I believe that every person holds so many memories within that are precious and hold a very special meaning. Here in Reef Mag, we have decided to make a column where you can share your stories. We will be posting a question every week, for you to answer with a memory/story you cherish and submit to us. We will gather them all, and compile a huge article of all your stories and post them every Sunday, for you to read over a cup of coffee.
Hopefully they will make you cheer up if you’re having a bad day or make you have a good laugh reading other people’s stories. Whenever someone tells me a story I feel I have seen a glimpse of their soul, a lovely sight. I hope you do too.
This week’s question is:
What is your favorite autumn memory?
Tell us about your adventures, non- stop laughter, silly memories, anything that makes you love life.
You can submit your story here, make sure to write your name & country (optional).
This is how we are going to divide each story (not with your tumblr url). Anonymous submissions are also accepted.
Hey, Tumblr! We hope the week two prompts for Mental Health Month are treating you well. In the spirit of the theme, posting it for each other, we wanted to celebrate one of the most helpful communities out there: yours. You’ve helped shape Tumblr into an incredible community for support. To take a look into exactly how it’s flourished over the years, we teamed up with Fandometrics (@thefandometrics) to bring you some sweet, sweet data.
How you talk about mental health
Discussion around #mental health has steadily grown year over year since 2013, with a 248% uptick of original posts and reblogs made between 2013 and 2016. In that same time span, original posts and reblogs about#therapy increased 29%. Much of that conversation was rooted in real people sharing real stories. Emotional and honest stories, like how therapy can help you better understand your life, how to say good-bye to the wrong therapist, or the difficulty of making the sometimes daunting decision to begin therapy for the first time.
There has also been a significant rise in people seeking ways to take care of themselves. The self-care movement has seen huge increases in searches (733%) and original posts (567%) between 2013 and 2016. Over the past six months, we’ve seen total engagement (searches, original posts, reblogs, and likes) around the #self-care tag spike with correlations to holidays and events in the news:
240% increase the day after the US Presidential Election
321% in the days following Christmas and Hanukkah
561% in the days leading up to the Inauguration, and
342% in the days following Valentine’s Day.
Anatomy of a post
To get a better understanding of what the public-facing conversations consist of, we looked at the top posts for the #mental health, #positivity, and #self-care tags from the past few years. We noticed a few trends that continued to appear over and over again:
Sorry I haven’t been on tumblr much these past few days! I’ve been at pax and having a great time!
I just wanted to take the time to say thank you to this incredible community. You all have gotten together and have been posting things on #wearethecrankycrew and it is so incredibly heartwarming. It’s insane seeing what you all as a community can do. I did not make that hashtag or organize this event, YOU did. Thank you all so much for sharing your stories and being the kind individuals you are. I have so much respect for this community and I love you all to bits. Thank you for everything 💙
It’s week four of Mental Health Month, Tumblr! We hope you’ve enjoyed the post prompts and all of the wonderful works of love that they generated. The month may be ending, but that doesn’t mean that sharing your stories and spreading awareness for mental health has to end, too. That’s why this week is all about posting it for the future 👉
Post a photo or GIF of yourself with a positive message that you can look back on anytime you need. Toss a Mental Health Month sticker on it.
Make a list of things you can do to make life better for future you.
Write a chat post between the person you are now and the person you would like to become.
Write down one thing you like about yourself and schedule it to be published on your Tumblr one month from now.
The future starts…now. Share one thing you plan to cross off your to-do list today, and then do it!
Make a list of things you’re looking forward to in the future.
The Ultimate Positivity Post. Fill it up with everything that makes you happy. Reblog it whenever you’re feeling down.
Do one of them. Do all of them. Do none of them and instead make up your own methods of bringing awareness to the importance of mental health. Whatever you do, just tag it with #postitforward so others can see your post as part of the bigger message.
Keep looking out for each other, Tumblr.
