Tom Milsom

TOM MILSOM / hexachordal sexual abuse/manipulation

Here’s the post Olga made about Tom Milsom. And another. Third.
Hank and John Green talking about Tom.
Melissa Anelli’s post about Tom.
TomSka talking about this whole situation. 
Tom writing on twitter.
Alan about Tom and donating to RAINN.
In this video, from a year ago, at the 35 minute mark, a guy called Joe who made videos in 2008/9 talks about Tom Milsom acting inappropriately when Joe was 14/15 and Tom was 20.

Here is a post about how both Alex Day and Tom Milsom were friends with Jonathan King. King has committed sexual offenses against minors. 


MIKE LOMBARDO / MikeLombardoMusic sexual abuse/arrested and convicted of child pornography

Hayley G. Hovers post about Mike Lombardo.
Morgan’s post about Mike.
Hank and John Green posting about Mike.
Meg’s post about Mike.
Savannah’s post about Mike.

Savannah shared her experience with Mike in a video.
Morgan made a video showing a “real view of how triggering all of this can be”.


ALEX DAY / nerimon sexual manipulation/coercion. Emotional manipulation.

First Anonymous person talking about Alex.
Second Anonymous person reblogging the first person.
Third Anonymous person talking about Alex.
Damien coming forward about Alex.
Tikken talking about her former relationship with Alex. And here.
Lex talking about Alex. and another post.
Lindsey talking about Alex. Also here and here.
Louise talking about Alex.
Kerri's post about Alex and unnamed Canadian YouTuber. 
Tove’s post about Alex and unnamed British YouTuber.
Anonymous underage person talking about Alex.
Hanna talking about Alex.
Bree Essrig talking about meeting Alex Day and Sam Pepper.
Beckii’s answered an ask, talking about Alex.

Alex Day defending himself.
“I don’t know about anyone else but when I read Alex’s post it seemed (as Marina would say) hella manipulative. From what I’ve gathered he knows what to say and when to say it which is how all of this started.” (x)

First Anonymous person responding to Alex’s defense-post. 
Second Anonymous person responding to Alex’s post: [ONE] - [TWO] 
Hank Green talking about Alex Day.

Alex Day realizing he was wrong. Then read this! And this!!

Lindsey responding to Alex’s second post realizing he was wrong. 
Carrie writes on twitter. Responds to a post. Tumblr post.
Charlie McDonnell about Alex Day.

The Wiki-page about Alex is not updated. Continuing the discussion. 
The Wikipedia page is now updated. 

Carrie has been seen hanging out with Alex. Her response.
Alex has been ‘reaching out’ to (teenage, female) friends.
His book deal might be cancelled. 

Alex defending himself on facebook.
Alex writing on reddit. A photo of him in Camden. x.
Alex commenting on Ed’s video defending Ed.
Sarah, Kristina and Whitney about Alex Day, Alex Carpenter and Luke Conard.

Alex is active in a Doctor Who forum.
Alex is active on BitTorrent selling his music.

YouTube: Alex uploaded an unlisted video in May. Read what it’s about here.

YouTube: Alex Day uploaded a new video “The Past”. Here is a transcript of the video. Here is a reupload of that video to another site.
Here is a video Neafcy made in response to Alex’s.
A tumblr post MarinaShutUp wrote about the video.
Another comment on the video.

Here is a post about how both Alex Day and Tom Milsom were friends with Jonathan King. King has committed sexual offenses against minors. 

YouTube: Alex Day is still active on YouTube, however we are not going to add any more links to transcripts/reuploads/posts about this here. Instead look through the tag “Alex Day video” or this post.

(A blog that has reblogged most posts about Alex Day)


ED BLANN / eddplant sexual abuse

A post about Ed.  
Eddplant’s post about “the past 24 hours…”. 

YouTube: Ed uploaded a new video on the 6th of June 2014, singing a song called “Inhuman Nature”. I am not going to link the video since I DO NOT encourage you to watch it. Don’t show your support for him in anyway.

