I see a bunch of posts saying if your asexuality or aromanticism is caused or influenced by trauma or mental illness or neurodiversity or something, it’s still valid.

I see a lot of posts saying asexuality isn’t something that needs to be cured, that a-spec people aren’t broken and don’t need to be fixed. That people are naturally born this way.

I also see a ton of posts telling everyone it’s ok if their labels change, that sexuality is fluid and identifying as something different before or after or now doesn’t invalidate the person’s orientation at any point. That if it’s useful for the person now, they can use it.

But I don’t see a lot of posts, actually basically none, that actually address the point where those things intersect.

If your asexuality or aromanticism is caused or influenced by something, your orientation is valid, and it doesn’t mean you couldn’t have been a-spec without it. Maybe you were born this way, maybe you were made this way, but no matter how you got here, you are still a wonderful valid person.

You are not broken if you do not feel you are.

It is also completely OK for you to feel like you are.

If you feel your orientation is something that is only temporary, because of mental illness or trauma, and you had labels you identified as before and want to identify as them again, you are so valid.

It is ok for you to think something broke and for you to want to repair or mend it. If you have a bowl because the top part of a clay vase broke, it’s ok to want a vase again. Kintsukuroi creates beautiful art out of broken pottery people mended.

It is also so ok for you to feel like some part of you is broken, and to want to let it remain that way. You don’t have to fix it. People make mosaics out of broken glass, and they are far more beautiful than the beer bottles they came from.

It’s also ok to not know how you feel about it. To feel like some days there is nothing wrong with you and other days to feel that part of you is just shattered shards of something else.

No matter what, you are valid and your experiences and feelings about your orientation are valid.


“If it weren’t for the crisis topside, you wouldn’t be getting one now.” 

I just needed to express how much this little scene broke my heart. The way Lucifer’s humor just fades away for that one moment… the way he sort of loses his energy and looks, for one instant, almost fragile… he just has the appearance and the tone of someone who is a breath away from abandoning all hope. He hadn’t been certain that Sam would come, and, even when he did, Lucifer knew he had to tread lightly to convince him to stay - to convince him to free the archangel. He wants him to make this easy, because he doesn’t want to cross a line. (”Don’t make me do this…”) It’s the slightest glimpse behind that self-assured mask he wore in S11, and that 5 seconds just does something to my heart, every time. 

exactly a year ago (september 28th, 2015; 11:30pm) etherealchen posted it’s first gifset. 

1k+ posts and 5k+ followers ago, etherealchen was basically nothing lmao, but now it’s become something i never intended or thought it would ever be. so, genuinely from the bottom of my heart, thank you. thank you for dealing with my lmao-did-you-even-try-quality and wow-this-quality-is-through-the-roof content. thank you for not unfollowing or hating me for going on hiatuses Constantly. thank you for loving and appreciating jongdae for who he is and all the great and wonderful things that he’s done for he world. and thank you for supporting me and this blog and being so N*ce honestly wtf y’all are so nice and i’m just an asshole end me

i hope to make more and more content, growing and learning more as i go, for more years to come. so, finally, thank you for not only 5k+ followers which i only hit just a few days ago, but also sticking with me for as little as five minutes ago or as long as the whole year, i love all of you.

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Now I remember where my scarf obsession came from…

Ya know what? I’m leaving it as a sketch. I decided to draw a character from one of the mmorpgs I play. I wonder if anyone can guess where this one is from (though I doubt it because my art style is so misleading ._.)

highwarlok replied to your post “it’s funny how everybody complains about alec’s eyes not being blue…”

he’s gotta be a carbon copy of will for magnus to love him that’s why

lmao now i hope we see will in some flashback or something and he doesn’t have the whole blue eyes/black hair combo just to piss everyone off. sure, i guess he could look like alec, but i’m totally cool with him having blonde hair and green eyes. just take this whole thing a step further. 

i don’t think im doing a good job at expressing myself, on here. what i mean is, i just don’t think people get my yukino. and that’s okay, because my writing has went through a massive change, and i never really addressed it except maybe talking about it to like kai.

but my end game for yukino was death at one point, i couldn’t see her living past her forties. and now, my end game is her HEALING.

some backstory on this decision, last year was the worst time of my life. i had low energy, i was getting horrible grades, i was depressed quite frankly. i hated literally everything including myself. there were some horrible thoughts back then. and i’m almost grateful for that because im honestly feeling amazing right now as i look back. it’s the whole bring urself back up.

but going back to the point, yukino was in the same state for YEARS UPON YEARS. for more than 18-19 years, she thought she was a failure. she thought she couldn’t amount to anything. what kept her going was the mere desire to be powerful so she could please her dead parents. it was the only thing that seemed to ease the pain.

y’all, you get tired after that. emotionally drained, you’re tired of hating yourself, of always beating down on yourself. but she knew no other way. so she silently bore the pain. until she saw sting’s leadership of sabertooth. while i still headcanon that they’re almost the same as before, sting just encourages more social interactions between the tigers, u feel me ? but anyways, she saw how saber changed from a toxic guild to something more relaxed. an environment she wasn’t used to. and sting and rogue, especially, were accepting her. and THAT’S what triggered a bit of introspection, the ‘ why am i like this ? ‘ question. ( each person has their own trigger, something clicks in their mind. it can happen any time or for any reason. ) and that took time bc @ that excommunication. she didn’t care abt forgiveness, there was nothing to forgive. she thought she deserved it and she always will, but it’s still that humiliation factor. like hey, these people saw me naked. 

AND it’s not even the naked part, it’s the fact that she was in a submissive, defeated position. the fact that she was like this BECAUSE she failed. it’s the failure more than the naked part.

anyways, once you get a taste of a ‘ normal ‘ mindset, of a healthy mental state. you long for it. i longed to be myself again, and i’d think yukino would too. she’s not a girl of just sweet blushes and flowers. she’s a girl with a fire, with claws, she’s strong. she definitely doesn’t have a normal thinking pattern, and that’s what bothers me about the spin-off and canon. her view is different than the submissive, weak girl, u know ?

but the point is, yukino WILL CHANGE. she IS CHANGING. she’s tired, i’m tried. i can’t write a girl who hates herself every single time, not because i can’t, not because i don’t want to. but because it seriously hurts, lmao another case of getting too involved in anime, she deserves more. not that she openly wants to ‘ heal ‘ that’s not her mindset, it’s the fact that she wants to prove to HERSELF that she can be stronger than before. that she’s not a failure. and i don’t do this because i want to make her strong or for my own person benefit, she just deserves a change. she won’t fully heal by the time she dies, there’s no way she can. not with what happened to her, but she’s trying. she’ll relapse, she’ll have good and bad days. she’s TRYING.

My Gentle Giant: A Poem for Leo the Giant

Leo, My Love

A gentle giant is he,

Beautiful and graceful as anyone can be.

With dance moves ever so swift,

your heart, he most definitely will lift.

A quiet and shy being,

as pure as a Dove,

he’s like the Big Brother you can’t help but love,

He’s the hero we don’t deserve,

one, who Justice, he’s always willing to serve.

And just hand over all your cash, cause I bet you’ll fall for him in a Flash.  

Leo, My King,

With curls ever flowing,

Like a beautiful black mane he’s proud to be showing. 

He’s a humble little Gem,

doesn’t think he has a voice,

but once you hear him you’ll have no choice, 

but to rejoice. 

My giant, so sweet, just wanna give him some sugar,

but we all know that won’t compare to him getting a tasty burger. 

Last thing I want to say, 

is that at the end of the day,

He is the favorite part of my play. 

Leo, My Love, a gentle giant is he, all I want is for him to just be.