Say No to the “Strong Struggle”

I feel like when people say “struggling makes you stronger” to black women, it’s bullshit. You shouldn’t have to suffer to grow. Growth can be achieved without pain or poverty or hurt. It can be achieved without going through dysfunction or without basic things you need like familial love and friendship. It’s possible. I don’t know why people insist black women should shoulder needless pain and struggle to become ‘stronger’ when no one else has to. Or at least, no one else is constantly told to!!

Black women are allowed to go without being strong. They are allowed to be fragile and protected and sheltered. They can cry and hold grudges and be salty about the unfairness of other people and society. We DON’T need to be martyrs or Jesus with the stake in his hand, pillars of perfect suffering to show the resiliency of the human spirit. We are people, just like everyone else.

Let yourself cry, be mad, whatever. Sit in the hurt for once or you will never heal, like your mother and her mother. Stop painting over your pain with the tired, old excuse of “it will make you stronger”.

Maybe it will. But I was not born to suffer for some messed up idea of gaining strength! I can grow as a person without absorbing any and all pain.

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Model Teddy Quinlivan comes out as transgender
She felt “a great sense of urgency” to speak out in America's current climate.

Model Teddy Quinlivan came out this week as a transgender woman, saying the current political climate inspired her to be public about her gender identity.

Now 23, Teddy says she began her transition at age 16, but has been presenting as a cisgender woman in the fashion world for fear of hurting her career. But a growing number of transgender models have paved the way for inclusion and acceptance in the industry, and she felt the time was right.

The 23-year-old Massachusetts native, who also walked for the likes of Carolina Herrera and Diane Von Furstenberg this week, said she felt “a great sense of urgency” given a recent spate of anti-trans violence, as well as the various ways in which President Donald Trump’s administration has rolled back rights for transgender Americans.

“We made an amazing progression under the Obama administration, and since the new administration took office there’s been a kind of backlash,” she said. “There’s been violence against transgender people ― particularly transgender women of color ― since before I even knew what transgender was. I’m very fortunate to be in [a] position [that] I never really thought I would be. It’s really important to take advantage of a time like this.” […]

“I think one of the ways we can help people in the trans community is to give them a platform,” she told CNN. “The fashion industry dictates what’s in fashion, what’s cool, what’s acceptable. It’s not just about who’s walking fashion shows … it’s about who’s on every newsstand in the country.”

Congratulations and thank you for this important moment, Teddy. 

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Mayor of Hell, Michigan — in office for a few hours — outlaws heterosexuality
Elijah Daniel was impeached shortly after the anti-straight people decree.

There’s a town of about 70 people in Michigan – an incorporated community – called Hell. For $100, you can temporarily become the mayor. So comedian Elijah Daniel did just that, and he used his powers to ban heterosexuality.

Daniel based his ban almost verbatim on Donald Trump’s “extreme vetting” policy outlawing Muslims. And he really thought through the details:

His mayoral proclamation explains that when he was growing up, he was often told that homosexuals would go to hell. But “now the heterosexuals are trying to take that from us too,” Daniel wrote.

So, as mayor of Hell, he would establish “new vetting measures to keep radical heterosexuals out of our town.”

To make sure his words reached as many people as possible, he posted the ban on Twitter.

Lest he seem bigoted, Daniel offered local heterosexuals a chance to stay in Hell for a price: Fork over $84,000, which they would get back after one year of abstinence from straight sex.

“Reparative therapy” to find one’s gay side was also to be strongly encouraged. The alternative: being forced to wear a scarlet H and cargo shorts in the town square every morning for some public straight-shaming.

He was impeached shortly after enacting the policy, because every mayor of Hell gets impeached, but also because that’s what should happen when you try to ban an entire group of people from your community. And yet. 

introvert: *reads*

society: you must be lonely. go outside and socialize!

introvert: *draws*

society: what are you doing inside on such a nice day?

introvert: *creates*

society: why are you wasting your time with your pointless delusions?

the struggles of an introvert in an extroverted society