YOU define BEAUTY

Listen Up

You are under NO OBLIGATION to make excuses for your abuser

No matter what is going on in their personal life, they have NO RIGHT to use you as an outlet, emotionally, physically, psychologically, or sexually

No matter what they may have done for you in the past, YOU OWE THEM NOTHING now

YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FORGIVE; YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FORGET

YOUR ONLY OBLIGATION IS TO YOURSELF

To your recovery

To saying to yourself every day, over and over until you believe it

That you did not deserve what they did to you

That you are valid

That you are allowed to feel this way

That you do not have to get better overnight

That you are perfect and deserve to take your time to believe in yourself again

That you will get better

That you will get stronger

Until one day you can look them in the eye and tell them that

YOU DESERVE BETTER

AND THAT YOU ARE BETTER THAN THEY CAN EVER HOPE TO BE

often we say “I love you” with one eye opened and teeth touching
we say “i love you” like it is just brushing off of our face
we say it with clenched fists and broken hearts, noses, and lives
we say it with a twisted mind and a soul that is too tired to ever live by. we say it with hands that are too small for something we could have and too big for something that we couldn’t.
we say it abruptly, spontaneously and often we say it with minds hovering around the idea that this, this love we claim to have will end every drop of misery in our lives.

but darling, this is not the kind of love you are supposed to have.

a friend once told me that loving comes from within as how the sun slowly engulfs the darkness, eating away every bit of that pitch black it had harbored inside; only realizing at the end of the day that it had not really touched it, a mere brush, a peck on the cheek
that it will come back again by six in the evening
it will come back
it comes back
definitely
sometimes with scattered showers
and it will drench your feet and drown you
until you gasp for air, trying to breathe
trying
try
you did try and
that’s when you thought of his smile that you love more than the cherry topped chocolate cupcake made by your mom everytime you turn a year old, that’s when you value him more than the poster of Winona Ryder with one hand on her hips and the other pointed at you as if she’s telling you that darling this is how you define beauty, that’s when you thought that your playlist had turned into this set of songs trapped inside your crooked heart due to continuous rambling writing and
falling
you fall
slowly
like how leaves do before November
kisses our earthly ground
dear
this, this is not the kind of love youre supposed to have

you deserve the kind of love
you give and more than that
you deserve the love that surpasses
and transcends everything,
you deserve a deep, immense and immeasurable kind of love
you deserve a love that’s not too much or too little, just enough so you could
sleep on it at nights you thought darkness could eat you
darling you deserve the kind of love that would let you dream
peacefully under your sheets
you deserve love more than that “love” you think you deserve
because you are
amiable
brave
truer than true
unparalleled
a
stunning
creation of God

you deseve a love more than words could describe
i know you do
so go and stay alive beautiful,
keep marching
keep running
keep breathing.
Not one boy,
Not one mistake,
No rules
could hold you back.

You deserve more.

—  retrouvailleset 
Rant Time

SOMETHING THAT YOU CANNOT CONTROL IS NOT A DEFINING FACTOR OF YOUR ATTRACTIVENESS! Your skin colour, body shape or any other physical feature that you have and that you were BORN WITH does not make you any less of a person, or any less beautiful than anyone else. It is 2017, I thought we had moved passed slandering someone’s skin colour or body shape and saying that because they were born with those characteristics, they are less of a person. It is racism, regardless of which ‘skin colour’ it is against. I don’t care if you believe that the race you are slandering you believe is ‘privileged’ or not, it’s still bullshit. And this goes for different body shapes as well. In no way is it okay for you to point out someones body shape and degrade them and put them down because of it. 

Now, in saying that, you are not going to be attractive to everyone. I can see a solid 10/10 model, beautiful and blessed boy and think ‘oh yeah he’s beautiful and all but I don’t find him attractive’. ATTRACTIVENESS IS A PERSONAL PREFERENCE THAT THE PERSON CANNOT CONTROL. Just because someone doesn’t find you attractive, doesn’t mean that you aren’t beautiful or attractive to other people, it just means that they have a specific preference in which you do not fall under. AND THAT ISN’T A BAD THING. But you know what is a bad thing and what makes you less of a person? BEING AN ASSHOLE. It has nothing to do with how you look, or what religion or whatever else you identify with that will make me not like you, it’s your personality. If you’re a douche then I’m sorry, I don’t really want to talk to you, or hear your degrading opinions. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and every body shape, skin colour, fucking hair colour I don’t know, IS BEAUTIFUL AND DOESN’T MAKE THEM BASIC, OR TRASH OR LESS OF A PERSON.

