25 No/Low Cost Self Care Acts

1. Have a drink from your favourite cup/mug. Coffee. Tea. Hell, even plain water is nicer when it’s in your fave mug (and you’re probably dehydrated rn so get on that). Allow yourself the couple of minutes to drink it in entirety.

2. Visit the library. Seriously. Nothing says quiet me time like the quiet couches and a novel in a library.

3. Look up some topics on iTunes U and read up on them. You’ll feel accomplished when you learn about a new scholarly topic.

4. Check over your resumé. Anything need to be updated or polished? Do that now, it can come in handy if an opportunity comes knocking.

5. Call a beloved family member or close friend. I just called my aunt for the first time in a little while and honestly you feel a lot lighter and a lot warmer.

6. Listen to ASMR, Binaural Beats, or guided meditation. There’s ASMR and meditation videos on youtube for pretty much any need– general relaxation, reassurance, mock spa days…

7. Volunteer at the local animal shelter. Volunteering is proven to make you feel better about yourself, petting animals helps lower your blood pressure, and nothing compares to the love and gratitude from a dog or cat.

8. Randomly browse Wikipedia or WikiHow. Clicking the random article is always an adventure– probably a laughable one, but you might learn something new.

9. Clean out your closet. It’ll feel like a lot of weight is off your shoulders, and you can sell or donate pieces that are still in good shape.

10. Write out a list of things you like about yourself. It can be tricky at first, but write down whatever comes to mind, even though it may seem trivial. Put the list away for times when you are being too hard on yourself, or need some self love.

11. Movie night. Obviously. Netflix, Hulu, library… A lot of thrift and secondhand stores often have really cheap DVDs. Re-watch your faves, allow yourself a guilty pleasure, or choose something that looks laughably awful.

12. Have a bonfire. Check your local fire codes beforehand, first. A bonfire or a fire pit is extremely soothing, especially wrapped up in a blanket.

13. Meal Plan/Prep. You’re probably going to be cooking anyway, so setting aside a day or half a day to prep meals ahead of time helps free the rest of your schedule.

14. At-Home spa day. Wash your hair. Trim your nails. Soak your feet. Exfoliate.

15. Write letters. Especially to your grandparents if you’re emotionally close– it will make them feel really loved.

16. Sleep in or nap. No explanation needed.

17. Bake cookies or make eggless cookie dough. One serving of edible cookie dough uses only spoonfuls of ingredients you probably have at home.

18. Wash your pillowcases and linens. This is especially good if you’re like me and the depression is real. Washing sheets gets neglected but the feeling of fresh sheets makes everything suck a little bit less.

19. Forgive yourself. Acknowledge that past mistake that’s been eating you alive and accept the fact that you can’t change the past. You’re still growing, still learning.

20. Keep a happiness journal. Before bed, write three things that made you smile that day. Life won’t seem all that bad, and it’s a good way to de-stress.

21. Shamelessly sing and dance along to music you enjoy. That song you would TOTALLY kill on lip sync battle? Own it.

22. If you like makeup/skincare, go to your local sephora or drugstore that has a beauty section. Sephora does free mini makeovers if it’s not busy. At the drugstore makeup counter, ask the beauty questions that you’ve wanted answers to.

23. Remember to say “no.” Declining to do a favour or go on an outing you can’t currently justify or afford does not make you a bad person. It means you have boundaries and deserve respect.

24. Watch some game shows. Lots of channels have them, and there’s plenty of compilations on youtube.

25. Let it out in writing. Sometimes having it all out in black and white can make solutions easier to realize.

I believe in you all! Remind yourself that you’re a good person, and a bad bitch 💕

The Autumnal Equinox: Finding balance as the cycle ends

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With the happy, chaotic vibes of summer coming to a close, we welcome in the more introspective part of the year. It is a time to withdraw, to cleanse, to give thanks for what we have grown in the year and prepare that which we are ready to discard on the Feast of Ashes in October. 

Often this is a time to gather with those you care about, or simply revel in your love of self and reflect on the dropping temperatures and changing leaves. The bounty of the late summer garden gives way to roots and gourds and the last of the herb garden offerings. 

