Your Forces and How to Use Them

Promise yourself, to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.
—  Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

—  Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them
Promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.
—  Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

“Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”

—  Christian D. Larson (Your Forces and How to Use Them)
Art Un-Tips

Here are some ways to see improvements in your drawing quality and productivity through inaction, not action. They’ve worked for me and may help you too.

  • use less colours. It forces you to carefully consider your colour choices, not draw things just because you see them as a certain colour
  • use less layers. Don’t waste time flipping between layers, just separate the essentials (line, colour, shadow…)
  • don’t be pedantic about lineart. Most people don’t notice small blips in lineart, and unless you’re doing vector or professional art, the time trade-off isn’t worth it
  • lower your stabilizer. Low levels are enough to assist with curves. Higher levels make sharp turns hard. Adjust to your comfort, but see how low you can go
  • quit sooner. Spending excessive time on one drawing can be a bad habit. If you’re learning, you want to draw many different things, so quitting and moving on helps
Promise Yourself

Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.


Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

21 Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking:

Emotional abuse is any kind of psychological abuse that traumatizes a person’s mind or their state of being, forcing them to feel weak, traumatized and helpless. You may feel moments of emotional abuse now and then in your own relationships with the people around you, be it with your parents, siblings, friends or even your romantic partner. The easiest way to realize if you’re being abused by someone is if you feel weak and stressed around them. Use these 21 subtle signs of emotional abuse to find out if you’ve been pushed to the wall by your spouse, partner or friend. If you do see these signs, perhaps it’s now time to walk away.

1. You’re scared. Your partner’s behavior scares you. You’re afraid to ask for things or tell them something because you just don’t know how they would react.

2. Incessant lectures. Your partner constantly tells you how you’re so flawed and how you still need to improve in so many ways. But instead of trying to help you, they point your flaws out and behave like you’re a lost cause who can’t be helped because you’re too weak or dumb. 

3. Painful comparisons. Your partner constantly compares you, either with your more prettier or successful friends, and tells you how much better than you they are. Your partner may even be subtle and point out to celebrities and tell you how they’re so much more attractive than you.

4. Constant confusions. Your partner yells at you often. But when you try to argue back or prove that you’re right, they may even get down on their knees or humiliate themselves just to apologize to you and win your affection back.

5. You get blamed for no fault. Your partner blames you for no fault of yours. They blame you for your friend’s behavior, for the way the kids are, your friend’s divorce, or just about anything else. Sometimes, your partner may even hear about something on the television and yell at you because they’re pissed off!

6. Possessive jealousy. Your partner always has something negative to say about your friends, especially if they’re of the opposite sex. Your partner hates it when you get phone calls from your friends and sometimes even asks you to hang up the phone. They just don’t like it when you have an active social life. [Read: 15 subtle and shocking signs of a controlling boyfriend]

7. Your self esteem is crippled. Your partner constantly tells you how bad or worthless you are, and gets angry with you because you’re always relying on them. But even when you try to do something yourself, they tell you you’re not capable of making decisions and make you feel dumb all the time.

8. Two faced personality. Your partner’s behavior and attitude confuses you. At times, they may be extremely loving and caring. And at other times, they’re really mean and hurtful. You just can’t predict how they’ll react to anything you do.

9. The sadist inside. Your partner feels better about themselves when they point out your flaws or criticize you. They may be more jovial or happy on days when you’re overworking or stressed because of your own mistakes.

10. The humiliation. Your partner humiliates you or makes nasty remarks, especially around your friends or people who admire you.

11. Big demands. They set unreasonable expectations and make big demands from you, secretly hoping you’d fail so they can say ‘I told you so!’

12. Sexual manipulation. Your partner emotionally manipulates you into sexual activities you don’t like. They may even emotionally armtwist you by saying things like “Other girls/guys do it! Why can’t you?”

13. Big confessions. Your partner shares their problems with everyone who listens. But if you confess any of your problems, especially about the relationship, to your friends or family, your partner would get very upset with you.

14. Turning everyone against you. This is a sneaky trick that emotionally abusive partners use to gain advantage and leave you feeling helpless. Your partner may constantly crib about how difficult or dumb you are to everyone, including your friends, your family and even your kids. Your partner may even give biased examples just to convince everyone else and turn them against you so no one would take your side against theirs.

15. The silent treatment. If you stand up for something or try to take control of the situation, your partner may walk away in a huff and give you the silent treatment. An emotionally abusive partner works on guilt, and they hate giving power away in a relationship. Your partner may just ignore you until you apologize for opposing their decision! 