And oh, hey, here’s the last of our upcoming Mental Health Month-themed Answer Times:
Calling all Ace/Aro/Bisexual/Biromantic/ Pansexual/Panromantic/ People who’s identities get erased- People
I’m making a short film at school and I’ve decided I want to theme it around erasure. So if you’ve ever felt and erasure within or out of the lgbtqia+ community for your romantic/ sexual orientation then please tell me about it on anon. I want to get this film as accurate as possible and as I’m only gay and haven’t felt this personally, I’d like other’s to share their stories. When the film is finished, I’m not sure if I’ll be able to share the film on here because of privacy reasons (it might be filmed in our school uniforms), but I will notify and thank all of you for your contribution. So if you would like to contribute your story, then please come to my inbox or messages and share. Thanks :)
If requests are open, could you make a jughead x fem Reader where he never asked what her real name was (everyone just calls her by a nick name and has been doing so for years.) and when he finally figures it out and calls her by that name, the reader falls in love with the way it sounds when he says it. Sorry if it’s confusing, I just thought it’d be cute :)
Y/N/N = Your Nick Name
Y/N = Your (real/full) Name
L/N = Your Last Name
I loved this idea so much! I hope you like the way I wrote it!
The first time it was brought up was at the diner. You sat next to Jughead, and the two of you were sitting across from Betty and Veronica. You all were sharing stories from your childhoods, including Jughead, when it finally got to you.
“Y/N/N, did you ever have a nickname?” You smiled at Veronica, who had admitted a few of her own embarrassing nicknames.
“Y/N/N,” you replied, sipping at your milkshake.
“What,” Jughead asked and you laughed while turning to face him.
“Y/N/N is my nickname,” you said, but he still looked confused, “I’ve gone by Y/N/N my whole life. Even my parents use it rather than my actual name.”
“No, I get that,” he said, meeting your eyes, “but what’s your real name?” Veronica raised an eyebrow and Betty let out a laugh. “You’ve been best friends with Y/N/N for how long, and yet you still don’t know her full name?” Jughead squinted his eyes at Veronica and you let out a small giggle. “Now I have to know,” he said, turning to face you, but you just stared at him. “You’re a smart, independent, young man,” you said, causing Jughead to smile at you, “you can figure it out.” Betty rolled her eyes, “stop flirting you two, we’re trying to be nostalgic.” You felt a blush creep up onto your cheeks and with a glance at Jughead, you saw he was blushing too.
The second time it was brought up was at your locker door. School had ended and you were grabbing your jacket and text book out of your locker. Out of the corner of your eye you could see Jughead walking towards you, looking annoyed.
“What’s up Juggie,” you asked as he leaned against the lockers next to yours.
“So I went to the library during my free period,” he said and you started to close your locker door.
“Sounds adventurous,” you said, looking up and smiling at him.
“Ha! Very funny,” he said, “I went there looking to check out some yearbooks. When I asked for them she said, and I quote, ‘they’ve all been checked out.’”
You gave him a smug smile, “Hmm, how strange.” He nodded, “isn’t it?”
There’s a bit of negativity towards self-diagnosed autistic people on the actuallyautistic tag, so it’s time for some positivity !
Self-diagnosed autistic people are awesome. A diagnosis won’t make you less or more autistic, it’s just a paper who’s giving you access to accommodation (and actually give people a reason to discriminate you, in some cases).
You’re not hurting anyone with your self-diagnosis. You’re contributing to a community that needs to be united against an ableist society and your presence is needed.
