GQ Named Michael Sam “Man Of The Year.” And Vito Cammisano Was By His Side. Michael Sam Is Still The First Openly Gay Man To Be Drafted To The NFL. He May Not Be Playing There Because Of His Sexuality, But No One Can Diminish The Path He Has Blazed!
Mike Sam…You Inspire Me, As Do You, Vito Cammisano!
Out gay athlete Michael Sam gave his boyfriend a great big kiss when he found out he’d been drafted into the NFL. But… who is his boyfriend? Well, his name’s Vito Cammisano, he used to swim for the University of Missouri – that’s where he met Michael Sam – and he’s currently interning at a big US radio company.
One of your questions got me thinking about the difference between 'fame whoring' & ambition. It made me think of a David Bowie interview I read a while back & his take on things these days. He says back in the day, you might have ambition to be famous, but that ambition came with the understanding that you needed to strive to be the best in your artistic field. That's the difference I see in some of the Cara clique. It's ambition for fame with only a dilettante level of talent/skill/ability.
Things have changed a lot in the world of celebrity. Social media plays a huge role now. 1D actually built up their fame on social media - they didn’t become successful the old-fashioned way either, and I think it’s fairly disingenuous to say that they succeeded solely due to their talent. Their looks, personality, and intraband dynamic were all absolutely critical to their success. Also, they had to chase that fame really hard, especially on social media.
It seems to me that the public has a weird relationship with celebrity. We want celebrities to appreciate their fame and their fans, while at the same time not caring at all about being famous (or perhaps even disliking it). This “ideal” sometimes colours how we think about our favourite celebs. Let’s consider Harry. A lot of his fans consider him to be the ideal celebrity because (1) he is always polite and kind to his fans, (2) he appears to be genuinely grateful to his fans, but (3) he doesn’t care about being famous and indeed is probably sick of it. But I think if we look a bit closer, maybe this image doesn’t hold together? He is always making connections, being seen, being papped etc. etc. etc. That doesn’t look like someone who is avoiding or minimising his own celebrity to me. And that is 100% totally okay. It’s fine to want to continue to be successful.
Anyway, moving on to the subject at hand. Yes, Cara and Kendall promote themselves. They pretty much HAVE to, if they want to increase their success and notoriety. That’s how it works. I don’t have a problem with that. If you don’t like them, that’s completely legitimate, don’t be a fan. But in their industry, self-promotion is part of the package, and I don’t blame them for engaging in it.
Same with Taylor. I think a lot of people don’t like her because she is constantly self-promoting and playing the game. It doesn’t bother me at all. She is massively successful, and wants to be more successful. That’s ambition, and ambition is great. [Yes I know, many of you dislike her for being disingenuous.]
Even celebrities that are absolutely beloved within our part of the fandom do promote themselves. NPH and David Burtka post absolutely adorable pics of their family on their social media for a reason. Michael Sam and Vito Cammisano have definitely been using their relationship for promo ever since Michael came out. Sam Smith came out shortly before the release of In The Lonely Hour as part of a promo strategy. Ed Sheeran played up the Niall/Ed/Ellie drama in the press to promote Don’t.
This is how it works. It’s fine. Hating someone simply because they promote themselves is, to me, unfair. Also, I think that people often claim to dislike a person due to their self-promotion, when in fact that is just and excuse covering up the real reason for the dislike (which, I’m afraid, in this fandom often comes down to being linked to Harry).