This is a point of interest for me as well

I’ve been writing fanfic (among other things) for 15 years. I never found it particularly challenging to treat other cultures/demographics with respect. Learning about others’ experience is fun. I’ve made long-term friends that I never would have met otherwise. I’ve learned a lot about myself as well and it’s made life so much more interesting.

For profit-driven companies, the argument is always that they have to “cater to the masses” because that’s where the money is. If you’re writing for it’s own sake, the only limit is your imagination. The more you listen, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the better you become.

Seeing self-identified writers recoil in horror at the bare suggestion of considering a different point of view is a new and strange experience for me. Even if you only write smut, how many times can you write about fundamentally similar characters, doing more or less the same thing, with only minor variations in the theme before it gets boring?

coming out as aro like
  • them:where are your glasses?
  • you:I don't wear glasses?
  • them:oh, are you wearing contacts?
  • you:no, I don't need glasses. my vision is fine.
  • them:sure it is.
  • you:yes, it is!
  • them:look, it's fine to admit it. we all need corrective lenses. it's only human.
  • you:but I don't need them
  • them:you're only telling yourself that. it's okay to admit you need something. it doesn't make you weak.
  • you:I know it doesn't.
  • them:you don't have to squint at everything. I know it's hard, you don't have to do it.
  • you:I don't squint. I just genuinely see fine without glasses.
  • them:you don't have to pretend you're better than the rest of us.
  • you:I'm not
  • them:humans aren't meant to have perfect vision.
  • you:that's literally the biggest bullshit I've ever heard.
  • them:but why do you hate glasses?
  • you:I don't hate them. I just don't need them.
  • them:I know! I can help you pick out glasses
  • you:but I don't need glasses!
  • them:it's okay. you don't have to be ashamed.
  • you:I'm not ashamed! I just don't see what I would need glasses for!
  • them:everybody needs glasses.
  • you:but they don't! I don't!
  • them:if you can't find the right ones in a store, why don't you try the internet?
  • you:my vision is fine!
  • them:don't worry. you'll find the right pair.
Writing Bisexual Characters

Queer identities are gaining more and more ground in written and visual media. While this is splendid, portrayals often seem limited to gay people. Bisexuality is, in many ways, still an “invisible” queer identity. Way too often, I hear people who don’t know what it is, doubt its existence, or just plain don’t consider it when telling a story.



About the author: I am a bisexual woman in my mid-twenties who has studied gender and queer theory non-professionally for a few years. I’m by no means an expert on anything, but I do have an interest in seeing my sexuality represented well.

Let me start with a disclaimer: There is no one way to be bisexual. This doesn’t describe everyone by a longshot. The best way of learning is to go out there, listen, ask and listen some more. This article is just a starting point for knowledge and questions.

With that in mind, let’s start!


Frequently Asked Questions

What is bisexuality?

Being bisexual means you are able to be sexually, romantically and/or emotionally attracted to more than one gender. Some people make a distinction between being attracted to both genders (bisexual) or being attracted to all genders (pansexual), but for most intents and purposes, bisexual is the term you want.

For some bisexuals, gender is a factor in the attraction, some are genderblind, some fluctuate between genders, some have a preference, etc. Point is, there are many different ways to be bisexual. The one thing they all have in common is the sexual attraction to more than one gender.


Isn’t it just a phase?

While it’s true that some gay people identify as bi before coming fully out, and that some straight people identify temporarily as bi, bisexuality is a completely legitimate orientation. Bi adults tend to stay bi.

Part of the “phase” idea comes from the fact that most bisexuals indeed settle down with a person of a specific gender. This doesn’t make them non-bisexual though. It just means that their perfect match happened to be male/female/whatever.


How and when does a bisexual person know that they are bi?

That differs a lot. Some have known all their lives, some figure it out through experimenting, some only realize when BAM they’re in love with someone unexpected. Personally, up until my early twenties I just figured everyone was a little gay until I realized that hey, maybe it’s just me.


How do bisexuals choose?

The same way as everyone else. We meet someone fantastic, and we decide that we want a relationship with them.


Aren’t you just greedy?

No, no and also no. Bisexuals are not attracted to everyone. We can be attracted to anyone regardless of gender, but we still have taste and standards. The specific standards depend on the bi individual, just like libido, faithfulness, etc. - all things that have nothing to do with the orientation and everything to do with the individual.


