The-Men-Issue

Period feels that don't get talked about enough

-constant feeling that you need to poop
-crotch pains
-those moments when you can feel the blood dripping out
-cramps for days before you actually see any blood
-simultaneous nausea and ravenous hunger
-simultaneous WANT SEX NOW and DON’T TOUCH ME EVER
-maximum rage at cis men*
-got sensory issues? now they’re a lot worse
-got mental illness? no you don’t, any and all of your emotional problems can be blamed on your uterus
-that legitimate breakdown you had last week about a serious issue? PMS
-got any preexisting health issues? they’re all worse now
-gross gross gross gross gross gross gross gross

*NOT because cis men are inherently bad or the only people who can be bad, just because they don’t experience these problems and other groups of people who don’t have periods typically have other difficult experiences connected with that fact, such as dysphoria, misgendering or medical problems. I know this isn’t cis men’s fault, but I can’t control that it makes me angry.

This is the dumbest fucking company I have ever seen. God

Diversity isn’t your issue, idiots. You’re losing in sales because you don’t give books a fighting chance. You launch a new event every three months and force creators to tie their books into the shitty event - how you expect creators to tell their story AND explore character development whilst tying into an event that makes 0% sense is beyond me but work - then you cancel a book after 6 issues because they’re not selling to your unrealistic expectations. When the sad thing is no one is going to invest their time, heart and soul into a title when they know full and well that the book is going to either restart (with the same three issue character introduction 🙄) after twelve issues or disappear and have the characters never be seen from again. It’s the same thing every year, year after year but lol okay, diversity is the issue here

When you go back to selling exclusively books about stale white men and their lame issues, see how that works out for you

To the boys who are told they don't need positivity

You deserve to be appreciated.
Your issues are just as important as “women’s issues”.
Everyone has problems.
Being a boy does not make you sexist or violent.
You deserve love and care.
If you get hurt, you deserve support.
To hell with the misandrists, you’re amazing

anonymous asked:

hply shit. Chechenya's (an autonomous region of Russia) recently opened concentration camps for LGBT peoples. 100 gay men have been captured and 3+ have died

I don’t even have the words for this.

Human Rights Watch states:

For several weeks now, a brutal campaign against LGBT people has been sweeping through Chechnya. Law enforcement and security agency officials under control of the ruthless head of the Chechen Republic, Ramzan Kadyrov, have rounded up dozens of men on suspicion of being gay, torturing and humiliating the victims. Some of the men have forcibly disappeared. Others were returned to their families barely alive from beatings. At least three men apparently have died since this brutal campaign began.

This chilling information was first publicised by Novaya Gazeta, a leading independent Russian paper. Their report came out on 1 April, prompting the spokesperson for Chechnya’s Interior Ministry to dismiss it as an “April fools’ joke.” Kadyrov’s press secretary immediately described the report as “absolute lies and disinformation,” contending that there were no gay people in Chechnya and then adding cynically, “If there were such people in Chechnya, law-enforcement agencies wouldn’t need to have anything to do with them because their relatives would send them somewhere from which there is no returning.”

Mass pro-Kadyrov rally organized by Chechen authorities in Grozny in January 2016.

Chechnya’s official news agency, Grozny Info, quoted numerous local commentators bashing Novaya Gazeta and other “enemies” of Chechnya and Russia for supposed attempts to discredit the Chechen people, “foster sodomy,” and undermine “traditional values.”

The information published by Novaya Gazeta is consistent with the reports Human Rights Watch recently received from numerous trusted sources, including sources on the ground. The number of sources and the consistency of the stories leaves us with no doubt that these devastating developments have indeed occurred. LGBT Network in Russia opened a special hotline to provide emergency support to those who find themselves in immediate danger.

The Russian LGBT Network has released a statement with stories about what has happened to some (obviously anonymous) men.

It’s really important to share the Russian LGBT Network’s statement overall:

The Russian LGBT Networks is highly disturbed and concerned about the information on the kidnapping and killing of people in Chechnya because of their sexual orientation. We are also outraged by the reaction of the officials of the Chechen Republic, who in fact justify the killings.  No national and/or religious traditions and norms can justify kidnapping or killing of a human being. Any references to “traditions” to justify kidnappings and killings are amoral and criminal.

