Social Conventions

I have been tagged

I don’t usually do these. But I love community spirit! Usually. Anniestears tagged me as well as anjo-da-guarda-me, for ten random things about me, and I have to tag fifteen others. Okay, here goes.
1. I love to sing and dance around like a fool, though I’m not very good at either .
2. I don’t pay much attention to strangers when I’m public, and I have no filter, so I get a lot of strange looks sometimes.
3. Life is often painful and I’ve had my share of sorrows, but I believe in better things to come.
4. I would prefer to be naked in almost every situation, but there are laws and social conventions which I uphold…usually.
5. It’s easier for me to help others than it is for me to ask for help.
6. I’m not a disciplined writer. I just pour out my heart on the page.
7. I have been broken many times in this life. Have given up more than once, but have one to understand that life isn’t ease and comfort all the time. Life is joy and sorrow. That is enough to keep me going.
8. I believe in God.
9. I believe that we get what we give, which scares the crap out of me some nights.
10. There are people on tumblr who have literally saved my life. Helped to heal me when I couldn’t stand on my own, and I love them with all my heart.
I have to tag people. My apologies. @mavieenmots @jsweptson @wistfulmuse @withintheheart01 @katrinnac @whogoatqueen @aubriestar @thissometimepoet @diveinside-mymind @divineimpediment @teacup12 @rarasworldbro @celtic-poetry @stor


[Haru Hana Magazine Interview] Seungkwan’s comment on Wonwoo: (cr.)
“If we don’t laugh at his jokes, he’ll feel intimidated. What a cute hyung.”

[Love & Letter Repackage Album] Seungkwan’s note to Wonwoo: (cr.)
“The Wonwoo-hyung I love, I love you even more as compared to the other members kekekeke. I’m sorry for always rejecting you for when you ask me to eat supper with you because I’m trying to lose weight!! Changwon Palryong Middle School dancing machine, auditory hallucination man Jeon Wonwoo, I love you ♥”

Why women don't code! (?)

An overview:
So basically the programming industry (and the IT industry itself!) have a MASSIVE shortage of female programming, less than a third of computer science students are female, and less than that actually go into the industry, (in my company in particular there is a 1:4 ratio for female employees to male employees!)

The problem:

we want female coders! Everyone should feel comfortable programming, it’s a great, creative and intellectual skill with so many useful applications. The computer science and software industry is changing rapidly and the need for skilled individuals (both males and females) grows everyday.

The cause (in my opinion):
When computer programming and computer science were first becoming mainstream industries, there were many negative sexist attitudes, the idea that females should play with ‘girly toys’ like dolls and play-houses was a massive concept and the reinforcement of the idea that girls should look pretty with make-up and they should be cooking and baking. At this time all of the negative reinforcements were there, make up to teach young girls they should be pretty, dolls to teach them they should be mothers one day, play-ovens and play-houses to teach them they should focus on home economics. This caused a problem for computer science, at that time computers were widely used to make electronic toys and video games, and because it seemed there wasn’t a market for girls in that respect; boys got bombarded with the advertising. Images and widespread advertising of boys playing video games, video game concepts being primarily for boys (beating things up and killing things wasn’t seen as 'lady-like’) - this led to computing interest planted in the minds of boys from a young age, it was natural to be interested in how it worked and to be excited at the concept of possibly making your own games one day (Shown by the success of the zx spectrum and commodore 64, both of them you could create your own games on - which reinforced the idea of programming in young boys)

This massive focus on males and not females led to one of the biggest downfalls of the computing industry, most girls simply were not interested since computer science hasn’t shown then what it can do and peaked their curiosity and girls that were interested felt like they couldn’t keep up with the interest of boys with one girl reportedly saying 'Yeah, it’s interesting, but I do have other hobbies, I like to relax, you know? Pick up a new skills or something, I don’t dream in code like all the boys do’ which leads to them not completing their qualifications or possibly not becoming part of the industry because they feel outweighed by the devotion of the boys!

Shockingly this still goes on today, the stereotypes of the nerdy male software developer and the iconic figureheads of software (Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs etc. etc.) all being male, dig these roots deeper, and do nothing to unpick the vicious, sexist and unproductive dismaying plants of software development.

The solution:
We need to focus on females now! We need to destroy the harmful stereotype of programming being for males, teach female only computer science classes, teach it in schools, shatter the 'video games are for boys’ ideal, it’s time equality came to the exciting, ever-changing and developing world of software development.

I’ve been told i might be too aggressively friendly & forward in social gatherings which might scare off timid vulnerable geeks
so i shall adapt a new, more comfortable persona for your consideration.
ahem ahem
*changes to flowery urban outfitters getup & pulls out ukulele*
*shaky voice* hey guys *nervous gentle laugh* i wrote a song about mario

Ephemera Phriday

“Dance cards, known as programmes du bal in French or Tanz-karten in German, are small booklets used mainly by women at formal dances to record their dance partners. Popularized in Vienna in the nineteenth century, dance cards continued to be used throughout the early twentieth century.