16. Physically abusive. Sometimes, your partner may resort to physical abuse like a slap, a painful pinch or even a threatening gesture just to scare you into submission when you oppose them for anything.

17. You’re not allowed to think. Emotionally abusive lovers take pleasure in taking full control of the relationship. They’d manipulate you one step at a time until you lose all confidence in your judgment. You convince yourself that you are not capable of taking any decisions yourself, without your partner’s guidance. 

18. Isolation and dependence. Initially, your partner may tell you they don’t like your friends or a particular family member. Soon, they may tell you to avoid that particular person. And before you realize it, your partner may carefully isolate you from everyone who was once close to you. And one fine day, you’d see that the only person you can go to for help or depend on is your partner.

19. Emotional memories. Your partner constantly reminds you of all the times you’ve screwed up each time there’s an argument or a discussion. They constantly bring up your failures or the mistakes you’ve made in your life to reinforce the idea that you depend on your partner and can’t survive by yourself without their help and guidance in life.

20. Your achievements don’t matter. Your partner glorifies even the smallest of their achievements and proudly brags about it. But on the other hand, no matter what you achieve or do, your partner always mocks your achievements and makes you feel silly for celebrating it.

21. Denial. Even when you point out their emotionally abusive ways, your partner doesn’t accept their emotionally abusive ways as a flaw. Instead, they convince themselves and try to convince you that they’re doing all this only to help you become a better person and stand on your own feet. 

If you’re not sure what you’re going through is abuse, just look at yourself from another person’s perspective. Or ask yourself how you would feel if your sibling or your child was living your life. Would you be happy for them? Would you want them to be subjected to such poor treatment?  If a relationship puts you constantly on the defense, drains you or makes you unsure of yourself thats a sign it’s time to walk away.

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back to school + journaling

Dear journaling enthusiast,

You’re here because you love notebooks. You love sturdy hardcovers and flexible spines, pages that crinkle when you turn them and fine-tipped pens.

You probably know the pleasure of curling up with only a notebook and your thoughts. You love to turn back through the pages, admiring your own handwriting and the narrative of your life.

But how often have you used your notebook as a force of positive change? Do you just write about your day…every day…or do you want to get something more out of it?

Journaling isn’t just a form of self-expression, it’s a method of vibrant growth, change, and healing.

Let me just ask you one thing: do you feel secure about the steps you’ve taken to achieve your personal and professional dreams? Are you confident about your ability to succeed?

If you’ve haven’t done everything you can…if you find yourself overwhelmed by all the things you want to do (but don’t have enough time for), then keep reading.

As we approach the beginning of autumn, we open ourselves to new beginnings.

The start of the school year is a blank slate upon which you write your hopes and dreams and wishes for all that you hope to succeed in the future.

But maybe you could write your hopes and dreams in your journal.

What if there were guidelines that would enable you to realize those goals and hold yourself accountable for them?

With just one notebook, you can set up an entire system for understanding, setting, and tracking your personal goals.

Imagine sitting at your desk at the end of the day. Your journal is open in front of you. You sip from a mug of warm tea between sentences.

There’s a stack of finished homework and completed projects next to you, and you’ve even had time to pursue some of your own personal goals.

Maybe in your free time you’ve been practicing an instrument, studying a language, or improving your art or writing. Maybe you’re training for a sports team, a marathon, or just trying to get fit and healthy.

Maybe you finally found the time to get caught up on your scrapbooking backlog or you had the energy to get motivated to clean your room from top to bottom, making it look as clean and chic as a picture in a magazine.

Imagine having one little notebook that you can carry around with you, filled with your own personal musings, goals, dreams, desires, inspiration, and success stories.

Imagine that at the end of the day, you write down a list of everything you’ve accomplished…and you have pages more in your journal, detailing the hard work you’ve done and the things you’ve achieved.

Whatever your hobbies, passions, and goals for the future — they can be achieved.

If you love to write, journal, create, explore, and set goals, then the productivity system I recommend in my ebook “Journaling Your Goals: Prompts, Motivation, and Advice to Help You Achieve Your Dreams” will definitely work for you.

If you track the #studyspo tag, love “productivity porn,” follow @writingnotebooks, or get a kick out of seeing other people’s notebooks, journals, and workspaces, then you’ll love “Journaling Your Goals.”