Video: Morgan’s video about Ed returning. (It also has the lyrics in the description if you’re curious of what he’s singing about).
Liam’s thoughts on Ed’s video.
Lex’s thoughts on Ed returning to YouTube.

Ed has returned to twitter.

YouTube: Ed uploaded a second video. (transcript of it)
Alex Day commenting on Ed’s second video.

Ed made a statement on his website saying that the police are no longer investigating things and that he’s innocent. He is intending to continue sharing his music online. 


TOM McLEAN / frezned sexual manipulation

Frezned (Tom McLean) being accused. 

He hasn’t acknowledged the accusations against him.


JOSH MACEDO / confusedtree sexual coercion 

One article about Josh Macedo.
And another masterpost about him.



One post about Kelly Montoya.


DANNY HOOPER / danmann44 sexual coercion 

Danny Hooper being accused by Laura. Laura reblogging her post.
Another post about Danny by goshpenny.
UPDATED: An anonymous ask about Danny.
A video of Danny inventing a new sopio card.

Danny is now back on twitter after a 3 month silence. 


ALEX CARPENTER / AlexanderCarpenter sexual manipulation/abuse

Rosi talking about Alex Carpenter. 
Sarah Snitch talking about Alex Carpenter. 
Scrabblized’s post about Alex Carpenter.
Llouteasdale's post about Alex.
Halliedarling’s post about Alex.
Sunny Williams’ post about Alex. 
Jenn Hammond’s post about Alex and the Wizard Rock Community.
Emma’s post about Alex.
Kellelucas’s post about Alex.

Sarah, Kristina and Whitney about Alex Day, Alex Carpenter and Luke Conard.
Whitney Lynn’s post which mentions Alex Carpenter, Luke Conard and Corey Vidal. 

Sarah has been receiving anonymous messages from Alex, but he accidentally sent this one off-anon. 


ADAM ROACH / TheGearsKeepTurning cheated in relationships/manipulative behaviour

A post about TheGearsKeepTurning by Elizabeth. This post reblogged. Elizabeth’s friend confirming her post.
A post about Adam (thegearskeepturning) by Alice.
Beccy’s post about Adam.
Maria’s post about Adam.
Rumlittleskallywag’s post about Adam.
Cass’ post about Adam.
Another (short but still important) post about Adam by hodor-kingofwesteros.

And here is a masterpost about The GearsKeepTurning with all the links above and some more comments.


LUKE CONARD / lukeconard abuse/manipulation 

Kristina Horner writing about Luke Conard and Alex Day.
Whitney Milam’s post about Alex Carpenter and Luke Conard. Then Rachel Kiley continuing and writing about Luke.

Luke Conard apologizing. But then please read this!
Luke realizing his first apology was terrible and attempting to write a new one. And then read this!

Sarah, Kristina and Whitney about Alex Day, Alex Carpenter and Luke Conard. read this!
Whitney Lynn’s post which mentions Alex Carpenter, Luke Conard and Corey Vidal. 

Luke has since the allegations came out about him, uploaded new video/s. Instead of adding links to every video in this post we will reblog posts about this to the tag ‘Luke Conard video’.


COREY VIDAL / ApprenticeA sexual manipulation

Shannon Antilles writing about Corey Vidal. 
Corey saying he’s going to make a video about this.
Corey says (again but in a longer post) that he’s going to make a video.
UPDATED: Corey briefly talking about the accusations against him in a 2.5 h video.

Corey made a tumblr post apologizing. 
Corey made a video, explaining how he was molested as a child.

My Story - Corey Vidal | by kerrisvideo

Whitney Lynn’s post which mentions Alex Carpenter, Luke Conard and Corey Vidal. 
Corey wrote a response to this post.


