Straight Couples can do one (1) un-stereotypical thing in terms of labor distribution (a man did his daughter’s hair??? awwww!! a woman is a housewife but actively chose to be a housewife because she enjoys it? right on sister!!) and be considered radical pioneers of gender equality, but Gay Couples have to impossibly perfectly balance our presentation and behavior at all times or we’re just mimicking straight people and replicating archaic misogynistic ideals
A quick pasta recipe that I shared via Instagram stories two weeks ago. This was quick and simple and so delicious. Grilled some chicken, boiled some tagliatelle pasta, sautéed some beautiful grape tomatoes with garlic and shallots. Everything came together with a lovely Puttanesca sauce purchased from Home Goods. This was amazing. Once I remake the dish, I’ll post a full recipe!
BTS Reaction to you saying “daddy” at dinner and both them and your father respond-
((kinda jokey/funny, hope you like it.))
In the middle of dinner when you were asking your actual father to pass the salt, jin didn’t quite hear you so he simply asked “hmm?” while looking up from his food. You widened your eyes and said “no babe, talking to my dad.” To which he just nodded quickly, tried not to look suspicious and then looked back down at his food.
“Hey daddy,” “Yes darling? “What babe?” Everyone’s eyes widened at the dinner table except for Yoongi’s. …until he remembered where you both were at. He met the eyes of your father and simply shrugged while looking down at his plate. “She doesn’t call me that all the time, don’t worry.” He said quietly, causing you to punch him in the side of his thigh.
When Hoseok asked what you needed after you said “Daddy, I need something”, the table became awfully quiet. Until Hoseok finally spoke up, having not processed what just happened yet. “Why is it so quiet now? Babe what did you need?”
“Daddy, is there more food?” “I think so, let me go check.” “I hope, this food is delicious.” Your father looked at Namjoon with shock and anger. Namjoon laughed awkwardly and shook his head. “I’m just kidding. A-about the daddy thing, not the food!”
You asked your father for a bite of what was on his plate and Jimin responded by shoving a forkful of his food in your mouth, causing you to almost choke from embarrassment. And cause Jimin seriously shoved that food right in. “Okay babe, there you go!”
“Daddy, who cooked this?” “Your mom did, sweetie.” “I don’t know babe, probably one of your parents.” It became intensely quiet when Taehyung looked up from eating and noticed all eyes on him. “Well am I wrong?!”
During the middle of dinner when you asked your father to pass you a knife, Jungkook responded with a “sure baby,” and gave you his. Your father’s eyes burned through Jungkook with rage when he finally looked up and noticed the sudden change in the atmosphere. “I mean no Y/N, knives are dangerous…” Jungkook said taking your knife away, completely missing the point of the stares of rage.
We are now in the dark time of the year. From Mabon to Yule, the nights grow longer, nature drifts toward sleep, and it is time for introspection. The veil thins, and it is easier to reach across to spirits and the souls of the dead.
This is my favorite time of year, the closest I get to my true nature and to home, so I am going to provide instruction for A Dinner for the Dead, known also as a Dumb Supper. So named because it is conducted entirely in silence.
With this ritual, you will be able to call forth departed loved ones and feel their presence, perhaps even hear them. Be advised, this is an intense experience and should not be undertaken lightly.
Materials: A dinner Wand or athame One more chair than the number of living people participating Memento Mori, reminders of the dead. Candles, lanterns, or other dim light.
Step One: Preparation.
Make sure you will be undisturbed for at least a couple of hours. Ideally, this ritual should be performed in a house which is empty of non-participants, or else that everyone else present is respectful, knows what you are doing, and has agreed to remain silent in another room for the duration of the dinner. At the very least, be certain any roommates or family won’t disturb the dinner. The effectiveness of the ritual depends upon silence.
Set a table for the number of living people attending dinner, plus at least one additional place setting. This may be as simple or as fancy as you like. Any number of people may participate, or this ritual may be performed alone.
At the additional place setting, which should (if you have a rectangular table) be at the head of the table, the seat of honor, place items which remind you of lost loved ones – at least one for each specific person you wish to honor. These may be photographs, belongings, gifts from the person in question, or just something which reminds you of them.