Here’s a bit of what you’ll get if you read JYG:

  • What supplies and tools you’ll need
  • How to format your notebook for optimal success
  • How to brainstorm and set goals
  • How to set and track challenges to push yourself to new levels of success (and fun!)
  • How to become obsessed with your projects
  • How to create a life wheel
  • How to use rituals and automate your routines to motivate you
  • How to figure out your values
  • How to visualize your goals
  • How to prep with a checklist

And that’s just getting started. JYG also includes sections on:

  • How to overcome crippling fear and doubt
  • How pop culture inspiration like Harry Potter, Supernatural, and video games can motivate you to succeed
  • How to be “YOU 2.0
  • How to associate hard work with good things
  • How to go “Adventure Studying
  • How aiming for rejection can make you a more confident person
  • How to find a mentor, a role model, and a support system
  • How to create a personal manifesto
  • How to celebrate your achievements

As a recent grad and someone who’s been journaling since childhood, I developed this system based on my own needs for personal motivation and goal-setting.

JYG is a four week program which includes:

Week One: Here and Now

Week Two: Reflect

Week Three: Act on It

Week Four: Moving Forward

With JYG, you get more than just writing prompts, inspiration, and advice. More sections include:

  • How to make a memory jar
  • How to set New Year’s Resolutions
  • How to nourish your soul through self care and spiritual routines
  • How to make a comfort box
  • How to reward yourself and enjoy simple pleasures on your path to success

However, this system isn’t just for students. It can be used by a wide range of individuals, from stay-at-home moms/dads to people in the workforce.

Even my mother, who got an advance copy of my ebook when she supported it in the crowdfunding stage, told me that she didn’t expect to learn anything new…but was pleasantly surprised to find lots of accessible information that she was able to apply to her own life goals.

If office supplies make your heart go pitter-pat…

If you love order and organization — or if you aren’t organized enough and need a system to help you structure your productivity…

…then you’ll love “Journaling Your Goals.”

The best thing about JYG? It costs less than the Frappuccino you’re going to buy at Starbucks when you sit down with my ebook and a fresh, blank notebook, ready to start applying the tips and techniques to jumpstart your goals.

And guess what? Journaling Your Goals is available on Amazon for only US$2.99.

Almost 30,000 words of handy tricks, life hacks, and inspiration. $3 value.

When you’re about to start buying school supplies, what is $3? It probably costs about as much as a school notebook. Less than the price of a pack of nice pens.

Don’t forget that you’ll have direct access to the author if you ever have any questions or concerns. I’m here at @writingnotebooks and my ask box is always open, so you can reach me at any time.

Do yourself and your dreams a favor by investing in “Journaling Your Goals.” Start the school year off right. Get organized and motivated for everything you’re about to achieve.

Journaling Your Goals: Prompts, Motivation, and Advice to Help You Achieve Your Dreams is available in the US and most international stores on Amazon.

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Be well. Do good things. And best of luck. I believe in you!

-@writingnotebooks

(photos courtesy of my own self, @eighty-eightphotography, @thenotebookdoodles, @artistnicholerae, @justparis, @karyboo21, @succubus-studies, and more)

✨PSA✨

Fetuses do not have rights. They’re not sentient, they’re not conscious, they’re not self aware. Even if they did have rights, nothing would give them the right to use another person’s body without that person’s permission. Actual born human beings don’t even have that right.

That’s because of this great thing called “bodily autonomy.” Bodily autonomy is basically the right to your own body, to decide who/what uses it, for what, and for how long. It’s why you can’t be forced to donate blood or organs, etc., even if you’re dead.

Fetuses do not have this.

Pregnant people do.

So if a pregnant person does not want a fetus using their body, guess what? The fetus can’t use their body.

Even if the fetus had all these rights as well (they don’t) it wouldn’t matter. Because it’s the fetus using the pregnant person and the pregnant person has the right to deny the fetus that use. It’s the pregnant person’s bodily autonomy that matters.

Don’t give a pregnant person less rights than a corpse.

Now and then I get messages/comments from younger artists asking for promotion or what have you. Some of them are clearly copy-pasted and I tend to ignore them, but some are more earnest and sincere and for those I decided to type up a chunk of advice.

Treat other artists like peers and interact with them accordingly. Make real, organic connections, not forced ones. Keep practicing and sharing your art. Share things you like. Talk about things you like. Find people with similar goals to yours, who get excited about the same things; help motivate each other. Expand your skillset—learn how to code or craft or do 3D; learn some graphic design and typography. Don’t put yourself down. Have a portfolio online. Use social media to actually socialize like a human being. Work, be patient, and work.

