Words of Advice

Honor your own light,‬
‪before you expect someone else to.‬

‪Love your own self,‬
‪before you expect someone else to.‬

‪Vibrate higher your own self,‬
‪before you expect someone else to.‬

‪Be a better person your own self,‬
‪before you expect someone else to.‬

‪May what you desire to see in‬ others,
‪start within you—first. ‬

– Lalah Delia

No one is a finished canvas. You’ll have plenty of brush strokes that need revising, and so will others. Don’t accept defeat, don’t get discouraged. Choose to forgive. Be active in your patience waiting for progress to appear. Sometimes the best colors come from blended paints, so help others and don’t be too stubborn to deny the reciprocation.

Every relationship you have will be influenced by your relationship with your Creator. Get off your high horse and remember you are nothing without Him but you can do all things through Him. Pray to the lover of your soul, seeking a deeper relationship with Him. This connection will pour into every aspect of your life until your cup overflows. Joy abounds if you seek it.

Keeping your feelings inside doesn’t make you tough, it makes relationships with others tough. It makes life a lot tougher than it ought to be. Communication invokes strength, contrary to popular belief. Don’t keep things bottled inside unless you want yourself as your sole confidant. You will always have Jesus, but He didn’t create you to be a recluse. He created you for communion with Him and His people.

Know when red flags are red flags and when they are simply false alarms. Negative influences, abuse, and toxic people are different than the occasional sinner with good intentions. No one is a complete saint, but that doesn’t mean you should dance with the devil. Stand up for yourself if you’re being constantly knocked down.

Don’t look for love in other people because you feel lonely. The void you feel can be fixed permanently by the Healer if you let Him. Home remedies only provide temporary relief. You’ll find a new lover when you least expect it, when you least desire it. This makes it all the more special. Let God control your love story, it’s time you let go of the pencil.

Look for love in His love letters to you. Read the Bible, even on days you would rather mindlessly scroll through websites envying the lives of others. Look for love in airport reunions, in strangers’ smiles, in puppies and newborn babies. The world He created is a lot brighter than the light from your phone makes it seem.

—  Relationship Advice//Things I’m Still Learning
It’s time to forget about being lovable. And in fact, it’s time to forsake someone else’s idea of what gives you a spark or no spark. Block the “other” from this picture. No more audience. You are the cherished and the cherisher. You are the eminently lovable and the lover. You are a million brilliant sparks, flashing against a midnight sky. Stop making room for someone else to sit down. Fuck “good” partners. Fuck waiting to be let in. You are already in. You are in. Cherish yourself.
—  Heather Havrilesky as Polly on what to do if you feel unlovable. 
I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. When I feel pain, that’s when I start counting, because that’s when it really counts.
—  Muhammad Ali