Like the Spring Equinox, this period marks a time of equal day and night, making it a good time for magic that relates to reining in bad habits, finding peace in a busy lifestyle, or bringing harmony to a household in strife. Unlike the Spring Equinox, however, which focuses on bringing balance to restore energy and vigor for growth the Autumnal Equinox welcomes you to bring balance for a proper rest. It’s energy asks you to appreciate everything you have done, big or small, and prepare for the darker half of the year by gathering up all of your grief, fear, anxiety and exhaustion in bundles before you so you can be ready to let them go. For we cannot release what we do not need if you don’’t first examine what we have and who we are. 

I will share with you some of my traditions for this time of year, to give you an idea of the kind of productive magical and mundane work you can do to prepare yourself for the waning light. As someone with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), I find that my transition into Fall is very important to my mental health as it reminds me to let go of what I cannot control. 

Some good Autumnal Equinox traditions:

🍁 Just like Spring Cleaning, you can do some Fall Cleaning and prepping your house for the colder months. Put out your cold weather clothes (if appropriate for the time) and go through your warm weather things to bag up what doesn’t fit anymore or is unwanted anymore to give to secondhand stores or repurpose into other things (old t-shirts make nice dusting clothes~!), check windows for drafts, clean the fireplace and chimney if you have one, polish up your kitchen and pantry, sweep and mop floors and reset any wards or protection magics you have on your space. 

🍁 If you are so inclined, the first day of Fall is a perfect day to decorate for Halloween and for the season! You can make a ritual out of it like I do by sipping hot apple cider and playing some spooky or seasonally associated music (I tend to gravitate toward richer, warmer folk music around this time of year!)

🍁 This is the second harvest holiday, and I personally strongly link this time of year to apples, so you could go apple picking and afterwards make an apple ie charmed to bring peace and happiness to those who eat it! Or if you picked a lot of apples make a happiness applesauce! You can also slice up apples and cook them in the oven to make apple chips for teas or just to snack on.

🍁 If you are looking to bring balance into some aspect of your life, consider setting up a white candle and a black candle on your altar (or perhaps a yellow/gold and blue/silver set would work too!) As you work your magic for the day, the candles will invoke the equinox spirit into your working! If you cannot have candles, you can use a sunstone and a moonstone, or you could use clay or paper colored with your desired hues depicting balance. 

🍁 If the weather is fair and you have one near you, I find that visiting a river or stream is particularly nice as they are a body of Water, which is linked to emotions and also to the properties of motion and overcoming obstacles. If you find that you are having trouble coming to terms with some aspect of yourself or an event in your life, spending time near a river or placing a river stone on your altar might help you. 

These are just a few ideas of how to bring the Equinox energies into your home and to use them in your practice. Other popular activities include feasting, offering appropriate gifts to spirits of the land and home, having a bon fire, and tying natural strings to trees  as a form of wish making.

derederest  asked:

Many moons ago in the Cicada magazine, there was a short story by you about an old woman that finds the Holy Grail in a secondhand store. Is this story in any of your anthologies? I think about it sometimes and I'd like to read it again.

It’s called CHIVALRY, and it’s in Smoke and Mirrors, yes.

                       Photo of Rachel in a wedding dress

One Thanksgiving, Rachel and her family went to Indiana to spend the holiday with their family. During the trip, they went shopping at secondhand stores like Thrift Shops and Salvation Army, Rachel’s favorite stores. Growing up while Rachel’s parents divorced, money was extremely tight. Beth worked multiple jobs yet still struggled to get food onto the table. During this part of their life they prayed a lot to God, asking for a better future but still thanking him for what they had. ( I feel this is how Rachel’s initial spark for God began. Maybe I’ll elaborate in a new post sometime ). Because of the financial struggle, Beth could only afford stores like Goodwill for her kids, which she felt really bad about. This is how Rachel’s eccentric style came into play. Embracing her situation, she turned a negative into a positive and saw it as a way to add to her drive for originality and never complained.

