I struggled with self-acceptance until all I could think about was suicide. Feeling like an anomaly in a sea of normality, I could no longer look at myself in the mirror without hating my reflection. I grew up in a time when the term “transgender” wasn’t spoken. I didn’t know who I was or why I felt the way that I did. The fear of rejection and being marginalized because I was “different” kept me from talking to anyone about my identity. I buried my feelings deep inside and focused all my energy and time in sports and religion. I slowly learned that true happiness couldn’t be found in relationships, money, popularity, or material things. Nothing I had or could gain would make me love the person I was pretending to be. It wasn’t until I lost the most important thing in the world to me that I realized how unfair I was being to myself and to others by not living authentically. Hiding your truth keeps you from giving yourself fully to anyone or anything in life. When you let go of the fears that hold you back and find true, undaunted love for yourself, you begin to understand self-worth. Truly letting go and being honest with yourself allows you to let go of the social stigmas of being “different.” Knowing there is nothing wrong with you for being authentic allows you to be unapologetic to the hate and ignorance that exists in the world. One day, one person at a time, we will change the world.
Confession: I’m finally starting to embrace natural hair and it feels so damn good. My hair hasn’t been relaxed in months and I’m never going back. I can’t wait to finally discover my curl pattern, something which has unfortunately been concealed for years. I’m so eager to embark on this journey, I might just go for the big chop! Natural hair is so beautiful and unique; I finally see it as a gift now, rather than a curse. I’m gonna embrace who I am and finally be unapologetically black!
Good morning my #Beautiful #Yogis. #TBT. You guys know I’m a pretty terrible dancer. So today I wanna start your day off with a laugh. I hope your day is as smooth as my moves!! 😜 #corny If no one told you today, I love you. Stay #light and #awesome.