If you want to get diagnosed, but you can’t, it’s fine. If you’re not conforming to the stereotypes and, so, don’t look “autistic enough” in the eyes of neurotypicals, because of your skin color, your gender or your sexuality, it’s fine to not have a diagnosis. If you don’t want to get diagnosed for a variety of reasons (let’s say, to avoid society to have rights on you and not risk your independance being take away from you), it’s fine;
Keep being yourself; Keep sharing your stories. Find the bravery to go through your meltdowns and your shutdowns. Keep stimming. Keep loving your special interests.
happy 28th birthday, lily
thank you for the inspiration, the kindness, the awesomeness, the motivation, the positivity, the strength. thank you for sharing your story and struggles with us, thank you for being so supportive and lovely; for caring, for being so authentic and strong. thank you for being so amazing and precious, so beautiful, so gentle and sweet. we love you
So this is asiantheatre’s first Asian American / Pacific Islander heritage month and we thought it would be cool to open up submissions for followers of the blog to talk about their own experiences in the theatre!
You can share your: pictures, videos, stories, etc of you yourself working/performing in the theatre or your experience as a fan!
Just wanted to give a shout-out to fanfiction writers out there. My job is pretty stressful sometimes, and y'know, after a tough meeting, there are times I come back to my desk and get excited cuz one of favorite stories got updated.
Or I stop and think, “Hey! That cool story updates on Saturday!” and it’s Thursday. Little things like that are quick pick-me-ups, so thanks for sharing your awesome talent and stories with us!
Notes: swearing, flirting, implied smut, fluff, Bucky is a hopeless romantic.
A/N: With courting comes gifts! And restraint. A lot of it.
If you would’ve seen how Bucky beat himself up over making you doubt his motives, all doubt would’ve left your mind. When he returned home after dropping you off with a chaste, lingering kiss to your cheek and a soft bid goodnight, he rested his back against his closed front door and let his head thump back against it.
With a groan he closed his eyes, wondering how he could’ve been so damn stupid.
Hi, Cassie! 1) Thank you x 1000 for sharing your stories with us! Your books helped me through the worst time of my life, & I'm more grateful than I could ever explain. Truly. 2) I freaking love Diana as a character! She's fascinating! Could you give us any more info on her? You mentioned her secret having to do with her brother & Thailand. Is her brother really dead? Is the warlock she visits somehow connected/related to her brother? Is the person she's visiting really a warlock? Thanks! ❤️
Diana is one of my absolute favorite characters and she has, I think, an interesting backstory for a lot of reasons. She will give her backstory in Lord of Shadows and I feel like I should leave it to her to do that in her own way. But I promise we spend some quality time with her, and you’ll find out a lot about her and the story of her family, and her friendship with Caterina (who she is often visiting.)
Hey guys! So, I wanted to make this post for a long time. Sometimes we are our own enemies and it’s so easy to get caught in fighting against yourself, and I want to be a new person and become someone that is content with who they are. A part of me wants to look back on this when I am feeling bad again and read everything I have written here, like a little reminder of my own, you know? With that, I hope you walk away feeling okay and content, like I hope to do, because that is my goal: for all of us to be okay with ourselves and our lives even on days when it feels like it won’t be.
Be proud of your art, because it matters.
Whatever you choose to create, know that is great and you should not look to others to find what is inside of yourself. So often, it is as if you look around and feel you are not good enough, because you may feel you are behind the curve of others you admire. But, in a way, that is perfectly okay to be behind the curve. Every writer, artist, poet, dancer, and singer did not start with an abundance of skill. They worked at what they loved to create to become your inspiration. Take personal notes from them and find who you want to be as a creator, on your own terms. And down the line, when you become who you want to be, you can become someone else’s inspiration. Where that begins is being proud of what you create, and finding the confidence within you to be your own great writer, your own great singer, or your own great poet. First and foremost, be your own inspiration. Be your first inspiration because it matters. Create your art because it matters.
It is okay to be alone.