TRAVIS NEUMEYER / WhatTravisSays sexual/emotional abuse, particularly surrounding nudes

Carson’s post about WhatTravisSays.
Carson’s conversation with Travis. (tw incest & pedophilia)
Fizzylimon’s post about Travis. This post reblogged.
Reyna Villa writes. And here.
Emily’s post about Travis. 
Nora’s conversation with Travis.
An anonymous ask about what Travis.



A masterpost about him and his former relationships. 
Another masterpost about Gregory.



Shawn writes about Stephen Purcell.


BRYON BEAUBIEN / Psyguy / BitPolar / BitPolarGame

A masterpost about Psy.
Him trying to apologize. 

Here is a blog calling him out. Also note that he’s active online under the username BitPolar on YouTube and BitPolarGame on Twitter.


HARRY GILLIATT / TheHazBeckShow / Hard G manipulation

Harry saying he will no longer be on the internet.
Bekn writing a letter about their band seaqueens.
Bekn continuing to explaining that their band has split up.
Vincent writing about Harry. And here.
notsasha’s post about Harry.
notquiteluke’s post.
kirst’s post about Harry.
Fox’s post about Harry leaving the internet. 
Pepper’s post about Harry.
Nick’s post about Harry.
Fluoxiteen’s post about Harry.


RICKY RICHARDS / RickyRichardstv abuse

Sammi (beautycrush) and Ricky was in an abusive relationship and then broke up.
My break up story by RickyRichardstv.
Domestic Abuse by TheSammiMariaShow.


SAM PEPPER / OFFICIALsampepper manipulation, assult, problematic content creator

Video: A Cautionary Tale | thisbedottie. Comments on this video saying similar things happened to them.
Video: Sam Pepper - The Real “Reveal” (Warning: Explicit Content). and a tumblr post related to the video. And another tumblr post with evidence.
Sam Pepper asking for nude photos.
Sam asking another person for photos.
Shirley’s tumblr post “I was sexually assaulted by Sam Pepper”.
Neesey’s video about her interactions with Sam.
Tianna’s post about Sam supporting the anonymous video.
Jack Payne who worked for Sam Pepper share his experiences.
Sam Pepper doesn’t understand the word no. (explicit) by Anonymous.
My Personal Experience with Sam Pepper by Annie.
Another anonymous post about Sam.
Bree Essrig talking about meeting Sam Pepper and Alex Day.
Marina made a video about Sam.
Another post about Sam.
Musical Betahn wrote on twitter about Sam Pepper.

Video: Laci Green summarize the situation, talk about other similar YouTubers and more. WATCH THIS!
Laci was aslo threatened by Sam. 

Sam Pepper is still active on snapchat. He’s on twitter and he’s also made a new Instagram account.
Sam has also uploaded video/s since the allegations came out about him. Instead of adding links to all of these videos here we will reblog posts about this to the tag 'Sam Pepper Video’. 


JASON SANSOME / VeeOneEye inappropriate contact, nudes from underage girls, attempts at coercion

Aniamags’ video about Jason.
An anonymous, written tumblr post about Jason. 
A second anonymous post about Jason on tumblr.
Kali’s tweet about her interaction with Jason.
Annie’s post about her experiences with Jason. And her writing on twitter that he that he talked to her 2 weeks ago. Here is their conversation from snapchat.
Jason asking Alessandra for nudes.
Hannah’s experience with Jason. 
Jodie’s video about Jason.
An anonymous tumblr post about Jason.
Lauren has poster her conversation with Jason on twitter. Part 1. Part 2. AND here is a video Lauren’s friend made talking about Lauren’s incident and her own (with a non-youtuber). The friend, Ellis, she went to the police and her case is going to court. This is a very good video to watch!
Another anonymous post about Jason.
And another anonymous post about Jason. Note that the only last paragraphs are about him.
Another post about Jason from someone who knew him before YouTube.
Updated: Camille wrote a post about the inappropriate DM’s she was sent over Twitter. 

