My name’s Demi. My ethnic origins are mixed in unknown ratios of Chinese, Lao and Thai. I grew up in Bangkok, Thailand and never even moved from the street I lived on all my life before leaving to attend university in San Diego, CA. It was a big, big move (geographically speaking) but I didn’t feel any culture shock and was happy to be turning a new leaf. My school is wonderful and I have always been eager to begin an independent adult life; I love my country but the societal conventions were far too conservative for me. I love hard rock, metal, yoga asana, philosophy and lifestyle, hardcore fitness conditioning, animal welfare and I am loud about my feminism and socio-political beliefs. I thought that once I moved to the US, the land of liberty and freedom, I would be better received. WRONG. I have met amazing people here who support my journey and I am eternally grateful for them, but I’ve also met people that tried even more than those back home to shoehorn me into boxes that ascribe to their narrow world views.
I’ve been told that I’m “surprising”, at best, and “exotic”, and other similar things, at worst. These pinks don’t understand how my English got better than theirs with my voracious appetite for books and my international education. They don’t understand why it isn’t a compliment to repeatedly call me “their Asian princess”. They don’t understand why it makes me blood boil to hear “Oh, Thailand! Yeah, I saw the Hangover II…” or “My last girlfriend was Japanese/Chinese/Korean/Philippine/InsertAsianNationalityHere” or “You’re into weightlifting/metal? But you’re Asian!” or any and all kinds of stereotypes of us. Especially ones that imply that we glorify and seek out pink men. Disgusting. When I first moved into my dorms, wide-eyed and excited, I started hanging out with a pink boy that seemed cool at first. Then, he called me one night and actually said the words “Hey, you’re Asian. Can you come over and help me with my laundry? You should be good at that, right?”
On that note: death and destruction to their Asian girl misogyny. To hell with them all, we will not stop fighting. Blessings to all my sisters.