Rant over

Beauty And The Beast Themed Asks

Send me one of these in my inbox for me to answer them. Reblog this post if you want people to drop by your inbox and send you some of these questions.


Princess Belle

Do you have any weird or odd interests, and if so, what? 

What is your favorite book?

Prince Adam

What quality do you dislike the most about yourself? 

Is there anything that you would like to change about your past?

Gaston

What quality do you like the most about yourself?

Is there anything you would like to happen in your future?

LeFou

Have you ever had a crush, and if so, who? 

Have you ever had your heart broken?

Mrs. Potts

What is the best advice you have ever been given? 

What is the best advice you ever given someone else?

Chip

What’s your favorite childhood memory? 

Would you ever want to have kids?

Lumière

Are you more extroverted, or introverted? 

What is your favorite food?

Cogsworth

When was the last time you broke the rules?

What was your favorite time of your life?

Plumette:

What quality in a partner do you most admire?

Can you speak another language, and if so, what language(s) can you speak?

Garderobe

What is your favorite song to sing? 

Do you consider yourself a good singer?

Cadenza

What is your favorite song to listen to? 

Can you play an instrument? 

Maurice:

When was the last time you were scared?

Have you ever had a near-death experience, and if so, what was it?

Stanley:

What is the last thing you have done that made you happy? 

Do you like to dance?

The Enchantress:

How do you define inner beauty?

Do you believe in the concept of soulmates, true love, and fate?

Enchanted Rose:

Choose two random questions above and answer them.

Please don’t base your self worth on someone swiping right on your photo.

Please don’t find yourself unlovable because a garbage person “ghosted” you, said all the right things to hook you in, and played you.

Please don’t define your beauty by the photos that others post on social media.

You’re so much more than the ways that a transient, unreliable, sweet-talking jerk treated you on a dating app or on some stupid date. They don’t deserve you.

Why The BMI is BS:

i don’t normally post anything like this but i need to spill. i am a 5'5", white female. I weigh roughly 150 pounds. sounds like a lot right? my doctors say that i’m very muscular which has a lot to do with my weight. but my BMI says otherwise. my BMI claims that i am overweight. i know countless women and men alike who are extremely fit and who’s bmi is on the ‘overweight’ side. this is why the BMI shouldn’t be counted on. i’m constantly hearing from people 'Oh you don’t have a thigh gap?’ and 'Oh you weigh that much?! You must be overweight.’ and i’m sick of it. my weight does not define who i am. your thigh gap or lack thereof doesn’t define who you are. YOUR BMI DOESNT DEFINE YOU. You are not your weight, stretch marks, cuts, bruises, hair length, belly pooch, and cellulite. you are a human being who deserves to be happy and loved like everyone else. i just needed to let that out.

Originally posted by glitter-and-darkness

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CHUCK AND BLAIR IN EVERY EPISODE || Seventeen Candles (1x08)

Something this beautiful deserves to be seen on someone worthy of its beauty.

Why on earth do you draw shooting stars all the time?“ He asked, his fingers running over the dark shape against the page.

I smiled, “Somedays are harder than others, the clouds in my mind like to wander and rain. So when I wake up, I make a wish. Some days it’s love, some days it’s happiness, some days it’s simply a sunny day. And than I draw the shooting star.Why sit and ponder life when you can take it in your hands, grasp it tight, and never let go?”

I looked down, embarrassed.

“Why sit and wait, when you can make your own wishes come true.

—  When you wish upon a star
Okay I never post things like this but...well here we go

My New Years resolution was to loose weight. And I know that’s cliche and whatever but at the end of 2016 I was incredibly unhappy with myself (not only the way I looked but my emotional self as well) and I decided that I needed to do something to feel good about myself. I truly believe that every body is beautiful and there is no “wrong” body type as long as you are healthy. Weight is just a number and it does not define you or your beauty. But though I hold those beliefs for others…I had a very, very hard time believing it about myself. It got to the point where I couldn’t look in mirrors without breaking down, so I started avoiding them. I literally could not name one thing I liked about myself, and my physical appearance was just not what I wanted it to be.