Jason has posted a video trying to cover up what he’s done and make himself look better. This video was originally unlisted and sent to Ania Mags in a tweet. But he has deleted the tweet and made the video private. Here is a reupload of the video.
George sharing his opinion/thoughts on Jason’s apology and Ania’s video.
Ania’s written response to Jason’s “apology”. She also has screen caps of other stories regarding Jason in this post.

Video: Evan Edinger’s talks about how he earlier confronted Jason about these rumors and Jason lied about it.

Jason is active on twitter and has deleted the tweet he sent Ania with the link to his unlisted Apology video.
Jason is active on snapchat.  And he’s on twitter.

YouTube: Jason made a video about his new tattoo, “Remember why you’re alive”. Here is a reupload of it. Here is a transcript. 


NEIL JOHNSON / love-and-confessions / banananeil 

Eden’s post about Neil.
Sophie’s post about Neil.
Zoe had a similar experience with Neil when she was 14. She wrote on twitter.
Jenny’s post about Neil.

Neil writing an apology.

Sophie wrote a second post about Neil.
Eden replying to Sophies post.

Neil’s girlfriend Rachel writes an open letter.



Kristina has written a post about Destery.



UPDATED: Lauren who previously wrote an anonymous post about Jeremy has now decided to not be anonymous anymore. 


PAUL PARKER / PaulsJournal harassment and stalking

Elsi made a video explaining how Paul sexually harassed her.
Paul responding to Elsi’s video.

Emma Blackery left a comment on Elsi’s video explaining he staled her.

Elsi made a tumblr post continuing to explain what happened.



Shelley writes about her conversations with Daniel Glover.


ALEX GOOT / gootmusic

Here is an anonymous post about Alex Goot.


PAUL SYKES / YogscastSjin

Some time ago Paul Sykes tried to get underaged/young girls to send him nudes via Facebook and Skype. People speaking up about this were scared away and blamed by fans. But the person who made this blog still has some screenshots and similar reblogged. 

Here is another blog about this.


LEWIS PARER / iLewis95 
MIKE JAROSZCZAK / mjerrytv / xitsmike

dannytake2’s post about being harassed by Lewis and Mike.
Lewis defending himself.
Danny responding to Lewis.


KARIM SLIMANI / karimabridged manipulation, asking underage girls for nudes, inappropriate contact

Abi (@corruptedlungs) tweeting about Karim asking for nude photographs.
Courtney-Leigh (@cutiecutforth) tweeting about how they used to have 'flirty’/inappropriate conversations when she was 15.
@pixiedvst writing about her experiences with Karim.
BriBry tweets about how he believed Karim to be asexual.
Dodie Clark saying that Karim lied to her (presumably when confronted)
Hannah Witton saying Karim has gone to LA - we assume it was to see Jason (veeoneeye).
Dodie Clark saying that 'there is more to come’ regarding Karim’s actions
Karim denies the posts made about him saying they are 'bullshit rumours’ in this tweet .
Karim continues to deny alogations about him here and here.
Dodie Clark has made a video on her experiences with Karim.
Karim continues to deny allogations against him. 



Danny (DanIVlog) confronting Luke on the phone about the allegations 
Isabelle Coffins about her experience with Luke
Ash about Luke abusing her, part 1 and part 2


RYAN O'CONNOR / PleasantRyan emotional manipulation

Three different anonymous sources has contacted us, explaining how Ryan has shown manipulative behavior. 
A post related to this.

An anonymous post about Ryan.

Ryan is active with new accounts on Vimeo and Twitter.


CURTIS LEPORE / CurtisLepore rape

A vine user who also uploads his vines to YouTube. He raped his ex JessiSmiles when she was sleeping.

An ask explaining what’s happened and linking to articles.
A video Jessi made on the topic.


