aaah oh my god okay now i’ve really started thinking about jenny and giles and their dynamic and i have Emotions?? seems fitting that this is going on during jenny calendar day. this is a completely impromptu meta folks.
but it’s so amazing, like i said in that ask, that jenny doesn’t expect giles to put herself first, and i think that has a lot to do with the fact that not a lot of people in her life have ever put her first. she’s spent a lot of time working For The Greater Good, and the greater good doesn’t allow for her own hopes and desires. she, more than most other people, understands why giles would need to prioritize his calling over their relationship. not only that, she empathizes with it, given her own familial obligations.
meanwhile, giles never expected to find someone who would understand that they could never completely be an integral part of his life in the way that buffy and his calling always have to be. sure, they could be someone he loved, but if push came to shove he would always have to stand by what he thought would be best for buffy. knowing that jenny understands him so completely would make him even more determined to stay with her.
the thing is, while she’s alive in canon, i don’t think giles fully realizes how much jenny understands him. i think he recognizes that she stays, and he’s grateful to her for that, but i don’t think he has the opportunity to learn why jenny is so loyal to him.
and. jenny puts giles first. no one else in the show ever does that. there’s no one who turns to giles before anyone else to make sure that he’s okay, that he’s being careful, that they’re going to be right with him even when he’s not the person who feels wronged. she puts him first even though he knows he can never do the same, and she doesn’t care that he won’t be able to give her the same kind of support and love that she wants to give him.