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Your Holiday Mom

When my son called me from college to tell me that he was coming out, I felt like the luckiest mom in the world. I always knew that he was special, but I had no idea how courageous he was.

I almost never post links, but this holiday season I wanted to share YourHolidayMom.Com with you. Your Holiday Mom shares messages of love and support for LGBTQ people from real mothers, for those of you who maybe aren’t getting the support you deserve from your own family. I think this is a beautiful project, and it might be just what some of you need to make it through the holidays this year. Please take a look if you think it might be something for you.

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LGBTQ* Projects to Make You Feel Warm and Fuzzy

Looking for an inspiring holiday message from a mom who cares? As you navigate the holidays at home, in or out of the closet, these moms want to let you know that you are loved and important not in spite of your place under the umbrella, but because of it. I’m tearing up already in gratitude.

<3 Ruth Elizabeth

(following from Your Holiday Mom)

This season, supportive moms have gathered to send a holiday message to all LGBTQ children, teens and young adults who are without family support and who would like a “stand-in Holiday Mom”–or 40! Knowing that not every mother is ready to accept her own LGBTQ child exactly as-is (as hard as this is for us to imagine), we moms have written to extend our love beyond that of our own family…From US Thanksgiving Day, November 22, 2012 through January 1, 2013, you’ll find letters, audio posts, and videos created by moms who are lovingly supportive of ALL children who identify as LGBTQ. This is the kick-off video which comes from the 2011 audio recording that was the spark of inspiration for this site. 

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'Your Holiday Mom' gives LGBT people a safe place to come out this Christmas

For many people, the holiday season is more stressful than fun. Things can be particularly tough for LGBT kids (and adults) who don’t feel able to come out to their own families.

That’s where the website Your Holiday Mom comes in.

Your Holiday Mom provides holiday-themed messages of support to people who don’t have the acceptance of their families, at a time when most people are celebrating and exchanging presents in a loving home. Forty days of open letters about holiday traditions, eggnog, home baking, and above all, acceptance. The project began in 2012, but was so popular that many more “holiday moms” signed up to write letters this year.

“Thirty years ago,” writes Your Holiday Mom’s creator, Robin Rice. “I lost my little brother to suicide because he feared he was gay and simply could not live in a world that would not support him if this were true. Today, I still feel that hole in my heart, and so I do whatever I can to support LGBTQ youth. I started by gifting Christmas Stockings to LGBTQ shelters as a way to say I care, and then last year, I put out an audio recording called Your Holiday Mom. I knew we needed more than just one voice, so last year I asked for 40 moms to open their hearts. Now, we want to extend this to dads and other family and friends, so that everyone can share their love and support.” [READ MORE]

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Your Holiday Mom | Offering Our LGBTQ Youth A Virtual Home For The Holidays

for anyone who can’t go home for the holidays this year, this site can be your support

just thought i’d share

This is a thank you letter, sort of like the letter you give your relatives on the holidays because your mom has been nagging you to for the past five days but instead of my mom nagging me its me nagging me. It’s the dreams I still have of you, the butterflies in my stomach when I see you. It’s the way my head hurts in the morning and my body aches all begging me to write this. To you. They want me to tell you, I miss you. My world isn’t the same without you. Please come back let’s try again. But instead I want to say thank you, thank you for the time we shared together. Thank you for sharing parts of yourself with me that not many else have yet seen. Thank you for the late nights up in your bedroom, the long talks and just, just for you. Normally it’s hard for me to care this much. Normally it’s hard for me to feel this strong this quickly. To by fricken roses in a grocery store and think that I’m logically going to bring them to your house and beg for you back. Normally it’s hard for me to want and have this desire but with you it’s hard not care this much. But despite all of that its time for me to move on with myself. It’s time for me to let go. But that doesn’t mean that I didn’t love every single moment we that shared together and regret none of it. Although it was short lived it was more than I could have ever anticipated. Thank you for that.
—  I found this wandering through YouTube and it hit me harder than expected. Thank you Chris for making this// 4am
Your Holiday Mom

http://www.yourholidaymom.com/ is a project that I found out about through Tumblr, and I’m super happy to have gotten to be a part of - my letter went live today!

These sort of projects are very important to me - I don’t have the money or the energy to be able to do as much physical activism as I would like, so my digital activism is all the more important to me. Find something you love, and make the world a little more awesome this holiday.

Joy to the World, no matter what you believe.

