WHY-NOT-BIGGER

why are the bigger lapis fans so intent on seeing her as this fragile little specimen with no backbone. 

I love her but man she is not to be fucked with please stop mking her something she’s not

Turning 27

Here it is, 27. I’d have to say that my 27th year was pretty darn awesome. My 20’s have felt so big, and that may be why 27 feels that much bigger. I’m not sure if everyone feels this way, but 26 still felt young, but 27 feels so mature. I am now 3 years inching toward 30. My 25th to 27th years showed me what hard work, determination and lots of patience can achieve, and that I am stronger than I ever imagined.

For the past three years, three of the biggest things I’ve learned is how to be L.I.T. 😎

(this is based on my own personal experiences and from other people i know)

LET GO- Letting go is both healthy and hard. But it’s needed for your growth. It is a hard life hack to master, purely because I believe we’re generation of clingers. We try so desperately to hold on onto things even when they’ve served us beyond their purpose.

“It doesn’t matter how loyal you are to someone. You can’t change someone’s heart and bad habits unless they want to themselves.”

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you have control over is yourself. Letting go someone/ something with love takes great strength. We have to learn to stop taking on people’s problems as if they are our own. Sadly, you can only express your opinion on a situation. You can’t want their life more than they do. This is in fact their life to figure out on their own and in their own time. I do believe timing is everything. You forcing your own beliefs and dreams down ones throat is only going to cause resentment and possibly manifest deeper issues. People say, time heals all wounds…I say time heals wounds but scars are left to remind you what you have been through and what you survived. Stop shattering your own heart by trying to make a relationship (friend, family, partner) work that clearly isn’t meant to work. We have to stop trying to reprint people’s colors. We have to learn to believe the love we AREN’T given. You can’t love someone into loving you. (God I wish it were that easy). You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be. Even if it its for their own good! Sometimes the person you want the most is the person you’re best without. 😩😩 You have to understand…some things are supposed to happen in your life, but they are NOT meant to be. Damn, it took years to understand that. God always has a plan even if we can’t understand it. Even in the darkest of places…Our Lord sees His vision. We might not understand it at the moment but I promise you, your future will always bring understanding and clarity of why things didn’t work out. Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you. Do not abandon yourself. Love and respect yourself enough to let go of anything toxic, anything (relationships, jobs, any situation) that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy. I let go and it felt damn good. It allowed me to reconnect with myself. It gave me a good sense of independence and a fresh start on my self- relationship.“

INDEPENDENCE- Happiness starts from within. You can’t depend on someone else to give you something only you can provide for yourself. If you don’t know how to be alone and enjoy your own company, you can never be ready for a relationship and a lot of things in life. Learning to be independent made me feel free enough, this is especially true in my relationship to myself. I have participated more in life. I was able to do soo many things on my own without being uncomfortable; I go on a lot of walks by myself, hiking, work out, eat out at a restaurant, coffee dates with myself, sat on the airports alone, etc. I even went to the movies by myself for the very first time (and probably the last time, it felt super weird tbh 😕). Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice to have other people’s company, it can be more fun and sometimes I long to share the experience with someone. But time alone isn’t bad at all. I love my independence. I was able to work on myself and did great things for myself. Self-love and self-acceptance come with independence and vice versa. Invest in yourself. Believe in yourself.. You are worthy.

TOTALLY LOVE MYSELF AND NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS- I’m 27 now, no kids or even boyfriend/husband. I thought I’d have one by now but the more years pass by the more I’ve come to terms with it. I’m also perfectly happy. I’m not going to drown my life away chasing that image either. It’s hard for some people to understand I’m happy. I’m going to keep traveling, working and building a life for myself. When the time comes, it’ll happen.

Self-love is becoming a trend word nowadays. But I think something needs to be said: some people are making self-love dangerous. I’ve witnessed a few who believe that it ranks above genuine human interaction. Don’t be fooled into thinking loving yourself is the only step to feeling better, you NEED to reach out to people and make an effort to experience other live human beings because it’s hard to feel better without that.
Love your self all you want, and recognize that self-love is IMPORTANT. But nothing can replace healthy, loving interaction with others, however brief those interactions may be. Isolation reaches a point where it becomes unhealthy.