This wedding dress situation is pretty surprising to anyone who knows Rachel’s story. Rachel is famously known for claiming from a young age she had a feeling she never would get married and never was going to have kids. Her intuition unfortunately became a reality, being the first victim of the Columbine Massacre. This was the only time Rachel wore a wedding dress.

From one of her books the Journals of Rachel Scott:

“At Goodwill, I found the coolest old wedding dress, and I really wanted to try it on. My mom said I could, but with only two dressing rooms and a huge Goodwill store, I had to wait a long time for my turn. But once I got my shot at the dressing room, I did the whole deal—veil, dress, everything. It was so cool! I came out of the dressing room—instant Goodwill bride—and modeled for everyone. Not only did my family think it was great (they took about a zillion pictures!), people came from all over the store to see the “show”! It was the best. Way better than I’d bargained for. Everyone clapped. Everyone was smiling, laughing, having a great time that day in a musty, filled-with-stuff-somebody-wanted-to-get-rid-of Goodwill store. I felt like I was a star. I think that’s as close as I’ll ever get to being a bride, because, you know, somehow that moment just seemed complete.”

“Rachel was so excited and insistent that we wait for her to try this dress on. It took her a few minutes, and when she stepped out from the curtain, I remember thinking how beautiful Rachel made that old, dingy wedding dress look. I took a picture of her with flowers and all. She took some bows and proudly went back in the dressing room to change.”
—Beth Nimmo

Hello! I’m from the National Guild of Antique and Secondhand Shops. I am not an evil wizard.

As part of our “Hidden Treasures” rebranding campaign, and for no other purpose nefarious or otherwise, we’d like to collect some data on thrift shop experiences all over the country. Please take some time to fill out the following questionnaire!

  1. True full name:
  2. Street address, city, state and ZIP:
  3. Over the past couple of years, have you visited thrift stores [Very rarely], [Once every few months], [Once or twice a month], or [Very frequently]?
  4. Have you noticed or purchased any of the following at a secondhand store, collectibles shop, or antique dealer, and if so, at what locations?
    1. Islamic oil lamps
    2. Difficult-to-identify gemstones
    3. Books in a script that you can read effortlessly even though you’re certain you’ve never seen it before
    4. Nonstandard tarot decks
    5. Mirrors that seem to shimmer and twist unnaturally, giving you the sense that you might be able to pass right through if you did it right
    6. Baltimore Orioles memorabilia (preferably signed)
  5. Please list all guns owned, martial arts known, or other forms of self-defense you are capable of.

Date a girl who rescues furbies. At the local secondhand store, garage sales, off the streets, from your weird neighbor that makes dogs go crazy. Any furby is fair game. She tucks them into bed, reads them stories, and spends hours grooming them. Your dates involve dumpster diving and staring longingly at the boxed critters at toys r us. This is madness. You love her all the same.


All of the pop culture references and easter eggs inside of the secondhand store in South Park: The Fractured But Whole!

Gravity Falls:

-A fez reminiscent of Grunkle Stan’s
-Dipper’s hat
-A vest reminiscent of Dipper’s
-A hat reminiscent of Wendy’s


-Barney’s outfit
-Fred’s outfit
-The Great Gazoo’s helmet
-A wig reminiscent of Barney’s hair


-Popeye’s shirt
-A sailor hat, presumably Popeye’s

Wacky Races:

-Dastardly’s hat
-A jacket reminiscent of Dastardly’s

Scooby Doo:

-Velma’s outfit
-Daphne’s outfit


-Ash’s hat
-Ash’s vest

Ninja Turtles:

-April’s jacket


-Charlie Brown’s shirt
-Lucy’s dress

Fat Albert:

-Dumb Donald’s hat

Assorted pop culture:

-Prince’s outfit
-A shirt reminiscent of Gir from Invader Zim

Past Episodes:

-A “Finger Bang” shirt

- M. A. C. (Mothers Against Canada) shirts

Miscellaneous (feel free to let me know what these are!):

-The overly-70s dress next to Velmas…I was thinking this was a reference to another outfit of Daphne’s, but I wasn’t sure

-The punk outfit next to Dastardly’s outfit

-The shirt with the crown on it

-The leopard print jacket

-The bucket hat, I’m assuming it’s a Fear and Loathing reference but I’m not sure

This was a super fun area to explore! It’s clear that the art team took a lot of influence from both nostalgic cartoons AND current ones! I know I was knocked back when I spotted the Gravity Falls references!

falcon-hill  asked:

Prompt- it's the anniversary of when Riley went down... How do the others help Sam?

