12 Things Every Twenty-Something Should Do For A Productive, Successful Life

1. Travel.

2. Accept uncertainty.

3. Be curious.

4. Be open minded.

5. Learn from adversity.

6. Foster the growth mindset.

7. Get out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t hold onto the wrong things.

9. Don’t wait for the right time or the right thing to say.

10. Don’t look for the perfect scenarios, partner, or job.

Two more things twenty-somethings should do for a productive life.


Functional Success: ENxP

Today I’m going to discuss success while looking at it from a functional perspective. I’m focusing on ENxPs primarily because they share Ne-Si (Si being in the inferior). 

I know a lot of us are starting school, new jobs, or simply are just pursuing goals (come on, we’re ENxPs – when are we not pursuing something?)

It is because of Si being in the inferior for ENxPs that many do not perceive such types to be fully capable of success. The intensive idea generation (dom Ne) and, often, the lack of practical implementation (inferior Si) projects the image that such individuals are too scattered and focused on ideas to achieve success. 

While I am an 8w7 ENTP, I suffer from the same hangups as any other ENxP – however, I’ve managed to utilize what I know extensively to overcome my shortcomings. 

For those of you who don’t remember: 

ENTP: Ne-Ti-Fe-Si

ENFP: Ne-Fi-Te-Si

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Function Analysis

Shared: Dominant Ne

Ne: Ah, good ol’ Ne. As Ne users (and those around them know) Ne is like the copy machine that goes wild and spits out tons of papers in the movies. Except these papers are ideas. Every idea in the moment is tantilzation, and a fully attainable goal. This is the greatest asset and detriment to the Ne user. It’s when our auxiliary functions come into play that we can even begin to harness the powers of Ne. 

Dom/Aux Blocks

Ne-Ti: This block of function use is excellent. Ideas come to the mind, are analyzed and broken down. Ne-Ti lends the user to often appear much more introverted than their extrovert brethren as both of these functions are very “head” oriented. One thing people fail to remember is that all NTs are strategists, and ENTPs are no different. For me, Ti is most useful when determining which ideas to use. 

Ne-Fi: Where Ne-Ti seemingly wraps up bits and pieces of information and analyzes them, Ne-Fi generates ideas and draws conclusions centering more around their subjective experience. This is not in all a bad thing. In fact, it can guide ENFPs to make decisions that are “right” for them. Remember that Fi is a rational function. I’ve seen ENFPs who take the time to focus on what they like and feel is right for them to allow them to be their happiest. 

Tertiary (Tool) Function

Fe: When developed, Fe is a powerful tool. Initially in developing ENTPs, it is routinely a very manipulative function, used amorally. ENTPs go through “Fe” growing pains quite literally; however, as ENTPs get older, they are able to use their strategic side to harness Fe, compensating for their perhaps natural tendency to be more “awkward” and weird. I’ve found it not best to dismiss Fe reactions in my head, and allow myself to be warm and genuine. This softens the edge of Ne-Ti, allows me to make connections, and not be immaturely bloodthirsty in my pursuit of goals. 

Te: ENFPs definitely don’t get the short end of the stick when it comes to using Te; however, that stick can be wielded most irresponsibly in young ENFPs. While an immature young ENTP may become a schmoozer and manipulator, a younger/immature ENFP can become prickly and aggressive in the defense of their beliefs. It’s better to use Te to satisfy internal motivations rather than win external arguments (though it is certainly useful to use Te to be persuasive). 

Inferior

Si: No matter how brilliant, how sensitive, how poetic, how driven you are, if you are an ENxP you know how much inferior Si can rear its ugly head. The nostalgia. The crippling task that is creating a routine and schedule. 

As ENxPs, we initially reject Si. When I was younger, I failed to see how it could be useful in any capacity. The fact of the matter is you must compensate for inferior Si. It’ll take a lot of stress off your plate (trust me). 

For me, I’ve found it incredibly useful to maintain a routine and schedule. It’s allowed me to “escape gripping in the inferior” (there was a day where all I did was lie on the ground, considering joining the military, because I suddenly was seeking stability and routine in its extreme. 

Things that have worked for me as an inferior Si user:

  1. Schedules
  2. Routine: I don’t necessarily mean just showering and eating; I mean routinely doing things you love. For example, I’ve chunked a period of time off to write and read. If I didn’t do that, I’d be so caught up in mundanity I’d never do it. Balance is key. 
  3. Chunking off small periods of time to work on small tasks (20 minutes 5 times a day is better than ballin’ for 40 minutes, trust me [also, you don’t have to operate in crisis mode all the time, even though it’s fun])
  4. Lists, lists, lists (this is more to remember things; I know ENxPs who write crazy to-do lists and when they fail to complete all the items in one day get very frustrated: learning how long things take is very important. 
  5. Using organizational tools I like. Yeah, this sounds mundane, but I get more done if I’m writing notes with a nice pen in a nice notebook than if I’m writing with pencil on paper. This is probably due to the fact that it makes the mundane more fun and novel, satisfying that need to a degree


Well, I hope that was helpful. I’m sure I didn’t cover everything, but this is a good start.