You need to remind yourself that you are deserving of love, of joy, of compassion; sometimes, we need that reminder that we are worthy. With self-love, I learned to accept myself and start from there. I’ve learned to emotionally tolerate imperfection in myself. It is necessary to intellectually recognize your shortcomings, but disastrous to hate ourselves because of them.

Never settle. Never settle. Never settle. I promise you, you’ll never regret not settling for anything, any situation, or anyone that doesn’t make you happy.

Being single for the past 3 years, I get asked why or how the heck did I handle it. There’s some sad and very good reasons. But one is, I DO NOT SETTLE. A friend told me I’m picky and I have high standards. Well, what’s wrong with that? As long as I’m not trying to create a person that they are not. I just believe that your standards set the tone for how others treat you. I don’t want to belittle myself by accepting behaviors that don’t resonate with my life goals. I know what I want. Most people have a fear that something great won’t enter their life, so they settle and accept mediocrity. They think that, just because they “wasted time” or spent years in relationships that there isn’t hope for greatness. They are afraid to be alone. Some maybe got impatient and their biological clock had them want a relationship , maybe our culture and/or community and society shames being single/alone. But being alone will never cause as much loneliness as being in the wrong relationship. The longer you stay with the wrong person, the longer it’ll take you to find the right one. Don’t be so in love with the idea of being a couple that you stay in a bad situation. Start falling in love with the idea of independence and freedom.

Yes, I’ve been on some few dates and “almost” relationships. I was on the rocks with some of them, I just had to hit a few roadblocks to get to some few bitch slap great realizations about dating and relationships. Such great lessons. People tend to think of me as unlucky in love, but I see it in a whole other light. What may appear to others as a bad choice, I see as an opportunity for love. I am so grateful for all those failed dates bacause it only means I’m on to a better one. Loving and respecting yourself doesn’t mean you don’t allow yourself to experience some horrible dates and shitty relationships (who knows from the beginning that it’ll be right!?). It’s how you grow. Just know when to leave and move on when it’s simply weren’t working. DO NOT SETTLE. Take a moment to understand that not everyone is meant to love you, and that’s perfectly okay. You are not a one size fits all option meant for hundreds of grasping hands searching for a quick fix. You were meant to love and be loved, by people who recognize your worth, not someone trying to create it. And until that time comes, love yourself first. Love every single part of you. One day, someone will come along who will step up and love you exactly as you are.

If you’re in an ‘almost’ relationship or being ‘benched’ around all along, f**** LEAVE. Never allow yourself to love and be loved with half your heart. We are so much better than 'almost’…but when we stay with them and pursue a relationship that is not a 'hell yes’ we are telling ourselves that we are not a 'hell yes’. Know that change starts with you. Send the energy signal that you deserve the best in your life by taking the right action and disconnect from negativity or someone who doesn’t value their word. Action is the greatest respect. Let people show you who they are, not just tell you sweet words. Some people aren’t ready to grow or discover themselves on a deeper level. Don’t waste your time and energy on surface connections that aren’t stimulating you to further understand yourself and life. Dive into yourself and see what kind of person you attract. Everyone in your life is a reflection of where you are. They are there to show your current state. Don’t get upset, get better and start elevating. Thank them for showing you that you deserve better. Thank them for helping you realize your truth. There’s no loss, just lessons that help you realize your worth. Never settle.


This year I have found that groove I have been searching for. It has made me realize what matters most in life and what makes me feel whole. I am dreaming of simply taking in this year with wide eyes, love and patience, and passion for being the best me I can be. I am not sure what this year holds and I don’t know where it will take me. I do know, right now, this year is goin to be one I look back on with such thanks. I feel this year will feel as if I gave myself the big warm hug I needed to give to myself.

So 27, let’s do this. Let’s love more of those around us, let’s take care of ourselves, LOVE OURSELVES, dream bigger, help others shine brighter, drink more water, go to the gym, travel and see our beautiful world as much as you can, read more books, spend more time with the ones we love and care and less time scrolling the Internet, live a little more, keep exploring and focus on making more memories, and let’s find beauty wherever we may go this year. 27, I think we are going to be good friends, yeah, I think we will be.

On to another year…

wanlingnic  asked:

Uli's tits. They count as separate because it's possible to be in love with them and not him, right?

