Make me chose meme ohmysalvatorebros asked steroline or bamon

Yesterday you told me you had made a list of all the ways that loving me has ruined your life. And I get it, I haven’t made it easy on you, but I made a list, too, of all the ways that loving you has changed mine. You were by my side when I needed a friend, you made me laugh, you made me dance, you told me that I’d find love again. And I understand if you need time to heal and to live your life without me. I understand if I have to wait for you…and I will…I’ll wait. And when you’re ready for me, I will be ready for you.

Thank you for your patience, anon! I started writing my reply months ago, but I realized that my answer was so long that it should be broken up as a series of Steferine metas. So I’m going to briefly outline why this relationship intrigues me then go into more in-depth analysis in future Steferine metas.

Stefan and Katherine challenge each other.

Katherine and Stefan’s relationship led to character growth for both of them. This is evident in that Stefan and Katherine relate to each other differently in season 5 than they did in season 2. Katherine helped Stefan decide to move on from Elena.

“Look we’ve been making the same mistakes for 150 years. We can judge Katherine all we want, but we keep repeating our own history just like she is. Nothing ever changes. It has to stop.” (4x18)  

“So I guess you were right all along. It was easier for me to focus on my physical pain then the break-up. I need to move on.” (5x09)

Katherine did some soul searching in season 5, wondering whether she worthy of forgiveness because of Stefan.

Katherine (to Nadia): Do you think after all the horrible things that I’ve done it would be possible to be forgiven?

Nadia: So when you asked me about forgiveness, you were asking about him, not me? (5x10)

The relationship revealed Katherine’s humanity.

In seasons 1 and 2 Katherine was just a psychotic bitch. However, starting in 2x04 Katherine’s humanity was slowly revealed to the audience and to Stefan. 

Katherine saved Damon’s life in order to save Stefan’s humanity in 3x09.

Moreover, Katherine was the one who noticed that Stefan was suffering from PTSD and decided to do something about it (when Elena and Damon pretty much ignored Stefan’s personal hell).

Steferine demonstrates that Stefan’s compassion is genuine. 

TVD fans debate who the real Stefan Salvatore is. Some argue that the Ripper is Stefan’s true self because it’s Stefan with his inhibitions turned off- without his guilt he can just be his sick, sadistic self. Others maintain that the Hero is Stefan’s true personality and that the Ripper is a persona induced by his blood addiction.

I think that both viewpoints are correct. I think that Stefan is simultaneously one of the most heroic people and one of the most evil people on the show. I don’t think either of them are personas; they are truly who Stefan is at his core. I won’t go into the specifics of why I think so in this post because that is a meta unto itself. Suffice to say, Steferine demonstrates that Hero!Stefan is not for show. Stefan’s compassion is genuine. The evidence: Stefan’s treatment of Katherine in 5x11. Stefan had NOTHING to gain by showing kindness to Katherine as she lay dying. Indeed, Damon and Elena gave him shit for it. Stefan was compassionate anyway.  Stefan erasing Katherine’s memory of her murdered family and replacing it with baby Nadia is my favorite scene in TVD.





Illusory Light = Perfect Steferine Song 

*gifs not mine*