In May 2014, 22-year-old Elliot Rodger killed six people and wounded 14 others in a misogyny-fueled rampage in the town of Isla Vista, California, before committing suicide.
Shortly after the shooting, a film production company began making Del Playa, a horror/thriller film that appears to have been based on the incident. Producers are saying there’s no connection, but the Change.org petition disagrees.
I was feeling profoundly depressed about the UCSB shootings and equally depressed about the number of men who just don’t get why women are horribly upset and scared by this. Then I found the #YesallWomen hashtag on twitter and it helped.
Because, well, yes. Not all men are predators. But every woman you know has had experience with men who are. Every woman. Me. Your mother. That lady in the upstairs apartment with the dog with the annoying clicky nails ALL NIGHT ALL DAMN NIGHT PUT BOOTS ON THAT THING.
All of us.
I’m not even talking about rape or threats of violence here, though of course that’s part of it. It’s not just being taught from an early age that we’re prey animals, and we always have to be ready to fight or flee. It’s that creepy fifty-something guy who tried to pick me up on a city bus when I was fourteen. The fellow writer who stared down my shirt after his third glass of wine. The mail carrier who pulled over to ask me out on a date, and when I told him I was married, argued with me. (Notice, I told him “I’m married,” not “That’s flattering, but no thank you.” Because belonging to another man is safer than saying no.) There was the airport shuttle driver who bugged me for my phone number all the way from Hartford to New York, until another passenger entered the van.
That wasn’t scary at all. Nuh uh.
I’m not saying that it’s always inappropriate to pay a compliment. I was never offended by the guy who stopped me in the supermarket to tell me I had pretty hair and carried myself well, and it brightened his day–because he so patently did not want anything from me. He was complimenting, not coming on.
We can tell the difference.
If we’re conventionally attractive, we’re abused when we refuse to cater to men–when we don’t want to be bothered when we’re reading on the train or give them our phone number if they stop us on the street. If we’re dyky or fat or old, we’re abused for being ugly lesbo bitches, which is to say, not fuckable. Because being fuckable is the only excuse a woman has to exist, to these dudes.
It makes me fucking tired. It makes a lot of women tired.
And what you’re hearing right now is a lot of tired women asking for a little fucking respect. If you haven’t behaved that way, well then. It’s not directed at you, is it?
In a press conference Saturday, the father of 20-year-old student who was killed in the University of California Santa Barbara shooting rampage blames “craven, irresponsible politicians and the NRA” for his son’s death.
These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. 'You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: 'Because he looks scary’ and 'I do it all the time.’
It pisses me off that the California mass shooting is going to, as usual, be chalked up to “mental illness” and “being crazy” and not to the dangerous and harmful ideas that men are taught to believe in from childhood.
lets talk about how white boys feel so fucking entitled to sex that one literally felt that murdering women was the appropriate retribution for him being a 22-year-old virgin let’s talk about how this isn’t the first time that this has happened, nor will it be the last let’s talk about how someone’s undoubtedly going to blame it on mental illness rather than the fact that boys literally feel that women should die if they rebuff a man’s advances let’s talk about the young girl who was murdered for rejecting a boy’s prom offer a young girl with her entire life ahead of her women continue to be fucking murdered because men feel so fucking entitled to their bodies and minds that MURDER is an acceptable response to fucking REJECTION when the fuck are we going to put a stop to this
[Text: Always remember that women who call themselves feminists will be accused so many times of being man-haters, but when a man kills women just for being women, he is called mentally unwell, and a madman rather than a woman-hater or misogynist.]
Once most organisms die their life-cycle is complete, but for this plant its just a step in the process. Commonly found in the desert, it can be blown for miles and miles on the sand for up to several decades as a lifeless bunch of brown branches.
The rare instance when rain appears is when things get interesting. When the resurrection plant lands in say a puddle of rain water, it’s branches start to open up exposing it’s seeds. As the rain drops hit these seeds it scatters them around the puddle of water. Within days the seedlings appear and grow very quickly. Bugs pollinate the small white flowers of the young plants.
However, once the rain goes away, the plant dies in the hot desert sun only to start the cycle over again as a tumble weed bouncing around until the next storm.
Each of these stages of the plant are called phenological events. Where the root word pheno means “to appear”.