So I decided that I needed to make a change, both physically and mentally. Mentally I started going to therapy more often and cutting toxic people out of my life, and doing some soul searching. And physically I decided to jump start my weight loss and I found Isagenix. (I’m not going to go into a whole spiel about Isagenix right now. If you want a full run-down of what it is and how it works you’re free to message me privately)

I’m still not where I want to be, but I’m finally….happy. Or at least happier than I have been in a long time. I’m still working through some things but no one is a finished product so I fully expect to continue working on myself throughout my whole life. But as of right now, I am proud of where I am and how far I’ve come. 

Sorry for the rant. Always keep fighting. Love yourself first. You are not alone.

(these photos are 30 days apart just fyi)

Sammi’s Space’s Guide to MTF Shaving

Hello lovelies! In an attempt to be a bit more active I decided to come up with a short little guide for everyone. This is one of my biggest struggles both with dysphoria and with maintaining how I look. Body and facial hair differs in how it fades for HRT recipients, and it’s often removed by laser hair removal, but clearly most people can’t afford that.

So! Here are a few rules.

1.) Always shave with a clean razor, and some sort of cream.

Never use a rusty razor or do it without some sort of cream or soap. That is how you increase the risk of cutting yourself, snagging the skin, or in general giving yourself awful razor bumps.

2.) Always shave with the grain.

Well. Not really. It is alright to shave against the grain in non-fatty areas, however as a rule you should always -finish- shaving by going with the grain. You want to shave fatty areas as follows: Once with the grain, once against it, once with it. This should help prevent ingrown hairs.

3.) Gently scrub your skin in small circles between shaves.

Ingrown hairs are nasty, and as are razor bumps. Using a body wash scrub or a facial scrub will help to prevent your ingrown hairs and will, in general, help prevent them from forming and will also improve the overall health of your skin. This should be done anyways, but it’s especially important here.

4.) Be careful when using creams like Nair.

Nair drastically increases the sensitivity of your skin when its used. If you do use Nair, be sure to follow the instructions to maintain proper care for your skin, else it can lead to uncomfortable and unsightly rashes.

5.) Use baby oil or baby lotion frequently.

This stuff is a godsend. It makes your skin smooth and soft and can be, and I’ve found it really helps to deal with pesky razor bumps or dry skin.

6.) Be safe, and be reasonable!

You don’t have to shave every day. You don’t have to shave anything you don’t want to or don’t feel safe shaving. Just remember that body hair doesn’t define you or how beautiful you are. -You- define that. <3 

Title: aesthetically pleasing
Kind: aesthetic blogger donghyuck and his cute af bf mark au, fluff af, too sweet
Original link of the fic in aff: http://www.asianfanfics.com/story/view/1253571/aesthetically-pleasing-donghyuck-markhyuck-marklee-markchan-haechan-leedonghyuck pls check my other markhyuck fics i need more opinions on them ^-^ (you can check my friend’s fics too, we share the same account ^-^)
Note: it’s my first time posting a fic in tumblr so im nervous af and it might be a failed fluff but here we go:
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Donghyuck was trying to choose the perfect filter for the aesthetically pleasing photo he just took a few minutes ago when a notification signal popped up from his tumblr app. He was so used to getting notifications all the time from tumblr, twitter and instagram. He was very popular in social media thanks to other aesthetic lovers like him. His followers were going crazy over the photos he takes or the aesthetics he makes. Even though his blog’s name wasn’t anything close to the name of a normal aesthetic blog he still got over 2000 followers. He was also posting some memes or some shady posts on his blog sometimes which was making his followers get feed on the drama but also have fun.

He opened the app and his eyes went to his url automatically. “Jerrys-tom”. He laughed when he remembered how he forced mark to have matching urls so they chose “jerry’s tom” and “tom’s jerry” and wrote “in love @….” to their profiles and tagged each other. Well donghyuck was an overprotective bf and he knew so many people were after mark and oh no lee donghyuck would never let anyone steal his bf from him. And maybe, JUST MAYBE!, he thought the matching urls, icons and profiles with mark would be cute and romantic af and would make his heart flutter everytime he sees it.

