Q: I’m VP Recruitment for my college’s Panhellenic. One thing we’ve been working on is preventing bid promising. A few people have asked me to compile a list of phrases that are / are not ok to say during recruitment. PNMs and sisters alike tend to get confused, especially with what’s only ok to say during pref (we’re told that its ok during this round to tell a PNM she’s be a great asset to our chapter, etc). I have a few ideas but I was wondering if you had suggestions - thanks!
A: There is a fine live between being warm and friendly and slipping into things considered dirty rushing. Bid promising restrictions apply to all the rounds, including pref night. It’s a term that covers all types of “promises” given by a member to a PNM that may or may not come true. One sister cannot speak for the entire chapter before a vote. So any predictions, assurances, or guarantees that are said (or texted) by a sister prior or during rush week are bad news! If you remember the basic principle behind the rule, it helps you determine what would be off limits or not. Anything that assures a PNM of a unpredictable future outcome in a no-no.
🌸 Bid Promising Phrases NOT to Use:
“I enjoyed our conversation, see you tomorrow.” The PNM may not be invited back the next day and this gives her a potentially false assurance. Don’t refer to any future actions that you can’t predict.
“See you later.”
“I’m sure we will see you tomorrow.”
“I look forward to talking with you again tomorrow.”
“You’re one of us now.”
“I just know you’re going to be my future little.”
“You’re definitely in.”
“Don’t worry, you will get a bid from our chapter.”
“You are our #1 PNM.”
“Join our sorority and you will get ____.” Any kind of bribery or offering rewards/gifts is off limits.
“We already see you as an XYZ.”
“It’s ok to suicide our sorority. No problem.”
“Since you’re already like a sister, come back later for a private party.”
“You’re better off in our sorority, since ABC hazes and they’re all sluts.”
“We love you so much, here’s a drink. Shhh don’t tell.” Serving alcohol during recruitment is forbidden. Offering PNMs drinks as enticement to join is not cool.
“Our legacies always get a bid.”
“I can’t wait to party with you on bid day.”
“I’ll stop by your dorm later and we’ll talk about your bid.”
“Your Rho Gamma is our sister and she’s told us how great you are.”
“You are 100% XYZ sisterhood material. No doubt about it.”
“You will be sorry if you don’t join our chapter.” Threats are never a good idea.
“If formal recruitment doesn’t work out, we’ll pledge you during COB informal recruitment for sure.”
“We always pledge girls from your high school/town/state.”
“When you’re a sister of XYZ we’re going to have so much fun.”
🌸 Recruitment Phrases That Are Ok to Use:
“Have a good day.”
“It was so nice to meet you.”
“I enjoyed our talk. It was wonderful getting to know you.”
“Wow, what a pleasure meeting you.”
“You have so many qualities that we look for in a sister.”
“You’re experiences and travels are so impressive.”
“I’m so glad you’re here.”
“It’s so nice to see you again.”
“You are a very special person.”
“I love talking to you. We have so much in common.”
“Our preference night is very meaningful. I hope our ceremonies touch your heart.”
“I see so much of myself in you.”
“You would be a real asset to our sorority.”
As a sorority sister you can flatter a PNM, praise her, show interest and appreciation, just as long as you don’t make promises you can’t keep. Stick to general “good byes” without any mention of the next day. Don’t speak for the entire chapter in any way. Live in the moment of each conversation and speak about things in common, your sisterhood, her adventures and how wonderful it is to visit with her. Avoid breaking the NPC rules against bid promising during recruitment and everything should be fine. xoxo ;)
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