This shit takes years. I’ve been doing all of the above for a decade and I’ve just barely started to go somewhere with this. Even if I slapped your URL up here for all my followers to see, it still wouldn’t get you very much progress. All those things I listed are like planting your roots. Nothing will make you magically grow into a professional artist overnight. It’s something you have to nurture and maintain over the long term.

my favorite thing about MGSV so far is how basically nobody played Peace Walker so nobody really knows how silly that game is, yet it’s TPP’s immediate predecessor. 

before The Phantom Pain, Snake went on a sexy banana hammock date with Kaz on the beach and made out with him under a cardboard box. Kaz and Paz worked together to produce a Jpop song for troop morale. Big Boss hunted dinosaurs. The entire concept of the Fulton Recovery System being used to kidnap men and force them to work on your oceanic anime club is from Peace Walker. The base management stuff is from Peace Walker. Big Boss fought giant singing robots voiced by Hatsune Miku. All of this shit happened right before TPP. 

My thoughts on language learning are organized into
the little compendium below. Heaven forbid that we should
call them Ten Commandments of Language Learning—let
us perhaps call them Ten Suggestions for Successful Language
Learning.   


I.
Spend time tinkering with the language every day. If
time is short, try at least to produce a 10-minute monologue.
Morning hours are especially valuable in this respect:
the early bird catches the word!
II.
If your enthusiasm for studying flags too quickly, don’t
force the issue but don’t stop altogether either. Move to
some other form of studying, e.g., instead of reading, listen
to the radio; instead of writing a composition, poke about
in the dictionary, etc.
III.
Never learn isolated units of speech; rather, learn them
in context.
IV.
Write phrases in the margins of your text and use them
as “prefabricated elements” in your conversations.
V.
Even a tired brain finds rest and relaxation in quick,
impromptu translations of billboard advertisements flashing
by, of numbers over doorways, of snippets of overheard
conversations, etc., just for its own amusement.
VI.
Memorize only that which has been corrected by a
teacher. Do not keep studying sentences you have written
that have not been proofread and corrected so mistakes
don’t take root in your mind. If you study on your own,
each sentence you memorize should be kept to a size that
precludes the possibility of errors.
VII.
Always memorize idiomatic expressions in the first person
singular. For example, “I am only pulling your leg.”
VIII.
A foreign language is a castle. It is advisable to besiege
it from all directions: newspapers, radio, movies that are not
dubbed, technical or scientific papers, textbooks, and the
visitor at your neighbor’s.
IX.
Do not let the fear of making mistakes keep you from
speaking, but do ask your conversation partner to correct
you. Most importantly, don’t get peeved if he or she actually
obliges you—a remote possibility, anyway.
X.
Be firmly convinced that you are a linguistic genius.
If the facts demonstrate otherwise, heap blame on the pesky
language you aim to master, your dictionaries, or this
book—but not on yourself.

—  Polyglot: How I learn languages - Kató Lomb
6

It was such a deep, deep shock to us all. Your father was a— a force to be reckoned with. He truly was. I would not presume to claim to have known him as such, but— but just being in his presence was enough to make it so clear just how formidable a person you were dealing with. What a— what a force to be reckoned with.

Sea Shell Magic


Sea shells, As I’m sure we all know are the outer shells that protect the shell fish from outside forces. They become a home, Guarding them from predators.

So how can we use them magically you say?

For Protection and Banishments of course!

They can be made into Talismans by carving sigils, or spells into them.

They can be used to protect, or banish someone by inserting a name, doll, or piece of clothing to them and sealing it with wax.

They can be made into candle holders, sensors for your altars, smudging bowls, offering bowls, spell holders, The list goes on. Creativity is everything, and you can find magic everywhere!

anonymous asked:

Part 5- And last but definitely not least, suga being the right-hand man to namjoon, he handles all the business side of things and makes sure that namjoons plans go smoothly, but also being ruthless with namjoon towards those that threat their members. And that's all I got 🤔😅 holy crap I'm super sorry on how many messages I sent, I just needed to share and that is all - hyper anon

Originally posted by vminv

Jimin // Jungkook // Suga // V // Rap Monster

I GOT ALL YOUR OTHER MESSAGES AND WILL USE THEM WELL THANK YOU FOR SENDING THEM IN BUT FOR RIGHT NOW I’M FOCUSING ON YOONGI!!! HERE WE GO

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You turned the key in the lock to Yoongi’s house, slowly opening the door and expecting to see him lying somewhere, asleep, or worse, not asleep. He’d been gone two weeks oversea’s for work Namjoon had forced him to scout out. Of course, you’d been worried the whole time, unable to call or even text him. The most you’d said to him was over a sad messaging system which restricted to 200 letters a message and wouldn’t allow emoji’s to portray your feelings and jokes. At least it allowed pictures, or else you would’ve just accepted him ignoring you for the whole time he was away.