The notification was from his inbox. He rolled his eyes and sighed. If it was one of those “hey check my game pls i need some opinions” kind of spam or those “how you and your jerry’s sex life ? Need some third player in your game baby girl ??” Kind of perverts again he was gonna be very, very pissed off. And not just because everyone who checks his blog just once thinks he is a girl, not that it is something bad but he just simply,clearly is not a girl, but also because it was becoming so annoying after like 283383 times dealing with spammers and pervs.

But thank god it was just a normal, actually way too normal, ask. “Write 5 things that makes you happy then send it to 5 people to do the same 💙”

If donghyuck was a normal aesthetic blogger he would simply aswer with “my bf, my family, my friends, music and aesthetic” but of course he being the lee donghyuck he is answered like this:

1. Mark lee 😙
2. Lee minhyung 😙
3. Mork 😙
4. The ramen hair boi 😙
5. My jerry 😙

And tagged mark’s blog at the end of his answer. Mark’s blog was so different than donghyuck’s. While donghyuck’s was a mix of mostly aesthetic pics, memes and shady posts, mark’s blog was full of memes, short scary stories, heart warming stories, fantaken pics of his fave idols, conspiracy theories, the “5 amazing tricks to do with …..” kind of posts, and yeah memes again. Donghyuck smirked after posted his answer. He knew mark will be blushing like heck when he saw what donghyuck tagged him. Taking his teasing one more step further donghyuck send the same ask to mark’s blog but added the “😙” emoji at the end.

He went back to choosing a filter for his freshly taken photo till he heard his phone ringing “My baby loves me,My baby loves me, My baby ,My baby, My baby loves me”. He used that ringtone for only one person ever so he answered the phone without even looking at screen to see who was calling. “Whats up baby ?”

He couldn’t see mark’s face but he knew he was red like a tomato “h-hey donghyuck w-why you tagged me into that post ?”

Donghyuck almost squealed at how adorable mark sounded. Almost. “Well, they asked me 5 things makes me happy and i answered with full honestly”

“B-but you just wrote me for all 5 times”

“You know you make happy the most mork”

Donghyuck’s heart got in pain, trying so hard not to ran to mark’s house and hug him so tight when he heard mark’s cute little giggle

“Do i really ?”

“You do really. You are my happiness mark lee”

Mark giggled more “since when lee donghyuck is a cheesy romantic ?”

“Since when mark lee giggles like a high school girl ?”

Donghyuck could see mark rolling his eyes even without seeing his face.

“So do i have to answer it too since you sent it to me too ?”

“Hmm hmm” said donghyuck, holding the phone with one hand while checking his tumblr to see if anyone liked his answer yet. Cause most of the times the first person who likes the anon ask’s answer is the person who asked it. But of course he didn’t got surprised when he saw mark liked it first. Probably cause he was tagged to the post so he saw it first.

“Okay then”

“What you will write as the answer ?” Asked donghyuck in a teasing tone, smirking like mark could see him through the phone

“You’ll see” mark said then added “now go do your homework. I wont let you copy mine this time”

“But baaaabe!” Donghyuck whined cutely which would make mark shutter in any other time but now he just sighed, trying hard not to die over his boyfriend’s cuteness.

“No buts lee donghyuck you’ll do your homework or no more cuddles for you”

“Okay okay damn i’ll do it” said donghyuck and heard mark giggle again “good boy”

“Will you give me a sweet kiss if i do it well ?”

“S-shut up and go do your homework idiot” mark said and ended the class

Donghyuck laughed at mark’s cuteness but did his homework anyway cause god knows the cutest boy in this world ever mark lee was turning into a boy who gives scary and cold af looks to everyone when he was angry.

The homework took just 20 minutes so it was okay for donghyuck to do it but teasing mark was always more fun than actually doing the homework. When he finally finished it he thought about checking his tumblr again to see if mark answered his ask. He knew mark wasn’t into social media that much, he would prefer reading a book over scrolling down in tumblr but he still checked it anyway. His eyes widened when he saw he got tagged into an aswer.

“Holy shit he really answered already” said quietly to himself and clicked to the notification.

