. 

Therapy is about the relationship. The work gets done with trust - which takes time. You have choice in therapy. You get to say, “I don’t want to talk about that.” or “This is too much right now.” or “I need a break”. As long as the client’s choice doesn’t interfere with their safety*, I make sure the client has choice. I’ll guide and contain the sessions, moreso with trauma. But I push some of my clients - absolutely - but not without trust. Even during my assessments when I’m *required* by my agency to explore for abuse issues, I always say, “you don’t have to answer if you aren’t comfortable.” 

Trust will build. It will take time. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling anxious about it. Start small and it’ll grow. Read some of @therapy101 or @thehumbledtherapist if you aren’t already. Ask questions to people you know who are in therapy and you trust. Remember if you aren’t comfortable, you can change therapists but it takes time to get comfortable. Once you find someone to try, ask them questions - what’s their style or psychological orientation, what can you expect from a session, etc. 

I hope this helped a little bit. Best of luck to you. 

*(i.e. if you are seeing someone in private practice as an adult, you can get up and leave. For my community based clients who are minors, I can’t just let them leave if I’m not sure they’ll be safe)

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anonymous asked:

Have you drawn Mystery? Could you give me some help or tips on how to draw Mystery as Kitsune form? Small notes -Gab Anon

I don’t think I’ve attempted to draw Mystery in his kitsune form, so I don’t really have any notes or previous art reference on standby.

If you’re having trouble, I would recommend first starting off with looking at reference images of real foxes, and maybe even wolves, too, since Mystery is a lot bigger than most normal foxes. 

Mystery Ben posted  front and side view images of mystery as well, if you want a full-body look at what Mystery looks like.

I also found this tutorial about fox anatomy and going over the basics of designing a fox character. There’s a lot of tutorials out there, but I found this one to be a good starting point.

I hope this helps! ^^

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one of my lecturers printed us a step-by-step guide to writing an essay for an assignment we had. i decided to type it up and share it with you guys. i think for the most part it is really useful and a super simple way to break down your essay. hope this helps :~)

Things I have learned since becoming an Adult™

-don’t tell ur coworkers jack shit. You might think they’re your friends but they will sell you out for a paperclip
-everything men tell you is a lie
-store brand vanilla ice cream is better than name brand
-pregnancy tests from the dollar store work just as well as $20 ones
-don’t lie to your doctor
-seriously don’t
-at some point your card will get declined for $6 and nobody but you will care. It happens to everyone at some point in their life
-you will become bffs with your mom (unless she’s a mean person, then skip this one)
-you’ll wish you took the advice adults gave you when you were younger, even though it annoyed you at the time
-people you went to high school with will become teachers, doctors, etc but they will still do drugs and it will be weird. That’s life, my dude
-never underestimate the power of new underwear