The Russian LGBT Network makes every effort to contact the victims and to provide the emergency support. Taking into account the recent statements of the Chechnya officials, we believe that the only thing that can work out is the evacuation. We cooperate closely we the human rights defenders both in Russia and abroad, and ready to evacuate.

On Monday, the Russian LGBT Network will appeal to the Investigative Committee of the Russian Federation with two claims. The one is the demand to investigate the information on the crimes, published in “Novaya Gazeta”. Another one is the claim to check whether the public statements of the Chechen officials made on April 1 and justifying the killings, contain the elements of the offence.

We are grateful to everyone who contacted us and asked how they can help. What do we need now?

  • Help us to spread the information about the fact that the Russian LGBT Network is ready to evacuate people. Please think for whom this information can be useful. You can spread the information publicly or personally. Everyone who needs help can contact us by email or call the Hotline (8 800 555 73 74). The call is free all over Russia.
  • In accordance with the Russian legislation, every citizen can apply to the Investigative Committee with the demand to investigate the information about the crime published in mass media. We encourage everyone to apply (the template of the claim will be published tomorrow).

We understand that many people want to help those in need. But please remember that any uncoordinated actions can put in additional danger people in need and those who are ready to help. Therefore, we do not recommend to collect the addresses of people who are ready to provide temporarily shelter.

Be aware, that the situation with the human rights in the North Caucasus is truly difficult. Now people’s lives are endangered and the only way to help is the evacuation. The Russian LGBT Network has the necessary resources to evacuate people, there is a team that already makes every effort to safe lives. That is why we ask everyone to share with us the information about people in need and any offers of assistance.

Again, their contact information is here for all Russians, and the number is free to call.

This is very real, modern day evil and this information needs to be shared.

telegraph.co.uk
Shortage of eligible men has left women taking desperate steps to preserve their fertility, experts say
A dearth of marriagable men has left an “oversupply” of educated women taking desperate steps to preserve their fertility, experts say.

It turns out that men falling behind in higher education is a huge problem…for women.

Dear girls (yes, all of you),

This is not strictly sapphic, but important nonetheless:

Regardless of the nuances of your identity as a girl/woman/woman aligned individual, there’s an enormous amount of pressure to love, have sex with, and be with men. That does not, of course, mean that this pressure manifests the same way for all girls. However, I think we can all agree that no girl is completely immune to these societal pressures.

You are under no obligation to be with men. You are under no obligation to date, have sex with, marry, kiss, commit to, or hold any kind of relationship with men you do not wish to have. You do not owe specific men this, and you do not owe this to men as a class, either. If you do these things, it should be because you want to, not because you “should”.

It doesn’t matter how many men you’ve been with in the past. It doesn’t matter if you’re attracted to men, even if you’re strongly attracted to them. It doesn’t matter if you want these things in theory. You are in charge of your relationships, and what you want out of them. Ideally, you should not pursue anything unless you are sure you want it, and it should be done at your own pace (and if your own pace is “never”, that’s fine too.)

To lesbians and gay women, only wanting relationships with other women/women aligned folk is great! You are not “close minded” for being disinterested in men. Even if at one point you thought you were attracted to men, there is no issue with leaving this in the past and embracing your identity. I wish you luck in you seeking out relationships with women (at your own pace).

To bi, pan, polysexual, and otherwise multi gender attracted women, you do not need to “prove” that you’re attracted to multiple genders with your dating history. If you’d rather avoid being with men right now (or ever) this is fine, even if you’re attracted to them. You have every right to focus on your relationships with women and/or non-binary people, or to avoid relationships in general if you so choose. Your sexuality should not be defined as “available to men” by anyone - you have autonomy! Even if you pursue men, your “availability” is determined by you rather than inherently implied by your sexuality.

To trans women, gatekeepers might say you’re not “real” unless you are exclusively interested in men and seek out relationships with them. This could not be more false! You are no less trans, and no less of a woman, than trans women who fit under the typical trans narrative. Like cis women, you should feel free to date someone of any gender you choose, or nobody at all if you’d prefer. No doctor should deny you the opportunity to medically transition because your sexuality falls outside what they consider “legitimate”.

To asexual women, despite societal pressure to find a man and be a “good girlfriend” to him by pleasing him sexually, there is nothing wrong with your lack of sexual attraction. Ace or not, no man (or person in general) should pressure you into sexual acts you’re uncomfortable with. There is also nothing wrong with seeking out romantic relationships without a sexual component. Communication is key, and if it’s what you desire, I hope you eventually find a relationship that suits your needs.