I follow you back… I invite you into my home… and this is what I get? SADNESS?

Sam won’t get out of bed, so Bucky gets in with him.

“It’s fine,” Sam insists. “I’m fine.” His eyes are puffy and his nose is runny like he’s been crying. It’s been years, but a lifetime can’t erase that kind of hurt.

Bucky scoops Sam up (ow, Sam mutters, getting pinched by a metal joint–sorry, Bucky whispers back), holds him up against his chest. Sam burrows his face into Bucky and stays there, silent tears muffled against Bucky’s own beating heart.

“Hey,” Bucky says after a while, because this is killing him, too. “We could go somewhere.”

Sam’s quiet.

“Anywhere you want. Even just, like, the couch.”

“I dunno. I’m tired.”

Bucky inhales and for about the millionth time wishes there was some sort of band aid for this, even just a temporary fix, something to take away the pain for a few hours or a few minutes. Sam drifts off to sleep after a while, and Bucky carefully reaches for his phone.

B. Barnes: steve
B. Barnes: steve help
B. Barnes: sam is sad idk what to do
Steve Rogers: Damn it.
Steve Rogers: I knew I shouldn’t have left.
Steve Rogers: Hold on, I’ll be right home.

By the time Steve gets home, both Sam and Bucky have fallen asleep for a midafternoon nap, and it’s raining and dark outside. Steve is soaked and so are the bags he carries. “Guys?” he calls out.

“In here,” Bucky yawns.

Steve brings in everything he got: two trays of Oreos, three DVDs from the secondhand store, a bottle of wine and a bottle of scotch (”I couldn’t decide?”), and three coloring books with colored pencils. They all pile onto the bed and Steve sheds his soaked through shirt for fear of getting all the blankets wet (Sam and Bucky do not mind).

“I panicked. I grabbed everything,” Steve said.

Sam sits up and rubs the sleep out of his eyes. He smiles just a bit at the strange array of pick-me-ups Steve’s brought. Tentatively, he reaches out and picks up a Thomas the Tank Engine coloring book. “I love this stupid train,” he says.

Bucky looks at Steve and shakes his head. Sam’s smiling, and that’s a big thing for today.

“And I love you.” He kisses Steve on the cheek. Bucky rips open the Oreos (why the fuck did Steve get the vanilla ones with chocolate in the middle? fuck Steve) and takes out a stack of them. Notices Sam’s looking at him now. Both of their cheeks are red.

“You’re fine,” Sam tells Bucky with a fond smile.

“Cool.” He doesn’t need to hear I love you. Sam reaches over, squeezes his hand three times.

“I love you,” Bucky says back to him. He wants to make sure Sam knows.

send me headcanons/prompts/stuff!!

Bitty is a Thrift Store Enthusiast. Yes, all caps.

He combs through the local thrift stores, consignment stores, and secondhand stores looking for the next piece of his wardrobe. 

Those bowties he wears? That shit is vintage. No one makes spiffy AF ties like the ones he wears anymore. His flannel? Probably used to belong to a lumberjack. Those sweet sweet sweaters and jackets? 100% secondhand baby, those are the best kinds of finds.

All the patches in his clothes, the knitwear, the scarves? A mixture of his Mama’s knitting, gifts from Jack, and hours spent looking through every rack and bin. 

No one does tiny Southern hipster chic like Bitty, and Bitty works hard to make sure it stays that way. 

He’s probably going to get those glasses just to keep all those wannabes in check.

actualaster  asked:

For the love of whatever you hold dear and/or sacred, CLEAN YOUR SHIT BEFORE TRYING TO SELL IT TO A SECONDHAND STORE. Please. I beg you. No more tiny spiders and ants. Please. No more mold. Dead things. MOUSE DROPPINGS. Please we don't have hazmat suits. For the love of god please just clean your shit. Please.