How to get over past mistakes

1. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, does things wrongs, and has moments of regret. There are no perfect people out there. In that sense, you are just the same as everybody else.

2. Remind yourself that “that was then, and this is now”. You can’t turn back the clocks and change what you did, but you can be a different person in the future.

3. Allow yourself to experience and name the feelings you are struggling with (regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness, etc.) – then make the decision to let those feelings go. In the end, it’s unhealthy to become attached to them.

4. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What would you do differently if you found yourself in that situation again? How can it change the person you are now (so that you feel better about yourself)?

5. Recognise that failings and mistakes are part of the growth process. It’s inevitable that you’ll encounter obstacles, challenges and failures throughout life. Don’t let that stop you from really living life.

6. Remind yourself that “it was what you did, it’s not who you are.” Don’t allow any single event or experience to define you. You are more than – so don’t let that become your identity. Don’t let it determine your destiny.

7. Give yourself the gift of a new start. Forgive yourself, let go of the past, and with confidence move on with your life.

A History of Racism in Fashion

Yes, we’ve got a black president, but fashion still has plenty of WTF moments.

Let’s take a walk down not-so-fond memory lane with our History of Racism in the Fashion Industry:


Year: 1892 - 2012

Vogue magazine was started in 1892. In over 118 years and 1,416 covers, only 14 have featured minorities of any kind. That’s less than 1%. OK then. As Jay-Z put it: men lie, women lie, numbers don’t


Year: 1964

Ebony is a venerable media institution, started in 1945 to cater to the interests of the African-American community. Controversy around its mere existence dogged the publication for decades.


Year: 1966

The first black model appeared on the cover of Vogue in 1966 — unfortunately it just happens that her face was obscured. Detroit model Donyale Luna graced the cover of Vogue with her hand strategically placed over her mouth and nose. Vogue allegedly made this stylistic decision to avoid scaring off people at the newsstands at a time when black faces in pop culture were still few and far between, particularly in the fashion world. 


Year: 1968

Naomi Sims, after getting turned down for gigs by modeling agencies who felt her skin was “too dark”, took it upon herself to seek out fashion photographers directly, which paid off when NYT photographer Gosta Petersen put her in the paper’s fashion supplement in 1967. Sims linked up with former model Wilhelmina Cooper. Cooper declined to represent Sims, but Sims told the model that she would send out copies of the NYT piece, and if she got hired based on that work, the two would share the profits. It took a year to book Naomi Sims’ first cover on the November 1968 issue of Ladies’ Home Journal, and the first black supermodel’s career was officially established.


Year: 1999

Top executives at Elite Model Management, which then counted Naomi Campbell amongst its biggest assets, were caught on film using racial slurs and talking about how Africa would be a much better place if it were full of white people.


Year: 2008

A beastly and intense LeBron appears next to the ethereal Gisele Bundchen in an image that ruffled feathers for playing into a variety of stereotypical depictions of black manhood. Some saw King Kong in the photo, some saw a generalized depiction of a dangerous black male and an angelic white woman.


Year: 2010

Karl Lagerfeld puts Claudia Schiffer in yellow and black face. Racism doesn’t exist in fashion, right? So it is totally cool to photograph one of the world’s greatest supermodels in both Yellowface and Blackface!


Year: 2010

Jean-Paul Guerlain, one of the world’s most well-known parfumiers, was found guilty after a trial that took him to task for making racist comments. He claimed that he worked “harder than a nigger” to make his perfumes, and went on to say that “niggers have never worked as hard as he works to make his perfumes.”


Year: 2011

Nivea’s ad campaign was all about getting guys to clean up their act, but it was the brand itself that had to clean up a mess after they released an ill-conceived ad featuring a “clean-cut” black man holding an image of his own head with an Afro along with a caption that read “Re-Civilize Yourself.” Did the company not realize that they were playing with the tired old stereotype of black men as uncivilized brutes?


