Self-Confidence

Today I am proud of!

1. Confronted angry chef and told him he scares me. He promised to try to be cool. Commended my courage and guts to another chef later on when I wasn’t around? c:

2. Works my best to understand my co workers needs and how I can meet them so we can work the best. Doesn’t like eye contact and casual chit-chat? I’ll leave em be! Likes to say hi ever time we see each other in the kitchen? Give them a second, cheering at each other doesn’t take time from my work ^^

3. I take time to help our custommers with little things if I can. Fried some sunny side upps for someones breakfast cus they wanted it with their toast. Helped a kid with a scraped knee. Play a lil with some boored kids waiting for food. Be gentle, take time.

Make your dreams a priority.
Make your mental health a priority.
Make your relationships a priority.
Make your happiness a priority.
Make yourself a priority.

anonymous asked:

Salam aleykoum sister, I need your wise words because I lack confidence. People always praise me, tell me I'm pretty, or kind, so on...But I always focus on my bad sides, my temper, etc. I don't know how to start loving myself. I hurt people around me because I don't trust their words, or compliments. I've never asked God to help me through that and I feel like I should not complain, so idk if it's a good reason to ask God for help... Baraku Allah oufik 💕

Walaikom Assalam wa Rahmtullahi wa Barakatuhu,

Some Tips for Self Confidence/Self Love:

1. Stop saying bad things about yourself. Stop insulting yourself, calling yourself ugly, calling yourself dumb. You’re God’s creation, does God make mistakes? No. So to call yourself a failure, etc. is not good. There is nothing that comes from these comments, absolutely nothing good. It is not motivating, it sucks the life out of you. Work hard to stop saying bad things about you.

2. Stop saying bad things about others. If you do, same as above. Notice the beauty & good things in others always before the negative. It will help you see the beauty in yourself!

3. Say 3-5 positive remarks about yourself EVERY DAY. Start with traits you like, “I have nice teeth, my hair is soft, I am good at math”. Then after a while tackle traits you realllyyy dislike, “My stretch marks are a pretty color, my chubby tummy is really soft, the hair on my arms is really thick and that’s beautiful”. Even if you don’t realllyyyy believe it, just do it.

This also DOES NOT have to be physical. It could be, “Wow I am a great listener to my friends” or “I am patient and I cook really great eggs”

4. Do not compare yourself to others. She’s pretty, and so are you. “Another woman’s beauty is not the absence of your own” (someone said that on here but I don’t know who, so quotes are for them). You will never be anyone other than you. So invest in yourself now, with self love. There is no need to compare yourself to anyone other than yourself! :)

5. Forgive yourself for mistakes. We all make them. We all lose our temper. We all mess up! We are human, and Allah knows this. Allah just wants us to ask Him for forgiveness, and improve. Most times, in order to improve, we also need to forgive ourselves. Regret & thinking of our mistakes & flaws weighs us down. Learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and resolve to work harder to improve.

6. Celebrate all accomplishments, big or small. Be proud of yourself if you do well on an exam. Allow yourself to feel good if you do something cool, kind, smart, fun, whatever. 

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Read At-Tin and ponder it’s meaning

Allah took 3 beautiful oaths before saying that we (YOU!) have been created in the best of stature. You’re a product of Allah’s magnificence, don’t allow yourself to think otherwise

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DO make dua for self-confidence. Rely on Allah at ALL times. Allah wants us to call out to Him, to ask him (beg him) for his mercy. So no, don’t EVER feel you cannot make dua to Allah for something. Ask Allah to allow you to see your beauty, your intelligence, your worth. Always always always ask Allah for help sister!

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Some Reassurance

  • You’re not a burden. Anyone who makes you feel like a burden is in the wrong. You’re worth people’s time & consideration
  • Allah forgives
  • Allah loves you
  • Allah wants you to come back to His deen and hear from you. Allah wants your dua. Allah wants you specifically to be the one who’s angel says “I saw her bowing down to you Allah”
  • There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. Many girls have self-esteem issues, it’s an issue of society - you’re not inherently ‘wrong’
  • Your friends are not lying to you when they say you’re pretty. We never see our own beauty but others do, believe them.
  • You’re enough.
  • Self-confidence is not arrogance

I ask Allah to bless you and all of our ummah, to recognize and value their worth, love themselves and appreciate their bodies, and stay steadfast on the deen of the Al-Mighty

If there is anything I can do to help you on your journey of ‘self-love’, please let me know habibti ❤︎