For the longest time, alone and lonely have been exclusive to each other. And that is not true. Loneliness sucks. It is one of the worst feelings to have nobody to truly reach out to when you have a bad day, or even a great day. Loneliness is the feeling when you walk around and feel as though you are the only one in the world without someone to share your stories with, your words, your passions. But, aside from the pain of being lonely, you have the opportunity to be alone with yourself and love it. Find what makes you great on your own. I am not saying that you should not be understandably upset because you are lonely, but maybe it is a sign that you need to become the best version of yourself first. Find what is making you unhappy alone, and change it. That way, when you meet others, you will be the greatest you possible. Just remember, it is okay to be alone. It is okay to be alone at home on a Friday night, to eat at a restaurant alone, and to go to a movie alone. The best company is yourself, because nobody can or will know you better than you.
Don’t doubt your positivity/optimism.
There were so many moments in 2016 that questioned your faith, your beliefs, your hope, and your optimism. With everything that went wrong, personally or externally, it was hard to feel the space of your comfort being shaken, but that’s okay. You stayed strong through to this year, and that is what is important. Be optimistic for the future. Do not believe hope ends when there are moments of doubt and struggle. See the good in people, in unfortunate events, in life. Sometimes that space of comfort needs to be stirred to rattle that optimism inside you, to light the fire that keeps you optimistic, and to motivate you. So let it be stirred. Keep that fire alive.
It is okay to fail, or not achieve perfection.
Perfection is impossible. Nobody is perfect. You may look at someone from the outside and see perfection, but there is always something someone is fighting, no matter how small or big that thing is. And I understand. Failing sucks. It is horrible to feel inadequate at something or feel less than because you slipped and fell. It’s as though you can’t get up without the shadow of that failure beside you. Don’t believe in that. Your failures and imperfections are there to remind you that you are simply you and there is nobody in the world who does something once and instantly gets it right. That is impossible, just like perfection. Nobody is instantly great at everything they try at. And that is the whole point of failure: the act of trying. If you’re trying, you’re doing something.
Who you are throughout your life is not completely defined by what is out there.
I am talking about strangers, celebrities, media, and even family and friends. You are not your parents, or your friends, or celebrities. You have tons of opportunities to be your own person, with your own thoughts and feelings about what is going on around you. You have a way to make in the world, and it is only made through where you choose to go. Nothing in a magazine, movie, or someone else’s words can or should change how you feel about yourself, or change who you are as a person. When you wake up, you are yourself, so it is important to know who you are and not let things outside of your own influence take you down. It’s unhealthy and a disservice to yourself. Don’t rely so much on what is outside of yourself, because you live in one set of skin your whole life. Don’t spend it worrying about fitting into a box created by something or someone else.
They are out there.
Yes, they. The people that will understand you and love who you are. They will find you, or you will find them. It may take a bit of waiting, but it will be worth it. Maybe “they” are friends, or significant others, or maybe even family, but the point is to know that you won’t be alone forever. You’re not gonna keep your emotions, your passions, or your thoughts inside of yourself forever. You’ll find the ones that will be glad to listen, who will love to hear from you, and will be glad you are beside them. Like I said, it may take some waiting, but nothing worthwhile is instantly gratified.
You won’t notice it.
You won’t realize things have changed until they have already been changed. While sadness seems to remind you of its presence, happiness can blindside us. Once you’ve achieved what you want to achieve and done the things you’ve set out to do, you won’t understand it has gotten better and you have moved on until you’re already moving. As I said before, be patient; instant gratification is never as good as people say it feels. That moment where you look back and realize you’re in a better place than before is coming, and it’s gonna feel fucking great.
There will be shitty times. But, you are gonna be okay.
It’s easy to fall into believing things won’t be okay. Maybe it’s the day you’ve been having, or the people around you are bringing you down. And yes, things will be shitty for awhile. Whether that “awhile” is a few minutes, a few days, or a few months. But, you should not forget things will be okay, and you are gonna be okay. You have everything you need inside of yourself, even if it feels like you don’t in those shitty moments. Don’t let yourself fall into a space where you believe you won’t be okay, because you will. Things will be okay. For all of my hallmark advice and words that could be put on a self-help card, you will find the friends, moments, and everything in between that will remind you it all will be okay.