THAT'S WHAT IT IS

we’ve always taken shelter in our unhelpable pride

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Ah, yes. Jane’s first love. I did say we’d get back to him.

Someone mentioned Reigen with a beard, so I deliver this! Got my hands on some screentones huhuhu.

Also if you’re curious as to why Reigen is in the hospital then that’s just to answer why he hasn’t shaved. Just a slight coma nothing biggie.

i know supergirl doesn’t want to copy superman/smallville, but i really think season 3 would benefit from including lex and lois lane.

let lucy come back and have sibling rivalry with lois.

let lex come back and show the dynamic with lena.

let clark be in some episodes to explore his relationship with kara.

let kara and alex have more scenes in general, they are the strongest relationship on the show.

let season 3 focus on familial relationships, because we have seen that it’s not good when they focus on romanctic ones.

Y’all, what should I look for in someone’s chart in terms of financial fraud and, like, stealing people’s money (a.k.a. being manipulative) but also being really good at it lol 

Alex ‘I’m going to jump off this tall ass building and assume my sister will catch me’ Danvers blurting out 'Marry me’ to her girlfriend is absolutely in character.

Alex goes HARD at everything in life, with the previous single exception of her love life.  College-aged Alex went hard, throwing back shots and putting her life in a negative spiral.  DEO recruit Alex goes hard, completely turning her life around and making herself indispensable.  Hell, even now, when she’s essentially second in command behind J'onn, she’s still going hard and doing things like 'Thursday morning knife throwing practice’, which you know isn’t necessary, it’s just who Alex is (and the other DEO agents find it a little terrifying and intimidating, but it also motivates them to be BETTER, because if Alex Danvers is still pushing herself like this…).  Sister Alex goes hardest of all. She was willing to die in a damn plane crash to avoid the risk of Kara exposing herself.

Anyway, the one area of her life she never went hard in, because it never previously made sense to her, was her love life.  And now she’s found someone who fits perfectly into her world, and we think she wouldn’t go all out hard on that?  Maggie gets her, knows about the DEO and Kara, doesn’t show a bit of jealously or desire to come between Alex’s relationship with Kara, they have similar likes and interests, of course Alex is going to grab onto that with both hands and ride it at full speed.  Alex Danvers and Maggie Sawyer were pretty much made for each other.

Mileage will vary, and maybe it’s because I just watched every single Sanvers scene of the season last week (for science/research reasons, okay?) , but I think the progression felt realistic.  If Maggie and Alex were younger, say, 23 or under, I might be more inclined to think Alex shouldn’t be proposing to her first girlfriend so soon, but they’re not; they’re around 30, and they both know their own minds and have strong personalities.  Not to mention, they’ve already declared they want a lifetime of firsts together, which is a kind of proposal in itself.

Alex knows how fragile life can be, knows she and Maggie both work extremely dangerous jobs; add on top of that Kara’s plea for Alex to 'Never let her go’, and how close the entire city came to being destroyed, and I just think the moment played out right.  It doesn’t mean I want to see a wedding in like episode 2 of season 3. Engagements can last a long time, and there’s plenty of material for them to mine from before an actual wedding (more Maggie Sawyer character development and back story, damn it), but the blurted out proposal felt right to me.

People hold hands a lot in LOTR and it’s really nice? It’s not just Frodo and Sam, but I never noticed before this reread. Pippin just now took Gandalf’s hand, and earlier he’d taken I think Bergil’s, a kid (ten, so old enough to walk around without help) he just met, as they walked around the city. So it’s apparently not weird, it’s just a Normal Thing.

Vaguely of relevance as well is the fact that Frodo says “he is very dear to me” of Aragorn after, what, about a fortnight of knowing him. I’m not saying he doesn’t have cause; it was a very crowded and busy fortnight. I too would probably call someone very dear to me if they had saved me from dying from stabbery and guided my friends safely through the wilderness.

It’s just all those ‘my dear Sam’ and ‘I love him’ that he and Sam do, even though they’re a product of extreme circumstances, aren’t even out of line with the culture they live in. They’re still just as meaningful, and I don’t think their power is decreased by that. I just think it’s notable that this isn’t even beyond the bounds of “propriety” for really close friends in high stress situations.

This isn’t where I meant this post to go, but I think this is why this story resonated with me so hard specifically as an aro and why I still don’t ship anything romantically in the Tolkienverse, because the world of Middle Earth is one where loving your close platonic friends and companions to the point of being physically and verbally affectionate is a normal occurrence. It’s just how things are. There’s a lot to be said about the cultural implications of that vs here and now, but I’m not really in a position to say it. But I think even before I knew How I Was, I knew that friends were much more important to me than romance seemed to be. And I feel, with the preponderance of love interests in most adult fiction, like Lord of the Rings was the first Grown Up Story where I saw that aspect of myself reflected.