"If you said things a lot nicer people would listen to you! You're hurting the movement!"
Friendly feminists who usually say things nicely (and aren’t shouting, calling people male tears, all men die, smile quite often):
All she did: Made her own vlog supporting women’s rights.
Recieved: Horrible comments about her appearance, people telling her to shut up, women and feminist jokes, the regular.
All she did: Make her own vlog talking about sexism within video games and media.
Received: Death threats, rape threats, “not a reeel gammer!”, has had her pictures photoshopped into porn.
All she did: Made a vlog talking about female atheism and experiences within the atheist community as a woman. Had an elevator incident and said this in a neutral, if not light tone.
Recieved: Death threats, stalking, sexual harassment, lots of rape threats, accused of “poisoning” atheism with feminism.
Tone doesn’t matter. If you speak out, as history repeats, misogyny will rear it’s head. Angry tones do not cause hatred of feminism or misogyny. Misogyny just reacts badly to outspoken women.