Year: 2011

Vogue’s most disgraceful moments came when it ran a piece on hoop earrings that drew a comparison to the jewelry that early African slaves in the Americas brought with them from their homelands. The editors went as far as titling the article “Slave Earrings" — exhibiting a total lack of common sense, at best.


Year: 2012

Elle screwed up big time when they ran a story on what they perceived to be a new era in black style. This piece made the claim that the election of the Obama family in the US represented the first time that African-Americans were given an example on how to dress with class and poise. Before the Obamas blacks were only given "streetwear codes” rather than something chic to be inspired by. Editors declined to comment on the scandal, but we’re still shaking our heads and asking what the Elle?

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These are far not all the examples from the History of Racism in Fashion. There are so many examples of recent years in this post, because today it seems especially ridiculous! It is worse than a public insult, when the whole world sees this shit! "Modern fashion community" continues to stand in the way of Black people!

Please, reblog and write, if you heard about some other disgusting examples of racism in fashion!

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Don’t let anybody make you feel you are nobody

Martin Luther King Jr. speaking at a rally in Cleveland, Ohio on July 28, 1967

Never be ashamed of the body you been blessed with. You can be African in the office, at the club, on the streets, at the farm, at school etc.. Black is beautiful therefore you have no reason to be ashamed of who you are. #Love it!

Shame on you if you think it’s funny to take advantage of someone who cares about you.

If you think that ignoring them for a while is okay because they will be back.

If you treat someone like they’re replacable.

If you feel like taking your anger out on them is okay because you know they will handle it.

If you’ve stopped letting them know that you care because you don’t, but you won’t let them go because of your ego.

If you think that no matter whose fault it is, they’ll be the one to apologise.

If you take advantage of someone who truly, truly loved you.


Shame on you for what you did to me.

8th-Grader Writes Letter About Racism He Experiences at School

Za’Khari Waddy, 13, says that he has been repeatedly harassed and abused at Tabb Middle School in Yorktown, Va., including being asked if he’s going to rape or rob someone and called the n-word.

“Ever since we’ve moved to this area my son has been faced with racism,Za'Khari’s mother, Zettrona Powell, wrote in a letter to the school. “He’s been asked if he was going to rape or rob a young lady, he’s been pushed into lockers and called a n—-r on numerous occasions.”

Powell says that nothing has been done about her son’s abuse, even though the family has consistently reported the incidents to officials.

Even though Powell followed up with the school and met with the principal, and has written to and called the school and the school board, the only response the worried mom received was the message that it would be looked into.

This has crushed my son’s spirit,” his mother told.

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And this, ladies and gentlemen, is reason why not to send kids to public school… Many young white students today are so racist and cruel…  Many think all black people are stupid and violent. But personally a lot of white people are really violent! If a white kid calls a black kid a N-word, it is clear racism… They are ignorant children.

Shows how schools are no good in shaping the society in America.

The Boy is Strong.

#Black Lives Matter

Open letter to disability professionals

Dear disability professionals,

I’m not sure why, but I keep encountering disability professionals who try to deny that disability exists, or to downplay its importance.

It’s so extreme that disability professionals often try to convince people with disabilities that we are just like everybody else. Even when our differences are the reason that you have a job.

We are not just like everyone else. We are alike in that we are all human, with the same basic needs and capacities that go along with humanity. We are also different, in that we have disabilities and most people do not.

Disability exists. Disability is important. People with disabilities are different from most people people in ways that matter. And we need those differences to be speakable.

Our bodies are different. We can’t make this go away by smiling, being brave, and trying hard.

The differences in our bodies matter. Most people can do things that are physically impossible for us. Most people can do some things easily that are excruciatingly difficult for us. The specifics of which things these are depend on the person and the disability. They always exist. That’s what disability means, it means having a different kind of body, a body that can’t do certain kinds of things easily or at all.

