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TV shows: Lesbians and bi women cheat on each other (mostly with men)

Okay has anyone else felt bothered by this pattern?

It’s not like our media has a plethora of lesbian and bi women in same sex relationships. 

But even in those few, there is a common theme: cheating.

And most of the times, it’s with men

  • Lost Girl: one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • Pretty Little Liars: one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • Grey’s Anatomy: one of them cheats on her wife with a woman + one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • Tipping the Velvet:  one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • The L Word: cheaters cheating on cheaters
  • Lip Service: one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • All My Children: one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • Orange Is The New Black: one of them cheats on her gf with a woman 
  • Venice, the series:  one of them cheats on her gf with a woman
  • Queer As Folk: both women cheat on each other, one with a woman and one with a man
  • Skins:  one of them cheats on her gf with a woman
  • Blue Is The Warmest Color (film):  one of them cheats on her gf with a man
  • Sandman (comic): both women cheat on each other, one with a woman and one with a man (who gets her pregnant and they raise the kid together)

And just… why. Why does this stereotype exist and keeps on being perpetuated by the media?

GAY GIRLS GUIDE TO LESBIAN ROMANCE NOVELS WITH A HAPPY ENDING

Annie on my mind- Nancy Garden

Keeping you a secret- Julie Anne Peters

Leaving L.A.- Kate Christie

Me and you and daisies- Lily R. Mason

The world unseen- Shamim Sarif 

Wildthorn- Jane England

Tipping the velvet- Sarah Waters

Dare truth or promise- Paula Boock

And Playing the role of herself- K.E. Lane

Hunter’s Way- Gerri Hill

Ash- Malinda Lo

The price of salt- Patricia Highsmith

Patience & Sarah- Isabel Miller

The Gravity between us- Kristen Zimmer

Her name in the sky- Kelly Quindlen 

Taking the long way- Lily R. Mason

Fingersmith- Sarah Waters

 

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“When I see her,” I said, “it’s like - I don’t know what it’s like. It’s like I never saw anything at all before. It’s like I am filling up, like a wine-glass when it’s filled with wine. I watch the acts before her and they are like nothing - they’re like dust. Then she walks on the stage and - she is so pretty; and her suit is so nice; and her voice is so sweet… She makes me want to smile and weep, at once. She makes me sore, here.” I placed a hand upon my chest, upon the breast-bone. “I never saw a girl like her before. I never knew that there were girls like her…”