Full Name: Ulrich Helmut Brecher’s Tiddies
Gender and Sexuality: They Tiddies
Ethnicity/Species: German/Tiddies
Birthplace and Birthdate: the same as Uli, presumably
Guilty Pleasures: being out and free
Phobias: unflattering shirts
What They Would Be Famous For: umm existing?? obviously
What They Would Get Arrested For: murder
OC You Ship Them With: um each other??? uli’s pecs???? idk?????
OC Most Likely To Murder Them: still Fritz
Favorite Movie/Book Genre: film noir
Least Favorite Movie/Book Cliche: unnecessary love subplots
Talents and/or Powers: glistening
Why Someone Might Love Them: they good tiddies
Why Someone Might Hate Them: they are attached to Uli
How They Change: they get bigger
Why You Love Them: good tiddies

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My thighs have always been an issue for me. When I was younger I would ask my mother why I was always bigger then some girls. As I grew older I did began to thin out some in my stomach but my thighs stayed the exact same.

This frustrated me, it really hit me when I was 13 and was told that I could never have a boyfriend because boys liked small petite girls.

As I got older I realized that my curves, wider hips, and large thighs were actually a symbol of my beauty.

My mother always told me that if I were to ever find a person to give myself too that I should never let them change me for reasons that I did not agree with. And as a curvy girl herself I believed her because I always remember men saying to my father how beautiful my mother was because of her curvier frame.

Then as I got my first girlfriend she told me that my thighs were just another piece of me to love.

Women who are curvier or thicker in built deserve just as much love and support as women who are smaller and thinner in size. Women of all weight, color, sexuality, nationality, ect. Deserve every right that they deserve. And one of those rights is being who ever the fuck they want to be and proud.

I love you. All of you.

Gather round, children. Auntie Jules has a degree in psychology with a specialization in social psychology, and she doesn’t get to use it much these days, so she’s going to spread some knowledge.

We love saying representation matters. And we love pointing to people who belong to social minorities being encouraged by positive representation as the reason why it matters. And I’m here to tell you that they are only a part of why it matters.

The bigger part is schema.

Now a schema is just a fancy term for your brain’s autocomplete function. Basically, you’ve seen a certain pattern enough times that your brain completes the equation even when you have incomplete information.

One of the ways we learned about this was professional chess players vs. people who had no experience with chess.

If you take a chess board and you set it up according to a pattern that is common in chess playing (I’m one of those people who knows jack shit about chess), and you show it to both groups of people, and then you knock all the pieces off the board, the pro chess players will be able to return it to its prior state almost perfectly with no trouble, because they looked at it and they said, “Oh, this is the fifth move of XYZ Strategy, so these pieces would be here.”

The people who don’t know about chess are like, “Uh, I think one of the horses was over here, and maybe there was a castle over there?”

BUT, if you just put the pieces randomly on the board before you showed it to them, then the amateurs were more likely to have a higher rate of accuracy in returning the pieces to the board, because the pros are SO entrenched in their knowledge of strategy patterns that it impairs their ability to see what is actually there if it doesn’t match a pattern they already know.

Now some of y’all are smart enough to see where this is going already but hang on because I’m never gonna get to be a college professor so let me get my lecture on for a second.

Let’s say for a second that every movie and TV show on television ever shows black men who dress in loose white T-shirts and baggy pants as carrying guns 90% of the time, and when they get mad, they pull that gun out and wave it in some poor white woman’s face. I mean, sounds fake, right? But go with it.

Now let’s say that you’re out walking around in real life, and you see a black man wearing a white T-shirt and loose-fitting jeans. 

And let’s say he reaches for something in his pocket.

And let’s say you can’t see what he’s reaching for. Maybe it’s his wallet. Maybe it’s his cell phone or car keys. Maybe it’s a bag of Skittles.

But on TV and movies, every single time a black man in comfortable, casual clothes reaches for something you can’t see, it turns out to be a gun.

So you see this.

And your brain screams “GUN!!!” before he even comes up with anything. And chances are even if you SEE the cell phone, your brain will still think “GUN!!!” until he does something like put it up to his ear. (Unless you see the pattern of non-threatening black men more often than you see the narrative of them as a threat, in which case, the pattern you see more often will more likely take precedence in this situation.)

Do you see what I’m saying?

I’m saying that your brain is Google’s autocomplete for forms, and that if you type something into it enough, that is going to be what the function suggests to you as soon as you even click anywhere near a box in a form.