You’d sent him a generous amount of pictures the whole time he’d been gone, teasing him to no end and driving him insane. Yoongi would definitely jump you if he wasn’t so drained. You knew he probably wouldn’t have eaten a home cooked meal since the day before he left, so you supplied yourself before trucking over to his place.

You stopped dead in your tracks, taking the sight of his house in before you. Jackets and shoes were spewed all over the floor at the front door, causing you to almost trip and fall. That wasn’t even the worst of it. 

Walking in deeper to the pit of hell, you spotted guns shucked onto the floor along with hundreds of either ripped or crumpled papers. His laptop was open on the table, but the screen was black. There was dim lighting only from the kitchen, where you dropped your bags off.

A voice rung from the back of the house, where Yoongi’s office was located. You began to drift toward the room, listening to the voices that rung with nothing other than aggravation.

“But Yoongi-” a voice cut in, causing a loud smack against something that sounded like wood to cut in.

“I didn’t tell you to talk, did I? No. Now shut the fuck up before I tell Namjoon you had an accident back in America.”

“Right…” The other voice trailed off, falling silent altogether. You leaned your ear up to the door, wondering how exactly your sweet boyfriend could turn into something other than just that- sweet.

“Anyway, a few of us are going to have to go to Busan and teach that kid a lesson. Put a bullet through his skull and leave it at that, get it? Figure out who’ll do it, I’m fucking tired.”

“Yoongi,” another voice chimed in, and you knew it was Taehyung. “Shouldn’t it be Jimin and Seokjin to go?”

“You think I’m going to send the best sniper and our poison expert go there to die? Nobody else knows the human body better than Jin so no way in hell am I sending those dumb asses out, especially alone. Taehyung, shut up.” His voice was less harsh than before, hinted with the affection Yoongi held for the younger boy. “You and Hoseok will go, Taehyung. Jungkook’s to amateur to be excellent at pick pocket like you, and he’d just weigh Hoseok down. This is too big to fuck up, so I need the both of you to succeed. I’ll pay you each 25% of whatever you find there, maybe more if I feel you deserve it. Now here-”

You began to pull away from the door, wondering if you should’ve heard any of the things you just had. Of course you shouldn’t have, but Yoongi told you everything anyway. You knew there was things he hid from you, which you were alright with, and this was no exception. He was just working, which was how he usually spent his days.

Right as you began to pull away from the door, it snapped open. You were met by a tired looking Yoongi holding the bridge of his nose and lightly massaging it. Upon spotting you, his eyes grew wide and he shoved you out the door.

“Keep making up a plan with the map I gave you.” Yoongi snapped, slamming the wood shut so nobody would see you. His arms seized your shoulders, pushing you towards the bathroom with an expression that read why-are-you-here?-you-definitely-shouldn’t-be-here.

“Yoongi, I-”

“If anyone saw you they would’ve shot you.” His voice was hushed as he closed the bathroom door and clicked the lock shut. His eyes hungrily met yours holding you against the sink. Yoongi’s shoulders were hunched slightly, and his button down shirt wrinkled. The slacks he wore were slightly stained with hints of red- blood

“I…” you cut yourself off. “Sorry…”

His eyes softened at your words, before engulfing you. Yoongi’s fingers tangled in your hair, while the other hand held your shoulder tightly to his chest. Your head laid against his shoulder, mind racing with thoughts of how exactly he still managed to be more put together than you even in a state such as this.

“I’m going to kick them out, okay? I need my reward for being alive still.”

“What?” You feel him begin letting you go, before placing a finger to his lips. Yoongi disappears back to the room, and you could hear him yelling for all the people to scatter. Yoongi returned, taking your hand and gently guiding you towards his bedroom, where the door hung wide open now.

“I brought food…Shouldn’t we clean up your place?”

“I’m tired.” His response was dull, but Yoongi’s hand tightened around yours. He began to unbutton his shirt, throwing it aside without a second glance and climbing on the bed. His room seemed to be the only tidy space in his house, and you made a mental note to begin cleaning once he was fast asleep. It was the least you could do to make his life a little easier.

You crawled after him on the bed, picking up the covers and draping them over his body before letting Yoongi wrap his arms around you. He was never like this, unless something was on his mind.