For everyone, with and without disabilities, understanding the limits of what our bodies can do is a key life skill. Everyone’s safety depends on understanding that they do not have wings, and that they can’t fly. My safety also depends on understanding that I have impaired vision, motor coordination, and executive functioning. Understanding these things means I have chosen not to drive, and that I have found adaptive strategies that enable me to cook safely.

From my perspective, the fact that I don’t concentrate hard and try to drive isn’t so different from the fact that I don’t flap my wings and try to fly. All I’m doing is acknowledging physical reality, and making choices that fit with my understanding of reality. Some of the physical limitations on what my body can do are the normal limits that apply to all human bodies. Other physical limitations come from my disability. They’re all just physical facts, they’re all just things I need to take into account when I make decisions. 

But as a person with a disability, I learned young that only some limitations are ok to talk about. If I say “I can’t fly”, no one contradicts me. If I say “I can’t catch”, people say “just keep trying”. Both are physically impossible for me. Trying hard will not make either possible. Neither will being brave, smiling, or believing in myself.

For some reason, many disability professionals seem to believe that honesty about our limitations will somehow destroy our self esteem. Actually, the opposite is the case. They want us to believe that if we just smile and keep trying, we can do anything that we put our minds to. But it’s a lie, and we get hurt badly when we believe it.

When professionals refuse to accept our limitations, they force us to attempt impossible tasks over and over. There is nothing positive about this experience. We try and fail, and we watch others our age succeed at the same tasks. If we believe that we can do whatever we put our minds to, then we feel like it’s our fault for not trying hard enough.

It hurts when people yell at us for failing, and it hurts when people plaster on smiles and urge us to smile and keep trying. “Come on, you can do it!” doesn’t sound like encouragement when you know that you will fail. It feels like being told that you’re somehow screwing up on purpose, and that if you would just decide to be a better person, you’d suddenly be about to do it. This kind of thing can go on for years, and it leaves scars. We often come to feel like we are unworthy people, and that there’s something deeply flawed about who we are. 

It’s very, very important that people with disabilities understand that we are disabled. We need to know that our bodies are different, and that some things that are possible for most other people aren’t possible for us. We can’t stop being disabled through an act of will. Our bodies limit us. That is not a moral failing. It’s just a fact of physical reality. And it needs to be speakable.

Our bodies and our disabilities are nothing to be ashamed of.  We don’t have to be different to be good enough. We don’t have to be nondisabled to do things that matter. We don’t have to do impossible things to be worthy of love and respect. We’re people, and who we are is ok.

And for professionals - please understand that when you refuse to acknowledge disability, you are teaching people with disabilities to be ashamed of themselves. This is probably not your intention, but it’s an inevitable consequence of making disability unspeakable.

It is much better to tell the truth. It is much better to support us in understanding who we really are, than to push us to believe in an impossible dream. I could dream of flying or playing baseball, but it wouldn’t get me anywhere. By living in the real world and working with the body I actually have, I can do things that matter. And so can all of your clients. There is no need for silence, evasion, or shame. Disability is important, and it’s much easier to live with when we can face it honestly.

Aight I been wallowing in my dumpster all week and have a buttload of trash for you so hold onto your asses!

LMFAO Chrome kept crashing while I tried making this post. It knows and it’s trying to stop me. Too bad~ ₍₍ (ง ˙ω˙)ว ⁾⁾

Rat boy practice. I hate drawing his mech arm so much.

We have the Jailbird skin now give me the gay prison hijinks I want. Just what Roadie needs is horizontal stripes amirite

Blaming @yummidraws for trucker hats & plaid shirts…

…and also for considering the Islander skin hair YES LAWDDDDDD shoot me into the fucking sun

I literally can’t stop I’m so so so so so sorry. I’m done putting my art degree to shame for now, everyone have a lovely weekend~ ⁄(⁄ ⁄•⁄ω⁄•⁄ ⁄)⁄