Writing a Bisexual Character

The top 6 most important things to remember while writing a bisexual character are as follows:

  1. “Bisexual” is not a personality trait, nor does it say anything distinctive about the character apart from their shipping potential. Sexuality informs personality, sure, but just like you can’t base a character around their hair color, you can’t base a character solely around their sexuality. Flesh ‘em out.

  2. Bisexual people face discrimination from both straight and gay communities. Bi girls are seen as flaky teases or “drunken straight girls”. Bi guys are seen as equally flaky, unable to settle down, or as gays in denial. All bi people are seen as more promiscuous and less trustworthy. Many people will avoid serious relationships with bi people because of this.

  3. Since bisexuals are regarded as more sexual, bi characters (especially female) can skirt the line of Mr./Ms. Fanservice. It’s not fair, but know that a same-sex couple kissing will often be seen as shocking and/or pandering.

  4. Most (Western) bisexuals live happy, well-adjusted lives at peace with our sexuality. The media has a tendency to depict queer characters in a very dramatic and traumatised light, and there is some truth to this (e.g. the suicide rate among bisexual teens is higher than for both straight and gay teens), but the angst is currently overexposed in media. The angsty queer story needs some spotlight, but it isn’t groundbreaking or edgy anymore.

  5. Related to this, be careful about killing off one half of a same-sex couple. It has been done. A LOT. I’m not saying it can’t be done well, but it leaves me a bad taste in the mouth to see just how many storytellers don’t believe I deserve a happy ending.

  6. If your bisexual character is the only non-monosexual person in the story, be prepared for extra scrutiny and criticism (as this character will stand as ambassador for your view on bisexual people). Avoid this by having a broader selection of LGBT+ characters.


How to Out a Bisexual Character

It can be tricky to out bisexual characters, especially if they’re uncoupled by the time of writing. Here are some easy ways:

  • Casual outing. Mention same-sex partners/exes in passing. “Yeah, my ex always did so-and-so. S/he was crazy!”. Date stories are also good fuel here. This is the most casual way of coming out.

  • Sexy outing. Let the character join in on “that person is so hot!” conversations, or have them hit on someone of the same gender. This type of outing may be at little ambiguous, at least to the other characters, and it emphasizes the sexual aspect of the identity. But it can be a fun way.

  • Explicit outing. Let the character explicitly and directly out themselves. This may be in response to some bigoted speech (“whoa dude, you know it’s me you’re talking about, right?”), during a relevant conversation point (“Actually, since I’m bi, I know so-and-so”), or it might be a bigger gesture (“Since you’re my friend, you deserve to know”). There are lots of reasons one might bring it up.

  • Forced/accidental outing. Someone else outs the character. This might be an enemy throwing it in your character’s face, a friend who slips up and mentions it, someone who comes across old love letters, etc. Depending on setting and other characters, this can be quite the drama fuel.

In real life, most bi people are acutely aware of how we mention our dating lives. We have made active decisions about whether we’re out or not, and who we’re out to. Very few bi people are careless about this.

That said, please out your bi character to, if no one else, then at least to the reader. Representation only matters if it is, you know… represented.


Tropes and Caricatures To Avoid

There are lots of weird and harmful tropes and stereotypes regarding bisexuals. Namely:

  1. The sex fiend. Yes, some people like sex a lot, and sometimes those sex lovers are bisexual. But there’s nothing inherently promiscuous about bisexuality, and the world doesn’t need any more sex-crazed bi characters.

  2. The straight-then-gay. A person who has genuinely enjoyed sexual relations with the opposite gender, then starts dating someone of the same gender, is probably bi. Don’t erase their identity, and the genuineness of their previous relationships, by proclaiming them suddenly gay. Or vice versa.

  3. Crushing on the straight person. While this can make a compelling story, and it certainly happens in real life, it has been done to death. It also tends to cast queer love as inherently more tragic than straight love. Maybe not avoid outright, but certainly tread with caution.

  4. Too Good For This World. While it is a nice gesture, killing off your queer character to make a point about the world’s cruelty has been done. To death, if you’ll pardon the pun.

  5. The Tease. Especially common with female characters. It’s a bisexual person, often very sexy, but her orientation is never stated outright. It’s played with, alluded to, flirted with, but she never crosses the line of plausible deniability. Almost always overlaps with the sex fiend or Ms. Fanservice. Just… just don’t.



