I don’t cope ship, and at the same time I’m outspoken against the violence in the dynamic in at least three pairings i can think of off the top of my head…. and yet, I still ship them.
Who cares though?
People ship for lots of reasons – my years of shipping and multiple happy-ever-after denials by TPTB means I live in a constant state of ‘I ship for the potential’ and ‘fanon is the only true canon’. And that… that counts for every single fucking ship I’ve got. There’s not one that doesn’t involve some “issue” or another that a little group of internet ratbags likes to tell me means they’re an abomination of a ship.
We all ship for our own reasons. As for whether those ships are right or wrong….? ‘tis all in the eye of the beholder.
And if someone doesn’t cope ship, it doesn’t make them any less entitled to ship the good ship.
Let people ship in peace, that’s my motto.