The question was same of course “write 5 things that makes you happy then send it to 5 people to do the same 😙”

1. Donghyuck 💙
2. Lee donghyuck 💙
3. The sun-kissed prince 💙
4. Most beautiful piece of art 💙
5. My tom 💙

Donghyuck felt his heart melting sweetly. Damn why mark was so sweet ? What have he done to deserve such a sweet angel as his bf ? Really donghyuck was blessed af with mark’s existence

He kept reading mark’s answer with that stupid lovesick smile on his face and his smile widened when he readed the words mark wrote after tagging him “@jerrys-tom i love you darling 💙”

Donghyuck was gonna reblog it with a gif full of hearts and kisses but then he saw mark dm'ed him.

“Have u done your homework lee donghyuck ??”

“I did darling”

“If you make fun of it ever i swear to god hyuck.”

“You know i won’t”

“I know you will.”

Donghyuck laughed and wrote the next words with the fealing of his shaking heart on his chest

“I love you so much”

He knew what mark will send as the answer but he still felt his heart shaken more when he red the “i love you so much too idiot”

Damn he was so in love with mark he couldn’t even stop his heart beating that fast whenever he thinks about him.

“Hyuck”

“Yes baby ?”

“Why you love aesthetics so much ?”

“They remind me you. They are so beautiful, soft, makes me smile but tbh you are a lot lot lot better than all aesthetics i had ever seen. You are the defination of beautiful mark”

“………..idiot”

“You love me”

“Damn right i do”

Donghyuck forgot about the photo he was gonna post and all other things he was gonna do. He didn’t care much about them that moment tbh. He closed his laptop and walked out the house and the next thing he knew he was cuddling with mark in his kinda small but warm bed.

Yeah donghyuck loved aeshetic so much. But he loved mark lee the most

Clean Speech
Taylor Swift
Clean Speech

You are your own definition of beautiful and worthwhile…that is what you are!…I think that we mistake our mistakes for damage and we think other people will judge us for them, but I want you to know that the way that I see mistakes, they don’t make you damaged…they make you CLEAN.

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This isn’t my audio…I found it on YouTube and thought that what she said is so true and important!  We all need to remember these things about ourselves and don’t ever let anyone make you believe differently!


Listen <3

If you’re reading this, you should know that what others think of you is their opinion of you and not a fact. Shards of judgement cast by unimportant people don’t define you. You are beautiful and your imperfections make you perfect in a very different way. It makes you unique in ways that no one else would understand. The only thing that defines you is what you think of yourself. So don’t give up on yourself, and take pride in who you are.
—  Tanzeela.
There is no thing as ugly

I wanna embrace my beauty. Who is society to tell me that I’m ugly?
Sure my hair does not touch my bum and it doesn’t hold perfect curls
My thighs do touch and my tummy is not flat but I wanna be okay with that
Sure my boobs are uneven and not as perky as once were, my butt is also flat, can you be okay with that?
I, not you.

Who are you to define someone’s beauty? Even if you aren’t attracted to someone and don’t see the beauty in that person it does not mean that person is ugly. There is no ugly in this world. Just different standards and opinions around “beauty”. Is there such thing as beauty? What defines beauty and what defines the ugly? If there isn’t ugly then why would there be beauty?
Everyone is beautiful. No one less or more.

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I’m Kyemah McEntyre, I am 18 years old, and I am undoubtedly of African Descent. As an artist, I have a completely different point of view compared to most individuals. I am extremely analytical and observant. Throughout the world, we have people who do not notice each other’s essence and humanity. We stunt our collective spiritual growth by allowing assumptions and stereotypes to cloud our mind and thus our physical reality. We let these negative ideas get the best of us, and in turn a world of isolation is manifested by our lack of sensitivity and desire to sympathize with each other. This results in a world in which people live within the confines of their own space, isolated from each other and separated from the rest of the world. Sometimes we get trapped in our own prejudice ways. We don’t notice how the idea of a particular type of person changes the way we live our lives. The most creative people are the ones who step out of their comfort zone and take advantage of the world around them. My abilities as an artist allow me to experience the benefits that versatility fosters. Being exposed to all kinds of people and cultures is the muse for my artwork. I am an aspiring artist who is very passionate about the connection between art and the world. I believe that in order for society to gain a wider horizon, we have to be willing to acknowledge other people from differences, beliefs, morals, and values. I would like to take this moment to say that you have to understand who you are because if you leave that space open, you leave your identity in the hands of society. Don’t let anyone define you. Beautiful things happen when you take pride in yourself. #blackgirlsrock #kyebreaktheinternet Sources: mindofkye Instagram Posted by: Pierre