The most important part is: It’s not hard! As long as you build an interesting, three-dimensional person not relying on stereotypes (the way all characters should be written), you can’t mess it up. And the world sorely needs good bi characters, so you will be doing both the queer and the writing community a solid by including us.

Also: Please remember that there are as many ways to be bisexual as there are bisexuals on this planet. Sexuality is fluid, and complex, and just a small part of one’s identity.

If you’re interested in reading more, here are some good starting points:

I will also be delighted to answer questions through my own blog or this post’s notes.


Now go forth, and write great bisexual characters!

well ben winston isnt on MY radar as a terribly useless white man so i guess it doesnt surprise me that i’m not on HIS as a bamf woman of color

(not to mention having a hand in the video just totally negates the point of the video, which is to allow ALL fans to fantasy role play as the love interest, sigh)


warm colors(noun)

the yellows and reds of the color spectrum, associated with fire, heat, sun,and warmer temperatures; also called hot colors


I love how Peridot had never seen her reflection before and became interested in exploring what she looked like immediately. It also makes me sad bc it means she didn’t know what she even looked like until now. Homeworld sounds harsh AF. This dork is officially a fave. She has developed sooooo well. Her personality is on pointe. The way she used her limb enhancer fingers to express herself killed me. Freaking pulled her hair back and made arrows with them. God help me bc I won’t last through much more of this.

Something I liked in “Space Race” is that Pearl is clearly incredulous that Steven’s spaceship would work (considering its a wooden box on wheels with stuff taped to it) but also seems genuinely interested in seeing it work to the point of being a little surprised when it started falling apart. She assumed they did their research and calculations and that it was a legit attempt at building a spaceship so even if it didn’t look good to her she was still curious to see how it worked.

like she was like “Well its pretty rudimentary and doesn’t look space-worthy at all but human tech always looks shoddy to me so maybe this is a legitimate human spacecraft.”

Concerning Thranduil

In the Desolation of Smaug, we meet one of the chief characters of the movies, Thranduil, the king of Mirkwood, father to Legolas. His main scene in the movie, we assume pretty quickly that he’s a giant dick head who doesn’t care about anything, hates dwarves, and for some reason was burnt by some dragon at some point. But i actually found this pretty interesting:

So though it’s not entirely clear in the movies, this tid bit of information really made a giant difference to me. We assume Thranduil is greedy, only caring for the jewels of starlight he mentions in Desolation, and hates dwarves because they kept him from these jewels. When in actuality, he wants only to reclaim the Necklace for his late wife, thus his line in the Battle of the Five Armies:

Absolutely a mind fuck, makes you care a lot more about Thranduil and his character, as well as his decisions he makes leading up to the Battle. Also, fun fact, when he says: “Do not talk to me of dragon fire. I know it’s wrath and ruin. I have faced the great serpents of the north." He is referring to the battle in Gundabad, which is in the northern lands of Angmar, where his wife died. Maybe he tried to save her and thats why he was burnt by a dragon. :’(

So Thranduil’s prickly demeanor is really just his emotional defense because he lost the woman he loved and has trouble coping and moving on from it, which is why Legolas says "He never speaks of it.”

Thranduil is really a romantic softy at heart :P

Mental Illness in the Horror Genre

Something that pissed me off the other day.

Talking to a guy who knows my parents but doesn’t know me very well, and he tells me that his friend (indeed, a very nice and talented actor) recently put out a horror movie. And I’m interested until I hear the words “So it’s about this guy with OCD…” and at that point my mom and I give each other a sidelong glance.

I say, “I don’t know, because I have OCD and it’s a pretty serious thing for me.”

To which he follows up, “Oh, you don’t have it like this guy! You’re totally functional!”

Okay, dude. Yes, I am standing before you in a fancy club, dressed nice, and looking relatively balanced. But you do not know me. You do not know OCD.

You do not know that I have been non-functional, and that in order to maintain my current balance of sanity, I take daily medication and see a weekly therapist, and I still have downward spirals and panic attacks.

OCD can add to a story, for sure. The Aviator is a great example–albeit, it was on the voyeuristic side, kind of “check out what a weirdo this guy really is”, but his condition was portrayed in a realistic and *sympathetic* manner, because it focused so hard on his anxiety and entrapment.