And our brains functioning this way has been a GREAT advantage for us as a species, because it means we learn. It means that we don’t have to think about things all the way through all the time. It saves us time in deciding how to react to something because the cues are already coded into our subconscious and we don’t have to process them consciously before we decide how to act.

But it also gets us into trouble. Did you know that people are more likely to take someone seriously if they’re wearing a white coat, like the kind medical doctors wear, or if they’re carrying a clipboard? Seriously, just those two visual cues, and someone is already on their way to believing what you tell them unless you break the script entirely and tell them something that goes against an even more deeply ingrained schema.

So what I’m saying is, representation is important, visibility is important, because it will eventually change the dominant schemas. It takes consistency, and it takes time, but eventually, the dominant narrative will change the dominant schema in people’s minds.

It’s why when everyone was complaining that same-sex marriage being legal wouldn’t really change anything for LGB people who weren’t in relationships, some people kept yelling that it was going to make a huge difference, over time, because it would contribute to the visibility of a narrative in which our relationships were normalized, not stigmatized. It would contribute to changing people’s schemas, and that would go a long way toward changing what they see as acceptable, as normal, and as a foregone conclusion.

So in conclusion: Representation is hugely important, because it’s probably one of the single biggest ways to change people’s behavior, by changing their subconscious perception.

(It is also why a 24-hour news cycle with emphasis on deconstructing every. single. moment. of violent crimes is SUCH A TERRIBLE SOCIETAL INFLUENCE, but that is a rant for another post.)

anonymous asked:

So, what's so bad about the bots? I mean, most of them are disgusting (even more if they're pornbots) but you can just ignore them, right? (Also, they're free followers)

I’ll address your final point first, because it raises the question of what’s the point of having followers anyway. Ok, so it will inflate your follower count. But what does that mean, why would you want a bigger follower count in the first place? Well, you would hope that people would follow you because they enjoy the content of your blog. If you are an artist etc., this is especially important, it means support, reassurance, and recognition for something you put a lot of time, effort and love into. Heck that can apply to everyone who puts effort into their blog.

If people have followed you because they like your stuff, then you would expect them to support, like, and reblog the actual content you make. Lets say you are an artist on tumblr, and unknowingly, half of your followers are robots who will never reblog any of your work. You may start to think, hey I have all these followers yet I don’t have proportionally as much support for my work, maybe I’m just shit - or something along the lines of that. Having bot followers is just an empty number, it means nothing, it’s a lie. Sometimes it sucks having to block loads and see your follower count drop drastically, but you have to remember, you have to tell yourself that these aren’t real people, they don’t give a shit about your blog, and are just using you. I would much rather wait for the much slower process of gaining followers who are a) actual human beings, and b) are actually likely to support your blog content. 

Furthermore - these bots, they’re not just innocent, benign things. They are very likely part of some shady schemey scam thing, and I do not like to be used. 

Namjoon playing with Jimin’s hands looking at Jimin’s rings was like parents playing with hands and feet of their newborn and being careful so that they wouldn’t hurt it

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Doctor Who Gifset The Christmas Invasion- Rose, her mum, and Mickey all moving the Doctor into the Tardis. By the way, I love how calm Jackie Tyler is about entering the Tardis, and she just does her motherly duties making sure they have supplies and what-not while Rose explains to Mickey why she can’t fly the Tardis anymore. I mean most are like “Oh, my god, it’s bigger on the inside! How in the what? What is going on here? Why is it bigger on the inside, this is madness. This makes no sense at all.” But no Jackie is all, “Meh, so it’s bigger on the inside big deal. Let me just set this stuff over here while you set him down there.”

I don’t care if the Director’s proclaimed missing (most likely dead) I want to know what sort of information he got off of Spy, and I guess I wanted to draw greying haired men even though Spy has a mask on…

anonymous asked:

Have you noticed Karlie has been super smiley and happy lately? I find this weird, because with the whole stunt shit I thought she was going to be sad again 🤔

That’s again another reason why I don’t think this crap with Tom is going to last suuuuper long, why they won’t actually get married, and why I think something bigger is going on here. The stunting is literally at an all time high and Taylor is about to take it to a whole new level yet Karlie’s looking completely fine? It’s especially interesting to me since we haven’t seen her like this since 2014.