To all the people who ask “why did they wait so long to speak out”
Shut up, quit acting like you know what the hell you are talking about.
Let me clarify a few things for you as a victim of sexual abuse myself:
1. Your response is exactly the reason many women and men don’t come forward about sexual abuse, assault, and harassment. The fear that no one will believe them is one of the main reasons (along with misplaced shame and guilt) victims keep silent.
2. Asking for evidence of sexual assault, abuse, and harassment is like asking someone to prove the existence of big foot. These predators are CAREFUL and practiced. There often is no physical evidence or witness to “prove” that the person is guilty. That’s why many in law enforcement refer to these crimes as “he said she said”. It’s only when MULTIPLE reports occur that they often get taken seriously, and they often have to be from two different people.
3. False accusations are RARE. Stop acting like that’s the norm. You know what’s not rare? Unreported harassment, abuse, and assault. If there is one victim I guarantee there are more. No Normal person wants to get attention for a sex crime, people look at you differently (not in a good way) who the hell would volunteer for this shit?
4. “Why are so many coming forward now” because it’s easier to come forward and find your voice when someone else’s courage has inspired you. The idea that if ‘they can come forward then so can I’ is what has propelled this #me too movement.
To all of the victims speaking out:
I believe you. I stand with you. I am amazed by your courage and strength and I hope that you continue to inspire others to speak out against their perpetrators. We need to see these disgusting predators for what they are and stop supporting them.