I don’t need a horror movie about my disorder for a couple reasons.
1. I already live the horror movie that is OCD.
2. Just like people with psychosis, schizophrenia/schizotypal disorders, dissociative identity disorders, and any other number of mental disorder that makes us act in unusual and yes, sometimes frightening ways, I don’t need it to be the hinge for your horror flick, a handy device that makes more people like you scared and misunderstanding of people like me.
3. And for people with the above disorders who may not be diagnosed, they don’t need to be told that they are dangerous monsters and cause them to avoid treatment out of fear. (This goes double for people who experience paranoia or delusions as part of their symptoms.)

This post ended up way longer than I meant, but really, truly, hear me out creators:


Bubblegum & The Galaxy Within the Girl Series | Seilah

For @taylor-fairy, @eliseplays, @stormtrpo, @the-one-with-the-fandoms @moonlustelara, @mysticalpolicetyrant and of course, in her sinniness, @seilahtheshipper

Three panels that was used in Juvia are recreated. Fun fact do you know i try in every retrospect to be stealthy in the fandom giving random anon asks to everyone with a certain title and it doesn’t work purely bc of this series do you know that bc i do and it breaks my little heart that i can’t stealth jsus 

So far in the Bubblegum Series; 

@doginshoe @baerandish @neato-ft and @acnomogia are the offical i-expect-to-be-tagged squad apparently. 

But as Ebola spreads, pharmaceutical giants are sitting this one out. That’s mainly because treating a disease that affects a relatively small number of people who typically don’t have a lot of money doesn’t offer a great return on investment for profit-driven companies, experts told The Huffington Post Tuesday. It’s unclear how much profit it would take to get Big Pharma interested in finding an Ebola cure, but right now such a project could well be a money-loser, they said.

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In case you don’t believe that institutional racism is a thing, let me point to the general lack of interest in finding good, affordable treatments for hemorrhagic fevers by the people with the funding and infrastructure to make a difference relatively quickly. Fucking sociopathic wankers.

                                  Tohru Adachi | male | 27 | ♒  | Japan

Egalitarian, anti-feminist, anti-special snowflake. I work as a detective in a small ass town trying to have fun however I can so if you want to send me hate go make my day, your tears fuel me. You think you know more about the world than I do? Well I’m ready to prove you wrong, this world is more unfair than tumblr would have you believe and I’m here to give you the cold-hard truth. I’m also single and available, looking for a woman who would take care of a poor guy like me, knows how to cook and has basic decency unlike most women these days. Age is not an inconvenience ;) bonus points if you’re shy and timid. send me a fanmail if you’re interested.

  • Listen

Jen: “I love you both more than anything in the world.”

Josh: “Easy, you’re on camera. don’t get chocked up right now. Come on, pull it together, pull it together.”


I couldn’t help but replay this part of the interview again. It’s really easy to get caught up in just what she says alone because it is so damn sweet. At the end, I can really hear her get choked up. There is genuine emotion in her voice. It’s easy just to stop listening right there and replay.

But what’s also interesting to me is that Josh instantly deflects what she says and points out that the camera is on her. That expression on his face is a classic, “Oh shit” moment". He knows her so well and immediately downplays what she says because he knows she’s being honest in that moment. She had a small slip, so he deflects with jest and follows up with emphasizing that “It’s a farce”. 

8,000?!   WHAT!  I can’t even count how many giveaways I’ve had at this point, because we’ve just had so many, and each time I’ve met an absolutely incredible singer.  I can’t wait to see who I get to meet this time!

For those who don’t know, I’m a voice teacher as well as a performer, and I do Skype lessons for many tumblr users.  (Check out my website here if you’re interested in coaching sessions or lessons!) I really love giving back to the community and helping people out with their vocal journey, as many people helped me in mine.  So, if you’re looking for a technique intensive or perhaps just want to work on a song you love, here are the details:

Rules and How It Works:

