Pro-tip: If you aren’t a trans woman don’t think that you are capable of knowing how we’re treated as children. You will literally be wrong every time because you don’t know. Trans girls =/= cis boys. We don’t internalize things the same way, we don’t get treated the same, and it’s absolutely asinine to say that we are somehow privileged by the very thing that is actually killing us.
The argument that trans girls are male privileged because people can mistake us to be cis boys makes about as much sense as saying a lesbian is privileged because she can be mistaken for being straight. We still have a deep seated internal identity of female. We are still bombarded by cultural messages about women through numerous mediums and we still internalize those messages as women. [TW for sexual assault in the links] Growing up as a trans girl can be incredibly traumatic, That trauma and systemic oppression is directly caused by patriarchy and how we are mistaken for men. It literally can not be a function of male privilege. We can not be privileged by one of the things that traumatizes us.
For a similar example, I’m parsed everyday as a cis woman. Are you going to tell me that I have cis privilege because I look like a cis woman and people treat me as one if I don’t out myself? I still have dysphoria. I still see the transmisogyny in media without end. I am still effected by transmisogynistic laws. The bottom line is that I am still trans and I can not escape that, no matter how I look, I am oppressed by transmisogyny. Just like how just because I am a femme does not mean I have het privilege cause I don’t “look like a lesbian”. I am still oppressed by lesbophobia.
We don’t become trans, or stop being cis. For many of us we have been and always will be trans girls. If you are trying to hold trans girls accountable for something that we have never held you are being a transmisogynist.
The idea that privilege solely stems from how other people perceive you is almost only used to talk about trans people and that alone should be an obvious tell that a lie is being told. This also all ties deeply into the socialization “debate”. If you wouldn’t say “het raised lesbian”, or “able raised disabled person”, or “sexual raised asexual” why on earth do you think it’s okay to call trans women “male raised”?
It should be blatantly obvious how suspicious that is. Maybe it’s because I’m a trans woman who gets to live this daily but it shouldn’t be that hard to figure out that for no other group do you suddenly talk about how others having perceived them makes them less of X social class. Obviously you might talk about how compared to others in a group someone might benefit from not being read a certain way, like I’m less at risk for a public confrontation because I “look like a cishet” woman. That doesn’t negate my membership to the social classes of transgender and lesbian though.
Stop assuming that all trans women were “raised cis”. No we’re not cis people and we weren’t raised like cis people because we internalize things differently. If individual trans women feel that they were raised as a cis boy and need to work on their male socialization good for them but stop painting that as the norm. It’s not accurate and it’s incredibly harmful. We’re not cis boys and we never will be.
Highest overwatch feel:
this is the greatest game ever oh my god, GG boys, we're such a good team, best game ever
Lowest overwatch feel:
I just got fucking destroyed, my team wasn't on the objective, they kept scattering, and no one bothered to go healer or other support cuz they were gloryhound DPS, no one bothered changing to counter the enemy team, and people are spamming the chat with whining self excusing bullshit I hate this game I'm never playing again (for like a day)