Names could be filled in just after a dance to keep as a memento, or early in the evening to ensure one had a partner planned for each dance, thus eliminating the risk of being labeled a wallflower. This tactic also allowed a woman to decline a dance politely by being able to say her card was already full.”

These dance cards are considered to be ephemera: they are obsolete objects in modern society, but we now remark upon their vintage beauty. Ephemera are the everyday printed objects we all encounter, but often dismiss, discard, or view with distaste.

Join us for #ephemeraphriday to share the overlooked items that are catching your eye

The full article about dance cards, written by Lindsey O’Brien and Amanda Schriver, can be read at:

Something that has always confused me, and made me damn certain about humanities weirdness is the phrase "pardon you". Like I went through nineteen years of my life thinking this was the polite response to someone burping, like the equivalent of saying bless you when someone sneezes. APPARENTLY I WAS WRONG? and it's like rude or something??!?
Just a little PSA

I if you are ever planning on going to a party, or any social convention where there is alcohol, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE only drink from a bottle/ can you brought, or a bottle/can that has been freshly opened BY YOU. 

Obviously some of the things I’ve posted in the last few hours were very embarrassing, for obvious reasons. However: I wasn’t drunk at all. I was drugged.

I got to a party in the local college town last night and had no intentions of drinking. I’m a freshman and this was my first college party, and I had no intention of getting drunk because I didn’t want to set a precedent for the rest of my college experience and waste time drinking or getting high.

I showed up at the party with about 6 of my friends, and everything seemed fine. Yes there were kids smoking and drinking, but I wasn’t bothered by it. 

On the beverage table laid tons of bottles (filled with who knows what), cans of beer and a large punch bowl that contained a bright pink liquid and lots of sliced fruit. I was told it was punch by one of the party goers, so I took a glass and sipped from it.

I knew that it was not punch the minute I drank from it, but just continued anyways because I didn’t want to dump it out and I figured that one drink couldn’t hurt me.

I’ve never been drunk before, so when I began to feel a bit woozy I just figured that was the alcohol running its course. That’s the last thing I remember. 

This morning I awoke in a hospital.

The infamous jungle juice that I drank had been spiked with Zolpidem; a common date rape drug that is intended to be used for people suffering from  insomnia to put them to sleep quickly. Someone at that party had very bad intentions. 

I can’t recall all of the events last night, but I was locked out of my dorm building and essentially just sat out in the cold and almost fell asleep if it wasn’t for the help OF AN ACTUAL ANGEL SENT FROM HEAVEN @tempfixeliza who literally went out of her way to talk to me and somehow convinced my semi-conscious ass to go press a blue light button and thus alert campus security. 

I don’t even want to think about what would have happened to me if I passed out in the street at around 2am or if I hadn’t managed to waddle my way back home from the party.

I’m okay and I’m going to be fine, but please just take my advice stated at the beginning of this post. If you are afraid you are drugged or too drunk, even if you are below 21, please let someone know. I wasn’t punished because I was acting out of the interest of my own personal being, and please remember campus safety is there to help you, not to get you in trouble. The world isn’t always filled with great people, but there will always, always be someone there for your safety. 

Stay safe. Thank you for all of your concern. I love you.

- Kelsey

Art stigma is STILL real !

You need to stop referring to Arts in general as something less important. When I hear, in a TV show or I read comics, a character making fun of someone who “ENDEND UP going to art school” because they “failed biology”

1) you are implying they became writers, poets, painter, or else, because they were not good enough at sciences.

2) you are implying that being an artist is “less” : [important, usefull, serious, of an impact, legit, etc.]

3) your are implying science is more complicated = only very smart people –> art = not smart enough.

Not only do you create an imaginary link between the two, as if they were opposites but you also attach an old stigma that going to Art school, studying sculpture matters, writing poetry as a living, is not as serious and hard as finding the missing neutrino on your white board.

Sincerely yours,
former straight A student in physics
now full-time writer
(occasionnaly working on String Theory for fun)

PS : I’m not a native speaker, deal with it.

You’re obliged to pretend respect for people and institutions you think absurd. You live attached in a cowardly fashion to moral and social conventions you despise, condemn, and know lack all foundation. It is that permanent contradiction between your ideas and desires and all the dead formalities and vain pretenses of your civilization which makes you sad, troubled and unbalanced. In that intolerable conflict you lose all joy of life and all feeling of personality, because at every moment they suppress and restrain and check the free play of your powers. That’s the poisoned and mortal wound of the civilized world.
—  Octave Mirbeau, 1899