“Yoongi, what happened? You should’ve kicked me out. Namjoon will be-”

“I’m scared,” his voice was merely a breath, but it still caught your full attention. You sighed, bringing your hand up and down his back in comforting ways. His hands were shaking.

“Why?” You murmured lightly, and he shook his head against your chest.

“He knows about us…” Yoongi’s voice was quiet, and it still cracked with uncertainty.

“Who?” You were uncertain who he was speaking of, but a sense of dread filled you. His arms tightened around you, before Yoongi met your eyes.

“Namjoon found out who you were without even trying. He knows where you live, your birthday and even where you work. He told me I’m not being secretive enough with you, that anyone would be able to find you and…”

“And?” You kept on, wondering if you even wanted to know.

“Kill you.” His voice broke off, before getting up abruptly. His whole body was rigid as he stood up. He went over to his dresser, hitting his foot against it violently. You knew why his entire house was trashed, now.

“Yoongi, stop.” Your voice was as calm as it could be, but still wavered. He didn’t, anger overflowing around him and causing him to knock a lamp over onto the floor. It shattered loudly.

“Yoongi!” You sat up as well, going over and wrapping your arms around his back. His arms were pinned to his sides now, and for a moment, he calmed. His breathing was ragged despite barely moving, and you knew he was over working himself to the point beyond exhaustion.

“I don’t care if Namjoon knows, he won’t do anything, you know that. Nobody will find me, Yoongi…I’ll be fine as long as I’m with you.”

He didn’t respond, but faltered in return. You took it upon yourself to brush your lips against Yoongi;s back, placing your warm cheek against him and sighing loudly. He unpinned both of your arms and turned around.

“You don’t care?” He sounded unpleasantly disbelieving of you, making you shake your head.

“That’s not it. Namjoon already knew you were with me, so he just made them follow me around. Yoongi, everyone’s too scared of you to do anything. I’m not leaving you alone.”

“Why are you so stubborn? Didn’t you hear me tell you I was scared? There’s no way in hell I’m letting you out of my sight anymore. You have to move in with me and call whenever you go out. I’ll pick you up from work and take you there. Hold on…” He trailed off, reaching into one of his dresser drawers and pulling out a small bottle. Pepper spray? “Carry this with you.”

“Honestly…” You snorted, gently pushing his hand down. Yoongi was entirely serious, you could tell just by the way his lips were firmly pressed into a pout that made him look young, childish. “I don’t need it. I also won’t move in with you if this is the way you keep your house.”

He stomped his foot, throwing the bottle onto the bed. “You know I don’t keep it like this! Baby, let’s go get your stuff. Just some clothes right now, okay?”

“No,” your voice was firm, and you crossed your arms tightly across your chest.

“What do you mean, no? I’m not letting you leave.”

“I’m staying here to watch you sleep for a good 13 hours. After you wake up, I’m going to make you food and then we’ll go get my stuff. Better go to sleep, now.”

His eyes flashed for a moment, before a small smile met his lips. He crossed his arms as well, before leaning down and brushing his soft lips against your forehead. Once Yoongi pulled away from you, your hands snaked around his shoulders and pulled him in for a real kiss. The first real kiss you’d both shared since he left. It was a simple kiss, slow, long kissing that left the both of you breathless. It was Yoongi who pulled away again, holding you at arms length with glistening lips.

“I’ll kiss you more when I wake up.” His fingers seemed to be cutting into your shoulders by how hard he was holding you. It seemed as if he was restricting himself more, and you nodded to yourself.

Yoongi laid down in his bed, pulling you along with him. He probably guessed you’d get up after he fell asleep, so he only placed his hand gingerly on your hip. The both of you laid there for awhile, but you didn’t fall asleep.

Yoongi was lights out after a few minutes of shutting his eyes, but you wanted to be there longer with him. His mouth hung open slightly, while his head laid back deeply into the pillow. Your hand brushed a few strands of hair off his face, before you bent down and kisses his temple. 

Although sleeping so deeply, Yoongi stirred in his sleep and held you there. Untangling yourself, you knew he wouldn’t wake so easily, but you still did it as lightly as you could. He needed his sleep, and you needed to clean his pig sty of a house.

Over the few years of dating him, Namjoon had just found out about you. Although you knew it was something to worry about, you and Yoongi had been safe thus far. His boss wouldn’t do anything to hurt either of you, especially with Yoongi being his right hand man, and only computer hacker.