CRAIG DILLON / craigtdillon accused of rape

A video from Tate Wolverson about his experiences with Craig.
A video by Jamie Pine about his experiences with Craig.
MikeJerry’s video about Craig. And a longer tweet about it.
DrewIsSharing’s video about Craig.
FelixxMackky tweeted about his experience with Craig.
An tumblr post about Craig by everythingmakesmenerv0us.
Ben Cook’s friend sent Ben his experiences with Craig.
An anonymous tumblr post about Craig.

Craig’s tweet in response. 
Craig made a video 'The Truth’ arguing that he didn’t rape Tate. Note that all the comments beneath the video are by people believing and forgiving him. Here’s a comment Ben Cook wrote.

Craig claiming he didn’t rape Mike.

TenEighty article saying that Craig Dillon having a lawyer is a false claim 

A video by Craig saying he was completely cleared by police of these accusations. An article by The Independent on this matter


ROB COSH / ShmoNerd

An anonymous source has contacted us explaining how he manipulated them and was sexually inappropriate. They also know of another person in the community who he has manipulated. 


BEAU BROOKS / Janoskians
JAI BROOKS / Janoskians
LUKE BROOKS / Janoskians
JAMES YAMMOUNI / Janoskians 

Here is an anonymous post about James and Luke.
Here is a blog with a lot more anonymous stories about the members.

(As I’ve understood more people have come forward to talk about their experience with these people earlier, but have taken a step back when people didn’t listen and believe them).



Theo’s post about Daniel.
Daniel’s response. 
Theo responding to his response. 


JAKE MACELFRESH / PureNoiseRecs / frontporchstepofficial nudes from underage girls

Jake asking a 13 year old for nudes.
Elaine’s experience with Jake.
An added comment explaining that he did this to another person as well.
And another comment. 
Yet another comment.
And here.
And one more.
And the last one I could find.
Messages which Jake sent. (the original post where they’re from has been deleted, it seems like).
A screenshot of a misogynistic post he wrote on facebook.
Another screenshot of an ask explaining how Jake leaked nudes of someone’s friend, and more. 




A petition to remove Austin off Warped Tour, summarizing the situation.  

Emma posting messages from Austin on Twitter. 
Taylor posting messages from Austin on Twitter. 
Lauren posting messages from Austin on Twitter. 
Sara writing about Austin on Twitter. 
Alayna posting messages from Austin on Twitter. 

Taylor Tanguay’s video about Austin. 10 maj
Shortstuffsteph2’s video about Austin. 10 maj
Hannah Herureiza’s video about Austin. 11 maj
Cassandra La Plante’s video about Austin. 12 may

Austin’s video defending himself. 


Liam Dryden talking about what to do now.
Hank Green talking about what has happened.
Lucy talking about what’s happened and speaking up.
Marueen Johnson wrote a post.
Summer in the City addressing safety. 

A Probation Officer that goes into detail about how offenders see their actions and the way they use language.
An open letter to YouTube about all of this. (read this)

YouTubeSpeaks, a tumblr demanding discussion by popular YouTubers.
Women of KWMC, a support group for survivors on tumblr and twitter.

Unsubscribe together - A one click unsubscribe button to all youtube abusers.


Victim blaming is wrong. 
If you’re a survivor of sexual assault or abuse, you can get help through RAINN, a great organization. International help.
7CupsOfTea - an anonymous chatroom to talk to volunteers about problems, issues or feelings.

Educate yourself on what CONSENT means.
What to do if you suspect your friend is a sexual abuser. 

Video: Lex made a video about what CONSENT means.
Video: Hank Green made a video about CONSENT.
Video: The Science and Dangers of YouTube Celebrity.
Video: TomSka’s Guide to Gatherings.
Video: Charlie McDonnell: Sex & Consent.
VideoBryarly Bisop: We Are Edited.
Video: Laci Green: Consent 101.
Video: Jack and Dean: Consent (song).

Video: Lidsey: What is Emotional Abuse?