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Extending Support: Part 4

Happy Holidays, lovies and pumpkins! In the spirit of a wonderful program called Your Holiday Mom, I’d like to send love, care, happiness, and an all-around warm & fuzzy visualization to all those who might be having a rough go of it this time of year. We’ll set a place for you at our table and hang a stocking for you right next to ours. Our home isn’t big, but it’s warm and safe.

We’ll be making Christmas candy soon! It’s our family tradition to give sweets as gifts. (The chocolate-covered pretzels are always a hit.) What’s your favorite? I hope you join us for Dad’s birthday party! He’s chosen a Greek theme this year! We’ll be up playing games and cracking jokes late into the night. It’s okay because Mom makes an excellent Christmas Day brunch. We’ll drink coffee/tea/cocoa/cocktails (whatever you prefer) by the fireplace while the kids open their gifts.

Please know you are loved and valued, that we care about the things that and people who make you happy. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Blessed Yule, and Happy New Year.

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YourHolidayMom is amazing website. Please share because maybe you don’t need it but someone else might and you might just be able to get it to them.

Your Holiday Mom: Loving Moms Supporting LGBTQ Children this Holiday Season.

The Holidays are supposed to mean love, giving, and family but unfortunately this is not always the case for some people. Some LGBTQ folks have experienced rejection from the ones they love because of who they are. This can be devastating to some who find themselves alone during the holidays. We came across this amazing website, YourHolidayMom.com and we wanted to share it with our LGBTQ family! If you are loving parent, and want to send your support to LGBTQ youth, please check out their “about our moms” section for details. And if you are looking for more inspiration, check out our chosen moms, Marcia Prichason, and her weekly column “Marcia’s Law.”

This season, supportive moms have gathered to send a holiday message to all LGBTQ children, teens and young adults who are without family support and who would like a “stand-in Holiday Mom”-or 40! Knowing that not every mother is ready to accept her own LGBTQ child exactly as-is (as hard as this is for us to imagine), we moms have written to extend our love beyond that of our own family.

We are not celebrity moms. We are everyday moms from average, everyday homes. Many, but not all, have LGBTQ children of our own (hence, some moms use full names and photos, and some do not). Many, but not all, are straight. Some are single moms with little or no extended family, others are married with several children with large extended families. In other words, even the moms here represent diversity. The vast majority of us came together because we heard about the project, and have never met the founder or each other. The common bond we share is that we are so full of love and pride for our own children-LGBTQ and straight-we wanted to extend ourselves beyond our own families and do something more.

That time of year again:

So I know a lot people find the holidays to be a very unpleasant time because of being around family (or the lack of family in their lives) due to coming out as LGBTQ+. One thing that has always helped me during the holiday season is Your Holiday Mom. It is a bunch of moms that write letters or record themselves talking about how much they love you and how much they support you. Honestly it is great to hear no matter what time of the year it is. Just thought I would share this with anyone else who might need it, ♥

but there comes a time when I have to stop texting your mom every holiday
and I have to quit my job so I don’t see you
and I have to stop using social media to see what you’re up to
there comes a time when I have to delete our messages
and pictures
and your number
there comes a time when I won’t need you anymore
and everyday I’m taking steps to get there because even though you broke my heart, it’s still beating
—  slowly bouncing back ( d-xv )
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About Our Letters

We are now full to the brim with Mom letters for 2014! Thank you to all who have submitted!

Hello Dear Friends!

Welcome to Your Holiday Mom, where supportive moms have gathered here to send a holiday message to all LGBTQ children, teens and adults who are without family support and who would like a “stand-in Holiday family.” Knowing that not every parent is ready to accept her own LGBTQ child exactly as-is (as hard as this is for us to imagine), we have written to extend our love beyond that of our own family.

We are not celebrities. We are everyday friends and family from everyday homes. Many, but not all, have LGBTQ  children of our own (hence, some use full names and photos, and some do not). Many, but not all, are straight. In other words, even our writers here represent diversity. The vast majority of us came together because they heard about the project, yet most have never met me or each other. The common bond we share is that we are so full of love and pride for our own children–LGBTQ and straight–we wanted to extend ourselves beyond our own families and do something more.

For the 2014 season, our wonderful letter editor is Lisa Jamus from Calgary, Alberta! Thank you so much Mom Lisa.

We wish you a happy, love-filled Holiday Season!

With Love, *Shamama