You pondered these things while walking around his house, cleaning up the scraps of paper and throwing them into the recycling bag. It seemed as though there was an endless amount of papers scattered everywhere, but once you stood up fully and took a look around, you saw you’d done a good amount so far. There was a visible dent in the layers upon layers of paper, and you were pleased.

Getting bored of cleaning you decided to begin making some food. It would still be hours before Yoongi woke up, but you were feeling a little hungry and it was fine to reheat it after he did wake up.

You ate and cleaned up the plates in the kitchen, before returning back to the dining room and resumed cleaning. It had barely been over 4 hours since Yoongi fell asleep but you were still hard at it.

Picking up one crumpled piece of paper you noticed how heavy it was. Unraveling it, you held a velvety red box that made your chest tighten. You wondered if in fact, you should open the box to see if there was anything in there. It was just to see if you could throw the box away or not, you decided. Just cleaning up…

You flicked open the box, and the door to Yoongi’s bedroom creaked open. A yawn erupted from across the room, causing you to look up from the ring sitting prettily in the box.

“Are you cleaning?” Yoongi’s voice was filled with sleep, it cracked with dryness and you snapped the box shut before standing up. In attempts to hide the ring box behind your back, you knew it was too late. Yoongi saw the box and cursed, before striding over to you and reaching behind your back to snatch it away. He failed, though.

“W-why are you awake?” You backed up, face flushing as he attempted to reach around you once more and take the box.

“I was thirsty,” his voice was flat, and you knew exactly why he had a ring in the box, and was attempting to take it away from you.

“Go back to sleep, okay?” You held out a hand, trying to keep him away from you. Yoongi’s brows furrowed, and he pinned your hand down before easily taking away the box.

“You opened it, didn’t you?” He sighed, fingering the box before propping it open with his thumb.

“No way…” You lied, looking away from the box. “I didn’t open it.”

“Liar. You’re telling me you didn’t see the ring I bought?”

“Yoong-”

“You don’t want to marry me?” He was grinning, looking down at you before picking up one of your hands and gently placing the box in it. In the new light, the ring shone. It was elegant, not too over the top. It fit both yours and Yoongi’s personality almost perfectly.

“Ask me properly…” Your voice came out as a breath. You couldn’t meet his eyes, feeling as if your lungs would burst by how hard you were holding your breath.

His fingers tickled under your chin, directing your face to his where he gave you a swift peck. You pulled away from the kiss, eyes searching his face but only seeing the soft blush that had formed along his cheeks. It was the first time you’d seen him swallow excess saliva so forcefully and fidget with the messy strands of hair sticking to his face.

“Don’t say no, okay?”

You nodded, watching as he dropped to his knee. Yoongi took a deep breath, and you let out a shaky laugh. It was the worst way to propose, the both of you knew. In a dimly lit, messy house with an only half dressed Yoongi, clumsy from sleeping for such a little time.

He looked up at you again, pure determination taking over his features before he took the box from you and plucked out the small circular metal.

“Will you…God…Will you ma…rry..marry…”

“Yoongi,” you murmured, causing him to stop talking and nod his head. “Just say it.”

“Oh, just fucking marry me.” He snapped this time, standing up and putting the ring in your hand. Oh. This was much more like the boyfriend you knew and loved. You slid the ring on your finger, inspecting it before looking at him with a smirk.

“Mm, I’ll fucking marry you.”

“Good, that means you’re stuck with me.” His voice was harsh, but it was clear he was relieved by your answer.

“Yeah,” you grinned from ear to ear. “I wouldn’t have it any other way.”

I would rather...

Have a dozen technowitch’s posting emoji spells daily than dealing with yet another wiccan dictating what is a real witch, curse shaming, and forcing the 3 fold law on others like a Christian fundamentalist. 

Every witch is different. How they do things is different. You don’t like emoji spells, don’t do them. Don’t like curses, don’t do it. Stop pretending though as if either of these things done by another has anything to do with your magic and casting. 

Will. Intent. The use of objects and items that strengthen and embolden the witch. Every witch is different. I think burning sage smells ugh - fresh and ground nummy though - and prefer using Palo Santo. It doesn’t mean my magic/cleansing is any less than those using sage. Nor does using tea steam from a protective herbal tea because one is in a dorm, or in a forest and don’t want to risk a fire, mean the cleansing will be any less thorough. 

For me witchcraft has always been about adaptability, but this degradation of new methods is something I’ve seen for a couple of dozen years. Any form of technology in spells. Hell, I remember when people threw a fit about using a lighter in circle. I’ve watched witches throw fits at another over nonorganic, over tea in a bag, lighters, the gods one worships, the difference in elements and quarters, not practicing in a wiccan way with circles, and quarters and the great rite. None of it lessens the witch. 