  • You must be following me!  
  • You can reblog once for an entry, and like once for an entry.  That means you can get a max of two entries!  Note: this is a change from previous giveaways.
  • You must be willing to Skype in.  I’m happy to do video or just audio if you’re uncomfortable with video.  I can obviously do more work with you if I can see your mouth placement and such, but I can definitely work with audio as well!
  • You don’t need to have EVER taken a lesson before.  If you like to sing and are interested in learning a bit more and working on a song, absolutely enter!  And if you’re a seasoned singer, you’re welcome to enter!  Everybody’s welcome.  Yes, even you!
  • International entries are so welcome!  I teach people all over the world, and we can find a time .
  • If you are already a student of mine, you can still enter!  Your charge will be waived for the week if you win!  (Up to 30 minutes waived.)
  • If you would just like to signal boost this and not enter, simply say in the post or tags that you are not entering.  
  • Depending on what you want in a lesson, we can work technique, repertoire, or a mix of the two.  I’m happy to do monologue coaching as well. It’s your lesson, so we’ll do what you want!
  • Giveaway ends Sunday July 24th at midnight.  
  • Winner will be chosen via random number generator.
  • I am still planning on doing a masterclass in August as well, as promised–keep your eyes open for more details on that to come!

Feel free to message me with any questions! 

I’m pretty disgustingly passionate about this one, so I’m really going to rein it in and try to keep this short and sweet: you sure do see an awful lot of articles that talk about all the selfless sacrifices Clarke Griffin has made for the hundred. Where are all my articles giving kudos to Bellamy Blake for putting his life on the line…?

Bellamy’s unwavering loyalty and dedication to his people is staggering – especially considering where he started in the series but, really, seeing him at such a low moral point shows us that he isn’t infallible and it makes him so much more relatable and interesting. I like flaws in my heroes and this is something The 100 does very, very well. Bellamy isn’t a perfect but he is certainly a character worthy of admiration and acknowledgment.

C’mon, folks: give me some Bellamy love alongside all the well deserved Clarke love and I will be a happy fan.

You’ll see I’m wearing black now; I’m very accustomed to it.

But at one point while I was helping with all the auditions, I’d worked with Ryan Murphy. He was always interested in who the person really was, not in how they interpreted his character–he wanted to change the writing to match them. And so I thought, musically, let’s do the same thing. When they’re doing a song, let’s make it so that it’s from them–they’re singing from character; vocal considerations are second. And I think that worked for Ryan; I mean, it helped him find his people.

And at one point he just turns to me and says, ‘Get used to wearing…black.’ Right? So I thought, well, the guy always looks great; he’s a fashion maven, so I may as well.

Well, the next day we’re bringing in people who are auditioning for Jenna Ushkowitz’s part, and I’m dressed head to toe black. And eventually he notices that, and he’s like, 'Not NOW. When you’re on the SHOW.’ And I said, oh, so not at the meetings; just when–why would I be on the show?

And I thought, 'I know why he wants me on the show; I make everyone so comfortable when they’re singing; that’s why he wants me.’ And it might be, but his first note was, 'You hate ALL of them. You hate the teacher, you hate the students, you hate minorities, you hate women.’

So in my own little head….for me, I consider that my character has had an arc from hating everyone to grudging acceptance. Because directors come in and they have no idea that that’s the one major note that I have, and they go like, 'You should laugh at that; you should think that’s funny.’ And I’m thinking, 'But, but Ryan said….oh, okay,alright.’ So I consider that an arc.

—  Brad Ellis, telling the story about learning he was going to appear on screen as a character in Glee. Happy Hour with Ben and Alexander, UBN Radio.

Remember me saying something about an update?  Here it is, and it’s a big one!

The recent attention has inspired me to revisit this design and breathe some new life into them.  Shown here are 3 of the designs now available at my Shapeways shop.  There’s another option that’s a little more involved, it includes the necessary mounting for adding a heart cut gemstone to the center of the pendant.  But that’s not all!

A couple people have expressed interest in my Hylian Shield rings as well, and I have run into some *problems* with all the tiny little details on the face, had a lot of kicked back designs and delayed shipments.  So I went back in on all of them and tweaked the design, smoothing it out a bit to a point where they should print right up no problem.  They’re now available in sizes 6 through 10.  As always, please let me know if there’s a different size you’re interested in, and I’ll get it sorted out quickly.

Past that?  We’ll see!  I’m still hard at work on various projects!

So throw back to about a year and a half ago, I match with this guy, lets call him Ryan. Ryan was super into me and would always message me and stuff, at this point I wont lie, I wasn’t interested in him at all. We would chat, but I was never really invested. He seemed cool but whatever, i had other stuff going on. Fast forward about 6 months later, me and Ryan are friendly, nothing major though. One day, for whatever reason, I decide to properly engage in conversation with him. We exchange numbers, and he rings me and we hit it off. 

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