Video: YouTuve Abuse Recovery | Ann McGavin (thegeekyblonde). 
Video: Sexual Abuse on YouTube | Pottermoosh. 
Video: Tell Someone | abb3rz07.
Video: Wrongdoings and Growth in Our Community | Teryn Gray.
Video: UNDERAGE SEX & CONSENT | hayleyghoover

Video: Women on YouTube Panel at VidCon 2014

Video: Marinashutup’s video on the topic.
Video: GaryC’s video on the topic.

How to Treat YouTube Abuse Survivors by JustMargaret.

 "Don’t let anyone else influence your opinions: make an effort to educate yourself on the matter and decide how you feel on your own.“ - Lindsey.


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Anxiety Playlist

I know what it’s like to go through a panic attack, even those stretched out lulling ones that last for a few hours. It may not work for everyone- and I mean that everyone is different and we all deal with our episodes differently- but I’ve put together a list of songs to listen to that can help calm someone like me down even just a little.

The Tiny - Closer

Danny Schmidt - This Too Shall Pass

Tom Milsom - A Little Irony

Squalloscope - Big Houses

Sam n Ash - Accordion and Mandolin Song

Of Monsters and Men - Sinking Man

Of Monsters and Men - Yellow Light

The Oh Hellos - Hello My Old Heart

Daughter - Landfill

(the best part about the Of Monsters and Men songs is that watching the videos is also really calming, because they’re very repetitive and soothing)

Some of these are kind of upbeat, some are a little slower, but they all have a nice steady beat that’s easy to get lost in. They’re also very different, which I find is helpfully distracting during an episode. I hope you enjoy, and I hope it helps.

Fuck off Jason (veeoneeye)
Fuck off Sam Pepper.
Fuck off Alex Day.
Fuck off Karim Abridged.
Fuck off Tom Milsom.
Fuck off Edd Plant.

Literally will everyone who’s a c*nt on the Internet just fuck off. You don’t deserve an audience, an audience is a luxury, something you earn. And you’ve all lost the right to it by abusing girls and the power you hold.

Stop making videos and trying to brush your crimes under the damn carpet.

The Internet is starting to feel like a chore to me right now.

I can’t promise this will be the last post cause I’m just so angry but here it is. 


People can tell me that I’m getting way too worked up about this but here’s the thing. Youtubers are MADE by the fans. Literally. There is no way that these people could continue to be successful and employed without us. The fact that DFBTA records has taken down their music because they refuse to support such behavior is a HUGE DEAL. We, as a community, literally hold their livelihood in the palms of our hands. It’s not like we’re facing a mega star who will continue to be backed no matter what they do. These decisions that we’re making to unfollow und unsubscribe, they MATTER. Don’t for a second think that they don’t.

The youtube community is in the position to demand respect and to demand that their content creators are not abusive douchecanoes. So DEMAND IT. 

i’m really disappointed that not only tom milsom and alex day were involved in this, but now luke conard and alex carpenter? they always seemed like the perfect guys. i guess that’s what was so dangerous about them.

the thing that kills me, though, is that alex day admitted to this behavior a month ago and no one thought anything of it because he disguised it in romantic gestures. in “sweets for two” he demonstrated exactly how abusers get their partners to stay in the relationship, or in this case, how to get them back after you broke up with them and how to get them to re-enter into this abusive relationship.

we don’t know anything about alex and carrie’s relationship that they didn’t share online, but i think it’s safe to assume that, at least the first time they dated it was abusive or coercive in some way. alex himself admitted that he treated his partners “as an accessory to [his] own life” and not as an equal. in addition, he said that he blamed his problems on carrie without taking responsibility himself. so while we don’t know 100%, i think, like i said, that it’s safe to assume.

anyway, he essentially bribed her with roses at her place of work, lanterns from Tangled in her bedroom, and a “romantic” dinner of sweets at his flat. the fact that these were all surprises to her, as she had absolutely no idea that this was happening, coupled with the fact that he ended the evening in his flat, just… i don’t know. it seems romantic at first glance, but considering they weren’t actually together at the time and this was a “i want you back and see how i’ve changed (and also want to have sex with you right here, right now)” thing makes me want to take a shower.