Prepare a dinner. This should be the best that you can reasonably put together in terms of personal effort if not expense, but whatever you have available to you is sufficient. If possible prepare favorite foods of the deceased or foods which remind you of them. Foods traditionally associated with the dead are also appropriate. I usually make fried apples and include pomegranates, both fruits associated with the dead.
Be sure to consider drinks. Wine or apple cider is traditional. So, in fact, is tequila or rum in some traditions. Pomegranate juice or apple juice is also a good (non-alcoholic) option.
Optionally, you may wish to include music for part of the ritual, specifically songs which you associate strongly with specific loved ones. This year I intend to play Beethoven’s Moonlight Sonata, which I first heard when my grandmother played it for me as a child. The music should be soft enough to fade into the background. Some may feel that music disrupts the mood, and the dumb supper has traditionally been held in total silence.
Plate your food before moving on to the next step.
Step Two: Casting
Begin with cleansing yourself of negativity as much as you can. Then, cast a circle. I will not provide instruction here because there are many resources on the subject. How you do this is up to you. The intention is to secure the space so that only spirits of good intent may enter. It is best to “cast to the wall”, which is to say extend your circle casting to the edges of the room so that you may move freely in the space. It doesn’t matter that this will not actually be circular.
Facing west, use the athame to trace the shape, and visualize the opening of a door in the west wall of the space. Invite well-intentioned spirits to enter through this door and join you for a meal in their honor. Specifically, name and invite anyone you wish to attend. If you wish, you may only invite specific people. I have a personal preference for open invitations. Optionally, you may also specifically invite the good-intentioned souls of the dead who have been forgotten and have no one else to remember them. This is an aspect which is very important to me personally as a servant of Hekate. If you have multiple participants, you may have each of them speak and invite specific people if they wish, or have one person do so for everyone.
You may also wish to invite deities or protective spirits before you invite anyone else. I always ask Hekate to be in attendance.
You should write your own evocation, but here is an example:
I/we hereby pierce the veil and open the gates. I/we welcome good-intentioned spirits who wish to communicate to enter this space. I/we welcome all whom I/we have loved who have passed on to enter this space. I/we welcome [name of person] to enter this space. [repeat as needed] Join me/us for a dinner in your honor. Join me/us in celebrating the thinning of the veil at this time when the living and the dead may come together.
Step Three: The Dinner
From this point forward, remain as silent as possible. If anyone speaks, the energy is disrupted and the tenuous connection to the other side may be easily broken.
You may begin playing music now if you wish.
Sit and begin your silent meal, contemplating the people who have passed on, and your memories of them. Eat slowly and take your time. Be open to feeling the presences around you and receptive to any messages you may receive. In most cases these will be feelings, sensations, or pure emotion. Articulate messages in the form of sudden thoughts and realizations do occur. One should not expect anything as extreme as audible voices.
This is a very intense experience for most people. It is not uncommon for participants to experience the food that they eat as having little or no taste, as the spirits experience the food through us.
After the meal, you may sit for as long as you wish before ending the ritual.
Step Four: Closing
Do Not Forget This Step! If for any reason your ritual is interrupted, you must come back and do this as soon as possible. If this is not done, the gate remains opened and there is a very real possibility of unpleasant consequences in terms of uninvited guests in your space.
Bid those in attendance farewell and thank them for spending the evening with you. You may invite specific souls to come and go as they please if you wish. State firmly in whatever way you wish that the ritual is at an end and you are ready to return to your normal routine.
With the athame, visualize and announce the closing of the door you opened. Finally, close the circle, and ground yourself.
Again, you should write your own, but here is an example:
I/we offer thanks to all who have joined us in my/our feast. It is a joy to be in the presence of the other side But all things must end, and we must return fully to the realm of the living. Go in peace and love, farewell. The ritual is complete, and the gate is closed.
Grounding is very important. Enjoy a glass of water, a bite of food which was not part of the ritual, and/or whatever visualization suits you in order to return to a mundane state of mind. Again, there are many other instructions for this, so I will let you do your own research.
You may keep leftovers at your discretion, but it is mandatory that you dispose of the food from the place setting for the dead in a respectful and responsible manner. Tradition is usually to bury it, or else to leave it in some wild place for nature to reclaim. The food can also be fed to domestic pets but should not be given to other humans.