To aromantic women, I know it seems that all sorts of media pushes the idea that there is nothing more fulfilling than romantic love with a man. However, if romantic love isn’t your thing, you have every right to avoid it. And if you desire sex but not romance, then there is nothing wrong with seeking that out with partners you’ve communicated your desires to.

To straight women, you are not excluded from this message! You still deserve happiness and fulfillment in your relationships, and more importantly, you should not feel pressured to settle for the first half decent man that comes along. Your relationships with men should be done at your own pace. If this means you hit some milestones late, or never, then there’s nothing wrong with that. Just remember that not all girls are exclusively attracted to men like you are (and some aren’t attracted to men at all)! Respect their choices as well.

To questioning women, I hope you someday find a label that resonates with you, but don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen right away (or ever). The process of questioning should be done at your own pace. Don’t feel like you have to rush to figure out a label, or force yourself to do anything you’re uncomfortable with just to speed along the process of finding yourself. Maybe you’re attracted to men. Maybe you aren’t. Maybe you’ll never be completely sure. You’re valid nonetheless.

To women who fit under more than one of these labels, or another label altogether, there’s nothing wrong with your identity being more complicated than some are used to. Like everyone else, you should be allowed to pursue relationships at your own pace, with whoever you feel comfortable with - and if that includes men, I hope this is because you want to and not because of outside pressure!

Take care of yourself, ladies!

Reality: The shooter killed four men and two women

Tumblr: The shooter killed six women! How dare you bring up men!


Reality: Boko Haram kidnapped and killed 10,000 boys. Boko Haram also kidnapped just under 300 girls

Tumblr: BRING BACK OUR GIRLS!


Reality: As of 2015, Rape has had a gendered definition that excludes female rapists and their male victims for more than half of the world’s population. 

Tumblr: With effort, the song Blurred Lines can be interpreted in an offensive way! RAPE CULTURE!


Do not let the Tumblr community tell you that men do not have issues or laugh at you when you bring up male victims. They are so quick to turn a blind eye to male victims that they don’t even consider seeing what is right in front of them. They are blind to anyone who isnt the right kind of victim.

Why is it that we as black women have to be careful not to portray black men as super predators (their worst stereotype) even to our own detriment, but black men have no issue portraying us as our worst stereotype? 

bbc.co.uk
Surrey couple's divorce payments raised after 15 years - BBC News
An ex-wife sees her maintenance payments increased 15 years after her divorce.

The ex-husband of a woman who was awarded £230,000 on her divorce has been told by the Court of Appeal he must support her for life.

Maria Mills, 51, was originally awarded £1,100 a month from 50-year-old Graham Mills after 13 years of marriage.

Appeal Court judges also ruled he should pay her £1,441 per month as she is “unable to meet her basic needs”.

Mr Mills had argued he should not have to “pick up the tab” 15 years after the couple split.

Lord Justice Longmore and Sir Ernest Ryder heard the couple married in 1988, had a now-grown-up son, separated in 2001 and divorced in 2002.

Mr Mills, a surveyor, had agreed to give Mrs Mills, a former Notting Hill estate agent, almost all their “liquid capital” when they divorced, while he kept his business.

‘Unwise’ investments

His barrister, Philip Cayford, told the court Mr Mills, who now lives in Guildford, had since remarried and wanted to “move on” with his life.

The court heard Mrs Mills had made some “unwise” property investments, moving from a house in Weybridge to a flat in Wimbledon, and then to an apartment in a luxury Victorian mansion block in Battersea.

After selling the Battersea flat she was left “without any of the capital”, the court was told, and was now living in a rented home in Weybridge.

Mrs Mills works for two days per week as a beauty therapist, the court was told.

Frank Feehan, representing Mrs Mills, said she had been left with the responsibility for the couple’s young child and without enough money to buy a house that she considered “good enough”.

He said his client was “unable to meet her basic needs”.

In the ruling, Sir Ernest said Mr Mills had the ability to make the increased maintenance “until a further order of the court”.

They’ve been divorced for fifteen years.

Their child is an adult, so there’s no maintenance for children that justifies this.

They’re two separated adults with completely separate lives. She made bad decisions, so she’s managed to squeeze even more money out of her ex-husband, who now has to give her money for the rest of her life – and a court thinks that this is acceptable.

This is utterly disgraceful.