honestly, there was something a little off to me about alex day for a while. i could never put my finger on it until the whole “big girls in costumes” scandal. and then i realized what it was. alex day was just a complete and total ass, not to mention egotistical and who knows what else. now we know, i guess.

that’s what made me feel so betrayed when allegations against luke conard and alex carpenter came out. because i never got that feeling from them. i would have never suspected. they seemed so nice and almost shy. and, like i said, that’s probably what made them dangerous and able to continue this behavior. i’m even more shocked and disappointed that neither of them have come forward and claimed responsibility or even released a statement.

my heart hurts for each and every one of the victims who have come forward. it was extremely brave and you have my utmost respect. and i know that allegations shouldn’t be ignored or silenced by others, but i can’t help thinking of one particular person in all this. i know that carrie hasn’t come forward yet, or may not have even experienced any of this (even though in all likelihood she did), but i hope that she’s doing okay. she’s one of my favorite youtubers and i can’t imagine what’s going on with her right now. i don’t know if she broke up with alex before all this came out (“sweets for two” was released only a month ago and they were still together then), but i hope that he had the balls to tell her so she didn’t have to find out from the internet about this.

Can I just tell you guys how shocked and horrified I am about everything that’s surfacing right now? I’m not going to lie I’m not familiar with most of the YouTubers that are involved but I do know Luke and unfollowed and unsubscried immediately after I read through all of it. It’s amazing how easily they can manipulate you into thinking they are a good person. Thankfully I’ve never been a huge fan of any of the people involved, but I feel truly sorry for everyone that was/is. It’s overwhelming for me, I can’t imagine how those peoples fans must feel.

What do you guys think about all this? Do you even know what’s happening?


On Idols

Many of my teenage years have been filled with watching YouTubers like Alex Day. Until three days ago, I looked up to all of them, particularly him. I admired his ambition, his humor, and I liked his music. Thanks to him, I discovered other YouTubers such as Carrie Fletcher and Hazel Hayes.

Now, none of that matters. I feel confused and sad about the information that’s come out regarding Alex’s sexual abuse of female fans and friends. It’s wrong. It’s deplorable. I hope he has to pay for his actions to the victims, and to his friends such as Charlie McDonnell and Liam Dryden who I’m sure are shocked and sickened by this as well.

But this has also made me think about the question, “Can you love the art but hate the artist?” And, in this case, I think the answer is no.

YouTube is a platform that brings people together - friends, content creators and fans - and it brings them closer than any other media platform. With YouTube, there’s not the distance between artist and viewer that exists, say, in the film industry. If I felt the desire to, I could easily watch a Woody Allen, or even Walt Disney film and not think about the questionable (and deplorable) actions of those people.

But when I’m watching one of Alex’s videos, I’m not watching just for the content. I’m watching for him. I like his personality, his public persona. So when I find out that that persona is far from the truth, and that the charming, funny, storytelling Alex is not the whole picture, I feel that I should not continue watching his videos. At least not for a long time.

When we idolize YouTubers, we are idolizing a four-minute snippet of a human being whom we don’t really know. Don’t hastily fall in love with your idols, and don’t put them on a pedestal. They aren’t as perfect as we think.

I hope Alex changes. I hope if he does, sincerely, that he is happier. I hope his friends distance themselves from him, and that they can eventually come to terms with learning this horrible information about their friend. I hope his fans, including myself, think very carefully about whether or not to continue supporting him, and that we make the right decision.

But most of all, I hope that anyone Alex ever abused, or anyone any other YouTuber or person in a position of power has abused, can get help. No one deserves to be coerced into doing something they don’t want to do. Not realizing that it’s abuse doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. Only “yes” means yes.