Every witch comes to magic differently, and over the years, we learn to adapt magic differently. Emoji spells, tablet altars, all of it is another adaption of magic to suit our world, and our lives. Magic is mutable, it is adaptable, and not sticking strictly to the old ways, or the wiccans ways, does not lessen the witch.

I feel like I can not say that enough.

3

Light Side Au: An Unlikely Partnership

“How can I protect you with my hands full of papers all the time?”

“Oh please, I’ve been on my own for years now, the only thing i needed was more hands; which i now have. If anybody tries to attack us I’ll Blaster drop them faster than you can turn on your little glow stick of death.”

Continuation of this and this

Faith Stronger Than Reality. A Creed for Hardcore Warrior Optimists.

If you think that hardcore, warrior, and optimist don’t belong in the same sentence together, read Christian D. Larson’s “The Optimist Creed”:

Promise Yourself

1. To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

2. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

3. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

4. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

5. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

6. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

7. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

8. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

9. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

10. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

11. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but in great deeds.

12. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Thanks, Mr. Larson, for twelve great examples of “easier said than done”.  Each statement alone is a demanding assignment because the transforming potential exists in practicing and feeling these genuinely and deeply.

Certainly, you could pretend to celebrate the success of another person. But if on the inside, you are a molten mass of seething jealousy, then you aren’t truly meeting the conditions of #6. You won’t fool yourself at all and in fact, your shadow side is going come kick your ass.

This morning I woke up with a severe case of Optimist’s Backlash, an extreme fear and anxiety driven response to a decision made while under the spell of optimism. To be fair, optimism was not the only factor in making this decision, a realistic assessment of cash flow also entered into it. It is going to work out and if it was not, my husband, the analytical, sensible, and most certainly not optimistic one, would have nixed it.

My reptilian brain should be basking on a sunshine-warmed rock right now, carefree and happy. But no.

My weak, surface-level optimism seems like the psychological equivalent of spackling over a melanoma with makeup so you can pretend that it does not exist. Covering up, pretending things don’t exist, when deep down inside you know they do, never works. Ever.

The idea that optimism has true transforming power resonates with me. And I well, optimistically, refuse to give up on it. It would feel like giving up on myself somehow. Clearly, I am currently stopped out at #1, strength that can not be disturbed. But #8, the smiling thing, that I can handle, so that’s where I will start.

I guess that’s all any of us can do. Start with the simple things that we can do. The act of doing these things will prepare us to do the more difficult things. In the meantime, I am going to read Your Forces and How to Use Them by Christian D. Larson for insight on some of the more challenging statements.

Maybe I’ll consider it as training to become some sort of Ultimate Optimist Warrior. I’ll keep you posted on my progress.

Men insist that pregnancy is the most evil thing a woman can do to them, talk about how that scares them, talk about how it’s every man’s worst fear. If a woman ends up pregnant, she trapped him, she tricked him, she forced it on him. He shouldn’t have to stick around to help, he’s defended by men and women alike if he abandons her.

Then practically in the same breath they use the defense “men are biologically inclined to want young, fertile females for breeding! it’s just in our DNA to want underage/teenage girls because they’re most likely to help us fulfill our basic biological need to be fathers! we can’t help it, lol, take it up with nature and evolution if you gross 30+ year old women are bitter about it” to justify chasing after inappropriately young girls.

But I’m sure if one of those little girls they fuck ACTUALLY got pregnant, she “trapped” them. Even though they’re just doing what he SAYS he wants her “young, fertile” body to do, right? That’s why he’s SO attracted to her, because of his biological need, right? It’s nature, it’s evolution.

White people just don’t get it. Racism is NOT about having your feelings hurt for a little bit. It’s about the countless years you enslaved, beaten, and killed PoC. It’s about the fact that being a thin blue eyed blonde is the beauty standard everywhere. It’s about the fact that you had the nerve to come to this land and steal it from the Natives and forced them to be just like you or else they would be thrown in jail or hung. It’s about you Telling Hispanics, Blacks, and Asians to “go back to your country” but wear henna, do pretty skull designs on Halloween, and inject your lips. It’s about the fact that you have the power to murder us and not only get away with it, but even have supporters raise you thousands of dollars for what you did. This isn’t about how you had your feelings hurt because you got called a “cracker” that one time. It’s about the destruction you’ve done to us and the destruction you will still do to us.